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I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)

Small win - DH voluntarily switched to Depends!!!
I am happy to report that once again, good advice from this forum worked. It is always 1 step forward, 2 steps back with AD, but I'll take it! We were starting to see some early warning signs of incon…
Started by ButterflyWings
Most recent by KatieKat1
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May 23, 2021
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Mom complains no one in her MC will help her but she will not press her pendent button
Is it common for people with dementia to complain that no one will help them yet you learn that they not actually asked for help? I frequently get calls from my mom complaining no one will help her. M…
Started by John2.0.1
Most recent by John2.0.1
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May 23, 2021
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How to deal with mom moving 2 hours away
Some of you have followed my posts about Park Merced (PM) which is by me and Eskaton which is two hours away by my brother whom I've had a falling out with over my mom in Sept. I thought I had things …
Started by Marianne*
Most recent by jfkoc
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 23, 2021
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Lesson Learned
Was taking DH out for a ride yesterday. As usual, took some time to get him into vehicle. Before going through the process of securing him with seat belt, etc., I placed my keys, purse, cell phone on …
Started by KatieKat1
Most recent by KatieKat1
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 23, 2021
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Chuckle for the day(2)
I spoke with MIL's 90-year old sister Alma yesterday. She said that MIL has been complaining to her that we (DH and I) never tell her anything so she's always surprised when we go somewhere. We litera…
Started by Ginsamae
Most recent by Arrowhead
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 23, 2021
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Please let me know?
Please let me know if I am adding to much information to this site. I do a lot of reading and these are things I feel are import to share here. That is only bout a 5th of what I read. If it to much pl…
Started by Michael Ellenbogen
Most recent by Michael Ellenbogen
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 23, 2021
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Just wondering
Hi all just wonder if anybody could give me advise. My mom is 92 was diagnosed with early stage Alzheimer's in early 2018....she chose to go to assisted living she didn't want anybody taking care of h…
Started by Teresag56
Most recent by Teresag56
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 22, 2021
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Dementia and Pain
My mother has dementia and has some very vague pain that, at times, has her in tears. It comes and goes with no correlation to time of day or activity. She says it hurts all over. She's had every scan…
Started by Mae2582
Most recent by Teresag56
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May 22, 2021
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Reasoning with LO
My father is my mother's primary caregiver and they live close by. Last night he called me asking to sit her down with my sibling this weekend to talk to her about her condition (dementia diagnosis). …
Started by Teachertee
Most recent by Rescue mom
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 22, 2021
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The National Alliance for Caregiving Calls on White House to Prioritize Family Caregivers When Devel
https://finance.yahoo.com/news/national-alliance-caregiving-calls-white-120000644.html
Started by Michael Ellenbogen
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 22, 2021
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Alzheimer’s Foundation of America unveils “The Apartment,” full-scale model dementia-friendly reside
Alzheimer’s Foundation of America unveils “The Apartment,” full-scale model dementia-friendly residence (Alzheimer's Foundation of America (custom credit) | Alzheimer's Foundation of America) By KOLD …
Started by Michael Ellenbogen
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 22, 2021
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Careblazers?
I don't remember how I got on the email list for Careblazers, but they just sent me a description of an online caregiver course for about $300. At this point I would pay almost anything to be better a…
Started by DHVT
Most recent by Battlebuddy
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 22, 2021
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update on my mother after hip fracture
I posted several weeks ago after my mother, who was roughly stage 4 then, broke her hip. I received a lot of helpful and supportive advice that I appreciated greatly. She had a very tough time in reha…
Started by vtgsell
Most recent by abc123
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 21, 2021
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Obsessed with shaver/stubble
This has been going on a while with my FIL. He has a skin picking issue that started last year. He is convinced that he is feeling stubble, so he picks more and more trying to get rid of the stubble, …
Started by May flowers
Most recent by May flowers
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 21, 2021
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Caregiver 101 - What you wish you were told?
Early this year 2021, my elderly aunt with dementia moved from out-of-state to live with me in my one bedroom apartment. Without getting into the family drama of how this all unfolded, for varying rea…
Started by Reeni3
Most recent by LoriJim
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 21, 2021
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Elder Abuse in People Living with Dementia: Considerations for Prevention, Detection and Interventio
On June 23, 2021 from 2-3 p.m. ET, please join the National Alzheimer’s and Dementia Resource Center for the webinar, Elder Abuse in People Living with Dementia: Considerations for Prevention, Detecti…
Started by Michael Ellenbogen
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 21, 2021
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Walking downstairs
My mom spends all of her days upstairs because she is afraid to ask down the steps. We try & explain that we will help her & we won't let her fall. She won't do it. We got a chairlift & she's too afra…
Started by Sherry CO
Most recent by M1
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 20, 2021
