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Holiday
My mom moved into memory care AL in September. I am wondering how people have navigated the holidays with outings to the home setting? We are fearful it would be triggering to her but I am also unsure she remembers this house since she was only there June-September. I just want her to be comfortable and happy
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Memory Care ALF
I’m beginning to have concerns with my decision on a facility for my mother. I need advice because I don’t know if I am being unreasonable and maybe what I’m expecting is beyond what this level of care offers. When I visit, my mother has been wearing the same clothes since my last visit (3-4 days ago). Her clothes are…
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Handling SS and Medicare addresses when moving into facility
Hi, What do you do with your LO's Social Security address when s/he moves to a facility? My "understanding" is that it's linked to Medicare, so using any address other than the residence of the recipient will cause problems with the Medicare supplement and Part D plans in place that rely on the residence zip code. (I tried…
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Update on my dad’s a depression
when I last wrote here I talked about my dad’s fall and his depression. I am so grateful for the memory care assisted living he is in, they changed his meds with my permission to help him with his depression. He is doing so amazingly well! Still in the throws of grief as expected (mom died in sept then we moved him), but…
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People don't understand
This is mostly a rant.. I saw a neighbor last night that I don't know well. When I explained who I was, he said that he knows my husband (stage 6) and "talks to him all the time." My husband spends time on the front porch during warm weather (it's been cold for the last 3 months) and talks to people who pass by. I…
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HIghly Recommend Citicoline For Early/Mid Stage
Hi, All, My partner was diagnosed with MCI on 21018 and the diagnosis has moved now to Alzheimer's since it would not be safe for him to live by himself for an extended period of time. About a two years ago, he revisited a naturopath who recommended Citicoline to support focus and battle brain fog. We researched it…
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Wonder if I have PTSD after my dad died
My dad passed away four months ago. I had moved him and my mom to an ALF approximately four months prior to dad's death. Their conditions at home had become unsafe. For one thing, I keep ruminating about the status of their living conditions at home prior to their move to the ALF. In my mind, I still see the glaring red…
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Depression since FIL diagnosed
My father in law was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's and I was doing okay with it until I had a really bad nightmare about it the other night. I dreamed that I went to visit him and found him in his car in someone else's driveway. He had gotten lost on the way home and couldn't figure out how to turn the car off. (In…
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Anger seems to last longer and longer
Last night, and a couple of nights ago, my DH started again with wanting to go to the "other house" and not understanding how all of our things could have gotten to this house. Of course there is no other house, but he gets angry and tells me that I am horrible and he would never treat me like this. It goes on and on, but…
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Healthcare Representative for Connecticut vs. Medical POA
Hi all, I am new to all of this, as my mom was just evaluated by her primary care doctor after my prompting and is scheduled with geriatric physician for full assessment. She has already signed a healthcare proxy for me for state of NY (where parents currently live). I planned to also do paperwork for healthcare…
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Just waiting for this day to be over!
A little rant to save my sanity! I have been patient all day…made a special trip into town (hour drive round trip) so DH could go to Ross to look a shoes (he has approx 50 pairs of shoes in his closet, mostly unworn & still in the boxes). He woke me up at 4:00 am to see what time we should leave, even though we had done a…
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Change of living arrangements
Hi all, first time posting on one of these discussion boards but hoping for some help to support my partner as she navigate’s her grandmother’s dementia. Grandma (in her late 80s) has had several strokes which have accelerated dementia symptoms. Until recently she had been able to live somewhat independently in her own…
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How to get through the holidays
My father passed away from Alzheimer's in July. It's been a rough month since Thanksgiving. I miss having my father around espically around the holidays.
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Just venting
I check in here from time to time, although I seldom post. I’m posting today only to vent a little bit. I’m frustrated, exhausted, angry, depressed — all the things we all experience now and then. My poor DH. I try so hard to keep things light, to laugh and tease the way I always have, to exercise patience (not my best…
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Sleeping a lot
In the last month or so, my wife has started to sleep a lot more—yesterday she woke up at 3PM, even though she went to sleep around 11 PM (and slept soundly through the night). It is now almost 1PM and she is still asleep, again after going to sleep at around 11. Some of this may be due to her medications (although there…
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Other health issues
Hi there! How common is it for an Alzheimer’s patient to have other health issues arise from having alz. And the doctors answers seem to be Alzheimer’s is causing all the issues. Basically heart issues and blood pressure issues are all related to Alzheimer’s. Has anyone experienced this?
