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Totally inappropriate and weird clothing choices
We live in a CCRC and have a communal dining room. My husband has started picking out really bizarre clothing ensembles to wear to dinner. For example, last night he wanted to wear jogging pants, an orange long sleeved biking shirt, and a white button down shirt with a white undershirt over it, a tie that was tied with the…
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Recommended meds for anxiety and obsessions?
I am going to be seeing my primary care doctor soon (she is also my husbands doctor) and am going to push for meds for my husband to control his obsessions and anxiety. He has anosognosia. Has anyone used Zoloft/sertraline with good results? Are there other meds to consider? Our doctor is fairly young and I am not sure she…
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Just dropping in
It's been a while since I've posted. I've been reading some of the threads, and nothing seems to have changed. It's still heart break and difficulties, and carrying on. I'm sorry that good people have to deal with such a difficult problem. For those of you who had a LO pass on, I can't say I'm sorry they are no longer with…
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Do former caregivers get anosognosia?
I'm just wondering - after all that I've been through and all that I've learned, is it possible that I might have insight into my disease if I develop Alzheimer's? Or am I just as likely to give my future caregivers the same hard time that my hubby gave me and my brother is now giving me? Both men angrily denied that there…
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Night time going home trips
LO will drag herself (or I'll help her) get to bed. Usually falls asleep in the recliner. Just totally tired. Probably around 9-10. And suddenly reappear with her comb and brush. Refreshed and ready to go. We go and she nods of on the trip. Help her to bed. And about an hour later back with comb and brush ready to go. One…
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Running away from me
I had an appointment with my eye doctor and took my DH with me because I couldn’t find anyone to stay with him while I was gone. We checked in and had a seat in the waiting area. After about ten minutes he got up and started heading toward the restroom. I got up to make sure he went into the right one. I tried to take his…
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Wandering
Question: how to redirect or distract a LO that has begun their journey to “that” place. Many posts on this forum about wandering and attempts to redirect/distract before, but, i could use some thoughts on how to get a LO that has started of on their journey. I have posted before about wandering and a recent event. 99% of…
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So which end is up?
Yesterday, my DH and I saw the neurologist in response to recent deepening confusion. But at the appt, he was on track, MMSE test higher than last year and he sounded much like his old self. I was shocked. From there the conversation with neurologist was light and overly optimistic. My DH said he exercised regularly,…
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Sleep
I have read several posts about long sleep sessions. I think I even posted one. But, up til this month they have been maybe one a month. This month they are weekly. Normal bed time between nine and ten. Later if the "going home clause" is invoked. She is normally up ten or eleven. Getup time has moved out til as late a…
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Does your loved one complain??
like I always say for now my wife isn’t too bad yet, but was wondering do others complain of issues like stomach ache , back pain, leg pain etc????
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Random Bits
I am so sure we all see a variety of new behaviors in our LOs, some of them even maybe lighthearted (if still sad). My wife now thinks the local newscasters are looking at her from the TV. She finds that fun and funny.
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smoking. How do you all deal with it. I am
running out of ideals. Peewee (My Husband) Smokes so much more now than he ever has before. It's because he can't remember when he put the last one out. What he don't smoke himself he gives away. Has anyone's loved one just forgot that he or she is a smoker and just quit?
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In-Home Respite Care
I am new to posting. My DW was diagnosed with ALZ about 5+ years ago. Her Neurologist says that she is toward end of MS ALZ. I am her only caretaker and spend nearly all of every day with her. I need to to get her to accept someone coming to the house so that I can get some respite time but she is adamant that she doesn’t…
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Memory care placement update
as some of you may recall I placed my sweet Tommy in memory care 2 weeks ago. It was soul sucking, one of the worst things I’ve ever had to do. The placement day was terrible but I followed the doctor and directors instructions and didn’t visit for the first 2 weeks. I went today for my first visit and it couldn’t have…
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Communication problems
For the past month or so my DH does not make sense when he tries to communicate. He cannot find the right words for what he wants to say and most words he uses for nouns or pronouns are made up words. He still talks quite a bit, more so late afternoon or early evening but never anything that is reality, as no longer is…
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Just venting about driving...
My DH hasn't driven for over 2 years now. I don't mind driving us around everywhere but it takes all of my patience to stay calm. He hates any little bump so I have to drive around them if I see them. I'm either driving too fast or too slow. I have to park EXACTLY between the two white lines (he gets out to check, then…
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Support for LGBT spouses
hello, my wife has recently been diagnosed with EO. Anyone know of any support sites for LGBT spouses? Thank you.
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Compulsive behaviors
1st time here. My DW of 47 years is in final stages of dementia, she's on hospice. Mostly non communicative, incontinent, but can walk. She is on a liquid diet as she can't swallow solid foods. I am essentially her only caregiver. I can handle most things but she drinks too much, milk, water, protein drinks etc. Then she…
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I'm shaking as I write this
Today was supposed to be a happy day. I had invited some close friends over to thank them for all their help during my recent move. Right after they arrived the MC called. It was the social worker and her voice told me something was wrong. She told me my DH had tried to get too friendly with a volunteer. She said the…
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Pleasantly flabbergasted
just had to post this, sent to me this afternoon. I left my partner asleep as usual about 2 pm. The picture is nothing special, but she actually got up and for the first time ever (remember we’re 2.5 years in) joined a group activity! The director was as surprised as I was- hence the picture. Will wonders never cease….time…
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Broke my heart
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We were turned down for memory care for my DH at the CRRC where we live
My husband has been diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia. We moved to a CCRC 8 months ago and paid the initiation fee to guarantee his care. Today I was called to a meeting and informed that the memory support facility here cannot handle his case. They now want to send him to another facility that requires 2 years…
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bio-identical hormones
Any practical experience here about bio-identical hormone therapy such as BioTe with your LO? My DH (mid-stage, EOAD) and I both have used this therapy for about four years, and I know there is a wide variety of thought about use, but I'm curious about experience by others, especially as it relates to the testosterone…
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He has moved out.
I am trying to follow up on my discussion “the straw that broke this camel’s back”. I have got him to move back to his condo but he his having a difficult time adjusting. He is capable of doing all his daily living functions…bathing, dressing, meals, driving, cell phone, etc. I cannot get him to understand and accept that…
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If I’m the caregiver, is he the caretaker?
What I’ve learned today … Just because my open thermos of coffee isn’t in the car’s cup holder after church doesn’t mean it was left behind. (We even turned around and drove back and went into church and searched for it. No luck. Figured it was just gone until hours later discovering that it had overturned on the passenger…
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The Cavalry Is Not Coming
Reposting for the new platform. I have not posted here for quite a while, and I want to let you know that I am still here. I hope you all are doing well, and I also have a thought process to share with you. October 1, 2022 will mark seven years since my wife’s dementia became obvious, and that I knew for certain that this…
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I'm beaten down
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Disability application
Hi! I'm new to the group, am a spouse caring for a loved one diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's (age 63). He is still working but it's getting harder. It seems like he should apply for disability, but I'm not sure where to start. I will need to help him a lot with this process, and I also work as the main wage earner,…
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MCFs - Larger MCF Facility vs Adult Care Home
I am starting to look at MCFs for my DH as a backup plan for now but I do think I’ll end up placing him within the next year. So far I have only looked at 3 institutional MCFs with 20-30 beds. Some people have suggested that I look at the smaller Adult Care Homes. My DH is very private, doesn’t always want to talk to other…