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Planning trips
we are trying to plan a few trips to see family and it’s very frustrating to my Lo. He has always been the one to plan everything down to the last detail. It frustrates him that he can’t do that now. So he just wants to shut down and go no where, He says he can only see/think about today. He would just as soon stay home as…
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Help remembering which apartment is hers?
The situation: a woman with early dementia is able to go out and navigate the town safely, and she enjoys this independence so we don't want to squash it. The trouble is, when she gets back to the apartment building, she sometimes forgets which door is the family apartment and ends up knocking at the wrong one, confused…
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Dislikes Sister and an old friend
My wife has recently gone through some changes with her sister and an old friend. My wife was never close with her sister and this old friend growing up, but we've had a great relationship with both in the past 20+ years. A recent visit from her sister however sparked a memory of long ago when she didn't care for her…
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Only child of an only child
Hi! I’m new to this and initially resisted a support group. I think because I’ve just been overwhelmed. My dad lived in Florida and I seen him a few times a year, a week at a time. He would say to me “I’m sure you can see the old man’s mind is starting to fail”. I wasn’t with him enough to realize this was more than normal…
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New member, need support/advice
Hello! I am new here and I am looking for any advice and support, as my 70yr dad just got diagnosed with Alzheimers. We lost my mother last August to Lewy Body Dementia and I am pretty much the primary care person left for dad. I have his POA, but still struggle with how to handle him and the things that need to happen…
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Veteran's Resources - for Housing Modifications, etc.
HISA grants: — Lifetime benefit for Veterans and Servicemembers. $6,800 will be approved to: Address a service-connected disability; Address a compensable ...Clothing Allowance · Guide and Service Dog page · Automobile Adaptive EquipmentPeople also askHow much is the VA hisa grant? Will the VA compensation increase in…
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Memory Care
Well the AL facility gave my LO less than a month to get acclimated to her new surroundings. They are suggesting she be moved into MC. She's going to MC during the day and back to AL at night because they have no room for her. I think they're wrong! I think this will kill her!!! But my brother thinks it's the right thing…
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New to this
My DH is in the early stage of Alzheimers or dementia. He will not go to a doctor and is in denial about what is happening to him. I am slowly picking up all of his responsibilities but he is still able to do some of the things he used to do. Lately, it has just been so exhausting and I have become so isolated. I could use…
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Don't Know What to Do
I have been caring for my dad in his home in CA since December (Live in NC). I have left my family, home, job, friends-LIFE. I'm struggling with the idea of being here "forever." My dad cannot be alone, cook, eat properly, drive, conduct personal hygiene properly, etc. I have full POA (financially & healthcare). He spends…
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Memory care question
I’m wondering for those of you with loved ones in a memory care facility. Do you write a message saying,” ‘Name’ will visit you tomorrow? “ I see my husband every day, but as soon as I’m out of sight he forgets I was ever there. When I see him the following day, he seems so relieved and asks, “How’d you find me”? This…
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Drugs
what drug works best to manage delusions?
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Husband fell in MC
Last Sunday my husband either fell forward out of his chair or fell in the hallway picking something up. It was 6:28 am when I got the call he was going to ER. He was there several hours and returned to facility. My son who was with him said he slept most of the time. Since the fall he is totally different man. Not…
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Share your Story with the Alzheimer’s Association
The Alzheimer's Association is dedicated to ensuring that everyone facing Alzheimer's or another dementia is able to access a timely diagnosis, available treatment options and quality care throughout their journey. To better understand the barriers people currently face, we are looking for people to share their experience…
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Share your Story with the Alzheimer’s Association
The Alzheimer's Association is dedicated to ensuring that everyone facing Alzheimer's or another dementia is able to access a timely diagnosis, available treatment options and quality care throughout their journey. To better understand the barriers people currently face, we are looking for people to share their experience…
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Share Your Story with the Alzheimer's Association
The Alzheimer's Association is dedicated to ensuring that everyone facing Alzheimer's or another dementia is able to access a timely diagnosis, available treatment options and quality care throughout their journey. To better understand the barriers people currently face, we are looking for people to share their experience…
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Constant anger
I’m sure you have experienced days where nothing that you say or do is the right thing. Well I’ve been having many days like this! I understand DH is angry with his situation and has an overwhelming need to have control of his life again but this is becoming absurd! I am finding it very difficult to deal with . This…
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My Parent Has Become Aggressive
Immediate need for advice! My parent suffering from dementia has progressed to the point of needing care at a facility full time. My stepparent is doing all possible to provide my parent with the best possible care. My parent has been to three different facilities in the last six months. My parent left the first facility…
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Prolonged sleep
Hi, my DW is late stage (I think early stage 7) at age 61. Over the last few months her sleep pattern has changed such that she now routinely sleeps 20 hours a day. She would sleep longer if I didn't "help" her wake up to get some food in her and change her underpants. Her meds have been changed somewhat in effort to…
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DH won't wear his dentures - latest thing to happen...
