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Showering(5)
I am preparing for the future so need to purchase a showerhead. Can anyone recommend a good one or at least what to look for when purchasing?
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Assisted Or Memory Care Living Question
Good Morning All, I have been trying for over a month to get in house care for my Mother so that I could return back home and try to get things planned in advance for moving my Mother there whether it be in my own home or in a Assisted living Memory Care facility. It has not worked out, either the private people want the…
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The Brain Health Academy
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First Look Teaser and Movie Extras clips
I had forgotten that the forum rules do not allow for fundraising, but thank you to the Admin for reminding me when I posted that we had a teaser for Wine, Women, and Dementia: The Documentary last week. As I am spending the next month fundraising for the film, the Teaser sits on the donation page and that's a…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/27/22
God's Favor * Hebrews 4:16 Amplified Bible "Therefore let us [with privilege] approach the throne of grace [that is, the throne of God’s gracious favor] with confidence and without fear, so that we may receive mercy [for our failures] and find [His amazing] grace to help in time of need [an appropriate blessing, coming…
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New member looking for support
Hi. I’m new member looking to chat. I’m 73 and am my Moms primary caregiver. She is suffering from final stage heart failure and vascular dementia. I’m feeling overwhelmed and alone. Any guidance would be greatly appreciated. Thx !
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Need Help in Austin, TX
Hello..I am new to this forum and am in need of some guidance. My mother was diagnosed with dementia 3-5 years ago. She has had very mild symptoms - forgetting someone she just met, repeating stories - until a few months ago. She declined very rapidly and is now forgetting my father, the death of her parents, her age. The…
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What to do?(9)
My dad has Hallucinations and for the past week struggles with frustration and anger towards them. The medication were not working so we took him off them. Has anyone had experience where you found the medication did more harm than good? Thank you
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How to handle not going home?
Dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer in Jan 2022 at the same time Mom was diagnosed with Dementia. Dad had two stokes and was placed in the hospital for over a week, the doctors told my husband that because of Mom’s dementia they could not go home to live without assistance, due to Dad’s fall risk and Alzheimer’s. We did not…
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should I talk with Dad about my late mother?
My dad is 92 and has Parkinson's and his short-term memory is failing rapidly. My mother died about a year ago. Dad never mentions her. I don't know whether to bring her up with him or to leave him be in his silence. What do you think?
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In praise of firefighters (again!) 2 big adventures in 1 wk (Long post)
Well forum mates, last week was super-eventful and my head is still reeling from all the twists and turns. Thursday (I think it was?) DH almost choked to death and I was lucky enough to successfully save him. Then second-guessed whether I unthinkingly interfered in what he would have preferred (an exit strategy to the long…
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Having a hard time finding a Home Healthcare Provider
My mom is 77 years old and is currently in the moderate to severe stage of Alzheimer's. She is living with me and my 2 children ages 17 and 13. I have been overwhelmed with receiving information on Home Healthcare providers but the issue I am having is transitioning and introducing them to my mom. Right now, my mom can…
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Father has Alzheimer and Alcoholism
My father's girlfriend/caregiver has informed me she is leaving. My father will be on his own. He does not remember to take his meds, cannot cook a meal, and has almost no short term memory what so ever. However, he did pass his last driving test. His drinking has gotten much worse, probably because he can't remember how…
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Questions on Moving to New Family Home
We are moving the end of next week into a family home we just bought in same city. It will be far more comfortable than this rental home of 7 years. And more accessible for my son, a wheelchair user! But wondering how long it will take him to settle down back into his daily routine? Same caregivers, same schedule, but new…
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Long distance travel, tips?
