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My mom just got diagnosed yesterday, please help
Hi everyone. My mom is 69 and was just diagnosed with Alzheimer’s yesterday. The neurologist did not give me any information on what stage she’s in but I want to be prepared and know what’s coming. She is mostly still functional, she can cook, do dishes, shower, use the restroom, walk around independently. She remembers…
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Online counseling for caregiver support and those dealing with a hoarder?
Hi all, new to the forum and appreciate that its here. Does anyone know of an online counselor for caregiver of family support - especially those dealing with lifelong hoarders? I prefer online/virtual sessions and timezone is not a concern. My Mom (72) has Alzheimers and I am her POA, Guardian and Trustee. She is highly…
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I am hurting
I lost my momma this morning and I don’t know how to feel
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Trying to Manage
Since my FIL has been staying with us, he just seems to be getting more difficult to care for. We have received a referral to neurologist for my FIL so we will be making an appointment to hopefully get an official diagnosis, medications/treatment. We have reached out to attorney regarding POA. In the meantime, we’re…
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What to do?
My sister and I are so confused as what to do??? Our mother has a delusion of being harassed by a neighbor that doesn't exist. She believes he knows the code to get into her house and many other concerning delusions about this character. We tried to tell her months ago some of the things she was experiencing were…
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Seeking support
Good evening all, My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's last dementia about 4 or 5 years ago but she refuses to get a neurology treat test to see how far along she is. She is a fighter all the way, she's angry aggressive Sundowns paranoid and all of that. Then at other times she can be very pleasant and sweet I am afraid…
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Feeling frustrated
I am new to the community. My mom is 77 years old. She has not been diagnosed with dementia but definitely can tell her cognitive skills are not up to par. She thinks things around house are turning black,blames my Dad for all of it(inside & outdoor plants,floors,cabinets,etc),wipes floors and cabinets with olive oil. She…
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the first steps in the journey
Hi there, I'm caring for my MIL and while our family is aware and in agreement about our concerns with her possible diagnosis, I'm feeling stuck with how to put in place the necessary things like POA and medical POA. Mom has started becoming aggressive and is absolutely in denial about our concerns. I don't know how to get…
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Dementia defies all logic
She’s stashing half eaten cookies in her closet. And thinks she caught cancer while attending college. (She was diagnosed with cancer at 80 years of age). She asked me why she didn’t give her parents cancer since they were all living in the same house. How can someone who does/thinks these things still respond with clever…
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I can't do this alone anymore
I have realized that I just can't visit my mom in the NH anymore by myself. It's emotionally exhausting! I asked some family members, if I can meet them when they visit and told them how I am struggling going by myself. They said yes! I am so grateful and feeling blessed to have a loving family who are supportive. My Pride…
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Mom calling every night demanding to leave
Hi! New here. I have my mom in memory care as her Alzheimer’s is progressing. She is calling us and threatening suicide if we don’t get her out of there. We took her to the hospital and she spent some time there getting her meds adjusted. We took the cell phone away as she was calling non-stop. Do we just go along and say…
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Dealing with death of someone LO with Alz knew
My MIL is in the later stage, of middle stage ALZ. Her BIL recently passed, and her children plan to take her to visitation and funeral. MIL didn't like this BIL - he seemed to enjoy needling her about the smallest thing (I saw this myself). She basically hasn't had much contact with anyone in my late FIL's family for 15…
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Guardianship
Has anyone had experience with having to get guardianship over a parent because they were so resistant and refused help? It seems like such an ugly process. I am going to do everything I can to avoid going in that direction but I am afraid that my mom is so stubborn and she will make terrible mistakes on her own... TIA for…
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2 Parents with dementia & memory care
Hello, new to the group. I have both my parents in memory care against their will. I know it's where they need to be, but they are both in denial that they cannot go back to their home and "live their life". They are blaming me for their situation and it breaks my heart. Anyone else in a similar situation?
