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Looking for some advice(1)
I have been the caregiver for my mother who has lived with me for the last 5-6 years. Her dementia has been getting steadily worse, and her episodes always culminate in her accusing me of stealing money. The most recent episode she actually left and moved out to live at her sister''s house, saying she couldn''t live with…
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Question on MC
Looking for some advice. My mom moved into a memory care facility in January. She actually started in regular assisted living but kept trying to leave to go home. They moved her on an emergency basis to the MC unit after a couple of days. She was temporarily in a single room and then moved into a shared room as they…
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Sharing a poem I wrote - for encouragement
Please feel free to share my poem being sure to show me as the poet, thanks. A Dementia Perspective I struggle with my words coming out just right Have difficulty staying asleep at night Maybe I walk more slowly than you think I should Or just can’t keep up like I thought I could My words often get jumbled in my head Don’t…
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advice please(5)
My step father is in a memory care facility. He has become a little "handsy" and they wanted to put him on risperidone. I agreed but didn't realize they would start him at such a high dosage which made him a complete zombie. I got them to reduce it quite a bit but even so his ability to do all the things he could do before…
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Sexual harassment
yesterday morning my Dad was saying that I'm a beautiful woman and he can kiss me all day and he wants me to sit on his lap if I weren't his daughter. I told him that I'm not doing that and I'm a grown woman and I'm married and we're not doing that. He just said that he was teasing. I don't know if he was gonna act like he…
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First Post- Great Aunt with Dementia Playing in the Toilet??
My great aunt was officially diagnosed with dementia in October 2020, at age 80, after emergency surgery and a hospital/rehab stay. She has been in AL since November 2020 and is doing well, it is sort of like her memory loss has paused. We took her on an outing to a family member's home for Easter and she had to use the…
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unhelpful co-caregiver
Hi all, I'm not sure anyone will have suggestions here, but at the very least I wanted to vent. I am a long-distance caregiver for my 80yo mom who is in MS dementia. I talk to her on the phone every day, several times a day. My brother is the one who lives nearby, though, and is the only one able to visit her regularly.…
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Advice:new to group. ADLO
Hi. I just found this site and joined. So many areas to investigate. thank you. My 86yr old mom has alzheimers and she is phsyically healthy. She lives with my sister in her own space and we have an friend/aid visit every day to spend time with her, take her out, and basically be a companion. She loved her own suite within…
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Managing banking on behalf of LO help
Hi everyone, First, I want to say that I am feeling very supported and look forward to reading all your posts even if I do not have time to respond to each one. Thank you for taking the time because I know how much time caring for our LOs takes (and gives). My question is about my experience with the local branch of Great…
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About Me, and my LO
Hi everyone, I am new here. My name is Lynda and I'm 57, I care for my 92 year old mother. Mom has diabetes, heart problems, angina, hearing issues and dry macular degeneration. She takes a slew of medications such as Januvia, Plavix, etc. along with Iron pills and Vitamin D2. My mom has always been a narcissist...growing…
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Surprised by no therapist / counselor in AL / MC
My mom's recently become aware enough of what's going on that she knows shes in MC, and she knows she's confused/sick and having memory problems. So now she's getting depressed and scared. I'm really surprised there are no therapists or social workers on staff at these places. I've spoken to some of the nurses with…
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Respite vent
I just got back from a short vacation that we had planned with my grown children before my FIL moved in with us. We opted to go with in home care rather than a nursing facility (which was looking iffy vacancy wise). We used an agency which used five different caregivers to fill the morning and evening slots. We only had…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/1/22
RIGHT SACRIFICE AND TRUST THE LORD Psalm 4:5 New King James Version 5 Offer the sacrifices of righteousness, And put your trust in the Lord. Psalm 4:5 Amplified Bible 5 Offer righteous sacrifices; Trust [confidently] in the Lord. Psalm 4:5 Good News Translation 5 Offer the right sacrifices to the Lord, and put your trust…
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Other residents
I'm looking for input or pointers to threads discussing how your LO notices other residents and is sometimes distressed by them. My mom is just starting her 4th week in MC, a "for now" stay, and she is noticing that the other residents behave oddly. The 2 ladies who wander at night seems to scare her. The lady removing her…
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Covid
My LO caught Covid and he is vaxxed and twice boostered. No real symptoms besides fatigue but, cognitively he seems to not understand what is being said to him. He started to get a little better, but now he has a UTI. Got antibiotics and hopefully there will be some restoration of faculties. He has become incontinent with…
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When to visit MC
Hi,This post is really about my own self and fear/anxiety about the future. My mom is at stage 6b and we are of course not sure when she will need to move into MC, but we are thinking we should have things somewhat planned as far as next steps so we are ready when needed. The thought of visiting a MC gives me anxiety. I’m…
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Still no diagnosis...
