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Steep decline from severe to late-stage from mirtazapine (Remeron)?
My mom used to have severe dementia, but her geriatric specialist prescribed mirtazapine (generic Remeron) for my Mom's anxiety. My mom is tiny, 108lbs, so the doc prescribed a quarter of a 15mg tablet for the first two days (3.75mg), then half after that (7.5mg). Even after the first tiny dose that first evening, my Mom…
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Time sensitive: Mom is in a delirium but is refusing treatment
Hello community - my mom is experiencing a delirium of some sort right now but is refusing to get treated. She's been sick recently and her regular doctor has said she should go to the ER, but mom is refusing. I tried to take her myself yesterday but she almost jumped out of the car while it was moving, so we didn't make…
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Memory Care Discussion - Financial Exploitation
Looking for suggestions on how to encourage a family member to go into a memory care facility. Although she is very good with her activities of daily living, she has been exploited financially by someone posing as her best friend. I think we now have that situation under control, however, we feel she can no longer live…
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Bathroom help
My mom is in mc since April. She is having trouble finding the bathroom, so when she has to go, she is literally pulling her pants down and having accidents all over the facility. We have upped her care, so they are with her and taking her to the bathroom at least every two hours. But she will lay in her bed and get up and…
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Re: Family Caregivers
"A New Medicare Proposal Would Cover Training for Family Caregivers" Kaiser Health News. www.kffhealthnews.org Scroll down to this article. Family caregiver usually get no training. This could help. Sorry, I cannot make a hot link. Iris
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Standards or regulations related to changing diapers
Mom recently shifted from walking and occasional incontinence to being wheelchair / bed-ridden. She's in rehab now (South Florida) following surgery. My question is around expectations (and legal/regulatory) for how often they should be cleaning/changing her. The rehab facility is "ok" in general. However, tonight around…
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Activities for LO with Dementia/AD
I am new here. I am caring for my DH who was diagnosed about 2.5 years ago, although I believe the disease process began years earlier. He was always an avid golfer and belonged to a summer league. Last summer he began having trouble keeping up with his golf buddies, and this year he gave up the league entirely. A neighbor…
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Need alarm help or tips. DH gets up & goes into the closet instead of bathroom
any tips on how to keep my DH from going into the closet instead of going to the bathroom? He's done it 4 times. He says he "gets lost" but it's almost like he's sleep walking. The 4 episodes have been in the last few months. So far he has made enough noise it woke me up and I redirected him, but afraid I won't make it in…
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Florida Elder Affairs Survey
Please see this link to a survey of caregivers by the Florida Dept. Of Elder Affairs, for those who live in Florida. https://app.smartsheet.com/b/form/5b2b041b2d1244f68dc138f9da85c6f5?fbclid=IwAR2NanJHMMNdSErh-kMKUiRiQreKkYuYYvUK8iuJ2XWY39BSvIKbqfwehGU
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Fall on vacation, broken bones & worse dementia
So my mother owns a house where she and my father lived before he passed away. She insists on going there every summer since we convinced her winters are too harsh in lake effect snow, and until this year we had no problems because my sister is a school teacher and goes with her every year. Unfortunately this year mom had…
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Raining on My Parade
After weeks of planning, I am leaving for a family wedding tomorrow for three days. I cannot wait. I have not seen my family in months. My very kind and reliable stepdaughter is here to stay with her dad. Because of Afib and general exhaustion, there is no way DH could make a 700 mile round trip drive and function through…
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Antihistamine to calm down
Hi, My FIL has some form of dementia, I don't know what his diagnosis was and neither my husband or his siblings seem to know. FIL is 92 and gets very physically aggressive and verbally abusive with his aides (and his family). He was started on Serequel 100 mg at night and 25 mg in the morning. Family didn't like that he…
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DaT Scan
Hello. My father is so far is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s (doesn’t show typical Alz symptoms to me), vascular dementia and Parkinsonian features. The neuro wants to do a DaT scan. Dad gets very tired and has so many appointments already. The Dr I guess wants to confirm Parkinsonism which covers Lewy Body dementia. Dad…
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My husband will not shower.
