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Recently Widowed Dad With Mild Dementia
Hey Folks, I'm new to the forum. It was recommended to me by a help line here in Michigan. My dad has had 2 strokes within the past 10 years and this has resulted in some mild dementia. It comes and goes, but he's usually fairly sharp. It manifests itself in strange ways like hygiene, eating mannerisms and a bit of…
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My dad has dementia and my mom who was his caregiver justpassed away.
I am struggling to support my dad who has dementia and is declining. My mom was his caregiver and she recently passed away after a 4 year bout with Pancreatic Cancer. My dad keeps forgetting she died and my brother and I have to retell him over and over. He gets very distraught but then eventually forgets again. He asks…
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peeing on furniture
my brother has a special spot where he likes to sit and/or nap. Recently though, I noticed that he has been sitting where I like to sit. This morning I noticed that there is a distinct wet spot between the cushions where I am sitting. I put my hand down there, and indeed, it was wet, and when i smelled my fingers, it was…
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Excessive Talking/ Social Cues
I am still waiting for the doctors appt. to try and get a diagnosis. My question my DH is totally clueless when it comes to social cues. He doesn’t know when people are wanting to speak, or wanting him to stop speaking. Another behavior I notice is excessive talking. I mean excessive, he will call someone and talk…
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Feel like I’m becoming reclusive
Out of necessity, DH is stage 6. It’s just too hard to do things with him. He won’t tolerate caregivers so it’s mostly all on me except for family helping at times. Won’t go to day care. Just going to the grocery store alone is rare. Taking him out in public is hard because his speech is garbled and he tries to talk to…
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If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em
I was so frustrated and angry today trying to do chores but having to follow DH around and “babysit” etc. I broke all the rules this morning—argued, corrected, over explained, got mad. Got some stuff done then decided that I’d rather give in and relax than ruminate or come on here to complain. About to take a little nap on…
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Communication is gone
By reading the posts I can tell my situation is maybe unusual-? My DH is stage 6, I’m sole caregiver. His speech for over a year has been jumbled, made up words. (Aphasia?) He’ll talk quite a bit but there is no way to understand him. And when I ask him questions (Do you have to go to the bathroom?) his response is not yes…
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How many years did or has your loved one lived in a facility?
I was told that a typical stay in memory care is 2-3 years. This surprised me because this would indicate that either people are coming from assisted living or somehow families are caring for their loved ones at home. Granted the cost of assisted living and memory care is so high so any care option is hard. I wonder…
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Dad removes depends during night
Hi, I am new to this. My father is dealing with dementia. He's 80 years old. My mom is 82. I live here with them. What's brought me here is that I'm looking for any suggestions. My dad, during the night is removing his Depends briefs. This is something new as of this week. They will be on the floor or nightstand. My mom is…
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Dad has moderate alzheimers
I knew he been off but I scheduled an assessment w his doctor and he was so mad when I told the doc about his sun downing; hallucinations; aggression; and now he won’t do his blood work or brain scan before we can go see his neurologist to confirm where he’s at w Alzheimer’s but where would I even start as far as getting…
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The Need to Talk
Life sometimes is just plain exhausting. It seemed a simple task. With a contractor finally prepared to do my little laundry renovation, my sole task was to go to the hardware store and purchase a laundry tub plus a broom cupboard, off we went. Of course the exact products weren’t there, so more decisions with my DH…
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early onset dementia and memory care
My wife is 69 years old and has early onset (56 years old) vascular dementia. I placed her in memory care early last month. Her biggest complaint is that all the residents are older and more impaired than she is. Most of the other residents are late 70s and early 80s. Some are in the very late stages but many are not. My…
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How does hospice work with MC and MC services?
This is not urgent. This is me trying to get educated before I need it. I realized that I don't understand how hospice works with MC and how it effects or supplements or takes the place of the services that the MC provides. And how does hospice interact with care levels and care level charges as the PWD becomes less mobile…
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When to tell family and friends
My DH was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 2 years ago. He is ashamed of this disease and didn't want to tell his family; including his daughters. I did tell his daughters he was experiencing symptoms and the results of his tests. They have been very supportive. He has responded to ALZ medications, but his short-term memory has…
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How to deal with a spouse who won't advocate for your parent with Dementia
My mother's husband is standing in the way of every suggestion I have that would help my mother stay active and deal with some important things that are affecting her because of her dementia. She is still kind, social, funny, can hold great conversations, remember lots of things, and in my opinion needs help with some…
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How to tell your spouse she has ALZ
Do you tell your spouse she has ALZ or you let someone else, or you just don't tell her? This is all new to us.
