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Hitting and imaginary person
My bf 45 eoa has been hitting, punching, squeezing his hand so hard that he is bruised and swollen sometimes. He ia convinced that it is someone else. He said "this is me, mine" about his right hand. "Thats hlm, that's not mine" about his left hand. This "person" takes his things and hides them. He has been on olanzapine…
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Mover closer?
Hi, I may have posted this earlier in a wrong or little visited place so I', posting here too hoping for some advice from those who have experienced this. Short back story, my wife has been in memory care in Fresno Ca. for 2 1/2 years. Her son lives seven miles from where she is and sees her twice a week. She is currently…
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Just need an emotional release
The evenings are bad for me. I miss my mom. I miss sitting here with her, enjoying TV on the couch, and being close to her. I miss being her daughter. I know, I know. I still am at some level, but everything has changed so quickly. I've had to do so much in such a short period of time. Decided she needed to go to the ER,…
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How to find a doctor to do capacity assessment for DPOA
We've been dealing with Mom's dementia for a while now, and we really need to activate her DPOA. It requires us to get an assessment from two "licensed physicians." Problem: I called Mom's doctor, and they had no clue. The office people don't think the doctor has ever done that. I don't know what kind of a process I need…
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Siblings involvement in parental care
Does anyone who is caring for their parents have siblings who choose not to be involved and how do you deal with it?
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I just need to say...
Making a king-sized bed by yourself, with all the protective layers, and a tired husband who keeps trying to climb on before you're done, is a pain in the rear. No need to reply - you know it's true. Goodnight friends.
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Behavior change in dad, how to help?
My dad is 80yo, ALZ/VD and in AL. He is stage 5 (DBAT) and so far has always known who I am. My husband, son, dog and I stopped in to visit him. He was sitting in one of the common areas. We came in and said “hello!”, and I let him know it was me (just in case). He looked crossly at all of us and said “I want to be alone.”…
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National Academies’ Forum GLP-1R agonists
This discussion is open to the public and there is an option for attending virtually This is the class of meds that are being used for diabetes and weight loss. They are exploring their affect on neurodegenerative diseases…
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Things for mom to do
My mom lives 5 hours away. She refuses to take part in any of the “activities” that are available at her ALF. She does not like games of any kind, puzzles, etc. She has a piano in her room which she plays periodically but otherwise she just sits there and watches TV. She has asked me “what am I supposed to do here?” And…
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Emotional Abuse
Hi there, This is my first post and, I'm really desperate for help or advice. I am moving cross country to care for and support my mother who was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's (though, I think this has been progressing over the last several years). I am doing everything I can to help her and it never seems like enough or…
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help
Hello everyone, I have my grandfather who has senile dementia and they discovered it 5 years ago. I live with my grandmother and my grandfather. My grandmother is the one who takes care of him but she has a strong character and has no patience and when my grandfather tells her who wants to go to work or something else, for…
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Alzheimer
Hola,mi papá enfermó de Alzheimer hace varios años y grácias a la medicación prescrita tuvimos la gran suerte de poder disfrutar de él por más tiempo aunque la enfermedad iba avanzando lentamente hasta que nos dejó el pasado 18 de diciembre de 2023. D.E.P pare
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Medication Help
A few years ago before my mom had a confirmed diagnosis of ALZ, she was started on Lexapro 20mg, then namenda and aricept. She’s been in AL for 3 months. Geriatric Psych at the facility added on Wellbutrin 8 weeks ago bc of depression/apathy. 2 weeks ago she started Xanax .25mg 3/day bc of her aggression/anxiety. She…
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Super fast decline to stage 7, what next?
