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Long Geri-Psych Stay!
At the end of last month/beginning of this month, I posted that DH had a complete mental breakdown at his rehab center, where he was recovering from a fractured tibia. He was transferred to the local ER. Here's the update: After 2 days in the ER, on April 2, he was transferred to an inpatient Geri Psych facility. He's…
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The Mental Switch
Hey all, Many of you have talked about how at a certain point, you made a mental switch from loving spouse to loving caregiver…or something along those lines. I'm curious about how you've done that. My DW is getting more paranoid and complains about how "I'm not taking care of her needs", which means sitting next to her…
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New Here & Just Trying To Keep Up
I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed and alone, and I’m so thankful to have found this group. I’m 29 and live in Georgia. My mom is 65, lives alone in Florida, and was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. My parents are divorced, and my sister isn’t able to help due to her own challenges. My mom’s brother offered support…
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Life Insurance
Just throwing this out there as food for thought….if any of you are caring for a loved one that is going through any issues related to AD and do not have individual life insurance, be sure YOU protect yourself and your loved ones for future health issues. Get an individual life policy that will potentially cover expenses,…
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New Alzheimers Diagnosis for 85 YO Dad
Looking for behaviors or actions that are "normal" ALZ behaviors and others to bring to attention to his Primary Care Doctor
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Anyone with a parent living for their pet?
Hello to all…I have SO many different things to talk about, but one thing that has been weighing on me since we moved my mom into our home one year ago today is this…we think she is living for her pet. Like most people with pets, it's family. Of course! I have pets of my own and have almost my entire life and can't image…
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Paranoia
DH is 62 and still working. He is constantly telling me that nobody at work talks to him and that I am making life decisions without him. He also is saying our adult sons don’t talk to him and our grandson that lives with us is different. Our grandson has not changed his interactions with DH. Is this paranoia? Is this part…
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Alzheimer’s/Dementia or Just Narcissistic?
My covert narcissistic mom has had some off/on memory issues for the past couple years like where she puts things. My brother and I can’t tell whether it is normal aging or more than that. In the past two months, she has suddenly started making up stories about her youngest sister doing black magic, trying to break into…
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Mental Illness dementia or something else
Hi everyone, I am still coping with my moms memory issues and diagnosis. I am truly baffled: her issues are so obvious to me, my one other family member who knows her, and the people in her AL. But when I bring her to the doctor, desperate to get her some kind of care of evaluation for her memory issues, they either…
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Filing for Long Term Care Insurance too early?
Hi, I am posting for the first time regarding my 83 year old Grandma. She has had cognitive and memory issues for years, but in the past month she was properly diagnosed with dementia. I had previously lived with her 3 years ago after she was a scam victim, but after about a half of year, I moved back home. I am now…
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From NYT: When They Don't Recognize You
This should be a gifted link- https://www.nytimes.com/2025/04/20/health/dementia-family-recognition.html?unlocked_article_code=1.BE8.G3Pn.ikjbW50YMnR2&smid=url-share
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Should we proceed with testing
my husband has mci(22 score on Moca). We went to neurophysiologist and he ordered a in-depth test. My husband has severe sleep apnea that took almost a year to correct. He was having 36 episodes per night. The neuro wants the test because of that and his low score. my husband feels conflicted to get a diagnosis it just…
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New diagnosis, new to group. Having a rough ugly cry day.
I have been very emotional, ugly crying today. Today is hard, others are not- those days I am "numb". I am 41, married for 19 years, I have 5 kids ages 8, 10, 17, 18, 20. I have tested positive for PSEN1 which is one of 3 variants known to cause young onset Alzheimer’s. I have had cognitive symptoms since August 2023. I…
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Artis Senior Living Boca Raton
Hi all - I am considering moving my mother to the memory care center at Artis Senior Living Boca Raton. We had a good visit there and spoke with family members of residents. Does anyone have first hand experience with this facility that could provide some thoughts?
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Just dropping by.