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New to All of This
Hello, I am a 30 year old female daughter of a mother who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's on 12/20/24. I have known something was wrong and have been fighting for this diagnosis for over a year and now she is already in the moderate/middle stage of Alzheimers. This entire world is new to me and I just gave up my career…
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Rapid Mental Decline in My 65-Year-Old Mother: Desperate for Diagnosis and Long-Term Care Solutions
Hello, I’m looking for guidance about how to get help for my mother, who has experienced rapid mental deterioration over the past year with a cycle of repeated hospitalizations and psychiatric decompensation at home. The situation is placing an unsustainable level of strain on my mother, father and the rest of our family.…
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Alzheimer’s and radiation
so my 63 yo husband who was diagnosed with early onset 1 year ago also had radiation and chemotherapy 4 years ago for tonsil cancer. I’ve been reading that the radiation could have something to do with his Alzheimer’s….anyone else know about this?
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Spending regularly
Hello all, My husband was diagnosed two years ago with cognitive impairment, most likely Alzheimers. We have had some rough periods of time involving obsessions which have passed mostly. We moved to a very small house to help us afford to live as we don't have much at all financially. I have made budgets for us but DH…
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Moving Mom to assisted living details overwhelming
Mercy. I am going back and forth with moving Mom with dementia to assisted living or memory care. Now she is home alone. I come every three days to clean her diabetic wounds. My two adult children have mental/emotional challenges; so help is sporadic. I was offered Social Worker options for assisted living using her…
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New here
Good morning everyone. I finally took the step for myself. Talking to someone else about what is happening in my life right now and them knowing how I feel. It’s hard to tell someone who don’t know this disease to every understand. Hopefully I can remember this tool and utilize it. Well, my name is Mia. I been caring for…
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When is it time…
How do you decide when to seriously consider MC? My DH is okay as long as you don’t say no. Trying to distract or re-direct works sometimes, if not he gets mad…not physically aggressive, but looks angry and says things like ‘you always think your right, this is my house I can do what I want, I’m leaving tomorrow”. I think…
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Aunt with dementia and POA
Hello. Lurking and new here. I saw a post about feeling guilty for giving up power of attorney. I am in the same boat. My aunt gave me POA and I live long distance from her. I never knew about it until she told me afterwards. It was a springing POA, and I never wanted it and she knew that. She moved out of state to be…
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Confabulation of cheating
My boyfriend has confabulated a story that is getting more elaborate every time he brings it up. He truly believes that I cheated on him with one of my roommates, while he was living in the same house. He now brought up that I said his name in my sleep the other night. I am at a loss as he hasn't been diagnosed with…
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Roller Coaster/Long Distance
Edited - attempt to clarify questions New here. I am a 6 hour drive from my parent's, currently able to visit about monthly. Can't count the trips in the last two years. Only child ( with a thankfully helpful spouse). Mother with MD > VD + light AD from the primary diagnosis. She is in hospice care and likely LS by…
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What did the initial drop off to memory care look like?
how did you get your loved one to memory care? Apparently pretty much no one wants to go. How did you get them in the door and what did you tell them when you dropped them off? How many people knew about the plan? I'm concerned my parent will call me everyone including people we haven't told about the placement. How long…
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New Year
For those of us who placed our loved ones in MC in 2024, the New Year represents the first year we are no longer providing care 24/7. Nonetheless, we experience sadness, worry, and exhaustion as we struggle to reinvent our lives. We cared for our loved ones for so long until we truly couldn't anymore. We don't miss their…
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Programs for late stages
My mom is 74 in we are told she’s in the late stages of Alzheimer’s. She has started having issues swallowing. She can no longer follow conversation. She just tells you the same stories. She is still verbal but just can’t find the right words. She can barely answer questions without being confused. We have to help with…
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Supporting both parents
Both my parents (79 and 78) live with us in their own attached apartment. My mom (79) is in the very early stages and is still very active. My dad is struggling with her memory changes and becomes angry and frustrated with her. I am looking for how best to support my dad wand how best to support myself as we navigate this…