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Scooting down question
So far, my FIL is doing well in his Geri-chair but I have a question about the future. So, in his chair, we have to use a seatbelt to keep him sitting upright enough to eat. It goes between his legs and around his waist much like a baby car seat. When he finishes eating, we undo it and he scoots down immediately to almost…
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Returning DW to care home.
Does it ever get easy.Its so hard every time I take her out and then have to return her. TThis is 3rd week she has been there.I have issues with their care but I'm not sure another place would be any better.
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Looking for In-Home Caregiver in Houston Area
Hello… I am new here. My Dad and I have been primary caregivers for my Mom, who is in year 5 of an Alzheimer’s diagnosis. We have a daytime caregiver, but we are needing more help at home. Can anyone here refer a caregiver in the Houston, Texas area? I prefer not to go through an agency and I am looking for a personal…
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Went thru a move with MIL who has Alzheimers
We are getting settled in. She has late stage Alzheimers. She lived here when she was younger and we are hoping that being here will be healthy for her- that it may bring back more positive memories of the time before the disease. I find it so difficult to maintain a positive emotional connection and friendship with her…
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Am I being selfish?
My sister lives with my mom. I go up on Tuesday, Thursday and Saturdays. On Saturdays, I only spend 8:30 -1:00 at her house while my sister does some volunteer work. I usually spend about 8 hours each on Tuesday and Thursdays at her house. So, minimally 20 hours and sometimes more. We also have someone come in for 4 hours…
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games help keep him busy
I found another game to keep my dad busy & occupied (72YO, stage 6) - Lite Brite! Got it on Amazon. He needs a bit of help putting in the bulbs correctly at first - then he really gets focused on it & going. 3 others that work are PopIt (highly recommend taking to doctor offices for long waits), Rubik's cube and coloring…
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Was I wrong? What would you do?
We are getting to a really gray area that I didn't see coming. Currently at a plateau...6d and holding for a while. The daily grind with his disease at this point definitely isn't easy but isn't terrible - for DH or me - yet either. Some of the earlier days were actually much harder in different ways - like mid-stages omg.…
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Not Knowing People Transition
My DW has been seeing a neurologist for 6 years and had a neuropsych diagnosis of dementia/AD 4 years ago. One current aspect is that she does not know close family and friends by name at all. The person may have been with her a few moments prior. Usually, a picture is enough to get recognition and almost always she knows…
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Out of state caregivers need advice
Hi, I am new to the forum. Thank you for offering this place to find solutions for caregiving. My parents retired to SC, away from all family, and have enjoyed over 40 years there. Sadly, mother's Alzeimer's has progressed quickly the last six months although stable/manageable for 8 years before that. She no longer…
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Father Stopped Eating To End Life
My father is trying to kill himself by stopping eating. He told me this today in a rare moment of clarity. His eating has slowed down greatly since the uti and catheter. I thought it is part of the disease. His aide pushes him to eat and says he has to eat to get strong and live. And he doesn’t want to. I wish I could help…
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Talking about sucide
My mother has moderate dementia, along with my stepdad. 6 weeks ago, we had to move them from their home to live temporarily with my sister, due to more trouble managing everything— finances, food, bathing, etc. they lived across the country and are fiercely independent. We had been encouraging a move for the past 3…
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Non-sensical sentences.
How do you respond when your EO spouse comes up with a series of sentences that are unrelated and make no sense whatsoever? I know why it happens, and I know she's trying to communicate something, but I'm frequently unable to come-up with any kind of response. She is becoming increasingly incoherent over time.
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Dad’s 1st neuropsych appt
I’m drained, sad and angry. Picked stepdad up for his 1st neuropsychologist appointment. 50 minutes from their AL. 5 minutes of him telling me not to make any more appointments for him and denying he knew about this one ( he did) and 45 minutes of awkward ‘the farm fields look nice’. 30 minutes of paperwork. The…
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Advice for the phone
My husband keeps asking to use the phone to call his girlfriend. He even used information to try and get her telephone number with no success. I am the girlfriend and we have been married 54 years. I keep telling him I am right here in front of him. Any suggestions how to handle this issue.