I feel like I'm coming here with questions that I know don't have good/any answers, but I am really appreciating all of the shared knowledge and compassion in this forum. My mother has been on hospice for about a month and in a small MC since April. Moving into the MC seemed to trigger a speed run from late Stage 6 to late…
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New here and just feeling defeated and depressed and alone
Hi I'm new here...I just feel so hopeless and depressed...My Mom was diagnosed 2 yrs ago with Alz...I've been taking turns with my sister going up home to take care of her..when I leave I feel so depressed and like I am abandoning her and can't wait to go back in another 3 months....no one understands...of course my sister…
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New here and looking for tips
Hi, My mom, now 63, was diagnosed with Early onset. The symptoms became evident rapidly after May of last year. Honestly, I came to this forum shortly after that time in an effort to learn as much as possible and was instantly depressed by what I had been reading and felt like "I can't do this right now." Now, about a year…
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Increased hallucinations while on hospice
Wondering and thinking out loud. Since being on hospice for a week the hospice doctor changed much her medications. The ones she was on the doctor said they don't really help and actually increase anxiety and agitation so my DW was placed on a different regimen of meds. While I agree with the assessment I'm wondering if…
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Level of Care
So in considering what kind of facility my mom needs, and as part of the Medicaid approval process, do they assess how much care she needs to know where to place her? This may be a stupid question, but as I search the few MC facilities in our area that accept Medicaid, they all seem like the patients are VERY high need. My…
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Mom With EOAD Lacks Motivation
Hi, I’m grateful to have come across this resource. Last year, my mother (60 years old at the time) was diagnosed with EOAD. While the diagnosis came as a shock for someone of her age, we were noticing a decline in her cognitive functions, particular with regards to time (not knowing what day it is, showing up to to…
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Caregiving when you have pretty severe mental health issues yourself
Hello. I do some caregiving for someone who is quickly declining. We mostly go for walks. I have severe depression and anxiety myself. I am also unfortunately an empath so her distress sticks to me for hours or more. When she says paranoid delusions about her primary caregiver, I am at a loss for how to respond. I am…
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Insomnia due to caregiver burnout
If you have experienced insomnia due to caregiver stress and burnout, how did you fix it? I havent been able to sleep in two weeks and I am very concerned. I know not sleeping is bad so please do not tell me the dangers, just tell me solutions if you have any! I have already tried: melatonin sleep aids, non-melatonin sleep…
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Rough night
I have been dealing with DH with FTD. I think it has been a slow decline with behavioral variant since 2009. My daughter is now 14. I have raised three teens alone through this. He talks to himself daily, screams and yells, hides or loses items and think there are "others" sabotaging his life. We are honestly very use to…
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I just don’t know?!?!
Enjoying dinner with former work friends tonight! Oh my such a wonderful, full of belly laughs time. Paying bill, ready to go and friend says isn’t that your husband coming over? Well I was dumbfounded! Apparently he was sitting at the bar drank not sure if he ate and staggered over when he was leaving! Friends were great…
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Feeling guilty about hospice and husband passing away
My wonderful husband passed away August 3rd. I miss him terribly. He was 71, and he had been diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s about 9 years ago. He also had diabetes and vascular dementia, along with some other health issues. I am fortunate that I was able to keep him home the whole time, and I was able to work ( I…
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Denial
My elder with Alzheimer’s has no short term memory at all. Before Alzheimer’s she’d deny any problem like this anyway. Is it even worth the bother trying to get her to understand? Thanks!
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Elopement and MC Assessment
My DH had a MC assessment today and things were going ok until the elopement question. Does your DH wander? I told the truth that occasionally he wanders (with me following him). I told them that DH wandered last week at night. They asked if I was able to bring him home and I told them I had to call the police for an…
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Finally...
I finally got an answer for what I've been dealing with for the past few months. Actually, it's been longer than that, much longer. I had been complaining of shortness of breath on exertion and extreme fatigue and tired muscles. I've seen two sleep doctors for a diagnosis of sleep apnea as a cause of the extreme fatigue.…
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Meds for Spouses?
Sorry - kind of long but looking for advice for how to manage my own emotions. My 68 year old DH - probably stage 5-6- was placed 3 months ago due to aggression, high anxiety, not sleeping, wandering, and extreme agitation. New meds, the skill of the MC nurses, and the fact that he can wander about the hallways and talk to…
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Testing MRI with contrast dye?
my DH is supposed to have 4 MRIs today— one with contrast dye. I’m reading about possible problems for elderly patients with dementia and/or heart disease with the contrast dye…he’s frail and I don’t want to put him through nausea/rashes/increased cognitive issues —- I’m thinking of having him do only the three MRIs…