Hello all. Late July is my mother's family reunion and I would like for her to be able to go as she had another family reunion last month and she talked about it for a whole week! Mom personally didn't know half the people there (it was her maternal grandparents' family) but the fact she could tell me about a one day thing…
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Medications for mood swings
My DH was diagnosed with mild to moderate dementia about eight months ago.He was put on Rivastigmine. Which the doctor is increasing slowly. The last increase in this coming September. Other than the forgetfulness the mood swings are bad. Very volatile. I asked the doctor if there was something that could help with this.…
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fibbing roller coaster
Boy oh boy, I'm finding it hard to know when to fib to mom and how to keep up with her! She's in a NH (has been for 7 months total, four at her current facility). Last night she called saying she was in her uncle's house and needed to go back to her house. She inherited the uncle's house when he died almost 12 years ago.…
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Feeling kind of distressed about the discharge
There are so many people posting needing help that I was trying to wait it out but the week to see if I'll stick with my decision is here because the hospital plan is to discharge this week. As some of you have read, dad underwent hip surgery and now doing in-patient/in-hospital rehab. My plan to the social worker last…
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LO Not Recognizing Substitute Aide - Does he need to go to MC?
My LO was happy his regular aide was going away for her weekend off. He was in great spirits. So much so that he ate a well rounded meal for dinner. They spent a nice day together and when I spoke to them both after dinner they sounded very good. My LO knows this women, but hasn't seen her in 3 weeks. She is the regular…
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VA just designated DH as Catastrophically Disabled, Priority 4
It took us a while > 90 days vs the 35 days eta, but finally! Confirmed today. I am very relieved. This will take care of my DH's med co-pays and some other much needed help as his condition progresses (declines). Caring4two I thank you for this important, accurate information which we've learned that even some…
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How much fluids???
How much fluids should my mom be drinking during a 12 hour period? During the day, from 8am until 8pm, she is drinking at least 2 bottles of water, a large glass of milk and fruit juice. She eats only baby food now because of problems with pocketing and swallowing. She eats and drinks small amounts several times a day. She…
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Pandemic and Rapid Progression of Symptoms
My mother has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's and is now 75. She has had what seems like a rapid decline as her symptoms began about when the pandemic began. She is now what most would classify as middle stages. Has anyone else noticed rapid decline in health that correlates with pandemic?
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Setting Boundaries With LO Who Doesn't Think They Need Care
I joined this forum because it was the only one I could find that welcomed professional caregivers like me. I guess I'll use the word LO instead of client though, since most people here are family of their patient. I had a LO who needed a caregiver for meal preparation and walks around the long block for exercise. When we…
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Struggles over finances (among other things)
My husband has always handled the finances/bills - not because I can't but because he loves doing it. But now after a number of overdue bills, etc, I'm taking over and he is frustrated and angry and lost: He used to spend several hours a day going over his bank book, investments. So it is a major loss of power/function for…
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Decision making help
Hi! My 94 y.o father in law has undiagnosed dementia which has been noticeable since Fall of 2020. He has a vacation home in the desert, which is 100 miles from his primary home. He goes back and forth just about every week(habit) with a girlfriend (83) he met in the desert community a couple years ago. In April, his GF…
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MC placement friendly advise
If the time comes when you need to place your LO in a MC, please read. *Management is the key to success in a dementia facility. Ask what policy is in place for when a staff member has concerns. Hopefully management keeps staff concerns confidential and a thorough investigation would take place. *Staff should be aware and…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/23/22
LOVE GOD'S LAW * GREAT PEACE * Psalm 119:165 Amplified Bible 165 "Those who love Your law have great peace; Nothing makes them stumble." * To me this means whatever hardship comes our way, we know the Lord is helping us. And we are given through His Holy Spirit the inner strength, guidance and peace we need so we are not…
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the transition
My mother is in the process of dying right now. She had been declining pretty steadily over the past several months, and has been non-verbal and needing to be fed for several weeks now. On Thursday evening, she was hospitalized due to an extremely bloated stomach and high blood pressure. Turns out she was septic and has an…
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Home Aide
I finally made the decision to get my LO a home aide. It's so hard to know if this is the right decision. She seems so with it and capable. My niece and her family live with my mom but it's a lot on them. My mom calls me every day multiple times to ask what she should be doing for the day. We have no idea what she does…