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I'm too proud to ask....
Hi y'all. My bf 45yo eoa is my person. I love him with all i got. He has 2 sides of family. His adopted mom (aunt) and his uncle have been a blessing for me. His mom will take my bf maybe once a month or every few months for a few hours so I can go do some errands. I try not to ask too much tho as she is older as well and…
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"Help! I'm stuck with deranged people (in MC)."
what does one say to this plea? My mom is in stage 4 of Alzheimer's and went to memory care at a facility that has a program for mild to moderate dementia. She is on the younger side, early 70s. She is physically active a healthy physically. She is only moved to memory care a few weeks ago. It seems like memory care has…
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Orange County Memory Care
Is anyone currently paying for memory care in Orange County, CA? We are not at the stage where it’s needed yet, but I would like some idea of actual cost. I do t tend to believe the accuracy those sites that give averages for different areas. Most websites don’t post cost. They want information from you first. Atria in…
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My grandfather sudden change
Hello, my grandfather,87, has been slowly losing his memory and in more recent months it’s progressed to not remembering what’s happened that day or who visited. I go over to my grandparents house for a couple of hours once a week to stay connected to them. But today as I was visiting, I noticed a change in his behavior.…
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Reversed sleep patterns
My DW was diagnosed in 2021 and at our last visit with the neurologist he said she was at Moderate/Severe stage. According to what I have read that would be Stage 6 somewhere. She has always been a night owl and almost always went to bed long after me. There was a period where she was overdoing the wine so she would stay…
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Starting incontinence
I know this has been discussed many times before but I am hoping for some suggestions. My DW is still very functional. She does almost all of her ADL's alone. She was diagnosed 4 years ago and the progression has been slow so far. Recently however, she has had a couple random episodes of urinary incontinence. This is after…
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Best clothing labels
When looking for clothing labels, I find a bazillion sources. Any suggestions for a reliable quality source?
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lying
Hello, I am torn about constantly lying to my mom, she has dementia, is hard of hearing and has severe vision issues, We recently moved her into an assisted living facility after my dad passed away. She is constantly calling us in tears because she wants to move out and find her "own little place" where she can cook her…
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Questions about taking Donepezil Brand names: Aricept
Hi all, I was diagnosed with ALZ a year ago at 62. I have had several tests to rule out other possible problems. 2 Neurological Eeg test a year apart same results that show a large decline in my processing score. My symptoms, of anxiety, mood swings, balance, memory are increasing. I take mematine for memory and they…
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Safe Cold Cough meds for Alz and LBD LO?????
Hi. There are long list of unsafe drugs formy LO with Alzheimer's and LBD, but I need to know what folks CAN use. And some experiences you may have had with otcs for these symptoms. I'm following all the "dont take"lists I can find (none of which seem to be full lists...aaaargh!). Is there anything safe to use to help with…
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Mom thinks we move her daily
Mom is in an AL and has been living there since November. Daily she tells me “I am just so tired of being moved to a new place every day”. Any suggestions on what to say to this? When I try to reassure her she will stay in that room, she never believes me.
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Watching TV is a challenge
I know this is the least of our problems, but since we stay home a lot we watch TV, all the time 🤦♀️problem is he absolutely cannot follow any new program, so we continue to watch all the old shows we’ve seen a dozen times. They are new to my LO but I just can’t continue to watch them. He says turn on anything but then…
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walker suggestion
Does anyone have a suggestion for a walker for a 6'2 person? Looking online there doesn't seem to be much. I think it would help with the very arthritic knees and bad alzheimer's balance!
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New to the group
So I’m new to the group and not sure this is where I need to be but we had to put Mom in a memory care unit last May after her living with us for one year. I have so much guilt that I wasn’t able to keep her at home with me especially being a nurse, but it was just a lot. there anyone else going through this?
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New to group
Hello I am new to the group. I’m not sure if this is where I need to be. My mom was diagnosed with dementia caused by chronic drinking. She also has bone cancer and other health issues. Recently, she was placed in a nursing facility because it was unsafe for her to remain home alone. She was falling a lot and she didn’t…
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Electric Shaver recommend for Dad who likes straight Old Razor?