When I suggest that it is many days since he has not shower, he says that he took one yesterday. In truth it is almost 10 days. How do I get him to shower? He has very short memory. .
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EXTREMELY COMBATIVE DEMENTIA PATIENT-HELP
Please! I am caring for my uncle-in-law and he is at the stage of complete anger. My family and I are at a complete and utter lose of what to do to help him. Just recently he has been very angry at everyone and everything. He won't eat, sleep, or go to the doctor. He just stomps around the house cussing and spitting. He…
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dementia engagement services
As a caregiver of a parent with vascular dementia, I'm looking to offer engaging outings for families of people with dementia. This could be morning coffee or lunch with some kind of light physical activity or stimulating interaction. My hope is to provide individuals with dementia a routine that inspires, promotes…
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My stepmom and I are just beginning to deal with my dad's dementia care.
I am new here, and I need some help. We have known about my dad's dementia for about 7 years. It has been a slow decline in memory with a huge uptick in anxiety. The primary doctor ruled out Alzeimer's, but we aren't sure if that was done correctly. He has all the signs of being in the middle-stage. Now, his decline seems…
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Men's no tie shoes?
Any recommendations for men's shoes that look like sneakers but slip on and off easily? Preferably without the appearance of laces that he would still attempt to tie. TIA
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78 yo driver goes to PT , what could go wrong
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Neurologist
Hi, How often do you take your LO to the neurologist. I can't figure out the benefit of going since his PC is a geriatrician and is managing his care. Any thoughts? Thanks, Malka
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HELP
My mum has Dementia, officially diagnosis three months ago. Although there’s been issues for a while. Talking to her now: she is not my mum, it’s repetitive and circular but only sometimes does she say something ‘of clarity’ they say she’s going to just get worse. I’m trying so hard to help her but it’s heartbreaking and I…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 8/14/23
COMMANDMENT OF LOVE BIBLE REFLECTION Matthew 22:36-40 (ERV) “He said, ‘Teacher, which command in the law is the most important?’ “Jesus answered, ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and most important command. And the second command is like the first: ‘Love your…
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Need help getting DH to let me do his meds
My DH was diagnosed 2 years ago. One thing he's clinging to is doing his daily meds each morning. He takes 6 pills and 3 vitamins in the AM and 5 pills at night. It's taking him longer and longer to do them. He gets confused and counts them over and over. I watch him do it because I'm concerned he will miss a pill or take…
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recent fall, dementia diagnosis, close quarters
Hi everyone! I think this is going to be a spilling-my-guts sort of post and hoping to get some insight. Some brief context: we have suspected my dad (83) has had some cognitive decline for years, but he stopped going to the doctor in 2019 and has refused since (to the point of blow-up arguments when we pushed). He lives…
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Scared of future with husband with dementia/advice and help please
Scared of future with husband with dementia. He is very stubborn and that scares me. Adivce and help please! Carol
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My plan for a future without my DW
Hello everyone, I have been following the "Caring for a spouse or partner for a few months, and shared an idea there I had recently. Haven't been on this discussion site before, but I thought it wise to repost that idea here. Ronk246 Member Posts: 12 Member August 1 Hi Y'all, I cannot describe how much this site has helped…
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Attending funeral with dad who has dementia
My first cousin passed this week. The funeral is tomorrow! I want to attend because not only was she my cousin but was a good friend. However, if I go, dad will have to attend in order to not be left home alone. The sister that lives in dads' home with him has already made plans to attend but only told me after I asked her…
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Father in Law.. need advice
First post and I’ve read all the forums and comments. FIL came to live with us in January 2020 after losing his second wife. He was 94, already having memory issues and couldn’t manage finances. He chose to go to Independent Living facility where he had friends. They’ve either passed away or gone to MC. We lost my DH to…
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Are white boards with reminders, names dates etc helpful
What is the best way to setup a need help setting up a whiteboard or something to write date, events, names, specific details to remind client and orient to present? Advice, tips and suggestions much appreciated!