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Sundowners
Could this be sundowning? My DH was married to his first wife for 23 years. We have been married 32 years. This last week, in the evening only, he keeps telling me that he knows he divorced his first wife, but then asks me - did I ever remarry or do I have girlfriends? I’m wondering if this is part of sundowning because it…
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Packing up to go home
I just put my DH in memory care yesterday. This morning the nurse said he had everything packed up to go home. She said he didn’t sleep all night and wouldn’t even take his clothes off last night. Now he’s crying today saying he doesn’t understand why he had to be there. I’ve been told not to go visit for at least a week.…
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Stages
Hi all. I'm new here. Caring for my Husband who was diagnosed about 4 years ago with early onset ALZ . I've been reading the messages and see some of you talking about stages. I'm not sure how do I determine what stage my husband is in? Thank you in advance for your help.
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Shaving solution
I switched DH over to a battery operated electric shaver awhile back and found that if I leave it on the kitchen table he automatically picks it up and uses it while I am preparing the meal. At 3 times a day he is doing a pretty decent job and I don’t have to say anything. All I do is clean it under the kitchen faucet and…
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Probiotiques
Bonjour, quels sont les Probiotiques qui sont adaptés à une personne atteinte d'alzheimer ? Merci d'avance pour vos aides Cordialement
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New to group. Married father moved in with us. Undiagnosed
In August we brought my very confused father to live with us, released in family care. Wife is from the Philippines and works 24/7. In the 3 months he has been here he's had 21.4 hours of facetime with her. My father is getting hyper focused on things that last 1-2 weeks. I have tried to involve her in his care but she…
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Major Sundowner
My poor DW has had a few minor sundowning events, but wowzers, did she go all in last night. We ended up dressed and standing on the front porch, ready to “go home” at 9pm with pouring rain and flood warnings. Good thing she didn’t want to get wet, despite the two baseball caps she had put on, and I was able to get her to…
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Starting a new business at 80
Hello all, I’m new as well to the group. With all that cognitive changes I have noticed with my dad, the biggest concern is talks of starting a business with no prior business experience as well as assuming his sister will co-sign on a loan. There are a lot of financial risks that I believe his brain is not logically…
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She has gone to heaven
I cry as I write this. My wife passed yesterday at 2AM. Now I am suffering in stage eight. I don’t know what to do in order to feel better. So I thought I would write my awe full feelings down and send them away. I know others have gone threw this. I am nervous and restless. I am very sad I miss my wife so much. I feel…
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Wife memory disappearing and won't see a doctor
My wife of 53 years has been in memory decline for over a year and it is getting worse. She will ask the same question dozens of time a day. She doesn't want to see a doctor because her mother told her most doctors do nothing useful. For a while I was confronting her with the memory loss information but she always denies…
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Dad won’t stop correcting my mother
Hi I am new to the group. My mom is in early stages. My dad is has not accepted the dementia and still thinks he can “fix” it. He constantly corrects her when she says something that isnt right. How can I get across to him that it isnt good for her?
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Autoimmune dementia
Hello Everyone, I have just read some articles about Autoimmune dementia. I was wondering if anyone had heard of this / pursued diagnosis of this / sought treatment for this? Thank you.
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Everyone is his Friend
My SO who is 45 EOA thinks he knows everyone when we go out to the store or in public. Most people are receptive and understanding. I feel that since he doesn't go to the store as much as he used to and isn't exposed to the public this is a reaction? However I have also read that this is a part of the disease. He has also…
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May God bless you all
l am thankful for this forum that has so many kind and wise members. Thank you all for the sound advice, good comments and overall generous support. They are very helpful.
