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$1450 lesson
A lady who requires 24 hour care lives 3 units away from us in our condo complex. She has many aids and sometimes they take her out. Somehow her unit became infected with bedbugs. She sits in the lobby on a padded bench while waiting for the aid to bring the car around. DH likes to sit on the same bench while waiting for…
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medications
Which medicines seem to work best for symptoms of dementia,in your opinion.
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Question about my wife not knowing who I am
Wondering if the next phase my DW completely forgets me She has forgotten our marriage for a while now but more and more she will look right at me and ask where Howard is, even when I'm sitting right next to her on the couch holding her hand. I'll say I'm right here and she will say I'm not him. Wondering how soon she…
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Sobering development
Well its my turn to deal with serious and unexpected illness, and to have to figure out all the implications. I got abruptly short of breath today and long story short,I'm the ER waiting for a stepdown bed with a big pulmonary embolus. I fell a few weeks back and tore my hamstring, so they think the leg injury is the…
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Deciding to use medications.. please advise
MY DH fell again in memory care and he injured his forehead and elbow. The hospice nurse used steri strips to stop the bleeding and gave him a morphine pill for pain. They said his head and elbow are bandaged. The hospice nurse asked me what I wanted to do if and when he gets an infection, UTI etc. Do I want them to use…
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Aricept
My husband has just started Aricept , it is 10 mg. at night.he was recently diagnosed with Parkinsonism/Lewy Body dementia. Have you had good results? Any bad side effects..the neurologist did say it could cause nausea or stomach issues. This is all new ...learning as we go.
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physical and aggressive behavior
Hi, This is about my FIL. He is 92 and he is living at home with a full time aide. He never had a diagnosis from a neurologist (don't ask me why, I am only the DIL) but he is delusional and has dementia. His wife died 2 years ago, but he had been not well since before that. She never told anyone of his problems. Married…
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airflow mattresses and pressure sore prevention
Hello everyone :-) Things with Dad are going reasonably well - all things considered. Mom and I are working to be preventative and have plans and ideas in place in case we need them: so, looking for a low pressure air loss prevention mattress. My dad did have a pressure sore before/when he fell, but that healed while in…
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Money Incompetence
DH spends like a millionaire when given opportunity. Buys coins from everyone who offers them. I have limited the amount he can charge on his Costco card after he charged a very expensive coin. I called the seller while it was still a "pending" charge & left a msg not to send it. They did anyway and I refused it at the…
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Trust issues: venting
I am wondering if anyone else has gone through a stage where they absolutely cannot trust their spouse as they once did. I'm so confused about whether my DH's behavior is deliberate or not. Here are two examples. The first example involves the car keys. For background, DH has been told by two doctors not to drive and yet…
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The Painful Wait
My SO was diagnosed a couple of years ago with MCI; then last year with MCI complicated by severe anxiety and depression. The neuropsych talked with me, though, about how close she was to declaring it dementia, but the lack of changes in my SOs brain in the MRI kept her from moving in that direction. She recommended we…
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A tip for potential UTIs
Hi y'all, I cannot believe how often I'm at this forum, and the benefits of it. My DW of 55 years was diagnosed with MCI 15 months ago after taking the 3 hour memory tests. She has been on Donepezil and Memantine. She is showing stage 4 symptoms, and I am prepared for the long battle ahead. She has always been cheerful,…
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Rough Night
We had a full day yesterday and we were both tired when we went to bed. He always talks for ten to fifteen minutes after we get in bed but last night he seemed to be especially worried that the door might not be locked. I assured him time after time and we finally got to sleep. I woke up at 1:45 with him standing over me…
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My first time to reach out for support
Sometimes I feel like I’m a wits end. My mother just dies from Alzheimer’s after 3 years of not recognizing us & my husband has memory loss that is progressively getting worse by the day. I just needed to reach out to someone who may know what’s happening to me
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Alternative Treatment
Long post alert. DH is undiagnosed. I completed the D-bat and my very unskilled assessment puts him in Stage 4. I have shared previously that his issues are less memory loss and more personality changes and executive functioning skill changes. He still drives and works with lots of behind the scenes support – he is…
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Couples counseling during memory loss
Has anyone out there gone to couples counseling in the early stages of your loved one’s mental decline? I have a counselor myself but my DH and I hope and trust a counselor knowledgeable about memory issues and how it affects a marital relationship would help us navigate emotional communications. Of course, this can happen…
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DH approved for in home hospice services
Hello , Just a quick update. Hospice nurse arrived this morning with one of the social workers who was here yesterday. several hours of intake and info. MOLST, etc. Bob is now enrolled, and i'm feeling a lot of support. They are scheduling a home health aide to come once a week for some adl and personal care, volunteers…
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sometimes an angel can appear when you least expect it
Hello everyone, A few months back i needed some home repairs done, These were important issues but not big jobs, and it was difficult to find a contractor. FInally through friends i was able to engage a very nice guy to help me. He did the repairs, and then some, could see that my husband wasn't well, and put other things…
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44 Year Old Husband Diagnosed With Dementia Did Not Recognize Early Symptoms
Very well written; https://www.telegraph.co.uk/health-fitness/mind/alzheimers-dementia-husband-symptoms-didnt-know-about/ J.
