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What do you do when DH is in a bad mood/depressed?
Thismorning started out just fine and we were both chipper. Outside talking about the garden and what to plant in it. I asked him what he'd like to do today. He mentioned perhaps planting some seeds in the garden. Sominutes later I brought in some secs I had and asked him if he'd like to plant any of these. I was met with…
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In denial
My LO was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. The family was not surprised. She is however in denial and continually states she doesn't have Alzheimer's. I understand this is quite common; however, I am wondering at what point, or will she ever recognize that she does have Alzheimer's. Since the diagnosis it hasn't been…
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caregiver all my life.
I read the posts on here and so far, they make me fear the future. I know what's ahead but hearing everyone's reality and stories makes it so more real. I started life as a caregiver to 4 of my brothers. They had muscular dystrophy and I at age 12 started taking care of them. I was the oldest of 7 so my mom needed my help.…
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Handling transition to memory care
Hello. New here and writing on behalf of my father. He and I moved our mother to memory care last week. She is able to understand that she no longer lives in the same place as her husband. She is generally pleasant with me, her daughter, but when my father visits, she spends the whole time angry at him for "dumping" her.…
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First post, DW with EOAD
Hello everyone, this is my first post. My DW was diagnosed with EOAD in the spring of 2025 at the age of 59. Symptoms started at least 5 years prior, but we really saw changes in late 2024. We went through a whirlwind of changes last year getting a diagnosis, retiring, ST & LT disability, SSDI approval, selling cars,…
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Caring for FIL after death of MIL
My FIL was DX'd 2 years ago, at the time my MIL was his caregiver and after the DX, he stopped driving, she took away his cellphone and computer and basically directed everything he did. As with a lot of octogenarians they are very private about their health/finances, so other than being told he had dementia nothing else…
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Progress…
My Mom has been living with us since late February after my Dad was hospitalized and passed away. My mom had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and MCI in April 2024. She has progressed well beyond MCI and, per her PCP, is no longer safe to live independently, drive, etc. At her PCP visit, her Dr strongly encouraged her to…
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forgetting how to use electronics in staging
I feel really dumb asking this, but this is my first rodeo with ALZ… A couple of weeks ago DH was standing in front of the microwave punching a lot of buttons and when I asked him if he needed help, he said that he forgot how to use it. Since then, no problem. Yesterday, he forgot that his IPad has a volume button. He has…
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Aggression
My dad was diagnosed with Alz 5 years ago and is 83. My mom is the main caregiver as I live 3 hours away. I am planning to move to help her at home. My dad is prone to verbal outbursts with my mom only, is VERY focused on having money and struggles with judgement. What advice do you have to help deal with aggressive…
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Semax
Hello. Has anyone used Semax for early stages of dementia? I heard good things about it for the brain, just wanted to know if anyone has any experience. TIA!
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Another step in progression
Mom's MC had an event for residents and families tonight. They had dinner out on the courtyard, grilled hibachi style meat and veggies, nice music in the background. It was well planned and most residents seemed to enjoy it. It was suddenly evident to me that my mom is now one of the more advanced dementia residents there.…
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Nearing the end
My husband is on the cusp of stage 7 and the fear of what that looks like from the outside looking in can at times be truly terrifying. I'm learning to live in the moment and not to deal too much on what's to come. It's really hard when everything seems to be status quo and then you look up and realize he can no longer do…
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2 years in since crisis mode
Dear Community, Thinking of you all this morning and the support you've so graciously given here. Today I am reflecting and processing. Some days are for surviving. Some days are for crying. Some days are blurs of exhaustion and overwhelm and confusion and grasping for hope and help. Today is not those days for me. Today I…
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Mom describing eerie sense of loneliness
One reason my mom decided on her own that she was ready to move to AL was that when she was living at home alone, she was feeling extreme loneliness in the evenings. She described it as something very eerie—just a weird sense of being all by herself in silence. She would sometimes describe feeling like her deceased mother…
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Night time bed wetting
My mom wears a diaper all the time but recently we are having issues with her wetting the bed at night.
