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Easy website for answering questions about my father's condition
My father has had Alzheimer's Disease for the past 7+ years and has progressed into a later stage. I've had lots of questions along the way and I'm finding it really frustrating to search and visit lots of websites for simple answers. Just discovered pfizer has a new website that answers questions. I put in some questions…
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Feel Lost, Need Advice with Mom's Dementia/Alzheimers, Living and Depression
Mom was diagnosed 3 years ago with dementia. We believe she is about 5 - 6 years into it though. She also has severe depression, diagnosed 30 years ago. She is in an AL, but absolutely hates the place. This is her 4th home in 3 years, and the smallest so far (IL, AL, MC, AL). She is again in a severe depression, they seem…
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Are PWD capable of any kind of understanding of consequences?
My DH is probably in stage 5. Recently he has been accusing me of having a boyfriend and going out on dates when I am not visiting him. He is very crude in his description of what I am doing with this boyfriend, and does not believe any of my assurances that this is not true. I can't seem to get him off the subject and he…
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delusional mother being abusive towards me
I am so worn down by my mother's constant accusations, and although I know its a disease it still hurts so much! She doesnt have anyone else, so I am her main source of care- I get her groceries, do her hair and nails, take care of her finances, manage her meds, take her to all her appointments, and moved her…
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Defeated
My LO is borderline late moderate early late stage. A scan for a separate ailment shows what is most likely cancer. As upset as I've been part of me doesn't know why as the Alzheimer's is terminal in a sense. I'm alone and am crushed.
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From Maybe to Reality
This past week, I poured out my feelings of guilt about being impatient with my DH to our pastor. Ignore any lack of compassion for the caretaker here, I wasn't looking for that. The entireity (sp?) of his response was who was treating him, was it a local doctor and how I needed to take him into the nearest large city to…
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Brands new. 1st Post! :)
Hi. So... I've suspected my mom's been dealing with far more than grief from her husband (almost 30 years) passing away for awhile now. There's SO MUCH... Well... the "doctor" she sees is AWFUL. Not just as a doctor but as a human being in general! He is FULLY AWARE that my mother is dealing with more than schizophrenia or…
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Living with Alzheimer's - A Caregiver's Journey
My wife was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's eight years ago when she was just 60 years old. I have been her primary caregiver every day since then until her death last month. As a means to help me cope with this terrible disease I wrote a detailed journal of my experience over that entire time. The writing is in two…
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Try to keep control in the very early stages
Just a general comment. I've been noticing a number of folks here under 65 "retiring" due to dementia. Please if you have long term and or short term disability insurance [ sometimes through your state] jump on using that before letting job performance lead to firing - where income and benefits could cease. It's normal and…
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X2 now
My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s the Monday after Thanksgiving in 2022. Luckily, it has been progressing very slowly. He lives with my mother and is watched by her full time. On Monday, my mom was also diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. It completely threw me for a loop and I am completely devastated. I’m their only son (I…
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Incontinent briefs
I ordered 3 pair of incontinent briefs for DH, trying to find an interim solution for the drips and dribbles. I am pleased with the quality but surprised by one thing…the width of the crotch. I wondered if anyone considered this: the crotch from edge to edge is over 6" wide, exactly between the legs. Surely that is going…
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It’s Time to Get Help In the House
Hi Everyone- it’s time for me to begin to have some help here at the house. My wife will hate it but I can’t safely leave her alone anymore. Ugh! I have several options that I know of, and they go from high end to “not sure”. $48/hr to $15. Highly credentialed to more of a crap shoot (which this whole thing feels like no…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/15/25
BE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS! Joshua 1:9 New International Version 9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9Amplified Bible, Classic Edition 9 Have not I commanded you? Be strong, vigorous, and very…
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Incontinence
Has anyone had success using a wireless floor mat alarm? If so, where did you purchase it?
