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Raining on My Parade
After weeks of planning, I am leaving for a family wedding tomorrow for three days. I cannot wait. I have not seen my family in months. My very kind and reliable stepdaughter is here to stay with her dad. Because of Afib and general exhaustion, there is no way DH could make a 700 mile round trip drive and function through…
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Antihistamine to calm down
Hi, My FIL has some form of dementia, I don't know what his diagnosis was and neither my husband or his siblings seem to know. FIL is 92 and gets very physically aggressive and verbally abusive with his aides (and his family). He was started on Serequel 100 mg at night and 25 mg in the morning. Family didn't like that he…
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DaT Scan
Hello. My father is so far is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s (doesn’t show typical Alz symptoms to me), vascular dementia and Parkinsonian features. The neuro wants to do a DaT scan. Dad gets very tired and has so many appointments already. The Dr I guess wants to confirm Parkinsonism which covers Lewy Body dementia. Dad…
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My husband will not shower.
When I suggest that it is many days since he has not shower, he says that he took one yesterday. In truth it is almost 10 days. How do I get him to shower? He has very short memory. .
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EXTREMELY COMBATIVE DEMENTIA PATIENT-HELP
Please! I am caring for my uncle-in-law and he is at the stage of complete anger. My family and I are at a complete and utter lose of what to do to help him. Just recently he has been very angry at everyone and everything. He won't eat, sleep, or go to the doctor. He just stomps around the house cussing and spitting. He…
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dementia engagement services
As a caregiver of a parent with vascular dementia, I'm looking to offer engaging outings for families of people with dementia. This could be morning coffee or lunch with some kind of light physical activity or stimulating interaction. My hope is to provide individuals with dementia a routine that inspires, promotes…
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My stepmom and I are just beginning to deal with my dad's dementia care.
I am new here, and I need some help. We have known about my dad's dementia for about 7 years. It has been a slow decline in memory with a huge uptick in anxiety. The primary doctor ruled out Alzeimer's, but we aren't sure if that was done correctly. He has all the signs of being in the middle-stage. Now, his decline seems…
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Men's no tie shoes?
Any recommendations for men's shoes that look like sneakers but slip on and off easily? Preferably without the appearance of laces that he would still attempt to tie. TIA
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78 yo driver goes to PT , what could go wrong
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Neurologist
Hi, How often do you take your LO to the neurologist. I can't figure out the benefit of going since his PC is a geriatrician and is managing his care. Any thoughts? Thanks, Malka
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HELP
My mum has Dementia, officially diagnosis three months ago. Although there’s been issues for a while. Talking to her now: she is not my mum, it’s repetitive and circular but only sometimes does she say something ‘of clarity’ they say she’s going to just get worse. I’m trying so hard to help her but it’s heartbreaking and I…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 8/14/23
COMMANDMENT OF LOVE BIBLE REFLECTION Matthew 22:36-40 (ERV) “He said, ‘Teacher, which command in the law is the most important?’ “Jesus answered, ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and most important command. And the second command is like the first: ‘Love your…
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Need help getting DH to let me do his meds
My DH was diagnosed 2 years ago. One thing he's clinging to is doing his daily meds each morning. He takes 6 pills and 3 vitamins in the AM and 5 pills at night. It's taking him longer and longer to do them. He gets confused and counts them over and over. I watch him do it because I'm concerned he will miss a pill or take…
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recent fall, dementia diagnosis, close quarters
Hi everyone! I think this is going to be a spilling-my-guts sort of post and hoping to get some insight. Some brief context: we have suspected my dad (83) has had some cognitive decline for years, but he stopped going to the doctor in 2019 and has refused since (to the point of blow-up arguments when we pushed). He lives…
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Scared of future with husband with dementia/advice and help please
Scared of future with husband with dementia. He is very stubborn and that scares me. Adivce and help please! Carol
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My plan for a future without my DW
Hello everyone, I have been following the "Caring for a spouse or partner for a few months, and shared an idea there I had recently. Haven't been on this discussion site before, but I thought it wise to repost that idea here. Ronk246 Member Posts: 12 Member August 1 Hi Y'all, I cannot describe how much this site has helped…
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Attending funeral with dad who has dementia
My first cousin passed this week. The funeral is tomorrow! I want to attend because not only was she my cousin but was a good friend. However, if I go, dad will have to attend in order to not be left home alone. The sister that lives in dads' home with him has already made plans to attend but only told me after I asked her…
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Father in Law.. need advice
First post and I’ve read all the forums and comments. FIL came to live with us in January 2020 after losing his second wife. He was 94, already having memory issues and couldn’t manage finances. He chose to go to Independent Living facility where he had friends. They’ve either passed away or gone to MC. We lost my DH to…
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Are white boards with reminders, names dates etc helpful
What is the best way to setup a need help setting up a whiteboard or something to write date, events, names, specific details to remind client and orient to present? Advice, tips and suggestions much appreciated!
