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Talking about someone in the 3rd person while speaking to them
We suspect my 89-year-old mother is progressing from early- to mid-stage dementia but don't have a diagnosis yet. Recently, there have been a couple of instances where she's referred to the person she's speaking to in the third person. Like telling her granddaughter, Lauren, about "the basket that Lauren made" or telling…
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Struggling to Cope
Hi everyone. I'm 27 years old and two years ago my father was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. Things have been going really smooth. Up until the last few months. He's progressed somewhat quickly and I had a really jarring experience with him yesterday. He's been having conversations with himself which I just let him do, but…
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New Here - Caregiver Fatigue
Hi all. I’m a caregiver for my Mom who was diagnosed with slow progression Alzheimer’s but has since sped up. She can still maintain her daily hygiene, knows to eat, etc. Prior to being formally diagnosed, I was living out of state with my husband and then college bound son. I decided that it was best I moved, temporarily,…
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Delusional talking
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Looking for advice on parent who wants to travel but can’t
My mom’s sister recently passed. She lived 2000 miles away from us and had no kin. I need to travel to help handle the estate, etc. My mom keeps insisting she’s going and I have to explain that she can’t travel. She gets disoriented in her own home and needs supervision 24/7. As much as I wish I could take her with me,…
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MCI Diagnosis
My DH has been diagnosed with MCI after a fairly brief evaluation from a neurologist (with review of his MRI and bloowork). It appears that this is an umbrella term that could mean any number of things, so I'm confused about his actual diagnosis. I'm contemplating getting a more detailed neuropsych evaluation but hear that…
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Support
My mother is in a nursing home, funds are low, and my income isn't enough to help. I hate the idea of selling the house and I feel like I've betrayed her, as she's always upset when I go to visit. But at the same time, feel my care to live with her would not be enough. I really wish I could just bring her home and be…
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Advice on Deed
I need to get some advice from you folks on what to do with our home deed. The deed is in both my and my DW name. It is also included in our Trust. I will probably need to sell house to help defray the costs of MC some day. When and if we get to that day, my DW will probably not be able to sigh any documents. I do have a…
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Feeling Fragile
I feel so sad. My DH of 54 years has VD stage 5 or 6 our partnership over the years has been so strong, we've worked together in our own business, sailed together, flown together, had our children together, and always relied on and supported each other, and now it's just me calling all the shots. I love him dearly and I am…
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stability issues at toilet
DH is becoming more unstable in general, he hasn't fallen much -yet- but I'm looking for suggestions using the toilet. He is trying to see if he can pee sitting down, but standing is such an ingrained habit it may not be workable. He needs something to hold onto whether he sits or stands. I have heard the suggestion to put…
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My Mom
My Mom is 65 and showing all the signs of dementia. Her biggest one is she thinks her loving husband of 35 years is cheating on her. She’s making his life miserable. She’s always accusing him and being nasty. She refuses to even talk about the fact that she might have something wrong with her and won’t go to the doctors.…
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Age 59 early onset with a six year
My husband (currently separated) is in the early stages of being diagnosed. There is a months long wait to get into a neurologist to get an official diagnosis. Meanwhile, I’m now a 41 year old single mom to six year old. His undiagnosed symptoms have caused financial ruin for our family. He isn’t able to work and is…
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Hospice assessment
I'm ready to have my husband assessed for hospice. He doesn't meet all the criteria on the checklist, but I've been encouraged to have a home assessment. Any tips for those of you that have done this? I plan to tell him it's an assessment for insurance coverage, without mentioning the word hospice. Anything I should be…
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Possible AZ prevention from anti virals + shingles vaccine
I have not read anything about this before:…
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Diagnosis for dementia?
My mother was recently discharged from the hospital after having an episode of some sort and falling. She stayed in the hospital for 2 weeks and she was experiencing dementia symptoms pretty bad. Her memory has been fading gradually over the past 6 years or so. The doctors were worried about it and tried to get an MRI but…
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Comparing Clinical Care in Boston
Hello, I'm from the Boston area and new to the discussion. I am wondering if anyone has gotten recent care for a loved one at either Boston Center for Memory (BCM) or Mass General Hospital's Memory Disorders Division? My 82-year old mother has mild ALZ but will probably NOT choose to pursue anti-amyloid treatments…
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Caregiver-only groups in DFW?
