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How to stop concerning behavior
How do you stop your LO from doing inappropriate things? Two examples… When we walk in the neighborhood, DH sometimes wants to walk up people’s driveways so he can look at the water behind their house. I can’t think of anything to stop him other than saying that’s private property, then he gets angry at me and cusses me…
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DW that has a dog...
My DW and I have a dog. She is obsessed over him. I had to remove all of the food from our refrigerator and panty because she kept feeding him, excessively. Luckily, I have a refrigerator downstairs that is out of sight. My DW is obsessed with ensuring that our dog has enough water and food and goes outside. This obsessive…
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In person weekly meeting
I am 75 and was diagnosed with Alzhiemer's in August 2025. I am currently taking Kisunla infusions. I'm in the early stage. My wife and I are interested in starting a weekly in person meeting for sharing and mutual support. We live in Houston, near downtown. Please respond if you are in Houston and interested in an in…
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Support Groups for Younger Onset
Hello. I just joined this forum and am looking for a younger onset support group for my DH, who was diagnosed with vascular demetia at 62 and will be 65 this year. He currently belongs to a support group that meets twice a month, once on zoom and once in-person. All the other participants in the group are at least 10+…
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She’s begging me to move in
My mom received the letter from the doctor telling her not to drive anymore. At least I am no longer the bad guy. But obviously she is devastated. And I think finally seeing that she can’t live alone 2.5 hours away from me anymore. We have a spot in AL near me reserved for her. But now she is BEGGING me to move in with me…
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Happy I can still find things that make me laugh
My husband lost his phone this morning and wanted help finding it. I was in a different room so I told him I’d call it so he could follow the sound. After calling several times with no answer I went looking for him. He was in his bathroom on his hands and knees looking behind the toilet. When I called again I could tell he…
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Good day has me questioning my sanity
I’m at my mom’s and she has been so normal and seemingly fine all day, I’m starting to question my sanity. She cleaned her house before I came, she cleaned out all the expired food from her fridge, she did all the laundry…. Hard to believe this is the same woman who one week ago forgot how her son was related to her……
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Sibling Disagreement on Care
My 85-year-old mother was diagnosed with dementia 7 years ago. My older father insisted on caring for her and hiding how bad things were from my sister and me. We started 4 years ago to try to get him to consider in-home care or assisted living. He finally agreed and they moved into a lovely community in October. However,…
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Alz w/brain bleed complication.
I have been diagnosed with Alz with the complication of excessive existing iron deposits. My neurologist is reluctant to prescribe either of the two infusions due to the risk of hemorrhaging. I have two questions/requests. Is there anyone out there that has this complication and has been prescribed a medication other than…
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Desperately seeking housing
For those that read my first post, you know what I've gone through, and now I'm trying to locate housing for myself after spending seven years caring for my mother with alzheimer's. I'm trying to find a room for rent or a kitchenette in the Bryan/College Station, Texas area. If you can help, please reach out to me. Thank…
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New here, young adult child looking for connection and support
Hi, I’m 33 years old and my 74 year old mom was recently diagnosed, although we’ve seen it for the last couple years. I live in California and she lives in Ohio with my dad. I also have an older sister that lives a few hours away from my parents. Mom and I have been really close and talk on the phone every day on my drive…
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Imaginary People in Our House
My DW sees imaginary people in our house at all hours. Right now at 10 AM she is talking to them and telling them to get out. She asks me ifi they are my friends and why I let them in. I am at odds at how to deal with this every day and night occurrence. I welcome any input you may have to help me deal with this. how have…
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The time has come-transitioning mom from AL to MC
I'm at a loss with my emotions and smarts. My mom's AL nurse called today to let me know that they ran a few tests and screenings, and my mom scored low across the board. The staff has been monitoring her and is seeing a noticeable decline with her memory, increased confusion, and also depression (mostly loneliness and…
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Adult Day Care
I live in Cabarrus county, North Carolina and am considering enrolling may DW into an adult day care program I was wondering if anybody has any experience/recommendations on adult day care facilities in the Cabarrus county area. Thanks
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Need to get grab bars and hand rails installed
DH's mobility is declining. He uses his walker when we leave the house but doesn't use it at home. We have a step from our house going into the garage and also one going out the front door. A handrail and a grab bar would help him navigate these steps. I know they have to be anchored into studs. I'm thinking of calling a…
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Word of caution. Seeming to be normal is not being normal.
