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Facility Responsibility for Resident Security
My mom is in a memory care facility in NJ. My Dad is in independent living within the same facility. One of the other memory care residents is further along in his disease than my mom is. He is coming into my mom's room often times yelling at her to get out of his house. He has not been violent but very loud and…
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Anxiety(3)
My mother has extreme anxiety before Dr's appts. One time we decided to take her to her appointment 2 hours early, so that she finally understood it was too early. She has another appt in a few days, and I am already dreading it. She doesn't have a good concept of time, anymore. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
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Jury duty
Oh my goodness!!! My name is Patty I have heart disease, very close to needing a heart transplant. My Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2019 and I am struggling with unbelievable issues. I was denied disability because I'll bite my lip and this has depleted my mom's bank account to the point we now have a negative…
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possibly transitioning to next stage?
Hi friends, It feels late at night even though it's 7:30PM here. Wanted to check-in about the kookiness we've had going on today. Some catch-up from the last couple of weeks: my dad might be starting to struggle with eating/using his hands. More confusion about how to do things (take pills, drink from straw). As he's…
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Depression and suicidal thoughts
My dad, 88 with VD, has been telling me, his daughter, and my mom and his doctor that he doesn't want to wear a catheter anymore and if he dies, he won't care. He reluctantly endured the insertion of another catheter but when he came home, he went straight to bed and seemed so depressed and deflated. I saw in his medical…
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Selling their home
My dad was dx with vascular dementia approximately 2 years ago and we quickly found out that my stepmom was unable to care for him. She has had severe diabetes for years and I knew there was some other issues but she presented very well. In October - she was taken by ambulance to the ER and within days was dx with brittle…
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Funny, but not funny
As some of you know I am caring for my father in law. Well l was cleaning the downstairs bathroom, when l hear from the bathroom some gagging noises coming from the kitchen. I come running into the kitchen asking him if he was alright and he shakes his head no. I look in his hand to find that he drank some of the spicy…
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Dad passed away overnight
I got the call this morning. Dad passed away in his sleep. Hospice, the AL nurse and everyone was surprised because he has a good day yesterday. No services planned until Mom passes. Now we deal with her confused reactions to it all. She’s responding appropriately right now.
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Retired and can't be alone with my wife in house
We have out lived friends. Wife is mobile but we have nowhere to go. My wife could come with me and not be left alone. I need at this stage somewhere to go to socialize for a few hours a day. I need to be with people. Family is not an option. I can't believe there aren't daily social groups. I have to keep her at home as…
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Post from new caregivers group
@MyMomAlice wrote this post in the new caregivers group and I moved it here so members with similar experiences can chime in. MyMomAlice She/her/hers / Ella Unconfirmed, Member Posts: 1 Member 2:21PM Options Hi! I am a caregiver for my Mom 77 who lives an hour and a half away. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in January…
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Sadly, we're nearing the end
I can't even believe I'm typing this, but it's true. The hospice nurse called me yesterday to tell me that Peggy's transitioning. And she is. Her heart rate is 140, even as she's just laying there in bed and her pulse is weak. Yesterday she was cool to the touch, and today she was so hot that we ended up putting on the AC.…
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Community Based Residential Facility Visitation
My neighbor, Wally, had to move his wife of 65 years to an assisted living facility 12 days ago due to her severe dementia. The facility will not allow anyone to visit her. They are saying it will help her to adjust better to the change. Does anyone know if this is standard procedure? I tried to go check on her and they…
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Really dumb question about moving LO to MC
Hi all, My Dad (88, Alz/vascular stage 5/6) is moving to MC tomorrow. He's declined quite a bit in the last month. Facility called us last week encouraging MC, and we all agree he needs it. We visited places and chose his current facility. A few days ago in the flurry of things I made the call to move him tomorrow, which…
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What do do...
