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When is memory care needed
My dad has EO, he is turning 65 next week, so super young. He lived with my husband and I for 3 yrs. And we moved him into assisted living in Jan. We are currently sitting in the hospital going on day 3 here. They are finding quite a bit going on. He is no longer swallowing properly and now needs all of his liquids…
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Not asking for any help
I had an initial consultation with elder law. Lots of paperwork and mom doesn't want lawyer to know about her finances. I asked mom about Medicaid planning and asset protection but showed no concern. I told her about her losing everything if she and dad need to be placed in a home and can't afford it in the long run. She…
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NPH and dementia unspecified
Happy Sunday all caregivers. Just wondering if anyone else has NPH diagnosis for their loved one. My mom has this ( I’ve posted a lot about it on the Caring for a Parent forum.). I finally scheduled shunt surgery and she refused. It’s the ONLY treatment available for what she has. The Neurosurgery physician assistant…
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Scared
Hi everybody. My loved one with Alzheimer's Disease is my dear mama and I am her main caretaker. I've posted a few times already in here and the support that I receive means more than any of you could possibly know. Todays discussion is just me talking about how scared I am about off this. I mean, when I was a kid and I…
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Head feels "weird" or "funny"
Has anyone heard of this? My mom will often say her "head feels funny". It doesn;t hurt and she says she can't describe it but that it feels "weird". I can't find anything on google, but just a couple of people reporting it too. Any insight would be welcome. She is physically totally healthy. Thank you!
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New to all of this
My mom has just received what I assume is a diagnosis. The doctor put her on Aricept. I saw her MRI results, although they didn’t make much sense to me, the end result suggested AD. My grandma and great grandma had it too, so it wasn’t terribly surprising. She still manages to do most things, but a week or two ago she was…
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What do these abbreviations mean?
Hello All. I'm new here. What are the common abbreviations used here? What do they mean? Thank you 😊
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Fixing Others People’s Problems
Since when is it okay to interfere, offer unsolicited suggestions, services under the pretext of “helping”. Is it really helping the other person or helping yourself attain attention, praise etc. How can someone not know the difference and fine line between helping and intrusion? Really…I want to know. 🫥
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Distance Aunts, Uncle - #Busybodies#Meddlers
Mom comes from large family. There are (4) live siblings in other states who only offer lip service and are intrusive and intentionally go against mom's wishes (call police for wellness checks, call the church to inform mom's in hospital or rehab, call elder protective services, etc.) They harass and violate her right to…
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Paranoid delusions
My mother believes that one of my half brothers drove here from two and a half hours away to steal her phone. The oldest half brother died of cancer in January 2021. Between then and the interment this past spring, she was convinced that the youngest half brother was stealing his brother’s ashes several times. It’s painful…
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Paranoia/Delusions While On Donezepil and Now Memantine?
Hi, all, Long story short, my mom took Donezepil and Sertraline for about a month earlier this year. Her cognitive abilities improved, and we were psyched. And then…she started having paranoia and delusions, nightmares, and something like a psychotic break happened. Her doctors didn't think that Donezepil was the cause,…
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So many things to do
Finally got a free 15min phone consultation with elder law this coming Monday. Mom gave me her car so I have to drive her everywhere. I have been getting info on several AL facilities around town. Mom is admitting she needs my help more and more. I see my parents 3-4 days a week now. She is starting to trust me and sharing…
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Narcissists & Dementia/Alz
My mom is using me as a scapegoat. She said she tells people things, they don’t listen but what I observe is different. Talking to her is useless…she says she doesn’t want to talk to gossiping sister but when she calls it’s heyyy 😃 while 👀 at me. She’s one of them in fact as the oldest the leader who says one thing and…
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memory loss
DH, diagnosed ES ALZ in June has been losing words for some time now, and that seems to be accelerating. This week he lost memory of two of his life events, one the wedding of our 2nd daughter some years ago. Yesterday, he asked me what I was listening to (bible in a year with Fr. Mike). His comment: "that sounds…
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Take me home, I want to go home
I’ve dreaded this day for so long. I brought my mom to a memory care facility today. I told her it was temporary while my dad and I were out of town but she could tell by looking around what was going on. She said - this is not right, I want to go home, take me home I try to tell myself this is safer for her. But I’m just…
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Hallucinations Delusions that won’t stop
Hi My Mother in Law was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s 6 years ago and has been experiencing auditory hallucinations for the last 2 years. In the past 6 months they’ve turned into full on delusions that are continuous and is afraid. She asked to be with us for the last 2 weeks because “they” (an 85 yo upstairs neighbor)…
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First Visit MC - traumatized
Moved mom in 10 days ago to MC unit close to my home from an AL further away. I’ve had no communication with her since the director advised me not too. (Had her cell phone at first but she called the cops when we weren’t answering.) Director told us it would be okay to visit today bc it’s grandparents day and they are…
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Aggressiveness & Depression
My father is 90, still very mobile but has frequent episodes of anger and depression. He also at times still thinks he is only 50. His memory is getting worse daily and I am concerned that he will even forget who my Mom is and perhaps become violent. Are there medications that can calm him?
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New diagnosis- she won’t accept it
Stepmom just got a diagnosis of moderate dementia, likely due to Alzheimer’s. Dad has Parkinson’s but is still able to do most things independently and is still pretty sharp mentally. We saw stepmom starting to shift mentally (memory, behavior, moods) 2 years ago but explained it away for some time, and she has been in…
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Father with early-onset now in late stages
Hello, I was made aware of these discussion boards through resources at my university and thought I'd give it a shot. I live in Orange Country, CA. I'm a 26 year old Female and my father got diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer's when I was 13. He was in his early 50's. He has progressed extensively in the last six years.…
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Rapid Decline?
My DH dropped 3 points on MMSE in 6 months. I was told this is rapid decline. His score is 18 but they said he has/had high cognitive reserves. I put him at solid stage 5 with a foot in stage 6 on Tam Cummings. Has anyone experienced this with their LO? Does it continue dropping at a rapid rate or can it be a one off? I’ve…
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New to everything.
I really enjoy reading the posts and discussions. Changes seem to be coming fast. Moms fell about 6 weeks ago and I now believe this may have somehow triggered these new events. She is finding items around the house, clothing, pantry items, nail polish and doesn’t recognize them and thinks I’m playing tricks on her,…
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Feeling down
Mom went to AL 4 months ago. I’m DPOA and have taken most of the blame. When we moved her we did not bring much to decorate her room. Two decorations broke in the move and my brother said he would fix them and bring them to her( he didn’t). My brother insisted she would just ask for what she wants to decorate. Big surprise…
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In Home Hospice
I spoke to a hospice liaison and she told me steps about the process to get a home health nurse out to see my Dad whose dementia is worsening. He says he refuses ever going to a nursing home but my questions is, how do we ensure he is home when the nurse comes by? He has a golf cart and is still cognitive at times but he…
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Visits in MC
My mom’s new MC is extremely skilled and way more caring. They have asked me to shorten visits and come maybe 3 times a week until she settles in. Last few times i have taken her out have really unsettled her and made her want to leave. Intellectually i know this makes perfect sense. Emotionally it is completely…
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Help With Care for My Mom & Myself
My mother was recently diagnosed with Dementia. Currently, I have in-home help which I plan to continue as much as we can. I am wondering if anyone knows of support groups (the ones I've found in my area are already full). This is completely new to me and I want to ensure I am doing the best I can for my mother. Any help…