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Guilt - since passing
Hello - I've spent a lot of time on this site for years once both my parents were going down this path of dementia. So much help and information on the board "caring for a parent" My mom passed in November of 2025 and my Dad in March of 2026. They weren't the parents I knew. My Dad's journey was different than my moms. I…
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My wife will get her official diagnosis of Alzheimer's moderate and I am terrified
Hi, Like I guess everyone here, I'm walking through a threshold where I don't know the path, the landscape, or what's ahead. What I DO know is that I love my wife. and we. will walk this path together, as we have always done in tough situations over these last 32 years. The doctor's office called today to say the last of…
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Feels Like A Different Stage
Hi Everyone, When I found this group, I knew it would be supportive. Just reading all of your responses has given me a little peace of mind. My mom is 93 and two years ago was diagnosed with possible early dementia after leaving her home at 11PM and walking to the hairdresser's. Nothing like this has ever happened again,…
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Mom Refusing Care - Advice?
Hi - I’m new to all this and dealing with my Mom who has had a stroke and then diagnosed with dementia. She doesn’t live with me and as she is recovering from a recent fall - her overall health and conductive health has declined. She is now refusing to open the door for caregivers coming to help with her rehab from the…
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Where Do I Start and Where Do I End
Hello all I am 72 year old male and retired at age 66 after serving in the US Navy, working for Siemens Automated Process Control Systems as an Engineer for about 11 years,, and lastly as an Engineer for the Department of the Navy for 33 years traveling all over the world. In 1988 I got the Ebstein Barr Virus and one year…
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Adult daycare
does anyone know of an adult daycare in Burlington Nj?
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Advice on Handling Drinking and Dementia
I have been trying to eliminate whiskey from the diet of my HWD, but it just seems to cause problems between he and I. I don’t mind him drinking beer or wine, but he has gone overboard regularly in the past when he starts drinking whiskey. He only drinks in the evening. We have poured 4 large bottles of whiskey down the…
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I'm new to this, so I don't know what I don't know
Hi Everyone, My name is Elizabeth, and I'm new to this journey. My mom was diagnosed with early-stage dementia in May 2025, moved in with me and my family in August 2025, and her neurologist confirmed Alzheimer's in February 2026. She is still highly functional and stays active with Silver Sneakers (me joining the classes…
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Venting
My DH has early onset Alzheimer's. He is only 57. He is a wonderful man but it's getting more difficult to discuss anything with him and I'm having a hard time with dealing with it. Anything I suggest, he shoots down. I wanted to check the gutters due to water pooling in front of the garage and he just made little…
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Navigating mom's move to MC from six hours away
Hello, I'm really glad I found this resource and hope I can get some support from online. Brief history: I live about 6 hours from my family. About 10 years ago my mom had a TIA and was fine until about March last year, when she fell and hit her head--either another stroke or balance problems; no idea. My dad covered for…
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No more eating out
I am just venting- my DH is in mid to late stage Alzheimer’s disease. We have always enjoyed eating out with family and friends and this was a great opportunity for social connections until past months. DH has become a messy eater and no longer appropriate to take him out- plus he sits kinda hunched over with head down and…
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Time to whine!
Had a terrible screaming match with my former partner. Diagnosed with Mci 5 years ago. His treatment is with the VA. I feel he is beyond mci. He no longer lives with me. He is in is own condo. Dresses himself, feeds himself, drives his car, bowls and golfs. Finances are out of control. Not paid or paid twice. We broke up…
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Has anyone here thought about divorce?
I don't know if I should post this or not…I'm sure it's not going to be a popular one! My husband has alzheimer's dementia. He has never been kind, caring or sweet and has been verbally abusive our entire marriage…56 years. We have no children, or heirs…he is estranged from his family, except for a brother, who has headed…
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6/16/2026
It’s June 16 2026. Why do I mention this date? Pamella (my DW who is in stage 6 needing assistance in showering, dressing, toileting and medication), has had a few tough days and I have too. She has been agitated or crying most of the days and I am not sure how I can take care of her agitation or crying except to give her…
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This disease has made it POSSIBLE to....
