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Reluctance to get further tests
My wife has a recommendation from her primary Dr for a brain scan and further diagnosis by a psychiatrist/gerintologist. What are my next steps?
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Asking when to go home continuously today
Hello all, So everyday/week it’s something new to loop over. Apparently today my Lap is aware we are in the beginning of the month based off of something he read in the paper. This has set him on looping of needing to know his bills are paid and there is enough money in his accounts. He still has a whole house that will…
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Anger from loosing driver’s license
This is my first post. I care for my mom and dad who have dementia. They are not advanced but in the mild/medium stages. They have different dementias. My dad has three different areas affected including the front part of his brain. This controls his reasoning, understanding, etc. The doctors have had his driver’s license…
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Does occupational therapy help
DH in early to middle stage ALZ. There is another neurologist nearby that offers occupational therapy for dementia as part of their treatment. It is a hassle to change doctors, but if having DH do some kind of therapy that would slow the progression I would make the effort. At home, he plays Sudoku for several hours a day…
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Iris L
Iris, I found your life story absolutely fascinating. If others want to read it, it can be found on Lorita's thread at the end on the page 4. https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx?g=posts&t=2147558954 Thank you for sharing it!
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Ricardo
Richard we are all at: Just need to talk to my friends (199). just look for that heading and you will be back with us.
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Why is this so very hard?
This was hard to write and undoubtedly hard to read, so if you're not up for it go back and pick another thread. For context my DW is late stage 7e and 73 years old. She very rarely opens her eyes and even when she is not quite asleep, she looks like she is. My DW's usual aide was upset this morning. While moving her…
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Un-dressing issues
Dear all, has anyone found a good strategy to keep a person with advanced dementia (FTD) dressed? My dad is still ok with keeping his clothes on when we are outside or at the groundfloor (with a lot of talking from us explaining this is absolutely necessary for XYZ reason, trying to make him laugh etc.) but it's becoming…
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When urgent care, when to accept what cannot be controlled?
Thank you in advance. 94 YO mom has moderate mixed AD/VD and severe small vessel disease. Low BP, no history of stroke, never-smoker. Doesn’t drink enough water. Zero meds except eyedrops. Lives in an independent community with AL services for eyedrop administration. She functions mostly on her own still. We suspect she…
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toddler grandchild - advice?
My wife has been in MC for 2 months; she is adjusting well, making friends there, participating with activities, and is loved by the staff for her infectious high energy, and her eager engagement with the other residents. It can be hard for me to visit sometimes, because she wants to come with me when I leave. I tell a…
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How to deal with NEW personality traits
I am new to the site. There is 15 years difference in my husband and I. He is 75. In late May, I noticed some disturbing habits he was beginning. DH is fully functioning except for the urges and impulses he can't control. It is disturbing and I feel like I got on an apology tour a few times a week. I love my DH but he is…
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LTC Insurance and Travel
My LO has an LTC claim started (not yet approved) and is likely eligible for benefits, but she is still eager to take trips. Does anyone know whether, typically, an LTC company might pay home healthcare benefits while the patient is still taking pleasure trips with a close companion to monitor them? Or do the LTC companies…
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Looking for a friend to get through this with in the Sacramento area
I am following the lead of Bailey who posted this request for her area. Thanks Bailey for the idea. I am 60 years old and caregiving my mother. I am looking for someone caregiving a parent or spouse at home for mutual support in the sacramento area.
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Does DH really have AD? He seems so normal.
DH has seen the neurologist and had brain scan, EEG, verbal and visual test and has been Wdiagonosed with AD, but 99% of the time he seems so normal. I begin to feel like I made a mountain out of a mole hill. For years, he has been saying, " Oh, you know what I mean." About a month ago, he peed all over the bathroom floor…
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I feel like Alice going down the rabbit hole.
