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From the NYT: Sizing UP Decisions of Older Adults
This may be behind a paywall for some-- Sizing Up the Decisions of Older Adults - The New York Times (nytimes.com)
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Alzheimer's Poem
Hello everyone, my mom has very late stage Alzheimer's and I wanted to share a poem with the community about my experience of the disease. I appreciate hearing from those of you who can relate. Thank you. Alzheimer’s Saying goodbye to someone alive Difficult to find the strength to thrive So many memories but so long ago…
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Remembers this but not that??
Hello all, I hope someone on this forum can explain. How is it my mom can’t remember her bodily functions but can remember the name of the new caregiver from days ago? Nothing makes any sense. I asked her how many times a day she’s changing her soiled adult underwear. She can’t tell me.
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Hello, Goodbye, and Thank you
I joined last year, but was lurking for a few months before my join date. My grandmother was the PWD and it was a long, scary journey. She lived alone since my grandfather’s death a decade or so earlier. That was probably when the wheels started to come off. She survived the Holocaust, but came out of it a sociopath. It’s…
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Finally a drug that shows cognitive improvement
For everyone out there who has a relative with moderate AD, I encourage you to apply for the Simufilam trials. Different caregivers (doctor and lawyer) give the same testimony about their relative improving thanks to the drug called Simufilam. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7VcIYyeUey8…
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PICC line plus fall risk disqualifying mom from nursing homes, what to do?
My 68-year old mom was moved into a memory care facility (MCF) in early February. She and my dad were slowly starting to adjust to the change. At this point, her memory was very bad, and she was upset that she had to stay at the MCF, but she was otherwise in great physical health, able to do self-care, eat, walk,…
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Happy Mother's Day
Wishing everyone a Happy Mother's Day. Hoping we will all find a moment of peace and search for something to be grateful for. I have come to realize that I have been waiting for my mother to die. My dad is doing the same thing. The nurse told me that she has seen it happen to other people when their LO gets to the stage my…
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FYI(12)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ds3ob4bX2H4
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How do I not feel guilt and anger?
Hello, my mom (LO) has been in MC since March 2021, She lived with us for a year before her dementia and water on the brain worsened and became too much for us, home health, and nurses to take care of. She needed 24/7 care. Now that she has been there a year, I find myself feeling guilty for not seeing her as often as I…
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we really need help!
hi, i have not found any information regarding any kind of help with our problem. Let me tell you my story. I'm a 36 years old man, I came to US almost 6 years ago running away from the dictatorship that rules my country venezuela. I am only child, i got an engineering bachelor and brought my mom with me. My mom is the one…
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Advice please(6)
Hi all, my mom is in a memory care facility. She was aggressive and combative for a while. The doctor prescribed zyprexa. Since she’s been on it (6 months now) she has become so restless and can’t sit still. Also zombie like. However she is no longer aggressive. She also lost 6lbs in a month. It’s hard to see her so…
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Lesson to be learned: Document everything
Something to share: An Elder Care caseworker was assigned to investigate the living situation of my half-sister Ann, who has Alzheimer's. Yesterday Ann's daughter Jane spoke at length with the caseworker, and learned that the assignment came about because "a community member" (probably a police officer) feared that Ann was…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/6/22
DEAR FRIENDS, if you need a prayer, ask below. Hoping we pray for each other as we are asked to do. Peace always, Ronnie P.S. HeyD, I prayed for you., * PSALMS HEARD IN THE STORM * “CREATE IN ME A CLEAN HEART” Psalm 51:10 New King James Version “Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me.”…
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Time for MC?
Hello all, TLDR: Mom is in the later middle stage of Alzheimers. Care is becoming difficult, is MC the right thing to do or are there better options? We have just signed a lease for our mom at a local memory care facility but I'm having so much doubt and guilt I'm getting even less sleep than usual and if I think about it…
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Normal to feel disconnected yet connected to a loved one?
Hi, It's been awhile since I was on this support message board. How is everyone? I am fine, just graduated from Miami Dade College with a Bachelor's degree in filmmaking. I am still working 2 jobs, hope to minimize yet be happy with one or even two jobs that are fulfilling mentally and financially. Anyway, the topic is it…
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New and needing direction
New to the site, but not to Alz. We lost Mom after an 8 year battle 3 years ago. Now our 92 y.o. Dad has it and I've relocated from out of state to help my sister care for him. I'm caring for him 12 hrs/day, 4 days week. Every day there's a new challenge, concern, issue, evidence of decline. How do I keep from feeling like…
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I'm not sure, but I think losing my mother in this way sort of ruined me. Perhaps I am just weak.