There were so many great responses to the question about what the disease has made it impossible to do, I wonder how many important growth and learning opportunities we have experienced. For example: …become more accepting of things we can't change. …Reexamine our faith and spirituality ….learn things about family…
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Odd weekend/venting
This weekend was nuts in regards to caregiving for my FIL. We were late getting there Friday night due to an accident with one of my husbands employees, it took forever to get him settled down enough to go to sleep that night. I am wondering if this is the lull before the storm, even asked my SIL if she thought maybe he…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/15/26
GOOD FRUIT Galatians 5:22-23 New Living Translation 22 But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! When I was a caregiver, I wasn’t perfect but the Holy Spirit’s fruit…
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Dad recently diagnosed
Hello all. I’m so grateful for these groups. I’m just beginning my Dads journey and I’m alone and need guidance please !!! I am a paramedic for 35 years and have a lot of medical experience but I have ZERO experience with this disease. From what I’m learning this disease follows no normal patterns. I feel like a rookie…
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Dementia certified caregivers
Would becoming a certified dementia caregiver help me remotely manage my DO's care? I'm looking for more specific info on how to communicate with her and her anticipated caregivers. I'd appreciate the groups input on whether a certified caregiver seems to be more knowledgeable than non-certified caregivers. Thanks for…
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Is There Anything Else I Can Be Setting Up?
Hi everyone! I hope you and all of our loved ones are doing well. I (27 F) am one of three care givers for my mama (62 F). I have just recently felt as if I have a handle on her Alzheimer's, but am wondering if I'm missing anything that I can set up for her/us to support us some more as she continues to progress. So far I…
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New Parents
My husband & I just "baby-proofed" our new house in anticipation of my 84 year old mom moving in. She has spiraled quickly over the past few months. She moved in today! The days leading up to today's move has been maddening. She did everything contrary to instructions given. Her meds are either not being taken, or worse,…
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Advice for MC Front Desk Receptionist?
A less critical question than usual, but I am interested in your views: This week I will have a meeting at my dad’s MC, and I will be asked a routine question about my experience as a frequent family visitor. The facility has two receptionists. One is marvelous: kind, compassionate, genuine. The other, newer person is…
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Working with the 90-second rule
I realize it depends on the stage, but has anyone worked with the 90-second rule and made it work effectively? "Give patient’s at least 90 seconds to process what you are asking and allow them to react" I feel that if the caregiver is waiting for 90-seconds (or whatever is appropriate), the PWD may forget what was asked by…
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Thoughts on Travel
My husband is 56 and has Dementia, Dercum's Disease, and a TBI from his military service. He is well into stage 4. He easily loses focus, gets confused, loops with questions, loses items, forgets to take meds or where he is going, and we are having the discussion about driving because he has gotten lost 3 times in trying…
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Finding My Way
Hello! I recently moved my 79 y/o brother in with me from a different state after the death of his wife last November. He is wheelchair bound with multiple sclerosis and has just been diagnosed with mid stage Alzheimer's. He's had a difficult time adjusting to the new changes and has no desire to meet people in this area.…
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Recalled Medication: Duloxetine (Generic Cymbalta from Towa Pharmaceuticals)
I'm posting this because a few folks here have mentioned using it. Antidepressant recalled due to presence of potentially cancer-causing impurity - ABC News
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My dad diagnosed with slight dementia
Hi everyone, happy there's a group for people like myself. First off my dad was rushed to the ER 2 years ago for DKS ( diabetic ketoacidosis) 1 week later after being discharged got a stroke and about 2 months later got prostate cancer. We then did a test that his neurologist sent him to complete about 1 year ago and they…
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Hallucinations
I am the 24/7 caregiver for my wife who suffers from mid to early late term dementia. She has had various hallucinations, usually after wakening in the AM, but recently has had one that repeats itself, and she bring it up all day long. She repeated insists that "a man" comes to her bedroom and disrupts her things by either…
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Long term care
I am new to the forum. I woke up a week or so ago and was just researching things on ALZ, and came across various discussions. My husband is from a large family (20 siblings and 7 children), and dementia runs in his family. I had some idea what was ahead when he began to have cognitive issues, but I was optimistic that we…
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Brain autopsy
Is anyone planning on getting a brain autopsy on their LO once they enter stage 8? If so, how did you go about making the arrangements? I think I would like to know what dementia(s) my DH had for the sake of his children and grandchildren.