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Checking the weather repeatedly
Our father frequently turns on the Weather Channel throughout the day and night. He runs to the door, looks outside, and returns to his room to turn on YouTube and watch animal videos. Six/Seven times a day now. We imagine this is possibly to ensure the Weather Channel isn't lying to him. This cycle repeats several times a…
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My DH is gone
My DH left us this morning. His passing was relatively peaceful, but there was a six-day buildup to it, so I feel wiped out. As he was leaving the nursing home to go to the funeral home, all the staff lined up to see him out. It brought on fresh tears. My DH was a wonderful husband and father, and we will miss him…
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Alzheimers drug horror story from the NYT
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/10/23/health/alzheimers-drug-brain-bleeding.html?ogrp=ctr&unlocked_article_code=1.UU4._7lR.3WFk8efLcVB9&smid=url-share I hope this link works but this is a gift article which I can reprint its all here in a number of sections It is the worst ethical violation I have seen in my entire career…
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I’m Not OK But It’s All Gonna Be Alright…
song by Jelly Roll for those struggling and especially those in Stage 8 💜
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My Step Dad had a stroke.
2024 is ending the way it began for me and our family. My Cancer diagnosis, placing my DH in memory care, my DH passing away in August and now in November my 90 year old Step-Dad had a stroke. He has no children so I’m trying to help as much as I can. Please continue to pray for our family. Love you all. 🙏 💜
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Finding things to do
Hi! I am searching for things for my dad to be able to do to allow me to get my homework done! i am currently in a doctoral program and a primary caretaker for my dad. He goes with either a family member or our caregiver while i am at school but once i get home i put him infront of the TV and he just watches the same thing…
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Having a baby in six weeks, dad is declining
I moved my dad into memory care a little over a year ago. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done but he adjusted amazingly well. I moved him a few states away to be near me and I see him a few times a week. The MC he is in is really nice, the staff are amazing and I feel really lucky. But I don’t have any other local…
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Question about genetic risk and prevention
Hi, all. Sorry that we're all here because of this horrific disease. I have quite a bit of dementia and alzheimer's in my family, I'm trying to understand my genetic risk and any preventative measures I can take. In my family both of my maternal uncles, one of my mom's first cousins, my mom's grandmother, and my mom's aunt…
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What's my identity tonight?
I love my BF like no other. (45yo eoa) But I freaking HATE this disease. Normally I'm beautiful and he lo lo lo lo loves me (gotta love speech aphasia). But a few weeks ago when I was trying to get him settled for bed. I picked my battle as he was trying to remove the sheet and comforter from the bed i got up and came to…
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Saddened by signs of progression and feelings of inadequacy
We had a nice Christmas but it was evident that DH's disease is progressing. He can usually do a good job of hiding his confusion when the kids/grandkids are present, but that wasn't the case yesterday. And he's really tired today from the effort that it took. Although he's still in the early stages of the disease and I…
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Helping parents
My mom most likely has Alzheimer's. She is 81. My dad is 83 and caring for her but not doing well ..alot of anger about her losing things. He is frustrated and says things he probably doesn't mean. He's upset because she's not cooking, and she constantly hides things. She then calls me (I'm 59 and out of state) crying…
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Calling to shut off utilities
Our father has developed a belief that the utility bills are "stealing" his money, leading him to make phone calls to PG&E and Earthlink, demanding his money and requesting them to close his accounts. Fortunately, we have successfully established contact with the companies to prevent any potential disruptions in service so…
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Season's Greetings
Hi friends. I just wanted to stop by to let you know I still think of you all the time. I hope you can find at least a little enjoyment through the holidays, and I wish everyone a better new year. It might seem like an odd thing to say, but I miss you guys and gals, and I know I'm better off not being here every day. Two…
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Got Hysterical
Not sure why this happened. My DW was at the Activity Center this morning when the doorbell suddenly rang . A couple , who were friends of ours for years , showed up today ( Christmas Eve) with a beautiful tray of Christmas sweets. We had not seen or heard from them in maybe 3 years. As they were leaving we shook hands…