Hi everyone. After several years dealing with my dad's memory problems and delusions, that someone is going into his room and stealing all sorts of things, we were finally able to get him back to the neurologist. My dad agreed to do the CT scan and the EEG this past week. Friday morning we went back for the results and all…
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my mom in stage 6 for past 6 years.
my mother was diagnosed in late 2014 with alz disease. she is still in her home and i am her primary caregiver and live at her home although i have another home out of NY state. we have home health aides 7 days a week and my 3 sisters are also big helps. my father died prior to her diagnosis. she went to stage 6 quickly…
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using THC for dementia
hey I am new to this site...my mom is 83 with dementia and tons of anxiety and aggression when she isn't medicated on Xanax and seroquil which both make her dizzy as well as the many other side effects of such heavy drugs...I would love to use THC gummies during the day and wondering if anyone else has done so? any input…
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UTI WILDNESS
hey GUYS... my MOM started acting strange (-r than usual!) the past few days... she was sleeping MUCH MORE... and her eating was LESS... then, she started to seem off-balance and her (generally good!) walking suffered... this scared me... i brought her to her PRIMARY CARE physician... she checked her out... she was happy…
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ABC123
Was thinking about you and that move coming up. I hope you are not too stressed out or pulling your hair out. I think closings can be stressful so your in my prayers
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Sippy cup for ALZ
My mom can no longer hold a cup or glass to take a drink. She tries to hold it but invariably drops or spills it then no longer wants to drink. She has severe arthritis and the manual dexterity in her hands is gone. Would some sort of sippy cup work? She claims she doesn't like to drink from straws. Any recommendations for…
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memory care to long-term care to home?
Hi All, My mom is in a SNF / Memory Care, which she entered early in the pandemic after community supports shut down and she lost her daycare / in-home aides etc. The loss of social supports caused a major break in her wellbeing. All in all, mom has done well there. She entered in mid-stage and is now early late stage --…
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A very good description of the stages of dementia
I saw this in a thread on the spouses forum. In a post with lots of great links. I wanted to highlight this particular one as it’s the best description of the various stages I’ve ever read. My only concerns about it are 1) my mom seems to be a mix of stages and 2) it states stage 5 is when the person can’t live alone. My…
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Guidance(1)
Does anyone know how to get better guidance on the big decisions like medical and type of care? I feel like everyone looks to me for a decision, when I am not truly qualified to make some of them. It seems like a combination of history, current assessment and my input would be the best method, but that doesn't seem to be…
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Ideas for Caregivers
I've been struggling to find appropriate care for my mother who lives with me. She is beginning have mobility issues so I need someone who can handle transfers as well as be knowledgeable in how to care for someone with Alzheimer's. Except when very tired, my mother will assist with transfers, mostly doing it on her own.…
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Final Stage(1)
After years of suffering with this awful disease, my mom has now passed away (age 90). I could not leave this forum without saying thank-you so much for always being here to listen, often advise, and always pass along great caregiving help! My mom's journey has been one filled with lots of struggles. I think I will always…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 4/27/22
STAY CONNECTED * John 15:5 New King James Version 5 “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing." * Time with Jesus in the a.m. keeps us positive and strong throughout the day. * "BE VIGILANT!" * Peter 5 :8 New King James Version " Be sober,…
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calming methods?
Hi, brand new here. My 80-year-old mother is in middle stage dementia and has been in a nursing home for six months. Every evening, and lately many mornings, she asks when she is going home, why is she there, how is she paying for this room, why is insurance paying for it, etc. She is afraid they will tell her she has to…
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CERAD-NB test
I haven’t found a clear explanation of the CERAD-NB test my wife took yesterday. Her score was 46, and I don’t know what that means. Can anyone share some info?