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He fell for a scam
Hi Gang, its been a while since I posted here. I really needed to get it out to people who may understand or have similar experiences. MY LO fell for a scam. He went to the bank and demanded a money order for 50 grand. Thankfully he got a bank teller who cared enough to deny his request. My LO has always been very prudent…
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Advice please!
I’m fairly new here and this is my first post. My DH was diagnosed in February with AD. I saw slight changes for several years but this past summer, there was a significant downhill slide with several potentially dangerous incidents. I was finally able to get his PCP to refer him to a gerontologist. He is still able to…
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Levels of clarity
I am new to forum and new to the realm of dementia. My dad was recently diagnosed with LBD which has moved at a rapid pace since the beginning of the year. My brother and I have notice lately that when my brother visits or talk with dad, he seems to be much more lucid and more himself. But when I visit or talk to him, he…
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mornings? how to deal with seeing people?
Almost every morning now, mom thinks someone else is in the house. It is just her and my dad. I try to reassure her no one else is there. Dad locked the doors and wouldn't let anyone in. I think she sometimes thinks my dad is the stranger until she sees him and recognizes him. Some times she thinks it's her father and she…
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Reliable In Home Care for Dad with Alz (and a burned out mom)
Hello everyone. We are in a bit of a pickle. We are working with an in home health care company with mixed results. We have a woman who comes Tues and Thurs for 2 hours and she's wonderful and very consistant. Then we needed to increase care but she wasn't available. So we've had a revolving door from Mon-Wed-Fri. First we…
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Mom just fell ... is this associated with her Seroquel?
Dad and I both thought my mom was asleep. There were no sounds, no talking, the motion sensor was quiet, and all of a sudden we hear a huge thump! Mom got out of her bed. The bed has rails! How in the world?? She’s fine. Hospice checked her out and everything is ok. We had to put her in her Geri chair with the tray on…
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Early Onset- Don't know where to begin
Hi- This is my first time posting. My mom is 62 and was diagnosed with early onset in November. I am her only child & my parents were divorced & he's now deceased. Things really came to a head with Covid where she lost her job at the company she worked at for 30 years, but they did offer her an early retirement package. My…
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Reality check(1)
My Dad( 81) started the day at the doctors office ended up overnight in the hospital, currently still there . He has not been diagnosed with dementia, but does have physical issues and cancer. My Mom(82), currently diagnosed with mild dementia, was in the apartment at the assisted living center overnight by herself. Center…
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Secondary MPOA
First things first-THANK YOU to all who are on this board. It is a critical resource for people dealing with dementia. Now, here is my question. I realize it will probably require the service of a lawyer, but I trust the people on this board to shoot straight. My wife has been in MC since December of 2020. The facility is…
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New and needing advice: How much truth to tell Dad
I've been lurking here for several months and have found this community immensely helpful. My Dad's dementia is moderate-severe and he moved in with us in late January. He frequently talks about going to visit his parents and sometimes gets very adamant that we take him there. So far, I've been redirecting him and that has…
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Mother's Day(4)
Hi, I know it has been a while since I last came to this message board, but school and work have been hectic and sort of keeping me busy. I just wanted to, kind of vent, on how this year will be so difficult for me to see my Mom, who has early-onset Alzheimer's, 70 years young, and is in a nursing home since Nov. 2019,…
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Nursing Home Time?
How did you know it was time to put your LO in Memory Care or Nursing Home? Is there a point in this disease that a LO should go to a Nursing Home INSTEAD of Memory Care?
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Hand Tremors, Parkinson's, and grace
I have nobody to talk to so I am just getting this off of my chest. My mom was diagnosed with vascular dementia about 7 years ago. She can still do most things but in the past few months her mobility has degenerated drastically. She has had a mild left hand tremor for about a year and recently it has gotten rather bad. I…
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Help... rapidly deteriorating dementia parent
Hi all, I’m very new to this. My mother, 76 was just recently diagnosed with mild to moderate dementia. I have noticed some memory issues for a year or two, but chalked it up to being stressed or pre occupied. We now have a true diagnosis. The progression has become very rapid in the past 4 months. Since I am her only…
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Thinks she is capable, but very muddled in mild to moderate stage
I am the primary support for my best friend, who at age 69 has been diagnosed with probable Alzheimer’s. I am helping with sorting paperwork from her business and personal situation, to bring her business affairs up to date and automate / streamline banking etc. She has skewed perception of time, so panics if she sees an…
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Is this normal??