My mom has been at a private MC home for just over a month. Things are going as expected, though recently she's become more agitated and has hit one particular caregiver three times on three separate days. I'm told they can't really pinpoint a trigger. For example, one day the CG was putting her plate in front of her for…
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Adult Foster Care
I’m in Massachusetts caring for LO with Alzheimer’s full time. He’s got Medicaid and is almost approved for Adult Foster Care (AFC) which means I’d be paid a non-taxable stipend to care for him. He was evaluated as needing level II care which means he needs help with two or more ADLs and behavioral supervision. Please…
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medication recommendations
My dad recently was put on hospice to help with aggression we were hoping some medications would help., He is end stage but mobile with zero cognitive function. He recently became very violent and aggressive, redirecting is impossible. Hospice encouraged a geriatric psych facility. This was the last resort. He was admitted…
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Dad not recognising his home
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Estimating time left?
I previously posted that my step-dad was accepted into hospice a week and a half ago. Neither the hospice nurse nor the AL nurse would give me a time frame. Does anyone know a website or PDF that I could try to estimate a timeframe with? He might drink one regular sized Ensure or water - total- a day - maybe. He’s probably…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/4/24
COURAGE Genesis 1:1 NIV “In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” Joshua 1:9 NKJV “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Jeremiah 31:3 NIV “The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: ‘I have loved you…
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Just starting journey…
My MIL has not been formally diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, but her mother had it and we have no doubt. She lives with my FIL, and we just went to visit after about 3 months absence. I had my doubts that she knew who we were before, but now she absolutely doesn’t know us. She calls us “hon” as a general catch all. She does…
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Covid boosters
In case you missed it, on Wednesday the CDC recommended a second covid booster this spring for those over 65- I was able to get it today so they are ready to go with no delay. This will apply to many of as well as our loved ones. There have been stubborn outbreaks in our MC all winter so I was happy to see the…
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FTD - Frontotemporal Specific Staging Tool (by Dr. Tam Cummings for FTD)
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Making rooms off-limits
Many people recommend making rooms safe for PWD and locking of hiding things away. and in some cases preventing PWD's from going into unused rooms for preventing rummaging or doing dangerous things. This includes locking rooms, or putting up signs. I wonder how far one can go in making rooms off-limits - don't go into…
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Delusions, verbal abuse, small child in the home
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Socially conservative caregivers
Hi all! I usually post of the spouse board, because my spouse has Alzheimer's. Now my father is also showing signs and I'm thinking forward to placement. The place I have my dh is wonderful, but religiously run, and caregivers throughout my community tend to be socially conservative. I have kept from bringing some of my…
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posterior cortical atrophy
My brother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's in 2020, with PCA ,We believe his symptom's started in 2018, He started having aggression and hallucinations about 1 1/2 ago where he thinks people are following him, he also can't seem to find the right door, he was placed in memory care in August 2023, As he needs…
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Violence against my DH in an AL facility
My DH is 92 yo, frail, and in a Broda chair. He lives in AL. He has early Stage 7 ALZ (though still somewhat verbal), stroke damage, and CHF, with an estimated less than 3 mos. to live. Today there was an incident in the special needs dining room at lunch that has me very concerned. While the residents were eating lunch,…
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Issues with Getting LTC Insurance to Pay?
My mom has an AMAZING long-term care policy through TransAmerica. But we first filed a claim last September to have them cover her in-home care (we have caregivers with her from 7am-10pm every day and then monitor her movements with a Ring camera that alerts my sister and I if she gets up in the night) and they still have…
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updates and checking in
Hi everyone, wanted to say hi and post a few updates since today is a wonky one over here. My mom has officially started her new job (still working from home) and I'm going into the law school twice a week for work. We've hired Brightstar so we have a sitter coming in the days I'm not here during work hours so my mom can…
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Upcoming Geriatrician Appt; questions to ask?
My mom has her appt w/ the geriatrician coming up on Wednesday. The day before, I'm scheduled for a phone appointment with a social worker. I have some general questions, but am wondering either what questions you wish you had asked or what are good questions to ask at a first geriatrician appt? I know primarily the appt…