I got an abrupt wake up yesterday. We had a minor problem with filing our income taxes and I asked my DH with AL, Stage 3, where did he put the copies of the papers we sent to our accountant. When I finally found them, some were missing. He has seemed so normal (other than word and memory loss) for a number of months that…
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We are all walking somebody home
My niece arranged for the Threshold Choir to come sing for my DH yesterday. It was a beautiful experience. Four people came and arranged themselves in a fashion so my DH was the audience. They sang four or five songs and left quietly. The last song was, We Are All Walking Somebody Home. That hit me like a ton of bricks and…
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Devices or To ablet Apps with Pictures
Hi Folks, My 70 yr old DW cannot put names to items she wants or things she wants to do? Can anyone recommend a book, device or application for a tablet or cell phone that she can point to? Bill
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NHTD waiver for my Mom living with me Stage 6 Alzheimer’s
hi everyone, I’m pretty new on this forum especially posting a discussion so I’m not really sure if I’m doing this correctly. I live in upstate New York and I am my mom’s soul care provider. I moved my mother into my home eight months ago and I’m still trying to tap into NHTD waiver services in our area. Is there anyone…
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Should possible sudden delirium(?) change our plans?
Hi. Does anyone have experience with delirium or psychosis that came and went after a major life disruption? We are feeling desperate right now! It is regarding my husband’s parents (Sally 84, Fino 93). Background: They have refused to move to an AL over the years, and with some outside assistance, have managed to stay in…
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Medication Inquiry
MY DW neurologist prescribed Memantine medication to slow dementia progression. I am asking our community what side effects they have experienced and have there been positive results of using this medication?
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What to do with all the empty space when their journey ends?
I know this question has been posted before. However, when your loved one's journey has ended, what do you then do with all the spare time and energy you gave to them? My mother is in hospice now. I talked with hospice and arranged for a priest to visit her. It was not planned, but as I was entering my mother's MC…
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What to say
first, thx to all for your help and experience. My spouse is totally isolating, won’t go out and wants no visitors. I think I need to get out more, volunteering, church, etc. but what do I tell to so many people who want to see her, go to dinner, come over to watch TV? “She’s not feeling well” or “doesn’t want to leave the…
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"Survivor's" Guilt
I find that in addition to feeling guilty for the pain I am causing my mom by taking away her independence, I feel a form of "survivor's" guilt, in that it is very hard for me to allow myself to enjoy basically ANYTHING. I feel guilty feeling happy when I know she is struggling with so much (grief at the loss of her…
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Husband won't or can't ask for help.
I'm new to the group. Husband recenyly diagnosed with Vascular Dementia. I get anxiety & frustrated when my spouse is wet / lays on urine soaked bedpad & won't tell me. I'm completely new to this diagnosis. Suggestions/ recommendations welcomed.
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My father is convinced my mom is cheating (?)
Hello I am new to the group, and an unsure how to handle this issue. My father was diagnosed over a year ago, and IDK how to label his current progression. He is isolating, and unsteady of feet, has some issues with incontinence. Has difficulty following a movie or tv program. But he is still aware of who family are. He…
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Wit’s end
My widowed mom lives alone and is extremely stubborn and resistant to help. I’m an only child, and like many here, I’m also a working professional and a mom of teenagers. My mom’s memory and behaviors are steadily getting worse, and she also has anxiety. She’s manipulative and often passive aggressive with me, and she’s a…
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Obsession, Agitation, Anger
I need help and suggestions on what to do with my sister. I live with her and her husband. She is constantly getting angry over beliefs she has of her past that are not true! She's obsessed with a life that she believes was taken from her without any input from her. Not true. We can't correct her to guide her to the truth.…
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Going to sleep at night
DH with AL, Stage 3 or so, has trouble falling asleep at night. He does not take naps. Our Primary doc prescribed Rexulti, but that is going to run us nearly $200/month. Is it worth it and is there an alternative sleep aid that is okay for AL?