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How do you remain calm when your mom asks the same question over and over?
My mom constantly asks the same question over and over. I try to remain calm when answering her or as calm as I can but it’s not easy. How do you remain calm?
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Time for nursing home
Hello All. Just joined today. I’m sure this topic has been discussed but any input would be greatly appreciated. My sister and I have been caring for my mom for the past five years. We’re in the same town, and she takes turns going to each of our places. I have a one bedroom apartment where mom sleeps in a porch area of…
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Father has AD and I am looking for support
Hello all. Noob here, but I have been taking care of my dad for 5 days per week for the past 10 weeks and am getting some burnout(I am running two households in winter and it's suddenly become nearly overwhelming) I was doing quite well until this past weekend when everything hit me. He's at home as yet, and doesn't need a…
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Administering my moms meds by a non-medical caregiver
My mom has been dealing with Alzheimer’s/Dementia for the last 6 years. She is now end stage and has 24/7 care. I have her medication made up in little pouches and the caregiver were crushing and mixing with apple sauce. I just learned that the agency does not allow the caregivers to crush or mix with food. I do t know…
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New… Dealing with Mom’s Hallucinations
My mom is in her 60s and her pcp says she is having brain slips and in stages of dementia. I am trying to get her seen by a neurologist and someone recently recommended a geriatric psychiatrist as an alternative for an assessment. It has been 3 months since the diagnosis and she was given an antidepressant. She is now…
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Mom is in Memory care
Hello. I’m new here. My mom has Alzheimer’s and she’s been living in Memory care for almost a year. She’s 78. Before I placed her in the facility she was living with my family and I but it became too much. I am currently struggling with guilt when I go to leave after visiting her and anxiety and sadness seeing her getting…
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PT question.
Has anyone taken their pwd to physical therapy before? My mom has a frozen shoulder she can move it but doesn’t have full range of motion. It was recommended to go to pt by her doctor after telling her doctor she was having some pain. We went the first time to get evaluated and was given home exercises to do. We went back…
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What happens after I become POA?
When I have full POA, how does the banks and other financial institutions and healthcare facilities know I'm POA?
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Who CAN'T be POA?
My mom wants me to be POA over finance and medical. I am on disability plus Medicare and Medicaid. Do I still qualify?
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Bible Verse to Life You up 1/15/24
OUR HOPE IS GOD’S UNFAILING LOVE Psalm 147:5 New Living Translation 5 How great is our Lord! His power is absolute! His understanding is beyond comprehension! 11 No, the Lord’s delight is in those who fear him, those who put their hope in his unfailing love. When the winds of sickness, stress, anger and fear are strong and…
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ER Visit for Mom
Over the last week, my mom has been insisting to go to the ER. She claims someone told her she is going to die if she doesn’t go, and is complaining of pain (does not indicate where) but then goes about like all is well. I’ve checked her out to see if there was anything visually abnormal in the area she says she feels…
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Glad to have found this space
I posted this earlier today but in the wrong forum, so I am reposting it here. I truly am glad and somewhat relieved to have found this space to be able to share information about dealing with a parent who is a PWD. My 82 year old mom is a PWD and dealing with the situation has been a crazy roller coaster over the last 18…
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Paranoia, delusion, hallucination and aggression
My mom with early onset Alzheimer is turning 69 next week. In the last two months, things take a drastic turn as she started with less engage with us turning into full delusion and hallucination all awake hours. There is no redirect or reassuring technique to help as she is not engaging with us. She turns physical and…
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mom may be 2 hours away
My sister found an assisted living for mom close to her, but it's about 2 hours for me. I don't like that she may be so far. I've lived near mom since I've been married & had kids. And now my kids are grown. It's kind of breaking my heart thinking mom may be far from me. Am I overreacting?
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How to engage dad
My dad has no interest to do anything except eat and sleep. He used to be tech savvy but now he don't know how to use the computer, laptop, cellphone, iPad or the remote. He can't follow the news even though he always want to watch CNN. He used to love driving but of course he can't do that anymore. He loved fishing but he…
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Mom is on her way to a memory unit!