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Looking to connect first time . New
Hi names Tom , caregiver for wife , she has Alzheimer little over 3 years , middle stage and struggling . We both are . Finally reaching out . I am turning 80 in May , this is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life . And saddest . Married 63 years , who would have guessed . Don't know what else say right now , but…
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DW just diagnosed with Early onset Alzheimer's
My DW (63) has recently been diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's so we are in the beginning stages of dealing with it. We've been through 5 months of testing. Her mother is in assisted living and soon to be in memory care for alzheimers so she sees and knows the likely progression. We have 3 grandbabies and more on the…
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Now I have time to be sad
I hope this is not inappropriate. My very, very elderly LO is safe now and in a steady decline. The analogy I use is that mentally and physically it is like a train slowly pulling away. But I tell myself that she is well looked after and treated with respect and affection at her MC. She still seems to know me and is not…
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Delusions of Persecution -- What to do?
Brand new here, so I apologize if this has been covered before elsewhere, but I'm at my wit's end. My mother has been living in the early stages of Alzheimer's for a few years now (forgetting things, no short term memory, having more and more trouble completing thoughts). Just recently my Dad had a (minor) stroke and was…
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Clogging Toilet
Good Morning! My father keeps clogging toilet - I believe he is flushing too much toilet paper down toilet. Any advice for this?
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Scared and unsure
Iam so new to all this I apologize I just don’t know where to turn. My husband is showing signs of memory loss and it’s scary. I’ve got him to go to his pcp but I have no idea what is ahead. Iam having anxiety attacks and can’t seem to function well myself. This is a hell. I am just reaching out because I have no one to…
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Thank you all!
In my last post, I told how DH had the car key. That night, he left the key in the car while he was packing to go home, again. He asked me if I had the key, I reminded him that he had it last, but I knew the key must be in the car if the doors were unlocked. So, I told him I would help him look and sat in the driver seat.…
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New here and overwhelmed
Hello I am currently caring for my husband and am overwhelmed. The Doctor just confirmed he is in the early stages. Presented some approaches to dealing with this including the infusions. I shared this with my husband today and he didn't express much interest. Said it sounded like it wasn't safe and just not worth it. I am…
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Not taking it well...
Hi, I am totally new to this...writing and my husband behavior. I also have a hard time with sharing about our life but my daughter told me...mom find some group for your self I can't help you. My husband developed sings of dementia last year in february which we didn't noticed right away. It has been getting slowly…
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Car Keys
I have kept the car keys away from DH for several months now. Just now, he was verbally abusive and aggressive about the key fob that I had. He badgered and threatened until I gave them to him. I am so afraid he will drive off now. Though he just went to the garage and came back in. What do you do in these circumstances?
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/15/25
BE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS! Joshua 1:9 New International Version 9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9Amplified Bible, Classic Edition 9 Have not I commanded you? Be strong, vigorous, and very…
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Slow fade
Just venting some sadness to those who understand...no dramatic changes with my mom (today), but the slow fade continues. I sat with her at dinner in MC today. Had to put the spoon in her hand to get her to eat a few bites of soup. She's handling finger foods best now. Had a small sandwich but didn't pick it all up, just…
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Travelers to Unimaginable Lands
Sending best wishes to everyone. It’s two years since I joined this forum and since I’ve given up paid work entirely to care for my DH with Alz. Thinking back and looking at photos, it’s at least 5 years since he’s been certifiably loopy. It took me almost all this time to really get a handle on things & I know things will…
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Feeling stuck - Drugs, gambling, elder financial abuse, mental health??
Hi, this is my 1st post: My MIL was living w/her grandson, who stole $15K+ from her. Spent it on drugs & gambling. She was living on her own before he convinced her to move hundreds of miles from her home to live w/him & his husband for 3 yrs. The two had a domestic dispute this past Oct, the grandson got into a fight…
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DH's friend is stirring up trouble...
This person thinks I'm imprisoning my DH by keeping him in memory care instead of moving him to AL or independent living or back home. He doesn't agree with my care plan for my DH. I responded by saying "he's my husband, not yours!" whether you agree with me or not. He says he's done some research and can challenge my…
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Leqembi treatments for early dementia
Hello everyone. So my neurologist is sending me to a specialty clinic that does infusion Leqembi treatments. I was wondering if anyone here has been on it and if they have had any problems with brain bleeds or brain swelling. I'm trying to learn as much as I can about it so I can ask the right questions to the specialist.…