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Any advice re: meds?
My mom is in AL and calls me most every day saying she doesn't get her meds. I know they give them to her. We've addressed this issue and they have her initial her calendar each day after she takes them. Now she says that's not her writing. Any one have any ideas on how else to reassure her that she is getting her…
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LO obsessed with baby doll
I had gotten my Mom a kitten that purrs when you pet it that she really enjoyed. For Mother's Day, I got her a baby doll. She loved it, kissed it, talked to it, and cuddled with it. I got a call from MC. They said Mom has become obsessed with the baby. She won't put it down. She is not eating because she won't put the baby…
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nearing the end of the journey
My DH took a real nosedive about 2 weeks ago and is now under hospice care. They are anticipating several weeks but I don't see that long. Such a big piece of me wants this journey over for everyone. It is breaking my heart to see my big strong man now laying in bed unable to move. Yet there is still a piece that can't…
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should I stay or should I go... noooowwww
opposite world:yes = no, girl = boy and visa versa. Oh my goodness, the communication issues. So baffling. The last couple of days have been very trying for me. I actually felt my skin crawl, needing to get awaaaayyyyyyy!!! I’m thinkint it’s time to step back even more. Although I am the primary caregiver for my mom, I…
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Classic Stumped Town
If you are in need of a laugh... Mother's Day Misery - What did you get your mother for Mother's Day? We got ours torture. https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/mother-s-day-dementia-misery
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Recent diagnosis. Need help/advice/a place to vent
My father a fall in January 2021. When I tell you it was an overnight change, I mean exactly that. The night before his fall, he was perfectly fine. The morning he fell, all of a sudden he is incontinent, trouble walking. Literally an overnight change though I was noticing some memory loss a couple month prior to the fall,…
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96-year-old Mother
After 35 years of living independently in her townhome, following our father's death, my mother had a fall last November which resulted in hip and wrist surgery. Since then she's had two more falls and is in a senior center, needing care for dressing, bathroom, meals, etc. She now mainly lives in a wheelchair. She's always…
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Memory Care - Price negotiations
Hi everyone, We have decided we are getting my mom out of her current place ASAP. I sincerely appreciate all the advice I've gotten on my previous post. Thank you! I am in the process of finding her new place. I was just wondering if anyone ever negotiates the cost of assisted living? If so how does that work? We don't…
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Late night adventures, help please?
My dad takes naps during the day (I don't think he should be) and then at night he seems to find a reason to get up. Example 1: waking us up at 2am requesting an appointment. When asking why, he struggles to think of a reason and then will say "my hip" or "leg". He has sciatica and we have been to doctors, he take…
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Trauma and Dementia
My mother has been paddling through dementia for years now. At first my father took care of her, mostly on his own when she was in the initial stages. About a year ago she started sleeping a lot and became disinterested in her usual activities. At that point my siblings and I brought on a helper once a week to try to give…
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Dr. took mom off all meds
My mother was on Memantine, Donepezil and Quetiapine. The first 2 caused her explosive, continual diarrhea the last caused her extreme skin picking. This is the 2nd day and I have noticed that she is better so far. I read where Quetiapine should never be given to Alz patients, but at the day care center everyone of them…
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Testing for me for ALZ
Mom has Alz. I want to know what test are available for early screening for me. Does anyone know?
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Paranoia/Delusional
My mother is moving into this phase and at times is convinced "they" are going to kill her and her dog. Looking for advise! Thanks!
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Dad in AL for 6 weeks - how often should we visit
We moved my dad into AL 6 weeks ago. Before that he lived with my mom for 62+ years. So this is new for all of us. After a 2 week quarantine, we have been able to visit my dad 2 times a week. We have a hard time getting my mom to visit him once a week and so I have been going twice a week since the beginning. Except this…
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Assisted Living for LO
Hello, I've been a care taker for Mom who has passed away from dementia. Now my Dad (who is 92 years old), is getting worse with the screaming and paranoid, hallucinations, and more agitated. (I'm his only care taker). He no longer wants me to go out of the house because he thinks I'm running around with a gang, or I'm…
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Mom died last night. Dad has dementia. He keeps forgetting that she died.
We just learned how bad Dad's dementia is. In the last two years Dad hasn't been more than 100 feet away from Mom. Mom died last night of cancer. The mortuary has taken her body away. He notices she is missing. He asks where she is. He sometimes remembers she has cancer then demands to be taken to the hospital to see her.…
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Newbie looking for holistic support (long)
81 year old mother, diagnosed w/cognitive impairment 4 or 5 years ago. Brought her home 4 weeks ago for a myriad of reasons. Primary question today is holistic/nutritional advice. I will certainly research & get approval from her NP or Neurologist prior to any changes or recommendations. (Don’t like her Neurologist, love…
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Happy Mother's Day, Mom.
I wish all you mothers, whether you are living with dementia or loving and caring for someone who is - a wonder filled Mother's Day! You are the heart of the world. Happy Mother's Day https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/happy-mother-s-day Indolence, thy name is Lickety.…
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Need Advice - My mom is getting into trouble!
Hi Everyone,My Father passed away in January and we moved my mother to the memory care area of her senior living complex. She wanders into other patients rooms. While she's in their rooms she disassembles electronics.. such as TVs, lights, cords. Pretty much anything she can get her hands on. She does this in her own room…
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LO becoming aggressive
My mom is 91 and in a skilled nursing facility. The staff are wonderful. I really want mom to stay at this facility. But she is becoming aggressive. She is kicking, hitting, throwing things, yelling mean things. I live an hours and 45 minutes away and because of COVID, I can't go into the building. I can see her for…
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All new to me(1)
My mom passed away 12/2/20, I moved my dad and his two pets in with my husband and I 2 days before Christmas. It did not take long to realize something was not right with dad. Yesterday we got the answers to our many questions; dad has dementia caused by moderate Alzheimer's. Now it all makes sense. I have no idea what his…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/10/21
ACCOMPLISH MUCH GOOD BY STAYING CLOSE TO JESUS * John 15:5 New King James Version “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing." * me: It took me forever to have faith that the Lord gives me what I need; He fights my battles; He is in control,…
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Completely destroyed mentally and physically from the inability to get help.
Can’t understand why it’s so hard to find help
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Mom has started to take showers on her own in the middle of the night!
My 89 yr old mom is now in mid to late stage Alzheimer's with dementia. We have gone through some of the "typical" phases with her behaviors that have been manageable up to this point. In these last couple of days she has been getting up in the middle of the night and attempting to shower and dress herself. When I "caught…
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Help with placing a parent in assisted living
Hi I am the one looking for help with this. I have been helping my Dad for close to a year an a half who has alzheimers, I have worked on his VA benefits, took over his finances paying his bills, monitoring his accounts etc.. I became POA early on realizing he was going to become unable to make coherent decisions and I…
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He fell for a scam
Hi Gang, its been a while since I posted here. I really needed to get it out to people who may understand or have similar experiences. MY LO fell for a scam. He went to the bank and demanded a money order for 50 grand. Thankfully he got a bank teller who cared enough to deny his request. My LO has always been very prudent…
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Advice please!
I’m fairly new here and this is my first post. My DH was diagnosed in February with AD. I saw slight changes for several years but this past summer, there was a significant downhill slide with several potentially dangerous incidents. I was finally able to get his PCP to refer him to a gerontologist. He is still able to…
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Levels of clarity
I am new to forum and new to the realm of dementia. My dad was recently diagnosed with LBD which has moved at a rapid pace since the beginning of the year. My brother and I have notice lately that when my brother visits or talk with dad, he seems to be much more lucid and more himself. But when I visit or talk to him, he…
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mornings? how to deal with seeing people?
Almost every morning now, mom thinks someone else is in the house. It is just her and my dad. I try to reassure her no one else is there. Dad locked the doors and wouldn't let anyone in. I think she sometimes thinks my dad is the stranger until she sees him and recognizes him. Some times she thinks it's her father and she…
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Reliable In Home Care for Dad with Alz (and a burned out mom)
Hello everyone. We are in a bit of a pickle. We are working with an in home health care company with mixed results. We have a woman who comes Tues and Thurs for 2 hours and she's wonderful and very consistant. Then we needed to increase care but she wasn't available. So we've had a revolving door from Mon-Wed-Fri. First we…