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Grieving Together
I have seen and read many sources which describe how families as groups, large or small or even as individuals, get together to talk about the loved one lost. Some do it with everyone sharing stories, some funny, some not. Just wondering if anyone has used a technique similar to help grieve and find a way forward. Again, I…
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Giving up on skills
DW was diagnosed with EO in late 2021. She was probably late stage 4 at the time. We are now early stage 6. In the early stages, seeing DW lose skills was hard. I found myself pushing on her, trying to coach her in remembering how to use the washing machine, dishwasher, or where the clean clothes get put away. Later it…
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Mom and assisted living
We recently moved my Mom to an assisted living facility where she has her own apartment and was able to bring her dog with her. She was diagnose with alzheimers. She is calling us constantly, as many as 20 times in a day. She crys and says she wants to go home. It's not possible for her to live in her home any longer…
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Burner Phone, Google Voice . . . Self-Care
I'm new to this group, just over a week in and it has been a life saver to me. I feel I have found "my people'. Thank you ! My mom in early-mid stage Alz is in AL without leveled support. I live half mile down the road; she texts and calls me constantly, I'm her "person"; often she is demanding or in "need" even though it…
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Anger is grief speaking up
As someone walking through dementia and Alzheimer's with my own family, I keep thinking about a line I recently heard: "Anger is grief speaking up." If we want something to change in the next 20 years, we have to speak up…now. Alzheimer's is often approached as, "See a neurologist and wait." But Alzheimer's is not just a…
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Dentist
Hi My husband has Alzheimers and I'm looking for a dentist that is patient and kind when handling someone with Alzheimers. I live in the Lincoln RI area. Any referrals would be much appreciated. Darlene
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PTau 217
Hi everyone… my name is Jason and I am new to this group. Just a little background… My mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few years ago. So partially due to that fact, coupled with the feeling that I am struggling with recently learned tasks and names, I decided to have a pTau 217 blood test done. I got the results…
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Top three
Just wondering what phrase ( besides I love you) you all use the most with your LO with dementia. Here’s my top 3: You hungry? What are you breaking? ( when I hear something crash in another room) Watch your head! (as she walks with her eyes half closed and head down) Hey, it’s Friday night
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Adjusting to MC
My mom has been in a MC facility going on 7 weeks now. She has been diagnosed with vascular dementia and possibly mixed. We see a Neurologist in June to find out what other type. On top of that she has a history of bipolar/ depression with some schizophrenia. She does have delusions and hallucinations which she is on…
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Don't sweat the small stuff
I read the book several years ago and realize today that I need to apply it to the world I find myself and my LO in. As an example, this means not getting stressed, upset over a toilet not being flushed, or no help preparing meals. The bigger focus should be on keeping my LO safe, secure and also keep myself rested and…
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Missing Joe
Good evening all, I just want to put some timeline out there. I know my situation is unlike those of many who have been married all their adult lives. Joe and I were married about 9.5 years, and together 13. He was in memory care for about a third of our marriage. They put Joe on hospice at the end of February. His dad…
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Mom (92) mod/sev dementia … suggestions PLEASE
hello … mom (92) has lived with us for 10years but there’s been a gradual decline up until maybe the last year or so … it has gotten worse. i work out of the home so i am pretty much available to her for whatever she needs & at this point i am providing (or assisting/reminding) everything. my husband /my self … our 3boys…
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Grandmother living with dementia REFUSES TO BATHE/SHOWER
I am a 33 yr old granddaughter, taking care of my 86 yr old grandmother living with dementia. I’ve been living with her for the past almost three years providing care to her and my uncle. Recently she has refused to shower. It's been getting harder and harder to convince her, and she instantly switches to anger and puts…
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LOST!
I am new to both this site and becoming a caregiver. My most precious wife of 58 years was diagnosed with either high mild or moderate dementia about a year ago. After reading all the information I could, it seems to me that her symptoms fall mostly into the FTD type. Of course, we all know that our ability to diagnose via…
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Moving wife to memory care
I'll be moving my stage 4 or 5 dementia wife to memory care soon. Any advice on moving her would be appreciated. Should I try to explain to her that she is moving ahead of time? Should I take her there and wait until she is asleep before going home? Should I bring all of the stuffed animals she likes the most all at once…