Hi all! What an intense day!! After hearing from Mom’s pcp yesterday that she had my mom’s admission papers ready to pick up today (Friday), and all I had to do was take Mom to the memory care facility— I thought everything was going to go smooth. Not! Called the memory care facility once we arrived to see how to proceed…
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New to this transition
Hi everyone, Quilted Brings Calm wrote thoughtful suggestions to Catminor that were really helpful for me. I am new to the forum and saw that message about the process of getting parents into a care facility. I have a very similar scenario as many of you - my 85 year-old dad went into the hospital for a week in early…
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Family in Denial
My 70yo mom has been dealing with "undiagnosed" demential or ALZ for what seems like 10 years now. In the last couple of years it has become very difficult, but my father and sister do not want to take the next steps; accepting it and being pro-active. She has cancelled multiple brain scans, she hasn't been able to put…
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Questions
Dad has been having hallucinations that people are in his house stealing from him. Dr added new med 2x a day- after about a week he has been better. Stayed with us a few nights now wants to go back to own home. Last night he was seeing people again. Is this normal behavior- to improve then regress? The ebb and flow of…
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Dad has ALZ, Mom has cancer
I'm 34 years old and have two I'll parents. My mom was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer in 2020. My Dad had a crisis behaviorally which led to his diagnosis of ALZ two months after my wedding (April 2023). This past summer was pure he'll. In and out of the hospital, Dad leaving the hospital against medical advice, him…
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I don’t want to know
I am 35 years old, last year my dad who was taking care of my mom with dementia passed away from alcoholism. I had to decline my acceptance in dental hygiene school, I had to quit my job to care for my mom. I moved her in with me and took care of her for almost 2 years. March of last year I found a home for her to live in…
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Elder Care Consult
I have one of those 15 minute consults scheduled for Monday with a CELA. Should I include my DH in on the call? I’ve told him I’m going to make an appointment, but I don’t think he knows why. I feel like he needs to be part of this. And then again for the in person meeting, soon I hope. He’s kinda distrustful (since the…
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Newbie here.....how to cope with my dad
My dad, unoffically, has alzheimers. He does not want to be tested. I am 52. He is 88. My mom passed 6 years so just him and I. He lives with me. I have my own business and work lots of hours. He has a part time care giver just so she can take him to doctor appts and get him out of the house for a meal. My entire life…
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Where to start
My father is struggling with dementia and my mom is his caregiver. However, she has been very dependent on dad all of her life, so she is very overwhelmed by all that needs to get done. I live 3 hours away and I am trying to help, but I am so unsure of what to do. My mom is so overwhelmed with the financial side of things…
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What kind of duties does a POA have?
My mom finally agreed to appointing me as POA over medical and financial responsibilities. What does POA allow me to do? I'm waiting for the official paperwork to be signed.
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Duties of being POA
My mom is finally letting me to be the POA. I'm waiting on the paperwork to be signed. What kind of duties does POA allow me to do?
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Early onset of Alzheimer’s and the cost of long term care
Hello All, My mother was diagnosed with early onset of Alzheimer’s in 2015 at the age of 51. She just turned 59, and the disease has progressed significantly. My father had to move her into a memory care unit housed in a nursing facility. She has been unable to take care of herself for years and needs additional one on one…
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Early onset Alzheimer’s (Stage 7)
We knew dad had been struggling for years with depression and insomnia but nothing prepared us for the effects of early onset Alzheimer’s. My mom has always been a working mom, 60 hours a week, every week without taking any sick days. My dad struggled with holding down jobs and was dealing with mental illness year after…
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New to the group
Hi, I'm Megan and I'm new to the group. I'm dad has been diagnosed with dementia and I believe that my mom has it also but hasn't been diagnosed yet. She is so stressed and I don't think that they're understanding what the dr's are saying but my dad (and his pride) doesn't want to tell anyone and my mom allowed me to…
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How to Care for Mom when She Doesn't Want It
My husband and I try to read as much as we can about dementia, Alzheimer's, etc so that we can give Mom the help, dignity and love she needs right now. (I've written previously of her wanting to go home...every week if not several days a week). It says that when she wants to go home, try to see if she's hungry, tired, etc.…