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Pharmacogenetic testing & alzheimer patient anxiety
Is there anyone out there that has looked into or tried Pharmacogenetic testing to determined the best medication for their loved ones’ anxiety?
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Cautiously optimistic
Appointment with neurologist at memory center next week. Mom has been diagnosed with dementia, this is to see what kind. I hope we learn something.
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FORCED to move
Well, the SL facility has finally decided my mom needs to go. They gave some lame reasons, half truths and some whole truth excuses. I'm actually relieved to be leaving the place. They just don't have the staff to support someone like her... frankly, like quite a few people who live there. My mom's problem is, she's a…
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What Stage Is He In????
My dad, 95, now does not recognize his own apartment where he has lived for over 50 years. Is this a late stage development? I still cannot figure this stuff out. M
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Unsure where to even start
It’s a long one…. My husband and I are 34 years old and have recently had my 68 year old FIL move in with us. Previously, my FIL lived with his wife, who had been recovering from a mild stroke she had in March 2023. They live about 2 hours away from us and we thought they were managing okay as my SIL lives in their area…
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mom slipping away
Mom said she only remembers bits & pieces of her life. Asks how many kids she has. I miss my dad more these days, who died 19 years ago. I wonder why. Is it because mom is slipping away, not herself anymore. Our relationship has changed & I just miss my mom & dad! Mom recently said to me 'it's nice to meet you'. When I…
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Understanding Dementia
Does anyone have a book they could recommend which would teach me more about Dementia? I don't need a book for caretakers as I am not in that position. But I would like to know more specifics about the condition, if that is possible. Someone mentioned in a post, Frontal Lobe Dementia. I know my FIL executive function is…
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What does 'with it' mean?
Dear Alz friends, This is totally a way for me to process the phrase 'with it'. My FIL is in memory care, 10 months now. 95. Has had falls and brain bleeds leading to his placement in MC. My FIL family has always revered him as invincible. He was and in many ways, without mom, (4 years) still the patriarch. What I find so…
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POA papers finally signed.
For those who knew about my difficulties on having my mom sign the POA papers, well, finally she did it! I am so relieved.
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Caregiving isn't easy
It's hard being a caregiver. It just is. It takes a toll on you and your family. It's something we just have to deal with because we know it won't last forever. http://simplebender.com/2024/02/03/joy-in-alzheimers-episode-18-impact-on-caregiver/
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The paths to Memory Care are twisted
Sometimes just when you think you understand and bracing for the move of your parent to MC, it doesn't happen.....and you have to regroup. But we aren't far away from the ticket to be punched.....
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Nanny Cam vs. Security Cam
Hi all, so the topic of installing cameras has come up many times as a means to keep an eye on my folks and the certified aides. Dad vocalized not wanting them on grounds of his privacy being invaded which I understand. However, it’s just getting more & more concerning with aides being lazy, falling asleep, and mom growing…
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Hospice Diagnosis
Hello All Hospice has been helping my dad in AL for a few months now. They gave him the diagnosis of senile degeneration of the brain. Anyone hear of that or can you explain what that is? I know it is what it is, but just curious is this a form of dementia? I find so much help here, thank you to everyone!
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Dad has passed
Dad passed away last week. Even though he was 102 and he had been on hospice for 4 months, I really didn’t think he was going to die so soon. Hospice never once said it was coming until the day before he passed – I think they knew my sister and I were doing everything we could to keep him going when they just kept saying…
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Adult Day Care vs. MC
Hi everyone, In your experience, is adult day care more like respite care if the LO with dementia lives with their primary caretaker? My mom lives alone, and I'm trying to figure out if adult day care can help her continue to live alone at home through stage 4 so I can delay putting her in MC until stage 5, or if it…
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Need ideas on how to get Dad through moving day...
Have really enjoyed the questions and commentary on this site so far! Like many similar situations I've read about here, Mom's ready to move, Dad doesn't want to, and doesn't understand why Mom wants to - we've tried many explanations, but it's clear Dad doesn't quite understand - he seems to think his "things" (he likes…