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My mother has locked me out
My mother has exhibited many signs of dementia, has very impaired hearing and vision. She has not been diagnosed with anything as she has refused to see a neurologist or similar in the last 10 years and she can pass as having capacity. She started accusing me and my daughter of being against her and eventually restricted…
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Don’t know what to do anymore.
Mom’s symptoms are getting progressively worse every day. Current medications: 900 MG Lithium 300 MG Seroquel at bedtime 50 MG Seroquel as needed 50 MG Trazodone This all started in March of 2020. Mom contracted Covid-19 and it alerted us to a blood clot. She was hospitalized and initially the doctors believed she would…
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Miracles do Happen!
After 9 months of battles with my father, my family and I were able to convince (trick really) my dad into a senior facility with my mom. And, looks like this dumb feud with my sister and brother has come to an end! Unfortunately, second night involved the police and trip to the ER (what a waste), but he's finally back on…
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Getting my dad all set
I got my dad to all the doctors appointments and got him hearing aids. He has a colonoscopy scheduled for Monday morning. Tonight I have to hide all my dad’s usual food so that he can only eat the food that’s designed for his colonoscopy prep. I have to follow the schedule for giving him all the right foods at the right…
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Double Trouble - long distance edition
Hi All, I’ve been lurking in this forum a while & decided to post in hopes of getting some advice for my situation. I’m sorry this is long, but I would be so grateful to anybody who can chime in. My head is spinning! This is regarding 2 LOs (my grandparents) who are basically parents to me. Grandpa has vascular dementia,…
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Hi, I'm new here! So here's the thing...
It''s been a while that we realised that my father had some kind of dementia but none of the doctors we visited gave us official diagnosis. However, during the last two months he got worse and 2 weeks ago he fell into paranoia and he became violent. We managed to convince him to go to the doctor and he gave us diagnosis of…
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I'm new here - best door chime to know when parent is leaving the house?
Our father, living with our mom in a ground level apartment has dimensia. A couple of days ago he went out at 4AM and was wandering around the complex' parking lot. We think a door chime system would be better at alerting our mother that our father is leaving the apartment. I envision something that would play a tune for…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/12/22
THANK YOU, friends for your lovely messages to me. I value them greatly. Please accept my invitation to be a "connection" or "invite" me by clicking on VKB. I will enjoy interacting with you through these private messages. Hugs to all of you! * JESUS IS THE VINE GOD THOUGHT: John 15:5 NIV “I am the vine; you are the…
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MIL in MC advice
Hello, In September, my elderly FIL (who has cancer) moved in with us and my MIL moved into a MC 15 minutes away. I am hoping people can give me advice from experience. * My MIL obsesses over things, often (but not limited to) why can't they live together and they are not giving her the evening meds, and is constantly…
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Paranoia and hiding things
My mother lives with me. Just me and her. She has been diagnosed with dementia and also Primary Progressive Aphasia. I finally took some time away before Christmas., First time for myself in almost two years. My brother covered with care. Since then, she has been convinced that he stole stuff. (nothing is missing) There's…
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I think Mom does not recognize home anymore
I don’t know how to handle mom’s new behavior/decline. I think Mom is beginning to forget the rooms in our home. (This is the only home Mom, Dad and the entire family has known for over 40 years). Several months ago when mom was in the living room I told her dinner was ready and I proceeded to walk out the room, she said…
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what to expect(3)
We made the decision today to move Dad from AL to MC. It was a tough choice but we need to what's best for him. Just reaching out to see what we should expect as far as his behavior/reactions are going to be...help!
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Transportation to the doctor?
