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Seeking advice for mom with ALZ
Hello, I’m looking for some advice regarding how I can better communicate with my mom who has early ALZ. She has trouble with memory, focus, finding her words, and misunderstanding our discussions…which leads to her thinking i said something I didn’t and creating conflict. I know I’m not supposed to say things like “Mom do…
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Mom doesn't want to be cared for
Hi, My name is Stephanie and live near Albuquerque, NM. I'm new to this forum and dealing with dementia in general. I recently brought my 81-year-old German mom to the US as she cannot care for herself anymore (middle? stage of Alzheimer/Dementia). Back in Germany, she was hospitalized twice in Aug and Oct 23 and the…
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Need help but don't know what to do
My grandfather is 84 years old and has had dementia for years now but has recently been declining rapidly so I moved him into my house where my mother takes care of him. He has hospice care so nurses show up twice a week to asess him but thats the only care they provide .She quit her job because he needs fulltime support…
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New to this forum
Hi everyone, my name is Patty, My mom has Dementia/alzheimers. I still don’t understand the difference between both. My mom is 76 and she was diagnosed in her 60’s. I am the oldest of 3. My father is her full time caregiver. He is having a really hard time as he has lost his wife in essence. The good thing is I live 5…
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Sundowning
I care for my 94 year old mom. I was the caregiver for both parent but my dad past away 2 years ago. My mom has dementia and sundowning is bad in the evenings. She wants to go home. Yes, I have done all things I'm suppose to do. The lighting, sounds etc. Nothing works. She bangs that walker and trys to get out of the…
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Hot to know when
My mom is currently in an assisted living facility. She has been diagnosed with ALZ and has been living with it for about 4 years now. I live in another city and my mom lives in the same city as my brother who is the main care giver at the moment. The assisted living facility is about 4k per month. The Memory care unit in…
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mom's delusion
Mom says our home, where she lives, is my husband's work & she's an employee answering phones. She's mad about not getting paid. I don't know what to do. I feel like she's seriously mad. As many times as we say it's not true, it does no good. I guess it's because my husband does work from home, so in her mind it's a place…
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LO Actively Refuses to Socialize
Hi everyone! I hope you all had very happy holidays, and a happy new year! My mama (diagnosed with early stage Alzheimer's) has always been a social butterfly. However, due to Covid-19 and her diagnosis, has become quite sheltered. I've been told multiple times how socializing is key for a person with Alzheimer's/Dementia…
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Looking for a therapist for me, the oldest daughter
I've been dealing with the emotional toll of the long goodbye to my mother with dementia and my angry, old-school father. Fortunately, mom is receiving excellent care in a facility and dad is in an apartment in the same complex. But I'm tired of ranting to my husband, grown children and friends. I'm tired of the bouts of…
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Only Child Stuggling 2 weeks in as CareGiver For My Mother w/Dementia
Hello everyone, I have a friend we referred me to this forum. I hope this will be a great outet for me as I am just a ball of meltdowns everyday. An ER viist on Dec. 14 turned into a week stay in the hospital afterwards my life changed forever. My mom was dx with early signs of Dementia 2 years ago with mild memory loss.…
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Need Advice/Direction on How to Proceed with My Mother
My mom has been diagnosed w/dementia, probably ALZ as her mother & all her aunts have had it. She's 91. During the last year she's given my sister her health POA. My sister lives with my parents & suffers from mental illness. My sister is in denial of my mom's diagnosis & has encouraged my mom to stop seeing her…
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Elder Care lawyer-What to ask
Could you please share with me what questions you would ask of a certified elder care lawyer. I am meeting one on Jan. 15th re: my sister who has Alz. Thanks in advance for any thoughts/suggestions/advice.
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I am lost at what to do now.
My father has been diagnosed with dementia. My sister and I also believe my mom has dementia too. Everyday she forgets what she wants to say. And she doesn't remember to take her medications. I went to a few doctor appointments with my mom but now she has told us she doesn't want my sister or I getting involved with…
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Venting
It's been 4 months since my mom moved here to my neck of the woods. She moved away from her home of 40 years, her things, her friends, the sunshine, warmth and the ocean. She was worried that when the time came, when dementia was in full swing and she was stuck in SC, she would be all alone. Yet, she's so very unhappy…
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Are there things that helped you cope?
