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Mom complains no one in her MC will help her but she will not press her pendent button
Is it common for people with dementia to complain that no one will help them yet you learn that they not actually asked for help? I frequently get calls from my mom complaining no one will help her. Mom is in MC with Parkinson's. She is stuck in a wheel chair, has very limited mobility and what I consider to be pretty…
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How to deal with mom moving 2 hours away
Some of you have followed my posts about Park Merced (PM) which is by me and Eskaton which is two hours away by my brother whom I've had a falling out with over my mom in Sept. I thought I had things figured out and have been in the process of trying to get my mom in PM; however, there are issues. They have one…
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Lesson Learned
Was taking DH out for a ride yesterday. As usual, took some time to get him into vehicle. Before going through the process of securing him with seat belt, etc., I placed my keys, purse, cell phone on the driver's seat not realizing I closed the door of the vehicle. I went to the passenger side to check on DH to ensure he…
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Chuckle for the day(2)
I spoke with MIL's 90-year old sister Alma yesterday. She said that MIL has been complaining to her that we (DH and I) never tell her anything so she's always surprised when we go somewhere. We literally tell her multiple times the day before and the day of...but, of course, MIL simply can't remember. I just had to laugh.…
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Please let me know?
Please let me know if I am adding to much information to this site. I do a lot of reading and these are things I feel are import to share here. That is only bout a 5th of what I read. If it to much please let me know. Thanks
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Just wondering
Hi all just wonder if anybody could give me advise. My mom is 92 was diagnosed with early stage Alzheimer's in early 2018....she chose to go to assisted living she didn't want anybody taking care of her in her home. Her memory was ok..we had stopped her from driving before the diagnosis. Anyway she stayed in assisted…
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Dementia and Pain
My mother has dementia and has some very vague pain that, at times, has her in tears. It comes and goes with no correlation to time of day or activity. She says it hurts all over. She's had every scan, ultrasound, and blood test done, all coming back normal. She gets bounced back and forth from her PCP to GI to Neuro, with…
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Reasoning with LO
My father is my mother's primary caregiver and they live close by. Last night he called me asking to sit her down with my sibling this weekend to talk to her about her condition (dementia diagnosis). I have different thoughts on this; will she be able to recall a conversation about it? How necessary is it for her to…
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The National Alliance for Caregiving Calls on White House to Prioritize Family Caregivers When Devel
https://finance.yahoo.com/news/national-alliance-caregiving-calls-white-120000644.html
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Alzheimer’s Foundation of America unveils “The Apartment,” full-scale model dementia-friendly reside
Alzheimer’s Foundation of America unveils “The Apartment,” full-scale model dementia-friendly residence (Alzheimer's Foundation of America (custom credit) | Alzheimer's Foundation of America) By KOLD News 13 Staff Published: May. 22, 2021 at 12:50 AM EDT|Updated: 8 hours ago TUCSON, Ariz. (KOLD News 13) - The Alzheimer’s…
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Careblazers?
I don't remember how I got on the email list for Careblazers, but they just sent me a description of an online caregiver course for about $300. At this point I would pay almost anything to be better at this 24/7 job and not let it exaust me. But I wonder if the course would probably repeat what I've learned from several…
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update on my mother after hip fracture
I posted several weeks ago after my mother, who was roughly stage 4 then, broke her hip. I received a lot of helpful and supportive advice that I appreciated greatly. She had a very tough time in rehab, not physically, but emotionally. Due to COVID, I could not visit and she was never able to understand where she was or…
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Obsessed with shaver/stubble
This has been going on a while with my FIL. He has a skin picking issue that started last year. He is convinced that he is feeling stubble, so he picks more and more trying to get rid of the stubble, but it is actually scabs or dry skin he is trying to get rid of. We have tried everything, the only things that work are…
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Caregiver 101 - What you wish you were told?