It is getting harder and harder to get my dad out of the house. I had to cancel his last appointment because - long story short - I couldn't get him to cooperate. He won't get up to walk, he won't speak to us, he stiffens his body so we can't pick him up, he will force his feet into the ground so we can't push his wheel…
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I'm not hungry
Hello! My LO Mom lives with me and my husband and son in PA. After a recent bout with the flu, my LO is sleeping MORE and MORE. I don't mind except that in the past 2 weeks, she has dropped 7 pounds because even though I wake her for meals, she states "I'm not hungry" after eating about 5 bites if I'm lucky. I try to sneak…
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Seroquel(9)
Hello Everyone, Mom’s doctor suggested Seroquel to help her sleep. Any thoughts, I am not familiar with this medication. Thanks
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How to convince LO to let home companion in the house
Hello, I've got 2 questions about home care: First, my dad has recently reached the stage where he needs someone in the house daily, at the very least to make sure he's taking his medication. However, he insists he's taking it and refuses help of any kind. I've been advised to tell him that having someone stop by daily…
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Mom left bathroom sink running
Hello Everyone, It’s been a long time since my last post. Things were going well, but nothing stays the same with this disease. Mom is mobile and is able to go the bathroom on her own. I noticed several months ago Mom leaving the bathroom sinking running. Then Mom started to leave the bathroom sinking running with her…
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Wants to be in bed 16 hrs a day
Mom was diagnosed 3 years ago and has been on Aricept ever since. If we have an activity that requires she be up and moving around (such as one of our small family gatherings) she can manage to stay awake and function almost normally the entire day. Some days, she will go for a short walk with me, take a leisurely ride, or…
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Maybe I have finally figured this disease out
I have been trying to figure out Alzheimer's disease for nearly twenty years. It comes down to this very simple observation: "The inflammatory mediator peroxynitrite, when generated in excess, may damage cells by oxidizing and nitrating cellular components. Defense against this reactive species may be at the level of…
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Looking for long term care for father with Dementia in N. California
Hello Folks, I am the conservator for my father and am trying to find him long term care. He has dementia and I just got Medi-Cal Share of Cost approved to help with getting him placed. Does anyone have any recommendations for places that have long term beds, memory care and take Medi-Cal in bay area or northern…
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Insecure about going to bed alone
Any tips for this subject
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Seeking guidance for helping my parents
Helpo. So my dad is my mother's (has Alzheimers) primary care giver and has not been taking the best care of her. I know he's exhausted and depressed and is in very bad health. He recently had a fall and broke his ankle and is in rehab. One of my younger brothers is looking after my mom briefly when he's not at work but…
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Working with Geriatric Social Workers
Good Day! Seeking to learn if anyone has worked with a geriatric social worker or geriatric care manager to coordinate care for a loved one. How did you locate one in your area? What type of services do they provide? Looking forward to your responses.
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A bad infection
My dad has a bad infection in his lower jaw bone. He’s being transferred a couple of hours away by ambulance and I’m going to follow him there.
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/7/22
Only Seeking God's Presence, Nothing More ** Psalms 42:1 NIV "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God." * me: Let's often make plans to visit with our Lord, just so we can sit at His feet and soak in His radiant presence. Some ways we can do this are through prayer along with reading and…
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Dementia and family dynamics
Hello all! I recently found my way to the message boards and was glad to read the experiences of others. My dad was diagnosed with dementia in 2020. He is in his late 70's and I am 38 - It doesn't seem young in the grand scheme of things but I was not expecting to deal with this until later in my life. My mom passed away…
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In over my head...
Hello! I am very new to the site and new to being a caregiver. My sister is coming to visit in 2 weeks to visit several AL and MC facilities in the area. Unfortunately my mom is willing to relocate one day and the next it's an absolute "no/you're forcing me" meltdown. Is there a way to help your LO make the transition…
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Mixed dementia and hallucinations
I believe we are experiencing and new stage with hallucinations with my mother in law. She is finally sharing this with us..what do we do? Are there medications that may help or will they hinder? I have been using natural calming tablets for her anxiety and frustration but this seems to be frightening her
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Issues With My Mom’s Care Facility
My 83 yr old mom, with moderate to severe lbd has been living in a specialty care facility since early Jan. She was very adverse to it but we told her to give it a chance. It is very expensive and we are paying for it out of pocket ($18k a month!). Of course we were over promised on what type of care she would receive and…
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Hospice / ombudsman
My advice for those of you placing a LO, put them on hospice before placement! Hospice will be a second set of eyes on how well your LO is being treated. Especially if they are on Medicaid. Also, get to know your local ombudsman. Yet another set of eyes!