Dad's new memory care home doesn't want him to use his Classic Beloved straight razor (blood thinners + Dementia + Razor = not good). Any recommendations for something that's EASY he can handle? Is rotary better than the straight ones? Am thinking maybe the straight electric razors might LOOK or Feel closer to his…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/8/25
THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD Psalm 23 Amplified Bible A Psalm of David. 23 The Lord is my Shepherd [to feed, to guide and to shield me], I shall not want. 2 He lets me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still and quiet waters. 3 He refreshes and restores my soul (life); He leads me in the paths of righteousness…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/8/25
THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD Psalm 23 Amplified Bible A Psalm of David. 23 The Lord is my Shepherd [to feed, to guide and to shield me], I shall not want. 2 He lets me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still and quiet waters. 3 He refreshes and restores my soul (life); He leads me in the paths of righteousness…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/8/25
THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD Psalm 23 Amplified Bible A Psalm of David. 23 The Lord is my Shepherd [to feed, to guide and to shield me], I shall not want. 2 He lets me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still and quiet waters. 3 He refreshes and restores my soul (life); He leads me in the paths of righteousness…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/2/25
LOVE John 3:16 NIV For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 14:16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever— James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who…
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Hi I am new here and have questions
My mom has had dementia now since 2014. She is in a Dementia group home. I am struggling with the dementia and not sure how to handle it. She just lays in her bed all the time and never walks. She is always miles away when I talk with her. When she has physical issues like a bladder infection she does not tell the staff…
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What if I get sick?
DH was worried last night about what would happen to him if something happened to me. He asked who would take care of him? Honestly, I don't know. Do others have a plan in place? If so, what is it? We have no family to call upon. Friends can only do so much. I'm hearing about flu outbreaks and even that could take me out…
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Dreading visit to mom in MC
So…I am starting a new job next week (with people I know), and winding down my current job, and thus much busier than usual. I have seen my mom maybe 1-2 times a week instead of 3-4. She’s not unhappy but her disease is progressing. It sucks. I am now at a weird point. I find myself dreading seeing her. I hate that her…
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Decorations for Dad
My dad, 89, VD, is finally in assisted living. He is completely bed bound due to multiple fractures and has severe cognitive decline. The walls in his room is bare and only has 2 family pictures on his bedside table. What kind of things could I decorate his room with?
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Financial assistance
Hello Everyone, my husband (82) was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. I (57) have worked most of our marriage but am no longer able to as I have to be home to take care of him. It is a significant drop in our monthly income. Can anyone tell me if there is financial assistance available. Thank you in advance for your…
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Moving Mom with Dementia…Again
We are considering moving my mom from her assisted-living place to another assisted-living due to how tiny her room is currently this will be the fifth move in three years. Does anybody have any experience with this?
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Mix Dementia Stage 5
Hi Everyone,, I did received my father folder from doctors , He is on stage 5 with mix AD and vascular. He did have ST Lukes Charity program , now he need to do a lot of therapy . He live with me and he only have a green card. My question is if anyone know how should i apply for disability medic ad or any other program…
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Respite/In Home help
My LO is late stage 6 and I need a break. How do I go about getting help. He has Medicare and BCBS. I have a hard time asking for help but I'm getting so anxious and depressed. I don't need help with housework, just need a break from the 24/7 care. Suggestions?
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How and when should I tell my DH I am placing him in MC
Thanks to encouragement from people on this forum, I have decided to put my DH in a Adult Family Home dedicated to memory care. A bed will open up in about one month. I can't decide when to tell him he will be living somewhere away from me. If I tell him the day before placement, I am afraid he will refuse to get in the…
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Dementia
Dementia... a word I have come to loathe. It has been horrible to watch my talented, brilliant husband experience the horrors of this horrendous disease. Being aware of what Alzheimer's or likely Lewy Bodies stole on a daily basis was so difficult and sad to observe. Medically the support we received was to treat the…