I've been around for several years, first as a caregiver for my mother, under a different name. About halfway through my caregiving journey with Mom, which lasted about a decade, I began noticing several red flags with my husband. Now others in our family are seeing those alarms, and we're also dealing with my…
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Wife called police on me
My wife, who has Alzheimer’s, called the police on me this morning while I was out. Our daughter managed to explain the situation to them on the phone and now my wife seems to have forgotten the whole episode. So far no one has come to the house. My wife has forgotten who I am several times now. I don’t know what to do,…
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Suggestions
Hi, I am a new to this group and need any advice or direction as to how to better assist my 86 year old mother that was diagnosed with dementia back in 2023. She had a stroke that affected her short term memory, she couldn't tell you what happened last year of anything at the moment but constantly talks about things that…
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My favorite picture
Today we spent Easter together, just the two of us and looking at pictures. Pamella saw a picture of me and said that it was her favorite. She asked me if I had a favorite. I found one and said that was my favorite. It really made me think about what was really my favorite picture. After thinking about it and the favorite…
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Four months
It has been four months since Mom died. I find myself feeling I should call her, I should be going to the AL to see her. By that I mean that I feel guilty that I’m not doing those things any more. It’s not exactly that I miss doing them- it wasn’t as if mom was capable ( for several years) of being someone to carry on a…
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APHASIA
I need some help. My DH has aphasia and his speech is getting so bad I can hardly understand him, he chats away especially at night and i have little or no idea what he is saying. Communicating with anybody else is so very difficult, most people haven’t got the time or patience to stop and try to understand him. It’s…
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My mother doesn't remember my brother died; suggestions for path ahead?
Hi all, I am a new member here. My mom, who is 95 and lives with my family, has significant cognitive decline and has trouble making new memories. Several weeks ago, my brother died of cancer after having been ill since last summer. Mom knew he'd had cancer and she visited him a number of times in his last days. She also…
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Emergency Petition for Treatment
I want to thank all the people in my life who calls and checks on me and my LO as we go through this dementia journey. It’s been a tough 3 months since his broken neck, rehab, home therapy, and then now in a geriatric psych stay. Applying for an emergency petition for treatment through the courts was the hardest decision I…
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Toddler comparison
This is a rant. I’ve been caring for my DH who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s nearly 3 years ago which was at least 2 years after I had been begging for a diagnosis. When someone compares caring for a spouse with Alzheimer’s is like caring for a toddler I want to scream. It is such a dismissive comment for the person…
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What do you need to provide for a live-in caretaker?
I am considering hiring a live-in caretaker for my father. I am having trouble finding much information about what sort of living environment you need to provide for the caretaker. Any guidance would be appreciated. To provide some context, my father's house is not in good repair. I would not want to live there but my…
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robotic pets - again
There are older threads that discuss the positive effects of giving a LOWD a robotic pet, such as a Joy For All puppy. I'm curious to know how long that batteries last.
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Happy Easter Everyone
I hope that all who celebrate had a beautiful day.
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How often do you visit?
I made the mistake of visiting my mom (every other day) the first time she was placed in a nursing home. It just kept her from acclimating and each time I visited her she thought I was taking her home. It was doing her more harm than good. So, this time around (I took her out of the nursing home but had to put her back in…
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Just a Little Advice Needed
My mama is 75 and her PCP has officially diagnosed her with dementia-close family members knew this for a while now but she is really hard-headed and she has to make the decision as to the doctors she wants to see. We are waiting on them to make her an appointment with a neurologist. I feel like smudge. I am calling to…
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Driving
My friend has an at home caregiver. She has not driven her car in four months. The aide or I take care of the driving. She had a dead battery which we fixed. Now she wants to drive it, just around the corner. I suggested I drive. She did not want that. She wants to drive with me..I do not want to be in the car with her.…
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Book for Caregivers of Neglectful/Abusive Parents
Happy Holiday season to everyone celebrating everything. My therapist recommended this book and I found it super useful: Doing the Right Thing: Taking Care of Your Elderly Parents, Even If They Didn't Take Care of You: