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Mom refusing help
My 84 year-old mother is being cared for by my 86 year-old dad. They live 5 hours away from me. Mom’s memory is getting worse and worse and she refuses to seek medical help. She becomes suspicious and paranoid when the subject of medical assistance is brought up. My dad and I are seeking advice on how to help my mom when…
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Boredom?
My 87yo Dad is in stage 5/stage 6 Alz/VD, living in a nice CCRC AL apartment. He has started calling me in the mornings asking me what he is supposed to do. I think this is a mixture of several factors all getting mixed together: He is bored. This in turn is a consequence of many factors, including a lack of mobility (he…
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Daily Schedule Editable Templates
I am looking for an editable template I can use to create my dad's daily task lists so he can check them off each day without asking someone what to do next. He has a lot of help, yet we are trying to support his independence as much as possible. Ideally, the task list would come with realistic adult pictures--most of the…
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How to Cope with Mom’s Dementia
My dad passed away in 2015, my mom has known this. Just yesterday she called me to tell me he had just left the Assisted living facility where she stays, She asked me to hurry and try to find him. I got 2 calls from her about this, first time ever! I was in shock and scared! What do I say and do!!!
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Next steps for outdoorsy/active and healthy stage 4/5 Alzheimers
Hello there, I've been lurking on this forum for a little while as I determine if and how I engage in this community. What incredible outpouring of support and advice I've witnessed as I seek the silver bullet I don't think I'll find. I live slightly remotely from my parents. My dad is 79, an introvert and slightly…
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Parents in separate facilities
My parents have had a volatile relationship for over 60 years. My father has always been selfish and verbally abusive. My mother couldn’t ever bring herself to walk away, despite other family members urging her to do so. Now here we are, mom is 88 and frail with congestive heart failure and dad has been diagnosed with FTD…
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Genetic Link
Hi there! My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in his mid 60s. Both of his parents both had dementia and Alzheimer’s. I’m in my 20s and very worried that there is a genetic link. Has anyone else dealt with this? Thank you!
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Just because your family has a history of dementia/Alzheimer's....
Hello all. Let me preface my comments by stating that I am not a healthcare professional; however, I am a researcher and a life-long learner. My father, his mother (my grandmother), and his grandfather (my great grandfather) ALL had Alzheimer's. When my father was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2015 (we suspect my father…
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Re:using a Geriatric Dr for Alzheimer's patient
Hi, my mom won't go to dr it's been around 7 months since she has and I can't just sit back and watch her get sicker she has lost alot of weight and barely takes her meds when she asks me to make a dr appointment when it's time to go she backs out of going so I was advised by my primary dr nurse there is a geriatric dr who…
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Communicating through art and color
My mom has dementia and as you know it's a struggle to manage emotions around it. Last year she moved into a nursing home, which was hard at first, but it's actually been the best thing for her and me. Since she's living there, I've found new ways to communicate with her as she can't have a conversation like she used to.…
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Aggressive and abusive behavior
My step-dad has been showing signs for years but has not been diagnosed since he won't go to a doctor. This past year, he has become very aggressive with me like punching and slamming me into doors. I try to show empathy but It seems to make it worse. The only recourse is to stay away from him but he will seek me out to…
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Fixation
My mom is fixed on going home. She has progressive dementia. She constantly calls my sister and me wanting to know when she can get out AL. I realize that is not uncommon. We continue to lie knowing that she is not going home. She is in great physical shape but her short term is completely gone. She is not capable of going…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 6/29/23
First, thank all of you who have made comments. I appreciate them. God bless everyone who comes here. Peace always, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski, VKB) CIRCLE OF LOVE Galatians 5:13 New Living Translation For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your…
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MIL with Dementia. Son won't get proper care
I signed on to help my BF when his mom was only showing very mild signs of dementia. She went to the ER for bowel bleeding...home for 3 days and back again. The second time she went back, her dementia kicked in to full gear. Ive never had a dementia patient but have had kids and ADHD and autism in my life. HIM not so much.…
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Roaming
Hey all! My mom has had a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s for about 4ish years. My dad passed away last August and we never knew how bad her progression was, he hit it from us. We have been dealing with a lot of her roaming at night and going through things that we have hidden and now it’s too a point we have to be on her 24/7, I…
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This disease sucks
My mother has some form of dementia or Alzheimer’s. We are still waiting for formal diagnosis, mostly because she resisted doctors so long so when she started going it was like starting from scratch. She sees a neurologist again in July. Her cognition is getting worse. She lives in AL and calls me asking when I’m picking…
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Wants to be Left Alone
My 75-year-old mom was diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment consistent with Alzheimer's about two years ago. I live six hours away and have two young kids (1 and 4), so I can't be there to keep an eye on her aside from brief visits once or twice a year surrounding doctor's appointments. My sister is estranged and my…
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Advice for a young caregiver?
