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cbd gummies for caregiver
My HWD is extremely difficult and I am with him 24/7 as a sole caregiver. My PCP (his also) is very concerned about my being depressed and has suggested cbd gummies. I don't take any prescription meds and don't want to start on zoloft, etc, but am considering the gummies on a need be basis…not daily. I was wondering if any…
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Please help me keep my sanity
I wrote some of this in a reply to a comment, but thought I need some more support. I’ve been with my mom for the past week and she has done nothing but yell at me for the last 3 days. For context, I came to her house last week to take her to a doctor appointment, where she finally was given a memory test and did better on…
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How to handle behaviors ….
Craving for sweets insatiable, insists on donuts or turnovers for breakfast and lunch! He’s on metformin for diabetes. DH is either really hungry or doesn’t remember he has eaten and will go thru fridge making a sandwich if he can’t find cookies after he has eaten his meal. Wears same stained urine soaked clothes day and…
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Start of incontinence
I knew the day would come. DH is now urinary incontinent for about a week now. I’ve been lucky it held off for as long as it did. He’s always been very resistant to my helping him in the bathroom with cleaning himself, etc, and it’s worse now. I don’t know how I’m going to get him to wear pull-ups when it’s hard to even…
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Ready to give up
Anyone who has been following my saga knows I’ve been staying with my recently widowed mom for over a week because I became alarmed about her confusion during my last visit. At the beginning of this week, I was determined to get her into AL right away. Now after seeing 2 doctors who both basically told her she is fine and…
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DH won't go for testing
First time here - getting to the stage where I need caregiver support. My DH doesn't have a diagnosis, as he's in complete denial that he has any cognitive issues. Our PCP has given a standard test for age-related cognitive decline, which he has passed, technically. What we're living with: he can't manage finances at all,…
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Trouble diverting from calling his mother
My 74 yr old DH often wants to call his mother who passed away 15 years ago. (He is in early Stage 6). I’ve tried the suggestions I have searched for here- ice cream, tasks, walk, going for a drive (actually being in the car is where his questions can be the worst). He gets so locked in on wanting to call his mother and…
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How to answer, "Why are you here?"
My DW in the late evening often asks, "Why are you here?" I say I'm your husband but that agitates her more. I then say I'm here to keep you safe and that has the same response. Any attempt at deflection doesn't work. It usually subsides after awhile but I was wondering what you all have experienced.
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Stage 8 - One Month In
Hi all. It's a little hard to believe it's been a month since my DW passed. I'm still in the stage of trying to wrap my head around it — I'll never see her in person again. I have cried and cried some more, but honestly, my biggest feelings have been relief and gratitude. Relief she isn't suffering like she was. Relief…
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Don’t want to be a caregiver
My mother is 72 and she moved away from us after we encouraged her to see a neurologist and psychiatrist for mental health problems, persecutory delusions, and hallucinations she was experiencing. My husband and I both work full time very demanding jobs, we have young kids and pets. It’s a 6-7 hour drive now to my mom, but…
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How to keep DH occupied
My DH can still dress himself, feed himself and do a few other basics like emptying the trash but much of the day he spends sleeping because he has nothing else to do. He can’t use his computer much, has little interest in current events, doesn’t read much and has never been a TV watcher. He can’t work the TV controls even…
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MMES test
Finally got my mom to her doctor, discussed with the doctor first our concerns about her confusion and memory loss, they gave her the MMES test — and she scored a 24 out of 30, which is just below "normal." Our experience with her is that she is much worse than this. She has been struggling for a long time with dates,…
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Having trouble with Mom
Hi, I'm new to the Alzheimer's world, as my mom was just diagnosed. The doctor wants her to have a brain MRI and she is giving me a hard time about scheduling the appointment. My dad and I took my mom to the doctor last week to be diagnosed and at that time, both of my parents were fine with the idea of the MRI. Now my mom…
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In my early 60s. At the beginning of this ..
Hi, Are any of you out there going through what I am? Very mild symptoms, waiting for complete diagnosis. Anxious and frustrated.
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Rationales for PT for late stage in MC?