Early this year 2021, my elderly aunt with dementia moved from out-of-state to live with me in my one bedroom apartment. Without getting into the family drama of how this all unfolded, for varying reasons I am caring for her. She has no children and was a widow who remarried. As for many, 2020 was a defining year, and…
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Elder Abuse in People Living with Dementia: Considerations for Prevention, Detection and Interventio
On June 23, 2021 from 2-3 p.m. ET, please join the National Alzheimer’s and Dementia Resource Center for the webinar, Elder Abuse in People Living with Dementia: Considerations for Prevention, Detection and Intervention. A description of the webinar and registration information follows. Elder mistreatment is a common…
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Walking downstairs
My mom spends all of her days upstairs because she is afraid to ask down the steps. We try & explain that we will help her & we won't let her fall. She won't do it. We got a chairlift & she's too afraid to ride it. She gets so sad because she wants to go for walks, (in a wheelchair), but she won't come down the stairs.…
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Fixated on Visiting mother
My mother has late stage EOAD, and for the last 3 days, she is convinced that her mother lives down the street from her and she MUST bring her mother some trinkets she found in her belongings. (Her mother lives about 12 hours away). We have tried telling her that we can 'visit her mother soon' or mail the items to her.…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/19/21
BE HOLY * John 17:17-19 NKJV “Sanctify them by Your truth. Your word is truth. As You sent Me into the world, I also have sent them into the world. And for their sakes I sanctify Myself, that they also may be sanctified by the truth.” * Galatians 5:22-23 NKJV “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering,…
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My frustration & anger is at an all time high
Just really need a vent session so I've chosen this as my platform, I believe at this stage I'm still very fortunate. My mom has LBD w/ Parkinson's 2 plus years in with the worst progression being the memory, repetition, repetition, repetition & arumentitive. There are other episodes that are much worse, but don't happen…
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Secret over spending
My father is showing increased signs of Dementia/Alzheimers and my mom is POA. I have stepped up to try and help her and take over my dad's role as bill payer, problem solver for their home. This is new territory and I'm looking for support and advice on how to deal with him. For the last few months he has been secretly…
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New Evaluation Guide for DFA Communities
Dementia Friendly America is pleased to share the newly released Dementia-Friendly Community Evaluation Guide. The Evaluation Guide, developed with funding from AARP, is geared toward local dementia-friendly community leaders and partners to help evaluate the impact of their DFA efforts. Measuring common outcomes of…
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When you question LO's caregiver
I'm not sure if LO's caregiver is willfully disagreeing with the neurologist and myself or is having their own issues. I'm not close with the caregiver and they are pretty much a "loner." Their only friend is a cousin who lives across the country. Their POA is still listed as LO followed by their sister who I've never met.…
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Do I leave cards for mom at AL or not?
Me again. So, I'm not sure where I read it but someone suggested leaving cards with uplifting messages and love enclosed for their LO for the first week or two while they are adjusting. Mom will be moving into Eskaton on Saturday and I'm supposed to stay away. I'm wondering if anyone has done this and if it helped or not?…
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She Cried - First Day of Day Care (Activity Center)
I took my sister to a trial day at the Adult Day Care where I would like her to go. We've talked about it over the last few months and I took her there once to walk around outside (due to Covid they weren't allowing visitors inside for tours). She got in the car okay, but started to cry on her way over. When we got to the…
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Near constant hallucinations and agitation- end stage alz
Hi friends in the same boat, Mom is in the 7th stage and was accepted into hospice. For several years, her agitation and aggressive outbursts on top of the usual Alz decline have been her norm. She is not pleasantly demented. She gradually lost continence, the ability to walk, sit, and converse. She can’t feed herself. She…
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can a son get a tax deduction for paying my dad's memory care costs?
Hello. My family is planning to continue paying my father's memory care facility costs in a year when his long term care insurance is exhausted. He has later stage vascular dementia, is 89 and his medical condition was well defined when he qualified to receive his LTC benefits from John Hancock. I'm planning to have my…
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Focus on Dog that was Given Away
Hello, I’m new to the forums and need some feedback around behaviors exhibited by my mother who was diagnosed with dementia. For the past month she has been focusing on a dog she previously owned and we had to re-home as she could no longer care for it. In the past couple of months she claims she has seen him in her…
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A visit to grandma
Hello. I received a call last week from my grandmother’s nursing home stating that she wasn’t eating any longer and is losing weight quickly. So I wanted to schedule a visit just in case her battle with ALZ is almost over. My dad (who has early onset) and I went to see her today for my birthday. At first, the visit was…
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Article - Communication Tips for Visits (or Everyday) with our LOs
Sharing... these are really good reminders of how to talk and be with our PWD loved ones. The article is intended for visiting someone with dementia, but I can see the value for everyday caregiving too. Do’s and Don’ts for Visiting Someone with Dementia – DailyCaring I struggle with #5: (communicating in short, 1 topic…
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Where to find hourly caregivers
My dad is in a residential care home where he is one of two residents with a live-in round-the-clock caregiver. It's getting very difficult for him to continue to walk and even get up to the chair, I would like to continue to do that as long as possible. Unfortunately it requires two people to get him out of the bed and…