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A lot going on
My dad’s shingles are cleared up. He has bells palsy, which numbs the pain in his jaw. So he doesn't think that he needs surgery to remove his 8 pieces of teeth. But Bob is still taking him to get that done tomorrow morning. And in a couple of months, after everything else is healed, he's having surgery to remove the…
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CBD Gummies
Are you pro or con? What level? What brand? Can you use them with other meds? Thanks!
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How to answer why am I here (in MC facility)? Is it ever appropriate to tell the truth?
My dad and I recently moved my 68-year old mother into a memory care facility. Today is her two-week anniversary there, and it's already a struggle. She gets stuck in a "loop" asking questions: why do I have to be here? When can I go home? I didn't do anything wrong, why am I wearing an ankle bracelet? Why are you lying to…
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Alzheimer's is winning
Momma is getting worse, quickly. Won't cooperate with taking meds. Has started pocketing food. Can't use a straw. We are giving her liquids with a syringe. Eating less good food, more sweets. Her body is drawing up, her legs are tucked up close to her body very tightly when lying on her back. When on her side they are…
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What to ask on tour of care facility
I've finally started to make some decisions about what to do with my mom. I have given up my own home life to move in with her for 11 months (luckily could still keep working). I now feel that she would be better off in a community with plenty of activities and new friends, and is able to function enough without me…
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36Hour Day... Dad wont accept help with Mom...audible Eye Rolls and more fun in the life of Alz.
I am Lisa. I am 54, so not too wet behind the ears, but needing to vent, question, commiserate, seek help and all the other mundane needs of a caregiver to an Alz LO. My mom is turning 78 this year. My dad is 80. They will have been married 59 years in March. They have never dated others, have never lived apart, have never…
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Aggressive behavior(4)
So how many of you have an aggressive LO. Mine is at stage 6, never wanted to go to assisted living, however for several reasons it became too hard and really impossible to keep her at home. She is often verbally aggressive, since going into the facility she has become physically aggressive too. Today, she dealt the staff…
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Having issues coping!
My mom was diagnosed about 5 years ago with dementia. But in the last year it has progressed extremely fast. We placed her in an assisted living facility almost two years ago. My mom use to be so active in many different groups and loved to spend time with my niece. Watching someone go from so active to not able to do…
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Cancer and other health problems now
LO (age 78) is going on 3 years now since officially diagnosed with vascular-based dementia (and possibly AD). Realistically probably 4-5 years since she started showing early signs (interesting how in hindsight you see all the signs more clearly). I would say she is at stage 5 going into 6 now. I've been taking care of…
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Does anyone else have these issues??
Does anyone else have this issue? Wife of 58 years was “officially” diagnosed with AD in 2014. I say officially because the symptoms were there many years before. Memory loss, loss of words, forgetting details, birthdays, etc. The past two years I have had to remove all types of junk mail, advertising fliers, news paper…
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Sleep Medication
Mom fights sleep all the time. Staying up all night then not sleeping much during the day which spells a total disaster. When she doesn’t sleep, she’s horrible. Mean. Sometimes violent. Doesn’t know people. Delusions. I know everyone tells me melatonin but let’s face it. Does t work. Im looking for something of extended…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/25/22
FOCUS ON THE LORD * GOD THOUGHT: Psalm 27:7-8 NIV “Hear my voice when I call, Lord; be merciful to me and answer me. My heart says of you, ‘Seek his face!’ Your face, Lord, I will seek.” * VICTORY THOUGHT: I seek the Lord who is kind and forgiving; He hears my prayers. * POWER PRAYER: Kind and compassionate Heavenly…
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Tips for diaper changing
For a while my FIL has been ornery when I’m changing his diaper at night and cussing, no big deal, but lately he has been grabbing our hands, kicking, or grabbing the diaper. Even if we talk to him cheerfully and empathize with him and tell him it will be over soon, he’s not able to calm down. With 2 people we can handle…
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Great video about someone with lbd
I get Teepa snow emails and the latest email has part one of a video with someone with lewy body dementia. I watch it I was amazed. My neighbor had been diagnosed with lbd and I didn't think he was ever gonna get any better. To my surprise my neighbor has been doing do much better, I didn't understand lbd so this video was…
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Geriatric psychiatrist?