My dad in MC is sleeping most of the time. I recently had a care meeting with the facility director. When I mentioned in passing that he is seeming weaker, she said that maybe PT would help. I said, “Huh, maybe,” and we went on to other things. Fast forward a week, and I am getting email from a PT agency affiliated with…
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Testing, testing, and more testing
I am so impressed with mom's neurology team. It is a large practice. She saw the neurologist in December. She ordered the neuro-psych exam. Unfortunately, they are so backlogged, their testing couldn't be done before end of March. I requested to be put on their "1st cancelation list" to get an earlier appointment if…
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South Florida “Board and Care” Small Memory Care Facility
Hi, I was wondering if anyone has resources about “board and care” small group facilities in South Florida, particularly in the Delray Beach and Boca Raton area. Thank you so much.
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Unsure of how to proceed
i am my 76 year old grandmother’s only family and caregiver. She lost her husband (my pop) 5 years and and her son (my dad) 30 years ago. She has always been hyper independent and very successful. Last year she noticed some changes in her memory and sought treatment from a neurologist. In September she scored a 21/30 on…
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How to find people to stay with DH when I need to go out
Hubby was diagnosed recently with mid stage Alzheimer’s. He needs 24 hour supervision, and though friends have said to let them know if I need anything, I find it hard to ask for help. Most aren’t available during the week, so I have left him alone to run an errand or go to an appointment, usually not for more than an…
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After 10+ years on this message board, I wanted to share my Mom's obituary.
February 18, 2026 My Mom died this afternoon in the bedroom of the old family home where she has lived for the past 62 years. It was peaceful and all four of her children were with her. My Mom has navigated the complex maze of Alzheimer's dementia for the past 12 years. After her diagnosis we put together a team to help…
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Home care aggression
Hi! I’m looking for some advice - mom my was “approved” for 24/7 at home care but we’ve been struggling with her being aggressive to outside caregivers. She’s so sweet - until she’s not- which seems to take about a week then she wants them “out of her house”. She’s on all the typical Alzheimer’s medications & mood behavior…
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Sundowners so bad/ wild women please help.
Hello, My mother came to live with me just a week and a half before Christmas. She was on a memory pill, but while she was in rehab they took her off of it. They said it wasn't know longer helping her. So when she was supposed to have her follow up with her Dr once she got out, she had to see a NP instead. So I wrote him a…
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Not want to go out
What is the best way to get your Alz’s aunt to go to the doctor when she doesn’t like him and says she isn’t going but you have an appointment?
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GUIDE Program - Experiences?
Good day, I am the caregiver for someone with Alzheimer's. My LO's care provider has enrolled her in the Medicare GUIDE program, which is supposed to provide intensive case management to individuals with dementia who reside at home. Does anyone have experience with this program? Can you share what the program has done for…
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Fmla or mental health disability leave from work
has anyone taken a leave from work to help their loved one get situated into a care environment? I'm contemplating taking a leave from work to do this and it would either be fmla (partially paid by the state if I qualify) or mental health disability (paid through company disability insurance). I'm really overwhelmed trying…
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Long term Care Insurance
I’m looking for info on long term care insurance. Will I be able to purchase it for my husband if he has been diagnosed with dementia? How much does Medicare cover for in home assistance? How much does it cover if he needs to be in a memory care facility at some point? Is this kind of insurance worth the expense? Thanks…
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There is no 29th day!
Hey yall!! Life Has had it's ups and downs. I lost my loving partner (Luis) of 6 years on Novemebr 29th to EOA, he was 46. December anniversary sucked!!!! It was a Monday. Luckily I was in the position at work that keeps you the busiest so I didnt have to think about him being gone. And thanks goodness for my anti-anxiety…
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Dressing and Laundry
My DW has a very had time dressing. She will put 2 (and sometimes 3) tops/blouses/sweaters, wear pants and a dress at the same time; put her clothes inside out, and/or front and back reversed; you name it, it's all a mess. And the worst part is she will not let me help her fix it after I tell her. She wears earrings that…
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I was Angry and then tears (Venting)
Last night was terrible for me. My DW was agitated and confrontational all night. She kept me up until 1am. I was angry but I kept it to myself. In the morning, my DW was loving just like the person I married. I hate this disease! On our way to lunch today she was so affectionate. I couldn't hold back my tears because I…
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what do I do
what do expect for my wife who is 78 hears old with alzheimer's, severe RA, bed-ridden and on hospice. WHAT can I do for her, beyond my daily visits. I don't even know what or who to ask.