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Mom's telephone problems
Hi I joined yesterday and I'm sure that I'll have more questions and comments. Top of mind though right now is how to solve a telephone problem with my mom. The issue is that mentally and physically more and more often she can't use the phone properly. The background is that she's 85 years old in memory care. She has…
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Aggression in Memory Care facility
Hello everyone. We transitioned my dad to a memory care facility earlier this week and he’s having a terrible time transitioning. He’s refusing to take his medications and now he’s become violent. The facility had him taken to the hospital during the night. What are our options? What happens next? Thanks everyone.
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Mom has dementia and lives with me and my Wife
Hello. My mother lives at my house. She has decided that she only wants to speak to me and not my wife. This started in October 2020. She feels like my wife is trying to harm and will not speak with her unless she decides to be aggressive and basically curse her out when I am not home. It is stressing my out because she…
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Terrible guilt
My DH is rapidly progressing and the further he goes the more guilt I am experiencing. I keep reading how diet can stop progression and possibly even reverse symptoms. Has anyone else read this information and does anyone have evidence that it works? I feel like I initiated diet changes too late when I retired to take care…
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Problem with getting Mom out of bed
Hello This is my first time on this site. I am the sole caregiver for my mother. She is 91 years old and was diagnosed about 4 years ago with dementia. She has been living with me for about 3 months now. She remains totally mobile, but can never be left alone and has absolutely no short term memory. I have a million…
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How Do I Respond?
When my Mom claims and insists that there are two of me or that I am not her son? If I respond in the way that would generally be considered "proper" by the "dementia authorities", I should kind of play along with it. But if I do that, I am giving her false information and starting a line of conversation that I don't know…
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I just want to go home
My mom, 76 has Alzheimer’s and possibly vascular dementia. She was diagnosed in 2015. She was in a memory care facility from 2016-July 2020. We moved her home because of the COVID lockdown. While at the facility and at home, she constantly asked me to take her home and gets agitated when I can’t/don’t. She then threatens…
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What are some signs that PWD is progressing to another stage?
What type of behavioral have you experienced with your LO? Is it often a uti? I need to know what others have experienced. Thank you.
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care placement
Hi all - this week I completed the paperwork to put my Mom on the waiting list for the local facility I have selected for her care. My Mom is in mid stage 6. Placement weighs so heavily on me, this is very tough. I know so many of you can relate to what I am am experiencing. I am wondering if anyone can give any guidance…
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transitioning to assisted living community
Seeking some advice on how you may have accomplished the same. Mom lives alone in her home that she shared with our Dad before he passed (9 years now) for over 30 years. She is in the mid stage of Dementia Alz. and is no longer safe living alone to include the typical symptoms of not taking medications properly, lack of…
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Mom with ES AD wants to move away alone
Really glad I found you all. I could use any help here.My mother and I currently reside in Lebanon. We made plans to move back to LA, which is facing some delay, because the US Embassy is closed and I need to process papers that could take months. Thankfully my mother is a US citizen so her process will be a breeze once we…
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New here ... sort of depressed today
Hi. I'm new to this forum, and am sort of depressed today, although nothing particularly bad has happened. I flew from my home in Atlanta to Albany NY to take care of my wife's brother, who has developed EO Alzheimer's disease. It became obvious it was dangerous for him to be here alone, and he has no surviving family…
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Traumatized and policies
I wrote earlier about my dad's violent incident. They have changed his medications...there was a mixup and they are trying a new one which he started yesterday. However I got a call last night after his birthday (I was there for that and he was extremely agitated) that he punched one of the workers and spit out his pills.…
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fall
Mom fell out of bed. Installed a bed rail. And she still managed fell when trying to get off bed. I did not know how long she stuck between bed and wall. It hurts to think about it. Things all change so fast. I can not keep up. I am fixing things after bad things happen instead of prevent it before. Sigh. I found this very…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 4/24/21
I AM LOVED! I AM FORGIVEN! I AM GUIDED! NO FEAR! * Psalm 46:10 Good News Translation “’Stop fighting,’ he says, ‘and know that I am God, supreme among the nations, supreme over the world.’” Romans 8:1 Amplified Bible “Therefore there is now no condemnation [no guilty verdict, no punishment] for those who are in Christ…
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Long term care policy and receiving payment as a Caregiver
I am the caregiver for my mother. She has a long term care insurance policy that will pay for in-home care however it will only pay me as her caregiver if I am employed by a approved/qualified health care agency. Has anyone had experience with becoming employed by an agency to gain some access to benefits provided by long…
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Legal implications of driving after dementia diagnosis
I need help in convincing my 87 year old husband with dementia to stop driving. He has a new car after wrecking his previous one and a few days ago ran into a brick wall along our driveway. He still does not understand the need to stop driving.