My mother was diagnosed from a neuropsychological test about 4 years ago. We had suspected this because of her declining ability to do some basic complex functions more than memory. Two months after that test, she had a stroke that destroyed her short term memory...that was pretty much the only long term effect the stroke…
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How did you approach the move to MC with your LO?
For those who moved your LO in a MC, when did you tell them and what did you say to get them there. One thing I’ve gotten from reading past threads is don’t approach it too early as it could mean days of being anxious. Hubby and I are concerned that he will be up all night if we tell him the night before so maybe the…
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newcomer and feeling overwhelmed
My mom is 91 and has been showing signs of dementia for awhile. She was living in assisted living and doing ok. then she fell and broke her hip in March; had partial hip replacement surgery. Physically, she is doing ok. but her dementia went from a 2 to 90 in a very short time. She is not able to go back to assisted…
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Different wishes between parents for living arrangements needs suggestions
I'm new here and looking for suggestions on how to handle my parents' different wishes for living arrangements. My dad has dementia and was moved to AL last month from apartment he shared with my mom. They have been married 63 years and have never been apart. My dad hates being by himself and wants to move to a 2 bedroom…
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AL with a MC option.... hour away or 5 min away
After reading feedback from another post I feel like I'm starting over again. I'm planning on moving my mom who at best is working in stage 4 and 5 somewhere depending on the day to an AL in my town 5 min. from me. Members have pointed out that moving her to AL that isn't a CCRC isn't wise and that's it's easier for PWD to…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/2/21
HOLD ONTO TRUTH NOT JUST FEELINGS * Psalm 22 NKJV “My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me? Why are You so far from helping Me, And from the words of My groaning?” * Psalm 22:4-5 NKJV “Our fathers trusted in You; They trusted, and You delivered them. 5 They cried to You, and were delivered; They trusted in You, and were…
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Removing shirt and pants, temperature or drug stoppage?
Six days ago we stopped taking Donepizil , Memantine and resperidone. It is much warmer last evening and today here in central texas, LO has removed shirt and pants once last evening and shirt today. This is not normal for her, just posing question to see if it has happened to others. Thanks for caring, Bass Man
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How to handle Alzheimer's patient who likes to take their clothes off
Hi everyone, My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in early 2017, and the progress has been quite fast. The last time her doctor examined her (last year), he said she's already in late stage of Alzheimer's, she's no longer recognized me and my sister, but she still remembers my dad. She's 66 and bedridden due to her…
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patch/shoe insert wandering GPS
Hi all, Does anyone have experience with any of the GPS type tracking devices offered at the Alzheimer's store? There is a shoe insert and patch type product too. Obviously we do all we can to prevent wandering but on two occasions recently my Mom has attempted to get out of the home while I was in the bathroom. Yesterday…
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I need some space(1)
Sorry in advance for this vent but I’m about to lose my mind. After DH’s diagnosis of AD and needing 24/7 supervision I am having a difficult time getting used to him following me everywhere I go in the house. He follows so closely that if I suddenly stop he plows right into me. If I am making his breakfast he is right at…
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Knowledge is power.
Finally some good things come out from researching on youtube. It is hard to move/transfer/change position of LO. LO is not totally paralyzed, it is more like she is weak and does not know what to do with her body. There are many youtube videos that teach you how to move LO with minimal strength and not breaking your back.…
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Spending Mistakes as an early indicator of dementia
This may be behind a paywall for some. How Spending Mistakes Can Be Early Signs of Alzheimer's - The New York Times (nytimes.com)
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Diagnosed at 41 years old
In TEXAS & New to the Group We started taking my sister to the doctors about 2 years ago because her signs of memory loss were getting worse and she was now starting to have trouble with her speech. Just a few months ago we finally found a geriatric dementia doctor to accept her as a patient. No one would take her because…
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Parkinson's Dementia really accellerating fast - alarmingly fast
Hi. So my mom was first diagnosed with Parkinson's over 20 years ago. She's 85. Around 2018-2019 my dad began talking to me about it more. But he didn't let on how hard he was working. In August 2019 dad died very suddenly and everyone was completely shocked. We quickly moved mom to an assisted living with her sister sort…
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Early Onset Alzheimer’s Neurologist in NYC
Hi everybody: Been getting really frustrated since my MCI diagnosis that even in Manhattan I’m having a tough time finding a neurologist who specializes in Alzheimer’s, is willing to order PET scans, CSF and genetic tests and doesn’t turn away patients below 55. I’m 48 and am having a tough time dealing with the “we can’t…