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Dad in despair-don't know what else to do
Hello all! My mom was diagnosed with AlZ about 5 years ago and I'm still trying to figure out how much more I can do for my dad. Of course, this has been devastating to him and is to everyone. Prior to the diagnosis, he kept from us information or minimized what was going on. After the diagnosis, he struggled with…
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The Transition: How Do You Cope?!?
Well, the time has come: my LO with Alzheimer’s disease will be transitioning to a SNF with MC next week. I have been my 79-year-old mom’s primary caregiver since 2018. She’s widowed and doesn’t remember ever getting married or having a child. Tuesday, an admissions specialist came to the house to observe Mom. At that…
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Changing care takers
my husband and I are his grandmothers (who has demetia) current caretakers. we were recently asked to move out so her children can take care of her. we dont want to cause her any trauma so we were thinking about moving slowly so she can get used to seeing them more rather than us. if anyone has any tips on how to do this…
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Professionals???
Are there any professionals that help with this forum?
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I'd like to go to Disneyland
Yes, my sister just told me she'd like to go to Disneyland - as soon as possible. In my head I said "hahahahahahahaha, no." Out loud, and to her, I said - "oh, I think Disneyland is still closed. They still have to figure out how to do social distancing and clean all the rides." Who knows if that's true, what matters is…
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Is he nearing the end?
My DH is in advanced stage Alz. For the past five days he has wanted to do nothing but sleep and sit in a chair and stare. I managed to get him out for a walk yesterday but we used to take rides to the park and walk. It is extremely difficult making him understand how to get into the car - he just wanders around. Lately he…
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Moving to MC(1)
So, we made the decision a few weeks back to move my FIL into Memory Care. We haven’t set a date but it will likely be the first week of May as the paperwork and logistics are taking a while. Last night, I felt overwhelmed with sadness over it all. Filling out paperwork has made it so much more real and I wonder if I am…
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Living with a dementia patient
After working with a specialist in dementia the past few weeks, we've discovered my mother does have the alzheimers and vascular dementia the hospital diagnosed. But those two are likely as a result of FTD which started perhaps upwards of a couple decades ago when she was in her mid 50s and started making strange…
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HELP. How do I get my mom to leave her house? Tried before and failed.
Hi there, I really need some ideas on how to get my mom out of her house and in AL with the least amount of upset and drama. In Sept.2020 we tried this and she was a nightmare. The place made us pay $7,000 to have someone stay with her to make sure she didn't walk off. She was 2 hours away in my brother's home town and…
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Disability lawyer recommendations New York
Hi - looking for personal recommendations for attorneys who have successfully handled long term disability insurance claims for clients with MCI/early onset who have had to give up work. Attorneys qualified in New York and practicing in New York City preferred. Many thanks
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Feel soo guilty
Hi, My mom was diagnosed with Alz a year ago and she still lives at home alone and I go over a few times a week, call twice daily and have recently taken over all her financials. This is not even the hard stage of Alz- she is actually pleasant and doing all she can to take care of herself. I feel overwhelmed and have…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 4/26/21
Just a note to all who come here. I love "hearing from you!" Please feel free to comment anytime. Ronnie (VKB) CREATED FOR JESUS GOD THOUGHT: Colossians 1:16-17 NIV “For in him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things have…
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Does Memantime work for anyone's LO?
My mom's been taking memantime for a couple of years. I don't feel like it's helping at all and I'm considering stopping it. Does anyone have experience with stopping memantime and their LO experiencing worsening symptoms? Anyone start it and see improvements? TY
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Caregiver & Hospitalization
I was curious to find out if Medicare would let my husband be in a nursing home for a short time if I ever had to be hospitalized. My husband is Alzheimer's stage 6 and I have no friends or relatives that would be capable to care for him for several days or two weeks if needed.
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Helping with the grieving process
My FIL just died and my MIL has Alzheimer’s. Most of the time she doesn’t remember he died. Should we tell her every time she ask where he is that he died? Every time we do it is like the first time. This is so very hard!! Please help!!