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Fixated on Visiting mother
My mother has late stage EOAD, and for the last 3 days, she is convinced that her mother lives down the street from her and she MUST bring her mother some trinkets she found in her belongings. (Her mo…
Started by adrscheuerman
Most recent by sunnydove
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 20, 2021
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/19/21
BE HOLY * John 17:17-19 NKJV “Sanctify them by Your truth. Your word is truth. As You sent Me into the world, I also have sent them into the world. And for their sakes I sanctify Myself, that they als…
Started by VKB
Most recent by chrisp1653
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 20, 2021
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My frustration & anger is at an all time high
Just really need a vent session so I've chosen this as my platform, I believe at this stage I'm still very fortunate. My mom has LBD w/ Parkinson's 2 plus years in with the worst progression being the…
Started by Schmail13
Most recent by Schmail13
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May 19, 2021
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Secret over spending
My father is showing increased signs of Dementia/Alzheimers and my mom is POA. I have stepped up to try and help her and take over my dad's role as bill payer, problem solver for their home. This is n…
Started by slhforwmh
Most recent by [Deleted User]
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May 19, 2021
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New Evaluation Guide for DFA Communities
Dementia Friendly America is pleased to share the newly released Dementia-Friendly Community Evaluation Guide. The Evaluation Guide, developed with funding from AARP, is geared toward local dementia-f…
Started by Michael Ellenbogen
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 19, 2021
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When you question LO's caregiver
I'm not sure if LO's caregiver is willfully disagreeing with the neurologist and myself or is having their own issues. I'm not close with the caregiver and they are pretty much a "loner." Their only f…
Started by LaurenB
Most recent by adrscheuerman
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May 19, 2021
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Do I leave cards for mom at AL or not?
Me again. So, I'm not sure where I read it but someone suggested leaving cards with uplifting messages and love enclosed for their LO for the first week or two while they are adjusting. Mom will be mo…
Started by Marianne*
Most recent by zauberflote
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 19, 2021
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She Cried - First Day of Day Care (Activity Center)
I took my sister to a trial day at the Adult Day Care where I would like her to go. We've talked about it over the last few months and I took her there once to walk around outside (due to Covid they w…
Started by Marp
Most recent by Marp
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 18, 2021
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Near constant hallucinations and agitation- end stage alz
Hi friends in the same boat, Mom is in the 7th stage and was accepted into hospice. For several years, her agitation and aggressive outbursts on top of the usual Alz decline have been her norm. She is…
Started by ran2much
Most recent by Cynbar
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May 18, 2021
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can a son get a tax deduction for paying my dad's memory care costs?
Hello. My family is planning to continue paying my father's memory care facility costs in a year when his long term care insurance is exhausted. He has later stage vascular dementia, is 89 and his med…
Started by JohnGiver
Most recent by JJ401
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 18, 2021
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Focus on Dog that was Given Away
Hello, I’m new to the forums and need some feedback around behaviors exhibited by my mother who was diagnosed with dementia. For the past month she has been focusing on a dog she previously owned and …
Started by It’s a Dry Heat
Most recent by abc123
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 18, 2021
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A visit to grandma
Hello. I received a call last week from my grandmother’s nursing home stating that she wasn’t eating any longer and is losing weight quickly. So I wanted to schedule a visit just in case her battle wi…
Started by brittanymurray
Most recent by May flowers
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May 18, 2021
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Article - Communication Tips for Visits (or Everyday) with our LOs
Sharing... these are really good reminders of how to talk and be with our PWD loved ones. The article is intended for visiting someone with dementia, but I can see the value for everyday caregiving to…
Started by ButterflyWings
Most recent by May flowers
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
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May 18, 2021
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Commonly Used Abbreviations

DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)

I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)

Small win - DH voluntarily switched to Depends!!!

Mom complains no one in her MC will help her but she will not press her pendent button

How to deal with mom moving 2 hours away

Lesson Learned

Chuckle for the day(2)

Please let me know?

Just wondering

Dementia and Pain

Reasoning with LO

The National Alliance for Caregiving Calls on White House to Prioritize Family Caregivers When Devel

Alzheimer’s Foundation of America unveils “The Apartment,” full-scale model dementia-friendly reside

Careblazers?

update on my mother after hip fracture

Obsessed with shaver/stubble

Caregiver 101 - What you wish you were told?

Elder Abuse in People Living with Dementia: Considerations for Prevention, Detection and Interventio

Walking downstairs

Fixated on Visiting mother

Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/19/21

My frustration & anger is at an all time high

Secret over spending

New Evaluation Guide for DFA Communities

When you question LO's caregiver

Do I leave cards for mom at AL or not?

She Cried - First Day of Day Care (Activity Center)

Near constant hallucinations and agitation- end stage alz

can a son get a tax deduction for paying my dad's memory care costs?

Focus on Dog that was Given Away

A visit to grandma

Article - Communication Tips for Visits (or Everyday) with our LOs

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