Anyone in North Texas know about groups for caregivers?
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Cardio surgery and Quality of life
For context, my dad had two valve replacements many years ago that seem to have been a factor in his dementia. The valve in his first surgery was crushed by scar tissue so his case was written in medical journal and the cardiology department at Vanderbilt (which is local to us) is really invested in his care. About a month…
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Homecare
I’d like to get a caretaker come over twice a week for a few hours. Where do I begin to search? And hubby likes sleeping until 10:30 or so. Therefore I should have the person over when he’s up and about? Thx
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Caring for spouse
my DH has EO dementia. He has an alcohol use disorder. He has guns as we live in the country and have chickens. He is 82 and I’m 83. I at a loss as to how to deal with everything and my family is worried about his gun use against me in his mental condition. I need help.
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Transitioning to AL
My mom is in a community with IL, AL, and MC. She’s been in IL there for 2 years and it’s time to transition to AL. We know she will eventually need MC too. Any tips on easing the transition when it’s in the same community? In a way it should be easier due to the familiar environment, but there’s also a feeling of being…
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cognitive vs ADLs
I expect that some of you have been in the situation I am in with my DW. Her neurologist described her condition as "severe" last week at a 6-month evaluation, but then went on to say that her ADLs are good and she is physically ok. That leaves me wondering if one is more important than the other regarding the need for MC.…
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Mom recently diagnosed, Dad in hospice, preparing for dad's passing
Hello, I just joined this forum, and am looking for suggestions. My elderly parents (93 and 91) are having difficulties. I am their primary caregiver. Dad will pass soon (home hospice), my folks are living in Senior Independent Living apartment together. We have not communicated the DEMENTIA diagnosis to my mother yet, and…
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Introducing myself
Hello, I'm a caregiver for my mother. She has been slightly cognitively impaired for a few years but recently had seizures and it has progressed her cognitive impairment. She has been diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment. Unfortunately, she is easily agitated and confrontational. It is very hard dealing with her…
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Hospice benefits
My DH was just approved for hospice services. He has been in a pretty rapid decline since moving into a wonderful residential memory care home in November 2024. While I am grateful that his remaining time with this wretched disease may be limited, am having trouble figuring out what value add the hospice services might…
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New on this Journey
I’m a 59yr old female who’s been diagnosed with Younger Onset Alzheimer’s. About several years ago I knew I was gradually forgetting the littlest things which grew to bigger things (how to get home) . At that point I went to my Neurologist who was seeing me for my Parkinson’s. Now I was in denial however, getting connected…
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Seizure that came with a gift
My husband had a seizure Tuesday morning. It was the scariest thing I’ve been through on this journey . It started with him yelling and screaming. Then his limbs began posturing . Finally he went completely rigid and his head tilted back and his breaths came in puffs. He bit his tongue and it began to bleed. When it was…
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She Is Dancing With The Angels
My wife Linda’s journey of this earth ended this afternoon. I have mentioned several times in my post how she loved to dance and she continued dancing almost to the very end. I attached the link below of her dancing. https://fb.watch/cj53jFIVCR/ She contracted Covid 3 weeks ago which lead to an infection that got out of…
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Hypersexuality
Its been a long time since I've posted, but his hypersexuality is much worse. He is not angry, or mean, or delusional, just talks about sex non stop. The only thing that makes me feel better is that I have caregivers who aren't nt phased by it, having seen it a million times. It makes me feel like I'm in a more normal world
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Unexpected peaceful moment
I just wanted to share with those who would understand. Tonight, I had one of those truly unanticipated moments of peace and dare I say joy? After getting DH into bed, I poured myself an adult beverage, stepped out onto the patio, sat in my chair, and listened to the wind blowing in the trees (it’s really gusting here in…