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Dad in AL for 6 weeks - how often should we visit
We moved my dad into AL 6 weeks ago. Before that he lived with my mom for 62+ years. So this is new for all of us. After a 2 week quarantine, we have been able to visit my dad 2 times a week. We have a hard time getting my mom to visit him once a week and so I have been going twice a week since the beginning. Except this…
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Assisted Living for LO
Hello, I've been a care taker for Mom who has passed away from dementia. Now my Dad (who is 92 years old), is getting worse with the screaming and paranoid, hallucinations, and more agitated. (I'm his only care taker). He no longer wants me to go out of the house because he thinks I'm running around with a gang, or I'm…
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Mom died last night. Dad has dementia. He keeps forgetting that she died.
We just learned how bad Dad's dementia is. In the last two years Dad hasn't been more than 100 feet away from Mom. Mom died last night of cancer. The mortuary has taken her body away. He notices she is missing. He asks where she is. He sometimes remembers she has cancer then demands to be taken to the hospital to see her.…
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Newbie looking for holistic support (long)
81 year old mother, diagnosed w/cognitive impairment 4 or 5 years ago. Brought her home 4 weeks ago for a myriad of reasons. Primary question today is holistic/nutritional advice. I will certainly research & get approval from her NP or Neurologist prior to any changes or recommendations. (Don’t like her Neurologist, love…
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Happy Mother's Day, Mom.
I wish all you mothers, whether you are living with dementia or loving and caring for someone who is - a wonder filled Mother's Day! You are the heart of the world. Happy Mother's Day https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/happy-mother-s-day Indolence, thy name is Lickety.…
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Need Advice - My mom is getting into trouble!
Hi Everyone,My Father passed away in January and we moved my mother to the memory care area of her senior living complex. She wanders into other patients rooms. While she's in their rooms she disassembles electronics.. such as TVs, lights, cords. Pretty much anything she can get her hands on. She does this in her own room…
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LO becoming aggressive
My mom is 91 and in a skilled nursing facility. The staff are wonderful. I really want mom to stay at this facility. But she is becoming aggressive. She is kicking, hitting, throwing things, yelling mean things. I live an hours and 45 minutes away and because of COVID, I can't go into the building. I can see her for…
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All new to me(1)
My mom passed away 12/2/20, I moved my dad and his two pets in with my husband and I 2 days before Christmas. It did not take long to realize something was not right with dad. Yesterday we got the answers to our many questions; dad has dementia caused by moderate Alzheimer's. Now it all makes sense. I have no idea what his…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/10/21
ACCOMPLISH MUCH GOOD BY STAYING CLOSE TO JESUS * John 15:5 New King James Version “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing." * me: It took me forever to have faith that the Lord gives me what I need; He fights my battles; He is in control,…
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Completely destroyed mentally and physically from the inability to get help.
Can’t understand why it’s so hard to find help
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Mom has started to take showers on her own in the middle of the night!
My 89 yr old mom is now in mid to late stage Alzheimer's with dementia. We have gone through some of the "typical" phases with her behaviors that have been manageable up to this point. In these last couple of days she has been getting up in the middle of the night and attempting to shower and dress herself. When I "caught…
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Help with placing a parent in assisted living
Hi I am the one looking for help with this. I have been helping my Dad for close to a year an a half who has alzheimers, I have worked on his VA benefits, took over his finances paying his bills, monitoring his accounts etc.. I became POA early on realizing he was going to become unable to make coherent decisions and I…
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He fell for a scam
Hi Gang, its been a while since I posted here. I really needed to get it out to people who may understand or have similar experiences. MY LO fell for a scam. He went to the bank and demanded a money order for 50 grand. Thankfully he got a bank teller who cared enough to deny his request. My LO has always been very prudent…
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Advice please!
I’m fairly new here and this is my first post. My DH was diagnosed in February with AD. I saw slight changes for several years but this past summer, there was a significant downhill slide with several potentially dangerous incidents. I was finally able to get his PCP to refer him to a gerontologist. He is still able to…
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Levels of clarity
I am new to forum and new to the realm of dementia. My dad was recently diagnosed with LBD which has moved at a rapid pace since the beginning of the year. My brother and I have notice lately that when my brother visits or talk with dad, he seems to be much more lucid and more himself. But when I visit or talk to him, he…
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mornings? how to deal with seeing people?