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fast moving dementia
Hi, We have a family member who has not been diagnosed with dementia yet, however has all of the signs. It started about one month ago and has rapidly moved in the wrong direction. We took her to the ER and had a CT scan, blood and urine work done and it all came back normal. We have an appointment and MRI scheduled but…
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Agitation progressing
The lady I take care of is 85 and has had Alzheimer's for a year. She is progressively getting worse but her family won't accept anything I tell them. This week she is becoming aggressive and argumentative and it doesn't matter what I say it irritates her. I've kept Alzheimer's patients for 8 years and I'm not having any…
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fixated and constant chatter
Good morning everyone! I want to make a separate discussion post about my Dad's most challenging behavioral symptom that's happening at the moment and I'm hoping y'all have some insight! My Dad (83) lives with my Mom (60) and my nephew. I've been coming over almost every day since we brought him home from subacute rehab.…
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If I Had One Wish…
…it would be that all medical professionals dealing with caregiver’s listen to them and treat them with as much care and respect as was perhaps taught to them in medical school. I am my husband’s caregiver. His primary care doc referred us to a home health agency. After a brief period of service provision - I requested a…
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Repetitive Phone Calls
Hello everyone, My DH has pretty severe aphasia. He only says a handful of words but we usually can figure out what he's trying to say. One thought that he is fixated on is the whereabouts of his truck. He calls our daughter, son, and son-in-law saying "my truck, my truck". We all have a standard answer and give it to him…
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Parent Resistant to AL move
Hi all, would so appreciate some advice. My parents both have dementia: dad is early/middle stage 5 and mom is stage 4 (tam cummings). The last couple days we as a family have talked to her hours about finances. Her anosognosia is off the chart (it feels like). She feels like she has no control and is so sad and angry. She…
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My essay on navigating the overwhelming journey of caring for someone with ALZ was published. Please
I lost my father after an incredibly long battle with Alzheimer's about 15 months ago. Wanting to help others finding themselves in the same horrible situation, I wrote an essay about the experience, which was recently published. I wrote it not only to tell my story, but to provide insight, guidance, resources, and to…
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comfy chair recommendations?
Hello everyone! Not sure if this question is overly specific, but wanted to see if anyone had thoughts to share! A goal that my Mom and I have is to get a new armchair for my Dad (83, diagnosed with general dementia) to sit in in the living room. Before he fell, he was sitting and sleeping in a big, deep, cushy La-Z-Boy…
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Has anyone had experience with speech therapy for cognitive impairment/Alzheimer's?
My mother's AL has recommended speech therapy for cognitive impairment. I think she is currently at Stage 4/early Stage 5. She manages all ADLs but not IADLs (using Tam Cummings' checklist). My family has noticed increasing deficits in memory recently including short-term and also some confusion at times on past events…
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Progress on improved services for caregivers (originally provided by Michael Ellenbogen)
"The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS), through the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services (CMS), announced its new dementia care model, which is intended to enhance the care and support for Medicare patients with dementia and their caregivers. The goals of the new care model are “to improve the quality…