My mom has had the same GP for years and told he told my sister we shouldn't have to go to any specialist and that he can handle her Alzheimers care. She was diagnosed by a neurologist. My mom is mid stage 6 and has lived with me for almost 5 months and she is declining. More delusions like my sister's sons are really hers…
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Caregiver aid , app from Stanford Med
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Emergency help for patient
I have been trying to get my father into nursing care which has been a struggle. He has been showing aggression towards my mother (caregiver) who does not handle him in the correct ways. He does well at the day center. I really need an option to get him out of the home until I can get him into a nursing facility. The…
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I rest my case
Long story short. Took mother to her podiatry appointment with a new podiatrist. I told them beforehand she suffers from dementia. As she was seated in his exam chair he began asking her questions. I had previously told him she cannot appropriately answer questions. He essentially told me to " let her answer the questions"…
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feeling angry at Alzheimer's
Hospice says my dad is in the end stages. I am fortunate to be part of a family that always rallies around and supports each other, and we all live in the same general area. My sisters and I all help care for our parents. We each fill the roles that we are most suited for, be that emotional, financial, or hands-on care, or…
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Making the hard decision that LO needs assisted living
Hello all- I think I’m just looking for some reassurance that this is the right thing. So my LO is 74 diagnosed Alzheimer’s in September 2021. I’d say about a stage 5 Her neurologist recommended that she no longer lives alone. Lives alone in a rapidly falling apart home. Sadly, I don’t have the ability to care for them at…
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MCI to early stage dementia - a cell phone caretaker's experience
My 82 year old relative has schizophrenia since thirties and clinically tested MCI two years ago, amnestic type, lives alone in his house and seems to function ok without any support services coming in, 4 months ago primary doctor suspended or revoked license due to delusions he heard. No neuropsychological cognitive…
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HEARING ISSUES? ALZEIMERS or SEPARATE?
hey LOVELY PEOPLE of the CAREGIVER FORUM... my MOM has suddenly developed some HEARING LOSS.... not MAJOR... but NOTICEABLE (to me!)... she is in MID STAGES of ALZ... she goes to the bathroom on her own, walks well... but, certainly well along... i was just wondering if this is something that happens... or just a…
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New to memory care(1)
Hi all: I'm brand new to this message board. My mom, 88 yr old was in assisted living for almost three years and recently moved to memory care in the same facility (three weeks ago). Her dementia (unspecified) seems to be rapidly advancing by the week. Twice the caregivers couldn't calm her down and have called me, with my…
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New to group(6)
I'm new to the group and thought I would share my story in the hope it resonates with others so they know they are not alone, and get insight from others who have been on this journey much longer than me. My mom was dx with early onset Alz. dementia in 2019 (age 71) and has advanced rather quickly. I would say we are in…
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Time for Doctor Change?
Sigh!!!!! Mom's primary left the practice last month and new NP, after 1 phone appt., doesn't seem equipped or medically knowledgeable about treating Vascular Dementia. I asked what was her medical experience with Dementia to which she responded with a story about her grandmother and stories shared by her mother???? She…
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Bouncing back and forth with abilities
My FIL as many of you know had hip surgery in January and it has taken a good month for him to be off the many meds to even start to gauge what he can and can’t do. Some things he seems better than pre-surgery, and others worse. What is new for us is that we seem to be bouncing back and forth between his abilities. Before…
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Have parents visit their old home, good idea or bad?
Hello everyone, We’re all in this together, been reading through these posts and everything sounds very painfully familiar. We had to move both my parents into memory care back in November. At the time my dad understood why and agreed. Mom, having no short-term memory, would agree, forget, then argue. Ever since moving in…
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Daily Crying: How to help stop the crying?
My mother cries everyday and sometimes for hours each day. There does not appear to be any physical pain or other issues, but rather it is just a symptom of her dementia. I have tried various activities that sometimes help, such as playing her favorite music and trying to dance with her, giving her a snack to eat, holding…
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Advice on next step care, when family is struggling
Hi All, My mother is only 65 but in late stages of EO. I'm only 36 have a 15 month old son and live out of state. My 30 year old sister is my moms part-time caregiver (my dad is full time and we have a caregiver 10 hours a week just to give my dad a break). My sister is due with her first baby in April. My mom's mobility…
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Veteran Directed Care Program
Has anyone used this program or is familiar with it?: https://www.va.gov/geriatrics/pages/Veteran-Directed_Care.asp My sister currently attends Adult Day Care 5 days a week paid for by the VA Health Care system, but there are some problems right now with the VA end of it and I'm concerned she might lose that benefit. I'm…