Almost every morning now, mom thinks someone else is in the house. It is just her and my dad. I try to reassure her no one else is there. Dad locked the doors and wouldn't let anyone in. I think she sometimes thinks my dad is the stranger until she sees him and recognizes him. Some times she thinks it's her father and she…
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Reliable In Home Care for Dad with Alz (and a burned out mom)
Hello everyone. We are in a bit of a pickle. We are working with an in home health care company with mixed results. We have a woman who comes Tues and Thurs for 2 hours and she's wonderful and very consistant. Then we needed to increase care but she wasn't available. So we've had a revolving door from Mon-Wed-Fri. First we…
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Mom just fell ... is this associated with her Seroquel?
Dad and I both thought my mom was asleep. There were no sounds, no talking, the motion sensor was quiet, and all of a sudden we hear a huge thump! Mom got out of her bed. The bed has rails! How in the world?? She’s fine. Hospice checked her out and everything is ok. We had to put her in her Geri chair with the tray on…
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Early Onset- Don't know where to begin
Hi- This is my first time posting. My mom is 62 and was diagnosed with early onset in November. I am her only child & my parents were divorced & he's now deceased. Things really came to a head with Covid where she lost her job at the company she worked at for 30 years, but they did offer her an early retirement package. My…
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Reality check(1)
My Dad( 81) started the day at the doctors office ended up overnight in the hospital, currently still there . He has not been diagnosed with dementia, but does have physical issues and cancer. My Mom(82), currently diagnosed with mild dementia, was in the apartment at the assisted living center overnight by herself. Center…
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Secondary MPOA
First things first-THANK YOU to all who are on this board. It is a critical resource for people dealing with dementia. Now, here is my question. I realize it will probably require the service of a lawyer, but I trust the people on this board to shoot straight. My wife has been in MC since December of 2020. The facility is…
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New and needing advice: How much truth to tell Dad
I've been lurking here for several months and have found this community immensely helpful. My Dad's dementia is moderate-severe and he moved in with us in late January. He frequently talks about going to visit his parents and sometimes gets very adamant that we take him there. So far, I've been redirecting him and that has…
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Mother's Day(4)
Hi, I know it has been a while since I last came to this message board, but school and work have been hectic and sort of keeping me busy. I just wanted to, kind of vent, on how this year will be so difficult for me to see my Mom, who has early-onset Alzheimer's, 70 years young, and is in a nursing home since Nov. 2019,…
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Nursing Home Time?
How did you know it was time to put your LO in Memory Care or Nursing Home? Is there a point in this disease that a LO should go to a Nursing Home INSTEAD of Memory Care?
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Hand Tremors, Parkinson's, and grace
I have nobody to talk to so I am just getting this off of my chest. My mom was diagnosed with vascular dementia about 7 years ago. She can still do most things but in the past few months her mobility has degenerated drastically. She has had a mild left hand tremor for about a year and recently it has gotten rather bad. I…
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Help... rapidly deteriorating dementia parent
Hi all, I’m very new to this. My mother, 76 was just recently diagnosed with mild to moderate dementia. I have noticed some memory issues for a year or two, but chalked it up to being stressed or pre occupied. We now have a true diagnosis. The progression has become very rapid in the past 4 months. Since I am her only…
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Thinks she is capable, but very muddled in mild to moderate stage
I am the primary support for my best friend, who at age 69 has been diagnosed with probable Alzheimer’s. I am helping with sorting paperwork from her business and personal situation, to bring her business affairs up to date and automate / streamline banking etc. She has skewed perception of time, so panics if she sees an…
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Is this normal??
My mother was diagnosed from a neuropsychological test about 4 years ago. We had suspected this because of her declining ability to do some basic complex functions more than memory. Two months after that test, she had a stroke that destroyed her short term memory...that was pretty much the only long term effect the stroke…
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How did you approach the move to MC with your LO?
For those who moved your LO in a MC, when did you tell them and what did you say to get them there. One thing I’ve gotten from reading past threads is don’t approach it too early as it could mean days of being anxious. Hubby and I are concerned that he will be up all night if we tell him the night before so maybe the…
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newcomer and feeling overwhelmed
My mom is 91 and has been showing signs of dementia for awhile. She was living in assisted living and doing ok. then she fell and broke her hip in March; had partial hip replacement surgery. Physically, she is doing ok. but her dementia went from a 2 to 90 in a very short time. She is not able to go back to assisted…