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Refusing to eat, drink or take meds, eyeing me with suspicion
OK... Husband showed some improvement on Wednesday, and after refusing to go to the lab for specimen delivery and more bloodwork {to see if UTI was cleared}, finally cooperated once we were at the hospital. However, he began to refuse food, ate a little, was reluctant to drink fluids. Finally had some ice cream. This is…
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Deciding to place DH in Memory Care
I am 69, my DH is 78. He was diagnosed in 2019, but, as with most of us, symptoms started a few years before. His mother was also victim of this horrible disease and I was the main family member who cared for her before she could no longer live at home. Deciding to have her go live somewhere safe was much easier as I/we…
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How to deal with partner's denial
My life partner has cognitive and physical decline. Has fallen 3 times in 2 weeks. Refuses to do PT. Complains that I am "making" him do drs appts. We have a sailboat that I got into the water and the slip (a function he has done alone over the last 36 years). He thinks he can put on the sails, a memory from a better time,…
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Curtail spending
So my husband has been spending about 90.00 a day on groceries. There are only two of us, so obviously this is overkill. I’ve already put limits on his ATM. I know he shops out of boredom and to feel like he is doing something for the household. But, we are bleeding money.
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Off Topic - the lighter side of life
At 85 years of age, I became a new daddy. This is the first one I've successfully raised from an egg. She'll be headed to Mexico before long. My g-grandaughter named her Kaylee.
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Surprise ability today
So for months now my DH has not been able to push the right buttons to run our dishwasher and if he chooses to help with dishes he doesn’t even put the dishes in the dishwasher but rather washes and dries them by hand. It’s as though he doesn’t remember we even have a dishwasher. So this morning he not only puts the dishes…
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Night Sweats (Every Night)
My 85 year old DH was diagnosed three years ago with Alzheimer. Other than not remembering 5 minutes ago, he is doing well; still easygoing and volunteering at a local garden where he has been volunteering for at least 16 years. He grew up on a farm and has retained ability to plant, harvest vegetables, and other tasks.…
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GPS Tracking(2)
I just joined this group tonight and so glad I did. My DH is still in the short term memory loss stage but I think things are changing a bit. He loves to go for walks and will do anywhere between 4-7 miles a day. We have 5 acres with an empty field of 11 acres on one side but we have a high school right next door to us.…
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I used to pity my DW, but anymore I envy her.
Honestly, as my beloved enters the near end of her AD, I sometimes envy her her mental loss. Mentation is that of a 2 year old, but as those of us here know, that is never a crisp analogy. She seems happy most of the time-laughs, talks to her dolls and anamatronic cats. I don't even remember what "happy" felt like. She has…
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Hell week...a cold hard reality check
Hello fellow travelers, My DH and I have been trudging long in stage 6. Ive been adapting, reinventing, reading old and new posts for guidance. But I truly wasn't prepared for the drastic turn of events that took place last week. DH had another UTI, and the culture showed a resistant form of strep. He was very weak, and…