I am totally new here. First-day actually. Here goes…. My husband has shown signs of Early Alz. for quite a few years, but I didn't realize what it was until about 2 years ago. He has been on medication and forgets things we just talked about but then he will tell me the store I need is down the street on the left. He will…
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Question about Thyroid Related Alzheimer’s or other Dementia
my DW has developed a very fast progressing Dementia still waiting for a accurate diagnosis, via MRI. She has lead a very healthy life, no major medical issues, no hospitalizations. Stays very current, with our PCP, She was tested and had a lean MRI IN 2018. Her only health. Concern was her thyroid and her weight had been…
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sleeping 15 hour or more a night, falling asleep during the day.
Dear Alz-connected friends: I'm back because my DH is now sleeping well more that 12 hours at night and falling asleep in front of the TV. I thought he was in mid-stage VD, but this behavior is increasing now. He is MY Caretaker, so I am now caring for him. He fell backwards in the kitchen this afternoon after getting out…
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How to keep my sister decent in hospice during my respite.
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Challenges over Loss of Control
Good afternoon! I'm a brand-new poster and am an only child to my 79-year-old mom with VD. She's in memory care and has been in decline for years, with bigger deficits after stroke-type symptoms and multiple falls. Over the past year, she's become more paranoid and accusatory about my not visiting enough, the management of…
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Can't get official early onset diagnosis of dementia for my mom from PCP
For the past 2-3 years we've had a hard time getting an official diagnosis of Dementia for my 84 yr old mom. She appears to have all the early symptoms. She forgets the day of the week. Except for making toast she can't remember how to cook, she repeats herself all the time, she forgets my oldest sister is married, etc.…
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She Wants to Help
From what I read my wife is in Alzheimer's Stage 4. She is in good health and wants to help with everything. Problem is, she doesn't know how to do anything. Worst time is in the kitchen while I'm preparing dinner. She is everywhere, asking what she can do. It's driving me nuts. It would be so much easier if she would go…
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Expenses
Mom has early onset dementia. I am on her checking/savings accounts and have set most things up on auto-pay. There have been some monthly expenses that I have been paying directly and having her write me a check each month to pay me back. Is this a big no-no or red flag for Medicaid down the line? Or is it okay as long as…
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Just Vetting!
I just need to vent a little in order to keep my sanity! Our Holliday weekend was like a rollercoaster. My DW gets up as a friend, has breakfast and soon afterwards turns agitated and starts her daily trash talk to me. “shut up, come on, leave me alone, etc.” I then sit next to her and watch Hallmark movies for a couple of…
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Early Stage ALZ and hallucinations
Hi all! My Mom is 85 years old and has early stage ALZ. She is living in a senior living center (as assisted living) and loving it. She generally does quite well, just the bad memory and confusion from time to time. While she was living in her home (with her husband who has since passed away from lewy body), she was having…
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No conversation
Is this part of this awful disease? It’s been 3 days and very little if any conversations occur between us. DH , with VD, will most times respond to questions but to have a conversation is non existent! I’m beginning to feel I’m living alone. He wanted to work on a puzzle so I bought one, encourage him to work on it with…
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New and Need Advice
My Daddy was diagnosed with early onset dementia about 9 years ago. Things have rapidly declined in the last 6 months. He had an episode a month ago where he was missing for 15 hours. Ended up finding him in a field where his side by side had gotten stuck. He has that and a golf cart because he locked his keys in his truck…
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I NEED HELP
hi, my husband of over 30 years is in mid stages and has taken to chatting on singles websites. I think it’s mostly sex talk. He is using his real (unique) name and is well known in his field. I’m not dealing with this well. He would never do this or somehow justify this behavior in younger years. I have done so many…
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Driving
New here - struggling with making decisions. Mom is 89. I've been noticing cognitive decline since 2022. Just got official diagnosis on Friday through an MMSE test. She scored 26/30 last year and 21/30 this year which seems like a fast decline. She is still driving and I am struggling on whether it's time to pull the keys…
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Sometimes I Forget
There are other stressors in our lives and when they add up and I get anxious and grouchy sometimes I forget that she really doesn't know that the question she just asked is the same as it was the 20 other times she asked. That just happened. I snapped at her and she got her feelings hurt. I tell myself I have to do…