I first came to this forum over 10 years ago, when it became clear that mom's memory issues were more than just senior aging. She was always my best friend and the best thing that every happened to me, and I knew I would lose her one day, but I didn't know it would be like this. She was about 66 when diagnosed, and today…
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Looking for some advice(1)
I have been the caregiver for my mother who has lived with me for the last 5-6 years. Her dementia has been getting steadily worse, and her episodes always culminate in her accusing me of stealing money. The most recent episode she actually left and moved out to live at her sister''s house, saying she couldn''t live with…
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Question on MC
Looking for some advice. My mom moved into a memory care facility in January. She actually started in regular assisted living but kept trying to leave to go home. They moved her on an emergency basis to the MC unit after a couple of days. She was temporarily in a single room and then moved into a shared room as they…
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Sharing a poem I wrote - for encouragement
Please feel free to share my poem being sure to show me as the poet, thanks. A Dementia Perspective I struggle with my words coming out just right Have difficulty staying asleep at night Maybe I walk more slowly than you think I should Or just can’t keep up like I thought I could My words often get jumbled in my head Don’t…
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advice please(5)
My step father is in a memory care facility. He has become a little "handsy" and they wanted to put him on risperidone. I agreed but didn't realize they would start him at such a high dosage which made him a complete zombie. I got them to reduce it quite a bit but even so his ability to do all the things he could do before…
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Sexual harassment
yesterday morning my Dad was saying that I'm a beautiful woman and he can kiss me all day and he wants me to sit on his lap if I weren't his daughter. I told him that I'm not doing that and I'm a grown woman and I'm married and we're not doing that. He just said that he was teasing. I don't know if he was gonna act like he…
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First Post- Great Aunt with Dementia Playing in the Toilet??
My great aunt was officially diagnosed with dementia in October 2020, at age 80, after emergency surgery and a hospital/rehab stay. She has been in AL since November 2020 and is doing well, it is sort of like her memory loss has paused. We took her on an outing to a family member's home for Easter and she had to use the…
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unhelpful co-caregiver
Hi all, I'm not sure anyone will have suggestions here, but at the very least I wanted to vent. I am a long-distance caregiver for my 80yo mom who is in MS dementia. I talk to her on the phone every day, several times a day. My brother is the one who lives nearby, though, and is the only one able to visit her regularly.…
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Advice:new to group. ADLO
Hi. I just found this site and joined. So many areas to investigate. thank you. My 86yr old mom has alzheimers and she is phsyically healthy. She lives with my sister in her own space and we have an friend/aid visit every day to spend time with her, take her out, and basically be a companion. She loved her own suite within…
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Managing banking on behalf of LO help
Hi everyone, First, I want to say that I am feeling very supported and look forward to reading all your posts even if I do not have time to respond to each one. Thank you for taking the time because I know how much time caring for our LOs takes (and gives). My question is about my experience with the local branch of Great…
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About Me, and my LO
Hi everyone, I am new here. My name is Lynda and I'm 57, I care for my 92 year old mother. Mom has diabetes, heart problems, angina, hearing issues and dry macular degeneration. She takes a slew of medications such as Januvia, Plavix, etc. along with Iron pills and Vitamin D2. My mom has always been a narcissist...growing…
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Surprised by no therapist / counselor in AL / MC
My mom's recently become aware enough of what's going on that she knows shes in MC, and she knows she's confused/sick and having memory problems. So now she's getting depressed and scared. I'm really surprised there are no therapists or social workers on staff at these places. I've spoken to some of the nurses with…
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Respite vent
I just got back from a short vacation that we had planned with my grown children before my FIL moved in with us. We opted to go with in home care rather than a nursing facility (which was looking iffy vacancy wise). We used an agency which used five different caregivers to fill the morning and evening slots. We only had…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/1/22
RIGHT SACRIFICE AND TRUST THE LORD Psalm 4:5 New King James Version 5 Offer the sacrifices of righteousness, And put your trust in the Lord. Psalm 4:5 Amplified Bible 5 Offer righteous sacrifices; Trust [confidently] in the Lord. Psalm 4:5 Good News Translation 5 Offer the right sacrifices to the Lord, and put your trust…