Hi I'm new here, my mom had been showing signs for over 2 years now. This summer they finally diagnosed her with dementia, I forget the exact type but they believe it was caused by her sleep apnea and not controlling her diabetes which decreased blood flow to her brain. Regardless it has definitely progressed quicker than…
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Convincing LO to Move
New here and need help... 4 months ago, I came to my parent's house out of state thinking I was going to support my parents for a few weeks, working remotely, for my mom's knee replacement surgery. Long story short, I have been back home for 56 hours because my mother fell and fractured 4 ribs, contracted asymptomatic…
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Hospice at home
Hello. My mom has started hospice. Currently staying at my brother's home. Dad can't handle the care. Mom had a UTI about 2 weeks ago. Got antibiotics in the ER and sent home with meds, since then she had declined. I mean rapidly. And now we have a hospice nurse that "stops in". In the last 2 days mom has become bed ridden…
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How many of you are still recognized by your LO?
My mom has NPH and dementia (not sure what type). She now no longer reliably recognizes me or, most commonly, she thinks there is more than 1 of me. Like the me she talks to on the phone is different from the me in person. One is her daughter and one someone else. The day after I brought her back to MC she told them I was…
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Surgery and possible progression
I already suspected that my mom was progressing from mild to moderate, but after a surgery, things have become even more noticeable, but it's also unknown whether the surgery was a factor. But now I'm also worried she might be going even further than moderate. Her sleeping got a little screwed up due to meds making her…
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It feels like there are no good choices
Hello, I'm new here. I originally posted in the caregiver group, but I don't think it's very active. I could use some support. My mother with Alzheimers lives with my 89 yr old father in an Assisted Living facility nearby. She is still full of life. She is the sweetest and most loving mother. We still have a wonderful time…
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Advice or suggestions.
I'm taking care of my 90 year old Grandma. I have 2 kids aged 14 and 8. My grandma has dementia but for the most part very much in her right mind and self sufficient. Some days tho she thinks my 8 yr old wants her things or goes into her room and I know he doesn't as I have a camera in there but she doesn't get it and it…
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Does my income hurt my mother's medicaid eligibility?
If my mother lives with me, does my income count against her ability to qualify for medicaid? I am a physician and caregiver for my mother who is in the early stages of dementia right now. I am thinking ahead and wondering if she lives with me, whether my income and assets will be an impediment toward her ability to get…
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Protecting a LO money
I hope this doesn't sound greedy. My sister has Alz and she is mid stage. She is resisting in home health aides and the main reason is money. She actually has plenty of money. She has lived alone her whole adult life and even though she never made much, she saved and invested well. But when i try to get health aides in she…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 1/1/24
CAREGIVERS SET THEIR HEARTS ON LOVE AND CARE FOR THE HELPLESS Isaiah 1:16-17 New Living Translation 16 Wash yourselves and be clean! Get your sins out of my sight. Give up your evil ways. 17 Learn to do good. Seek justice. Help the oppressed. Defend the cause of orphans. Fight for the rights of widows. * HOLY SPIRIT HELP…
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Advice Please…Feeling discouraged & Alone
i would appreciate some feedback regarding my mom with dementia. I’ve posted before about how to manage certain things with her, but today it’s more about me. I’m struggling with family concerns as it relates to others…not my mom, but she is who I would normally reach out to for advice and to listen. This is not possible…
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Only child emotionally struggling with mom forgetting my birthday
Hello, I'm relatively new here, and mom has been in memory care for about a year now, I'd guess she's in mod stage 5 so still knows who people are. I'm a 39 year old only child and I've struggled this year with the holidays and my birthday (Dec 28th) knowing that mom won't remember my birthday and that she didn't…
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My Dad’s Rapid Decline
Hello! My dad has been battling Alzheimer’s for many years. He has been in the advanced stages as far as communication and understanding but was able to walk and eat. He suddenly has been unresponsive for 3 days. This was alarming to us and I wanted to know if this is normal? Is he at the end?
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Mom seeing ghosts
Hi everyone! I am new and this is my first post. My mom was diagnosed about a month ago with Alzheimer’s. She lives alone and is on Medicare which does not cover Alzheimer’s care. She is seeing ghosts and wants them to leave and to not argue I’ve asked the ghosts to leave, etc. but she says she still sees them and that…
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Taking forever to eat meals
Over the last few weeks, my MIL is showing some new behaviors. Most I recognize as signs of her dementia progressing. But, is extremely slow eating part of dementia progression also? She still eats well, but she can take two hours to eat one small plate.