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How to convince my mother to move out of her house
Hello...I'm new here and have been reading so many posts, learning as I go. My mother is 80 and lives with her 90 year old companion in the house I grew up in. She hasn't been formally diagnosed with Alzheimers but her father had it and her dementia is progressing. She's forgetful and confused often and mail is her biggest…
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First
Hello all, My mom’s has mid-stage Alzheimer’s. She still knows who I am and enjoys talking to me about my kids (who she vaguely remembers). The conversation goes in circles, but she’s cheerful, even laughing and making jokes. My dad (her solo caregiver) says he doesn’t want me having that kind of conversation with her…
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Geriatric Psychiatrists question
Hi everyone, I've been desperately trying to find a geriatric psychiatrist for my mom for a while now, and even in the DC area it seems like an impossible task. I've only had 2 call backs and one person said "I'm not sure I'm the right fit, I don't think I can see her" and the other said that they don't take insurance, the…
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Unanswerable Question
DH is in mid stage and does pretty well with most everyday tasks (usually with a bit of supervision by me) But he's started asking to go to his Mom's house lately and she passed away in 2002 and his father back in the early 70's. Can someone suggest an answer that won't upset him, because I know he doesn't remember this at…
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Nothing new, just tired
How do any of you keep positive? I need advice! My mother has moderate to mostly severe dementia - per her neurologist. She still has days when it seems like she is there; others not so much. She still dresses and eats by herself (albeit slowly). She has physical limitations, which are not related to dementia - she has bad…
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Just getting started(1)
Thank you for this opportunity. My LO, (Dad) age 80, was just diagnosed with mild ALZ cognitive disorder. I'd like to help Mom out as much as possible but I don't know how. I've asked if all legal matters have been taken cared of (POA's, trusts, etc) and she says yes. One of the problems is that neither one of us know how…
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Trying to Figure Out How to Help my Mom
Hello, My Mom is 97 and recently had a major cardiac event and was diagnosed with Dementia at the same time. Although she was not perfect before, she was able to function and even be alone and independent during the night. In the past month, she has become a completely different person. She has the usual symptoms -…
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Family tension
Hey, y'all! First time poster here... My mom was diagnosed with EO ALZ back in early December. My dad told me on Christmas, I told my brother the following week, and we told my mom together the next week. It was rough. My dad and I have a rough relationship. We used to be super close, but my life has not turned out the way…
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Alzheimer’s Association offering respite care grants to Tri-County residents in need
Do you ever wonder why these idiots don’t post it here? The Alzheimer’s Association California Central Coast Chapter is offering financial assistance to Santa Barbara, San Luis Obispo and Ventura County caregivers in need of respite care for their loved ones with Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia.…
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If you have legal knowledge, I'm begging will you please answer a question for me
Anyone who reads this thank you so much for your time. For the last 4 years I live in a camper behind my Mom she has Alzheimer's so I take care of her everyday while her boyfriend is at work, running errands, and whatever. I am her POA for everything. Years ago my Mom filed papers at the courthouse stating that when she…
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Accepting help
My dad is in his element on the golf course. I go with him on the weekend but I want him to accept his aid as his “caddy” so that he can go more often. He is loving and sweet to me but sometimes he is mean to his aid saying he doesn’t need a babysitter. This Sunday, I plan to have the aid come with us so that she can see…
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Endless question loop.
I can usually handle the endless question loops. The current one is tearing me up. My loved one has forgotten her name and asks me repeatedly to tell her what it is.
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How Google Could Help People Living with Dementia
https://www.differentbrains.org/how-google-could-help-people-living-with-dementia/