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No One Is Prepared for Alzheimer's
"No One Is Prepared for Alzheimer’s" I just published an Amazon book (kindle ebook and paperback) which is my journal written over 5-6 years about caring for my husband through the full course of his Alzheimer’s journey. It is entitled: “No One Is Prepared for Alzheimer’s: One Family’s Story.” George died last May, oddly…
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My mom accusing of us stealing
I was extremingly angry. Held it for a couple of days and got into a storm argument with my mom. I was outrageously angry at her today. How do I do it so I don’t take it personal? Same happens 3 years ago when she did that and I over come it. Now, it happened again. Advise please
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video from new england journal of medicine
https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMp2310177?query=TOC&cid=NEJM%20eToc,%20March%2021/28,%202024%20DM2332180_NEJM_Non_Subscriber&bid=-2122372168
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More supervision
Well, the regression continues and now my mom needs more supervision. One more step toward memory care. I think the only thing holding the care team back is she is physically in much better shape than the other residence in memory care. JoyInAlzheimer's NeverFearTheDream
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A life sentence
I feel so god-forsaken. My DH is in stage 6 (I think) and his constant combativeness and total confusion ruin every single waking day. Truth is I don't even like him anymore and we've been married for 50 years. When he was diagnosed the neurologist said "this isn't a death sentence" and I remember thinking "no, it is a…
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Going Home
So, my LO must move from her current IL/AL apartment. It's really not a terrible thing. She never really fit in- she's a quirky individual who does a great deal of complaining, has dementia and elderly needs to support. This apartment was always too independent for her... but we ALL gave it a try. It was a beautiful…
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POSITIVE BALANCE
When I was a caregiver, I was on a seesaw. One side was attending to the needs of those I cared for, and the other side was attending to my own needs. Both sides were important. Both sides needed attention. The aim was to keep the seesaw balanced so one side did not go crashing to the ground. Perhaps looking back, I…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/4/24
FRIENDS, just want you to know I read all your comments and appreciate them. The Holy Spirit is with you and me here and everywhere. Peace, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski) * COURAGE Genesis 1:1 NIV “In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” Joshua 1:9 NKJV “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good…
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POSITIVE BALANCE
When I was a caregiver, I was on a seesaw. One side was attending to the needs of those I cared for, and the other side was attending to my own needs. Both sides were important. Both sides needed attention. The aim was to keep the seesaw balanced so one side did not go crashing to the ground. Perhaps looking back, I…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/23/24
FRIENDS, just want you to know I read all your comments and appreciate them. The Holy Spirit is with you and me here and everywhere. Peace, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski) * CONFUSION Isaiah 5:20 New International Version "Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness,…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/23/24
FRIENDS, just want you to know I read all your comments and appreciate them. The Holy Spirit is with you and me here and everywhere. Peace, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski) * CONFUSION Isaiah 5:20 New International Version "Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness,…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/23/24
FRIENDS, just want you to know I read all your comments and appreciate them. The Holy Spirit is with you and me here and everywhere. Peace, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski) * CONFUSION Isaiah 5:20 New International Version "Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness,…
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Important (and classic) free book - Understanding the Dementia Experience
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/23/24
FRIENDS, just want you to know I read all your comments and appreciate them. The Holy Spirit is with you and me here and everywhere. Peace, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski) * CONFUSION Isaiah 5:20 New International Version "Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness,…
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Good article - Tips on preventing aspiration pneumonia
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Mum having pain in shoulders etc
My mum has had alzheimers for 4 years now, she went into respite and it gave me a break however she came out with a swollen foot. Since then she struggled but got over it and then she had a uti. She nearly fully got over it but yesterday morning i found her laying diagonally across the bed. Not sure whether she fell in the…
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Fed up from the life.
Previously i posted about me feeling that i am forgetting things and losing my memory. I don't remember any happy memories seems they are somewhere in the dark and as much as i know I had many happy memories with kids, family and with the person I love. I am in love with a person, i am going through many things, having…
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93 YO's dog died; keeps asking to get a new one
93 YO mom with "severe" SVD and suspected dementia had an elderly dog (with her 16 years) that passed at the vet's 9 days ago. Mom had her three kids with her and after talking with us and the vet, agreed it was time. We've always had dogs in our family so this was really hard. After leaving the vet, Mom said she'd never…
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Visiting too often?
My DH has been in memory care for almost 3 weeks. The first week was very hard, but since then, he’s seemed to be adapting to it. I’ve been visiting daily, for about an hour, and my daughter often sees him in the evening. A few days ago, when I arrived, he was playing a word game with the group and he was having such a…
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Am I crazy, or is the doctor?
I don't know if anyone else has experienced this, but here's hoping someone can shed a little light on what to do about our current situation. As background, we are exploring MC placement for my DH, who tested in the "mild dementia" range in late 2022. Lately he has been having episodes of aggression and rage which are…
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What to do?
My DW is now fully involved with her dementia/delusions. She is getting angry and physically violent. So, what is the next step? Do I need to look to have her committed?
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advice please
It may be time for mom to be placed in a facility. There are 2 facilities we're considering. There are good points about both. How do we decide? Both are assisted living. One has locked memory care, the other is just general population. So when mom needs memory care in the one facility, she'd be in a locked unit. Does…
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I need help finding a post
A member posted a photo of a lockbox to use so that designated people could enter the home if she were unavailable. I have been searching for this post that was embedded within a thread but I can't remember the title of the thread. Does anyone remember it? It was either on this board or on the General Caregivers board.…
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After more than 18 months we finally have test results
A miracle happened this month...the VA neuropsych department finally sent us the detailed test results from the test he took in June 2022. The same test results we have asked for, his VA neuro requested, his PCP requested, his social worker requested, and his private insurance neuro requested. The last requestor was his…
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Day Center Services
Hello! First time poster here. Looking for assistance on how to find someplace my mom can take my dad for a few hours a day. I work full time and I’m trying to convince her that he’s just too much for her to watch all day. (He’s a wanderer.) All I can find are living options and for now he’s still ok at home. She just…
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Just stressing
My Mom was diagnosed in Aug 2023 with Alzheimer's. I am her primary caregiver; but I have other family that supports us. She is still living alone right now (close to me and close to my son). She gave up driving when she fell in Sept 2023 and tore her Rotar cuff completely. She needs to have her shoulder replaced but the…
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Testing question
My Dad had a mini test in the doctor's office, and received a score of 23/30 - he was referred to a Geriatric Resource Center for further testing. My Mom has a different doctor, and just had a mini test as well -- it was very similar to my dad's test, except her test required her to draw a clock face. Her score is 16/33.…
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POA and MC admission
I have given the POA for my DH over to DS officially. He looked at the documents far more critically than I and he's not sure we would be able to make decisions for DH as regards moving him to MC facility. It seems the documents actually say two doctors must sign off on him being incapable of making his own decisions. What…
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Early Stages: assessment, support, education
Hello, I am in the early stages of needing to get my LO a neurological assessment and get educated as their child on the best ways to support them moving forward. It's hard to know if they are in early stages or if aging and isolation and depression are the culprits. (want to acknowledge that i know they will exacerbate…
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assessment
Anyone know how an assessment is performed for assisted living? It's possible my LO won't qualify & will need memory care. Just don't know what to expect. Really hope we can try assisted living but not sure what is done to assess. Just really trying to prepare myself mentally. My LO is progressing fast & am hoping memory…