Hello world, this is my first post on ALZconnected as I have just recently joined. I have never joined a support group before and I do not know anybody else with a parent with Alzheimer's so here I am giving this a try. For some context, I am 20 years-old and my father who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's is 79 years-old and…
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Bathroom confusion at night
My LO has been in memory care about 2 months. They've started having a hard time finding the bathroom (in their room) at night. We have put up motion sensor light strips on the door and behind the toilet. None of these are helping. They are not incontinent, they know they need to go to the bathroom, but in the middle of…
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Doors and Drawers left open
First, I want to say how grateful I am to everyone who shares here. It has been amazing to feel not-alone in this. My mother, diagnosed with Alzheimers and Vascular Dementia, leaves all the doors and drawers open now. Does anyone notice that same behavior? She has also has many of the behaviors already mentioned in the…
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New Caregiver, Overwhelmed
My 80 year old dad got diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few weeks ago. He’s had problems with names and words and math for several months but until recently, it had not progressed much past that. Now he has problems with understanding his finances and figuring out time spans. He is a retired civil engineer, so this is a pretty…
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The first thing I say.....
When I call people that I haven't spoken to in a while, be they relatives or friends, is "No, he is still alive." The see my name on the caller ID and they think I am calling to tell them my dad is dead. I feel funny about it. Does anyone else have this happen?
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Bathroom Issues
When my mother goes to the restroom. She does not sit back on the toilet seat and when she goes it runs out the front onto her clothes and the floor. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can handle this? We have a sitter during the day also. When anyone tries to go with her to help her and make sure she sits back she…
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How hard was it for you to put parent in MC?
Been 5 days since I put my mom in MC. She didn't go willingly and always has things stuffed into garbage bags to make her escape. My DW is deep into Alzheimer's and I can't care for my mom anymore but she doesn't understand that or why she can't live by herself. Picked her up today so she could come to my house and see her…
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My dm and dd are pushing me .
We moved my parents in with us two yrs now, my dad just has a bit of regular memory problems, but completely took care of mom alone, did everything, cleaning, laundry all of it . She was getting to much for him alone because she would fall sometimes and hes85 and it's to hard on him so they wanted to live with us so Incase…
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Looking for advice on my situation with my mother who has dementia
Hi everyone. I am very new here, but I am desperate for any advice that can be given regarding my mother with middle stage dementia and my father who is in denial.this is a very long story. My mom has suffered a number of illnesses dating back to her teenage years. She has had myasthenia gravis, then lymphoma, and now…
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Recommendations medic alert
I am looking Medic Alert bracelet or necklace. My LO has dementia and fidgits with jewelry. So I'm trying to find something that would be a little difficult for her to remove. If anyone has suggestions please let me know
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Type 1 Diabetes / insulin pump management for my mom with alzheimer's
My 79 year old father is my 76 year old mom's (with Alzheimer's diagnosed) primary caregiver.My mom also has Type 1 diabetes with an insulin pump she is no longer able to manage independently. I live about 15 minutes away and my sister lives about 1 hour away. She is now supportive and on board with many of the suggestions…
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What to say when Mom says she wants to die, also what about my own status?
I saw my mom and dad today who live independently in their home of 20 years. I live one hour away and stop by on occasion to drop off groceries. Mom has AD for the last five years, and dad is doing alright, but has COPD and struggles occasionally with breathing and needs medications altered as it progresses. Both parents…