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Dementia at 45
I was diagnosed with HIV associated dementia after having imaging done due to behavioral and cognitive issues, and long term HIV infection. The last five years have been difficult alone, self isolating, now seeing problems completing everyday tasks or just takes a lot longer. I can't even get into the bathroom to brush my…
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This confuses me
Hello everyone, Has anyone else experienced this with their LO. Today my father with moderate to severe dementia wakes up and calls his sister and has a conversation like normal almost without dementia. He was able to give details of things he’s done and elaborate on certain things. This confuses me because I don’t…
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Softening the Bedrails to Prevent Injury
Hello Everyone, this is my first post here, although I have been following many discussions over time as I care for my sweet husband who was diagnosed with mid- stage mixed vascular dementia two years ago. Sadly, he fell and broke his hip two months ago, which of course has affected both his dementia and his progress in…
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New here. Mom with relatively early dementia
I live a long way from my mom, a 4 day drive. She is relatively early in things. Her PCP never actually told her when she wrote dementia on her problem list a few years ago. Recently I went to ophthalmologist’s appointment with her and asked “she has Alzheimer’s, so you should add that to her problem list”. My mom said “I…
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Stuck between a rock and a hard place
I have recently come into caring for my estranged veteran father, 74, who I rescued from homelessness has undiagnosed dementia. He can't remember things he said 5 minutes ago but remembers things from long ago. His ex partner left him broke. He refuses to see a doctor so I am not able to find proper resources for him. I do…
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Is Sundowning Real?
My grandmother has early stage Alzheimer's. I live a few hours away from her, but whenever I'm on the phone at night she seems much worse. I read an article about sundowning, which apparently is some sort of disorientation thing where after the sun sets, the patient becomes much more confused. Is it real? Can't tell if…
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Questioning what I’m doing
Hello all, I’m exhausted. I feel guilty because I feel like at this time I don’t have it as bad as some of the posts I’ve read about things the LO is doing. My father has been here 5 months now and it’s the same thing everyone day. Thankfully he is still toileting and showering on his own. But has no interest to do things.…
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LO threatening to get kicked out of MC so he can live on his own.
My dad has been in MC for about 6-8 months. He was previously in two assisted living facilities, but got kicked out because he was wandering outside and getting lost (I got calls from police to pick him up). Since the last time this happened, he was moved into a brand new MC wing in the same facility. It's a nice place —…
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Socializing for Caregivers May Be Overrated
I read an interesting article that indicated that not everyone needs a social network of friends. In fact, some of us do quite well alone without the inevitable dramas that friends bring into our lives. As I am currently without a single local friend due to moving, I found this comforting. I realized that seeking to find…
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How to support my stepdad as primary caregiver
Hello. I am new to this platform. My mom is in Stage 6 of Alzheimer's. My stepdad is her primary caregiver. I can see that he is in over his head and is stressing out. But he is shutting out ideas for support, saying that he can't handle any more information. He is trying to do everything himself, and I can see the…
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It’s been a week
7 days since Mom passed away. The graveside service for her and my step-dad isn’t for another six days. I wish it was later today ( it’s 12:47AM). I feel I need it to happen for ‘closure’. My siblings aren’t coming. I don’t think any of my step-siblings will either. Honestly, I don’t care if anyone comes. I just want it…
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Those eyes!! 👀
I totally get it! I get why DH NEEDS to have me within eye sight at all times. I’m his safety I’m his security. I’m coming to terms with the fact that he was never home, always a meeting to go to and I got use to fending for myself and now he follows me everywhere! What is driving me crazy is DH constantly following me…
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Losing my patience as another holiday is ruined!
On thanksgiving I miss my mother (dead for along time, now) and other family members who I never get to see anymore & friends who I also don't get to spend time with. DH has already ruined the day with an outburst and my patience is totally gone. I feel completely alone and like crying, but can't because I'm the only…
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Untold truth
How do you deal with a parent who has dementia and who unloads and dumps all of their genuine thoughts, concerns, feelings, and everything else on only you but when asked by doctor's and other family members they either intentionally lie and omits information telling others they're fine and didn't experience those things,…
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Have I totally lost it?
My DH has been in MC for 2 months. I have an absolute obsession to redecorate (paint and flooring) our living area and bedroom. I have felt like I have been in a prison so my surrounding are a constant reminder of the depressing life I have lived for 6 years. I feel like I am trying to rebuild my life by changing my…
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Seeking Advise - I am 25
I am 25 and my mother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s at 60. I am new here and need help knowing what to do. She’s about in the mild/moderate stage. My father passed away 2 years ago and the only family around is my younger brother who is 22. She has a sister that lives about two hours away. Family and friends…