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Every small win gets followed by a bigger hurdle
Just venting a little, again...It seems like every time I overcome a caregiving hurdle, a new one is right behind. Such is the Game of Dementia, I suppose... Get that POA signed. Done. Win! Doh! It's not valid to sign for her to sell her home due to absurd real estate laws where the property is. Ugh. Incontinence getting…
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Anger, Depression and Wine
My mother was diagnosed with mid-stage Alzheimer's last year. She is 80 and currently lives with my father (82) who is her main caregiver. I am an only child and I typically spend Thursday nights with her, and then work from there on Fridays to give my father a much needed break. She tells me how lonely she is all the time…
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Having to give up pet dog
My mom is in a memory care unit for about two years now. She has been allowed to have and take care of her pet dog of about 9 years old. Because it is difficult for her to now remember to brush her, let her out, and can no longer walk her after a partial hip replacement this winter, I'm told she can no longer have it. How…
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Switching hospice provider
DH have reached the point we have to consider a new hospice agency. We have so many issues with this agency. Meds taking a long time to get ordered, 3 weeks to get UTI and related concerns addressed, questions not responded to, phone calls ignored, repeated promises of a volunteer sitter which never happened, overworked…
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Sudden Babbling or Nonsense Sounds
Just wondering if others see times where there LO was fine just talking along with you and then suddenly words get stuck on repeat and they start making sounds or saying things that are just nonsense? This is the kind of thing that really throws us for a loop. It's hard to get my son with EO out of that mode once it…
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Recommendation for In Home Caregiver
Hello, My 90 year old mother with Alzheimer's disease has been living with me for close to two years now and her symptoms have slowly escalated during that time. She has begun to have short outbursts of aggression that are totally opposite her normal gentile personality. I have been able to quickly calm her down by…
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Finally Transitioning into MC Need Advice
Hello, I just wanted to say this website has been invaluable to see other peoples stories. Caregiving can feel extremely isolating at times. My wife and I are finally moving forward with placing my Mother in law in a memory care facility. We have both been caretakers for her since 2015 when she was diagnosed but showed…
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New to this life
I am new to group and way of life. My mother has been living with me since last Thanksgiving when she came for a visit (she lives in FL and I live in IN) and we have not taken her back. She talks about going home but "home" rotates between FL, NJ and IN. It has always been the plan for mom to live with me (and my husband).…
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Need advice(24)
I HAD to place my mother in assisted living early last December - her needs are now more than I can take on, I have others that I am responsible for and she needs 24/7 care - besides the issue of having to lift her with my bad back (she is incontinent and can't walk - originally due to a severly bad knee and hip, now I…
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Caretakers updates
So my mom has Alzheimer’s and is in MC. My dad is on the same campus but in the personal care unit due to several health issues and basically not being able to care for himself (bills, groceries, etc) without my mom at home with him. I have a caretaker that visits my mom 3x a week (I’m an only child with three littles…
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Metabolic encephalopathy?
My father`s diagnosis states metabolic encephalopathy - worsening dementia. I googled it, explanations are very vague. He spent 2 weeks in the hospital and then transferred to a rehab center and after just 10 days is eating on his own, can hold a conversation, able to stand and take a few steps. He is on his cell phone…
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transition from SNF to at-home care?
Hi, curious to know if anyone has experience with transitioning a PWD from a nursing home to in-home care. Mom has MS dementia, and in addition has mobility issues related to her knees. She is reliant on a wheelchair now. She does transfer herself from the wheelchair to the bed and the toilet, although with noticeable…
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Personality Changes(1)
How do you deal with the changes in personality? I’m having a difficult time with this. Now that my mom lives with me we haven’t had hallucinations/delusions, but she’s just different. Hard to really express what I mean. I’m currently in treatment for breast cancer and I’m struggling with anxiety and depression. One day…
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Mom’s sorting brought joy, but now I cry
Hello Everyone, When Mom first began sorting it was various trinkets in a jar in her bedroom or going through two old pocketbooks kept near her bed (containing old papers, programs from events and morning church services) I was happy. She found an activity she liked and would take joy showing me how she sorted all the…
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Off Topic - For A Smile Or Two
Sometimes it is just good to have a little something to smile at: Ravel's Bolero played by four musicians on ONE cello . . . https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10160283608514260&id=6569469259&m_entstream_source=timeline J.
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Lack of therapist in AL or MC
Hi. My mom is in MC in Florida. She's got some fairly severe depression and has just begun seeing a psychiatrist. My question is just more of a curiosity. I'm surprised that AL/MC don't have any type of therapist on staff and am wondering why. Is it a cost thing? Because they don't have to, so why spend the money? I know…