MY DH Lonny has been in Memory Care for 6 months. The latest in behaviors: more agitation & they have him heavily medicated. He's urinary incontinent & doesn't like them to change his adult diaper & clothes and becomes combative with his caregivers. He took out his dentures & refuses to allow them to put them back in. So…
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Is there any life left after Alzheimer's caregiving?
I would truly love to hear from those survivors of the Alz. nightmare about whether they were able to recover from the physical and mental strain of caregiving. It sounds like we all are pretty much physically and mentally exhausted.
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new guy here with wife who has dementia 1st started 2 years ago
im hubby and sole caretaker with my wife caroline shes 63 im 60 i would like to find some kind of online chat group in real time that i can talk to i cant go to no in person thing right now as she gets whelmed what do i do?
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Memory care wait list
i had looked around for memory care for hubby awhile ago just to be prepared. The place I chose says can pay one thousand dollars to put him on waitlist. If I never use them I’ll get money back and if I use them the money will go towards their care. I thought ideally I’d like him to stay home and get care inhome. However…
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Husband thinks he needs to go somewhere
my husband thinks he is supposed to go “home” when we are already at home. He is quite adamant. How can I dissuade him without getting into a big hassle?
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Incontinence Question
My DH is starting with urinary incontinence. I have seen multiple wet briefs in the hamper on different occasions. He does not speak of it as I am sure he is embarrassed. He has not had nighttime incontinence yet. Because he isn't speaking of it, I am concerned that he will try to hide the briefs by flushing them down the…
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Disillusioned with Geri-psych unit
My DH will be released from a Geri-psych unit soon. I placed him there because he’s had four aggressive incidents at his memory care in the last few months. His Seroquel was increased at the unit, but no other med changes were tried. The unit social worker told me the unit is only for acute care, and that any other med…
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Resentful/Jealous of Friendships
How do you get past feeling guilty about having friends and a social life when caregiving for someone with dementia? My mom is 90 and is in the moderate stage. She doesn't have many friends; her two best friends live out of state. She has never understood the work it takes to make/maintain friendships. She resents that I…
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I have breast cancer… now what?
I’m at the very start of testing and diagnosis process. So far i know it will be at least a stage 2 involving lumpectomy, lymph node biopsy, radiation, and some form of drug therapy. Any one been through this with a very need clingy DH at Stage 4 at least who won’t stay with anyone? He knows but not sure he totally “gets…
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Wits end he won’t get ready
hubby gets up and has become a couch potato. Up at 11. It’s 1 pm and still not moving. I Said it’s showertime. Tells me 15 minutes. Still nothing. He did this Sunday when we had to be at a bbq. Waits for last moments to get ready. And I always tell him earlier than it is. Today another bbq leaving 5:30 pm. I told him 5.…
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My SIL wants me to care for her too?
My DH is definitely in stage 4 and dipping his toe in a couple stage 5 behaviors on occasions. My health is not the best, I have complications from Scleroderma an incurable and possibly fatal autoimmune disease. My DH sister that is an 80 yo widow is beginning to ask me to help her. I’m 65 and my DH is 75. Im already…
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Any suggestions?
Okay, need some help here and I know this is the only group that may have some ideas and not judge. My DH has been sundowning fierce! I have locks and alarms on the doors so he can't get outside. I usually get up and guide him to the bathroom then tell him the time and guide him back to bed. He becomes resistant so I let…