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Divulging a LO’s diagnosis
When out and about with your LO, when you need to let another person know that your LO has dementia/cognitive issues how do you go about it? I usually find myself sneaking the words “she has Alzheimer’s/dementia” as quite and quickly as possible, because the mention of it causes my mom to get angry/mad if only for a few…
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Delusions about cheating spouse
My mom is 73, my stepdad is 75. Mom has dementia and is absolutely convinced that my stepdad is cheating on her. He has plenty of health issues as week. She causes him weekly of cheating on her. It is causing a huge rift between them. She's also convinced that my bio dad, who has been divorced from her for 45 years is…
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Mom's telephone problems
Hi I joined yesterday and I'm sure that I'll have more questions and comments. Top of mind though right now is how to solve a telephone problem with my mom. The issue is that mentally and physically more and more often she can't use the phone properly. The background is that she's 85 years old in memory care. She has…
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Aggression in Memory Care facility
Hello everyone. We transitioned my dad to a memory care facility earlier this week and he’s having a terrible time transitioning. He’s refusing to take his medications and now he’s become violent. The facility had him taken to the hospital during the night. What are our options? What happens next? Thanks everyone.
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Mom has dementia and lives with me and my Wife
Hello. My mother lives at my house. She has decided that she only wants to speak to me and not my wife. This started in October 2020. She feels like my wife is trying to harm and will not speak with her unless she decides to be aggressive and basically curse her out when I am not home. It is stressing my out because she…
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Terrible guilt
My DH is rapidly progressing and the further he goes the more guilt I am experiencing. I keep reading how diet can stop progression and possibly even reverse symptoms. Has anyone else read this information and does anyone have evidence that it works? I feel like I initiated diet changes too late when I retired to take care…
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Problem with getting Mom out of bed
Hello This is my first time on this site. I am the sole caregiver for my mother. She is 91 years old and was diagnosed about 4 years ago with dementia. She has been living with me for about 3 months now. She remains totally mobile, but can never be left alone and has absolutely no short term memory. I have a million…
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How Do I Respond?
When my Mom claims and insists that there are two of me or that I am not her son? If I respond in the way that would generally be considered "proper" by the "dementia authorities", I should kind of play along with it. But if I do that, I am giving her false information and starting a line of conversation that I don't know…
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I just want to go home
My mom, 76 has Alzheimer’s and possibly vascular dementia. She was diagnosed in 2015. She was in a memory care facility from 2016-July 2020. We moved her home because of the COVID lockdown. While at the facility and at home, she constantly asked me to take her home and gets agitated when I can’t/don’t. She then threatens…
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What are some signs that PWD is progressing to another stage?
What type of behavioral have you experienced with your LO? Is it often a uti? I need to know what others have experienced. Thank you.
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care placement
Hi all - this week I completed the paperwork to put my Mom on the waiting list for the local facility I have selected for her care. My Mom is in mid stage 6. Placement weighs so heavily on me, this is very tough. I know so many of you can relate to what I am am experiencing. I am wondering if anyone can give any guidance…
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transitioning to assisted living community
Seeking some advice on how you may have accomplished the same. Mom lives alone in her home that she shared with our Dad before he passed (9 years now) for over 30 years. She is in the mid stage of Dementia Alz. and is no longer safe living alone to include the typical symptoms of not taking medications properly, lack of…
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Mom with ES AD wants to move away alone
Really glad I found you all. I could use any help here.My mother and I currently reside in Lebanon. We made plans to move back to LA, which is facing some delay, because the US Embassy is closed and I need to process papers that could take months. Thankfully my mother is a US citizen so her process will be a breeze once we…
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New here ... sort of depressed today
Hi. I'm new to this forum, and am sort of depressed today, although nothing particularly bad has happened. I flew from my home in Atlanta to Albany NY to take care of my wife's brother, who has developed EO Alzheimer's disease. It became obvious it was dangerous for him to be here alone, and he has no surviving family…
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Traumatized and policies
I wrote earlier about my dad's violent incident. They have changed his medications...there was a mixup and they are trying a new one which he started yesterday. However I got a call last night after his birthday (I was there for that and he was extremely agitated) that he punched one of the workers and spit out his pills.…