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Geriatric Psychiatrists question
Hi everyone, I've been desperately trying to find a geriatric psychiatrist for my mom for a while now, and even in the DC area it seems like an impossible task. I've only had 2 call backs and one person said "I'm not sure I'm the right fit, I don't think I can see her" and the other said that they don't take insurance, the…
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Unanswerable Question
DH is in mid stage and does pretty well with most everyday tasks (usually with a bit of supervision by me) But he's started asking to go to his Mom's house lately and she passed away in 2002 and his father back in the early 70's. Can someone suggest an answer that won't upset him, because I know he doesn't remember this at…
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Nothing new, just tired
How do any of you keep positive? I need advice! My mother has moderate to mostly severe dementia - per her neurologist. She still has days when it seems like she is there; others not so much. She still dresses and eats by herself (albeit slowly). She has physical limitations, which are not related to dementia - she has bad…
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Just getting started(1)
Thank you for this opportunity. My LO, (Dad) age 80, was just diagnosed with mild ALZ cognitive disorder. I'd like to help Mom out as much as possible but I don't know how. I've asked if all legal matters have been taken cared of (POA's, trusts, etc) and she says yes. One of the problems is that neither one of us know how…
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Trying to Figure Out How to Help my Mom
Hello, My Mom is 97 and recently had a major cardiac event and was diagnosed with Dementia at the same time. Although she was not perfect before, she was able to function and even be alone and independent during the night. In the past month, she has become a completely different person. She has the usual symptoms -…
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Family tension
Hey, y'all! First time poster here... My mom was diagnosed with EO ALZ back in early December. My dad told me on Christmas, I told my brother the following week, and we told my mom together the next week. It was rough. My dad and I have a rough relationship. We used to be super close, but my life has not turned out the way…
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Alzheimer’s Association offering respite care grants to Tri-County residents in need
Do you ever wonder why these idiots don’t post it here? The Alzheimer’s Association California Central Coast Chapter is offering financial assistance to Santa Barbara, San Luis Obispo and Ventura County caregivers in need of respite care for their loved ones with Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia.…
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If you have legal knowledge, I'm begging will you please answer a question for me
Anyone who reads this thank you so much for your time. For the last 4 years I live in a camper behind my Mom she has Alzheimer's so I take care of her everyday while her boyfriend is at work, running errands, and whatever. I am her POA for everything. Years ago my Mom filed papers at the courthouse stating that when she…
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Accepting help
My dad is in his element on the golf course. I go with him on the weekend but I want him to accept his aid as his “caddy” so that he can go more often. He is loving and sweet to me but sometimes he is mean to his aid saying he doesn’t need a babysitter. This Sunday, I plan to have the aid come with us so that she can see…
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Endless question loop.
I can usually handle the endless question loops. The current one is tearing me up. My loved one has forgotten her name and asks me repeatedly to tell her what it is.
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How Google Could Help People Living with Dementia
https://www.differentbrains.org/how-google-could-help-people-living-with-dementia/
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Very fast progression
Not sure what to do. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimers earlier this year. Background - As I think back I can see things that were probably hints he was dealing with something last, but when we visited things were in order around the house and he seemed fine, just forgetful at times. The only real confusion I saw was him…
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Portable shower that doesn't cost and arm and a leg?
Hello ALZ connected, My LO lives at home with me. With God's Grace she is free of medication. She is going to turn 89 this year and it's been a rough road but my LO is no longer combative and I think I'm getting the hang of the no-eating situation. I'm making foods she likes. Our problem is now the showering... My LO does…
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Bad day(5)
Today has been one of those days...when you say I give up...but know I can't. My mom is treating me and talking to me like I am a little girl. Everything I have done today she has laughed at me or made fun of me. I think this disease has her brain stuck in the time period when we didn't get along. I always felt like…
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Violent behavior or scared?
