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Mistaken Identity
My dad has a sheet of paper with the names of three of his kids and their phone numbers. He has a lot of difficultly navigating the contact list in his phone hence the paper. Even though my phone number is on the list with my name, Melissa, he will call me and he thinks he is talking to my mom (who passed away just a year…
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Depression and Anger
We are entering a new stage in my mother's dementia. She has been suffering a great deal with depression and episodes of anger. The articles and books I'm reading talk about triggers and things that could cause the episodes. Recently her hysterical episodes have happened when she is alone so we are not sure what could be…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/25/21
Lord, Give Me Patience * Galatians 5:22-23 NKJV “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.” * James 1:19-20 NKJV “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for…
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Bike riding alone- when do you stop?
My dad has Alzheimer’s. He is in the latter middle stage. He is coherent and fine at times. Then, other times, he is out of sorts and has difficulty communicating. In recent years, he has started riding his bike a lot more. Sometimes, he does fine. He takes the same path and makes it home ok. However, twice in the last…
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Denial about diagnosis
My mother has recently been officially diagnosed with dementia. All she knows she is having some memory problems, but testing reveals that she’s functioning at a very low level, and I concur. She denies there is a problem, as does her husband. How do I talk aboutThis with her in a way that will open her mind to getting…
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Should we tell his Sibs about MIL's spending habits?
DH has recently regained access to MIL's bank account - she keeps forgetting the password and locking herself out and needs help getting it reset so he helps her...thus we have access until she locks herself out of it again. Anyway, we have been looking at her spending over the last few months and she's been on a wild…
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First Holidays
Hi! I'm new to this forum, but have already gotten so much information from reading through many of the threads. My dad has recently been moved to assisted living after a pretty traumatic month of going through an ER and geriatric-psych facility. My 2 siblings, my mom, and I are all pretty burnt out and still working…
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Rapid decline(6)
For the last 2 years I’ve suspected my now 80 year old dad was started to get dementia. It seemed ok- and my two sisters and mom did not want to do anything about it. The last month has seen an incredible decline in his memory and he has started having rages and unbelievable paranoia. I live about 45 minutes away and do…
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Transitioning from 5 to 6
I believe my mom is beginning to move from stage 5 to 6. I’m curious what this process has looked like for others on here. Did you experience a sudden decline in ADL abilities or was it a more gradual process? Anything you noticed at the time would be interesting to me. I guess I’m trying to prepare myself.
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Routine cognitive screening can help detect early signs of dementia
Both of us lost our dads to Alzheimer’s disease, and both of our families carried extra burdens from dementia because the diagnoses were delayed. Diane’s family wondered if her dad’s personality changes were due to early retirement and feeling a loss of purpose. Nora’s family was puzzled by her dad’s trouble finding words…
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what's the right thing to say?
Now my wife has the idea that she'd like to apply for a volunteer or paid job, either shelving books at the library or peeling vegetables at a restaurant. These would be impossible, and put her "employer" in a very embarrasing position. She wants to approach the head librarian next time she's there. What's the best way to…
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DPOA and enabling stepmother
Hello, I'm very new here. My dad was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's or dementia. The doctors said he needs an MRI to verify which. I have a strange situation as my stepmother is his primary caregiver. She hadn't had adequate doctors in to treat him. So I arranged a geriatric doctor with a program that does housecalls.…
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webnar this week
Dementia Alliance International https://mail.aol.com/webmail-std/en-us/basic#
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Small win - DH voluntarily switched to Depends!!!
I am happy to report that once again, good advice from this forum worked. It is always 1 step forward, 2 steps back with AD, but I'll take it! We were starting to see some early warning signs of incontinence, with drips and leaks plus dried pee odor. I had seen recommendations to just have Depends (or other brand) on hand…
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Mom complains no one in her MC will help her but she will not press her pendent button
Is it common for people with dementia to complain that no one will help them yet you learn that they not actually asked for help? I frequently get calls from my mom complaining no one will help her. Mom is in MC with Parkinson's. She is stuck in a wheel chair, has very limited mobility and what I consider to be pretty…
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How to deal with mom moving 2 hours away
Some of you have followed my posts about Park Merced (PM) which is by me and Eskaton which is two hours away by my brother whom I've had a falling out with over my mom in Sept. I thought I had things figured out and have been in the process of trying to get my mom in PM; however, there are issues. They have one…
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Lesson Learned
Was taking DH out for a ride yesterday. As usual, took some time to get him into vehicle. Before going through the process of securing him with seat belt, etc., I placed my keys, purse, cell phone on the driver's seat not realizing I closed the door of the vehicle. I went to the passenger side to check on DH to ensure he…
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Chuckle for the day(2)
I spoke with MIL's 90-year old sister Alma yesterday. She said that MIL has been complaining to her that we (DH and I) never tell her anything so she's always surprised when we go somewhere. We literally tell her multiple times the day before and the day of...but, of course, MIL simply can't remember. I just had to laugh.…
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Please let me know?