I was traumatized last night. I got a call at 2AM and they told me my dad was violent. He has been there 3 months in MC. I said I would come in 15 minutes and the nurse said that wasn't soon enough. When I arrived the police were in the lobby and the head nurse was telling them he was violent. What came out of my mouth was…
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M1, are you there?
M1, hoping to continue to hear from you. The last was that your partner fell and hit her head, and I, as well as many others, I'm sure, are concerned and would like to know how the two of you are doing. Thinking of you both.
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apologies, just need to vent
Hi All, Just feeling sad and tired today. Constantly doing for both parents, stayed over last nite because nighttime caregiver couldn't come. Changing mom's Depends, feeding her, etc. Back and forth all day today because we don't have daytime help on weekends (we have 4 hours on the weekdays but I am still there every…
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Stages and duration reference material
Abc123 asked me to start a thread specifically for this link. So here it is https://www.dementiacarecentral.com/aboutdementia/facts/stages/
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Medical Aid in Dying Dovumentary
"When My Time Comes" is a 60 minute PBS documentary that airs on my affiliate tonight (check your PBS station(s) for air dates/times). "Retired NPR radio host Diane Rehm visits with medical experts, religious leaders, and others to learn about Medical Aid in Dying and options for the terminally I'll and their families."
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How Do I Distract An Obsessive Dad
My dad has severe dementia & obsesses about different things. We can’t go far from the house cuz part of his obsessing is the bathroom. What can I do as a distraction?
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FIL having a few bad days
Though he remains gentle and cooperative, my FIL with dementia is having a rough few days. He is confused about where this house is. We've had the same conversation for three days. He asks where this is. I tell him as briefly and directly as possible. He seeks verification. Then again. He asks where the nearby village is…
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New Behavior(1)
My father was dx with lewy body dementia in April 2020. Over the past few weeks, he has started yelling at everyone and has to have his way immediately or he gets agitated. He expects us to drop whatever we are doing and do whatever he wants immediately. We are not sure how to handle this behavior. Does anyone have any…
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grief
There was an opinion piece in USAToday called "Driving My Spouse to the Afterlife" today. It really struck me. I had been grappling with saying "goodbye" to my mother over the past couple of months, even though she continues to be fairly healthy. But, she is no longer who she was. And I have felt profound grief in the loss…
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Sad and frustrated!
Hi all, my mom just had an appointment with a geriatric psychiatrist. She has yet to be diagnosed with dementia. We were hopeful this would be the appointment that would give us some answers. Mom wouldn’t let us go to the appt, so we wrote a detailed letter of what has transpired over the last year. The nurse met with mom…
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APAM and turn
Just bought an alternating pressure air mattresses as suggested by our members here. My question is if I still need to turn LO? like at least once at night?
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How to choose?
I’ve started touring facilities for my mom. My question is how do you decide which one will be ok? I have no real idea of what stage my mom is in. I take care of her 24/7. Here in MT, they say she can either go to AL or MC. I’m so torn on which to choose. She doesn’t communicate well so that’s a huge concern of mine.…
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Namenda question and Good Days/Bad Days
My Mom had a neurological appointment this week and during that visit based on her progression the doc advised she was well into stage 6. I had been thinking she was stage 5 or early stage 6. She still walks fine, speaks, can follow conversations, feeds herself mostly appropriately and has times where she is oriented fully…
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difficult evenings and not wanting to get out of bed
Hello! New to this site and hoping to learn from others. My mom has alzheimer's and lives in a nursing facility. Evenings are difficult due to sundowning and she will have increased anxiety, confusion, and yelling. Typically starts around 4ish and when staff get her up for supper. Mom would prefer to sleep and be left…
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Depakote added with Seroquel
Has anyone had a loved one that takes both Depakote and Seroquel? If so, I am wondering what reaction you see in the person you care for that takes both medications, and was it also for agitation and aggression? DH is already on Seroquel but the Neurologist suggested adding Depakote along with Seroquel for DH anxiety and…