Please let me know if I am adding to much information to this site. I do a lot of reading and these are things I feel are import to share here. That is only bout a 5th of what I read. If it to much please let me know. Thanks
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Just wondering
Hi all just wonder if anybody could give me advise. My mom is 92 was diagnosed with early stage Alzheimer's in early 2018....she chose to go to assisted living she didn't want anybody taking care of her in her home. Her memory was ok..we had stopped her from driving before the diagnosis. Anyway she stayed in assisted…
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Dementia and Pain
My mother has dementia and has some very vague pain that, at times, has her in tears. It comes and goes with no correlation to time of day or activity. She says it hurts all over. She's had every scan, ultrasound, and blood test done, all coming back normal. She gets bounced back and forth from her PCP to GI to Neuro, with…
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Reasoning with LO
My father is my mother's primary caregiver and they live close by. Last night he called me asking to sit her down with my sibling this weekend to talk to her about her condition (dementia diagnosis). I have different thoughts on this; will she be able to recall a conversation about it? How necessary is it for her to…
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The National Alliance for Caregiving Calls on White House to Prioritize Family Caregivers When Devel
https://finance.yahoo.com/news/national-alliance-caregiving-calls-white-120000644.html
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Alzheimer’s Foundation of America unveils “The Apartment,” full-scale model dementia-friendly reside
Alzheimer’s Foundation of America unveils “The Apartment,” full-scale model dementia-friendly residence (Alzheimer's Foundation of America (custom credit) | Alzheimer's Foundation of America) By KOLD News 13 Staff Published: May. 22, 2021 at 12:50 AM EDT|Updated: 8 hours ago TUCSON, Ariz. (KOLD News 13) - The Alzheimer’s…
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Careblazers?
I don't remember how I got on the email list for Careblazers, but they just sent me a description of an online caregiver course for about $300. At this point I would pay almost anything to be better at this 24/7 job and not let it exaust me. But I wonder if the course would probably repeat what I've learned from several…
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update on my mother after hip fracture
I posted several weeks ago after my mother, who was roughly stage 4 then, broke her hip. I received a lot of helpful and supportive advice that I appreciated greatly. She had a very tough time in rehab, not physically, but emotionally. Due to COVID, I could not visit and she was never able to understand where she was or…
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Obsessed with shaver/stubble
This has been going on a while with my FIL. He has a skin picking issue that started last year. He is convinced that he is feeling stubble, so he picks more and more trying to get rid of the stubble, but it is actually scabs or dry skin he is trying to get rid of. We have tried everything, the only things that work are…
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Caregiver 101 - What you wish you were told?
Early this year 2021, my elderly aunt with dementia moved from out-of-state to live with me in my one bedroom apartment. Without getting into the family drama of how this all unfolded, for varying reasons I am caring for her. She has no children and was a widow who remarried. As for many, 2020 was a defining year, and…
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Elder Abuse in People Living with Dementia: Considerations for Prevention, Detection and Interventio
On June 23, 2021 from 2-3 p.m. ET, please join the National Alzheimer’s and Dementia Resource Center for the webinar, Elder Abuse in People Living with Dementia: Considerations for Prevention, Detection and Intervention. A description of the webinar and registration information follows. Elder mistreatment is a common…
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Walking downstairs
My mom spends all of her days upstairs because she is afraid to ask down the steps. We try & explain that we will help her & we won't let her fall. She won't do it. We got a chairlift & she's too afraid to ride it. She gets so sad because she wants to go for walks, (in a wheelchair), but she won't come down the stairs.…