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Dealing with the loss of a parent's beloved pet - any thoughts?
My mom's beloved Chihuahua passed away about a week ago following a long illness. Mom is now mired in depression, going between forgetting her dog died, wondering why she is sad, to bawling her eyes out. She is 79 and can't take care of another dog, although she can't understand why I would deny her another dog. My husband…
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Driving with Alzheimer’s
My father has Alzheimer’s he is pretty stubborn and controlling and does not understand that he needs to give up driving, everyone in our family is concerned but he still refuses to listen has anyone dealt with this?
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Upcoming visit
Not sure yet what to think about the new website. I was used to the other message board system. Soon, I am flying to my parents' home for a week long visit. Last month my dad, ADLO, was in the hospital a few days. I will see when I get there how he is doing; if the time in the hospital, and his increased confusion during…
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Neurologist follow up
Hi everyone me again. Happy 4th to all celebrating. My mom has a neurologist follow up appt next week. She has a primary care physician who is now aware of memory issues; endocrinologist aware of memory issues; and the neurologist is seeing her for 2nd time (first time was about 11 months ago and she’s deteriorated quite a…
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Best way to sell Mom's stuff
What's the best way to sell the contents of Mom's house? A few pieces of English antique furniture from the late 1800s, china and glassware sets, older cookware and utensils, 50-year old piano, her old iphone X, and nick-nack collections of owls and clowns. Hire someone? Who to look for? A garage sale in this neighborhood…
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Guardianship
Does anyone have any advice on how to get this? Is it hard to qualify? I’m worried my mom will decide she doesn’t want caregivers and we will just go in circles constantly. I can’t keep doing this. We are touring an assisted living facility tomorrow and I’m sure she will say no. It’s also expensive and I’ve reached out to…
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In accepting and angry
I am a mess! Both of my parents have dementia. My mom was diagnosed with alz a few years ago. They have been in memory care for six months. I have had conversations with them about what is happening. I have discussed having to sell their house. One minute they understand the next they don't. They do not remember permitting…
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Struggling with Mom's Alzheimers/Dementia
Hello! I am new to this group but grateful to have found this. Sorry for why we are all here but hoping to draw wisdom and strength from you all. Mom has been deteriorating for 4 years and despite my many efforts to get her help, she and my father have chosen to pretend nothing is happening. She is 82 and things are…
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Is Dad ready to transition to an Assisted Living Facility?
Hello everyone. I'm new here. My father was diagnosed with dementia 3+ years ago and has been living with me since then. I consider myself to be fairly patient and laid-back, but my dad has certainly tested these qualities more often recently. Financially, he doesn't qualify for MediCal but we also can't afford a facility…
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Anasognosia, denial, or fear?
I’ve seen a lot of threads about anasognosia, denial (LO deny there is anything wrong), and resistance to going to doctor for whatever reason. I still feel a bit baffled by the concept. My mom usually loves going to the doctor (lunch out, time with me, feeling seen). Except for the neurologist. She has fought making this…
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New member
Hello. I am new here. My father has dementia and terrible sundowners. He just recently went into a nursing home and this is very hard on me. I visit frequently and leaving him is the hardest. Most visits are good but today he was extremely sad when I was leaving so I cried the entire drive home. I wish I could help him but…
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Denial
I left my job 8 months ago to get my mom out of a memorycare facility because she hated it. Now she thinks that she can live on her own again. She doesn't understand that living with me or memory care are her only options. There are occasional times that we can talk and she understands but they are very few. I don't know…
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How to figure out the stage of Alz my mom is in....
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Trying to get your parent in for testing when they resist
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To all newcomers
I send you ALL my sincerest condolences and want you to know that you are not alone in this; for if you are visiting this site it means that you are caring for a parent who has been diagnosed with or who is experiencing symptoms of Alzheimer's. You are not alone in this challenge, for I am here to help in any way that I…
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My mama passed
On June 29, 2023 my mama passed away at 8:22 pm. I had been her full-time caregiver for almost 7 years. During that time I was also a college student. I saw my mama everyday during her illness. I didn’t want her to go on the journey alone. She was on in-home hospice for almost 2 years. The hospice my mama was with I feel…
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It’s a roller coaster ride
My mom is living with me and on in home hospice care. She is in late stage dementia, incontinent and almost completely unable to talk. Most of the time she cannot walk, so we use a transfer chair. She cannot figure out how to use the toilet either (most of the time ). But last night she got out of bed very quietly so I…
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Delusions
We had just finished dinner and were starting to watch our weekly Sunday night comedy movie, when Dad suddenly said he'd been a pervert and touched little girls and his daughters. He didn't do this, but it made him so agitated when we said he didn't, and it also made my husband pretty upset - to where he had to step out of…
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Paranoia, Self-isolation, split personalities
It's only been 6 months that my mom has lived with us. Things were going well for the first 5 months, then BANG! Super steep decline. She had some paranoia before, now it's constant. She used to have great conversations with the lady in the mirror, but she became very aggitated and thought someone was trapped behind the…
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Coping with a parent who has false beliefs, confusion and delusion
My mother now 75 years old, has had occasional delusional moments since 1985 but was only officially diagnosed with a mild to medium form of dementia in 2013. Between 1985 and 2013, due to living in a 3rd world country in Africa and not having the resources available, it was not known that delusion was a symptom of…
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Has anyone used the medic alert gps system?
I am wondering if anyone has used the tracking system promoted by the Alzheimer’s Association. Medic Alert. I’d love to hear your thoughts.
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Moving mom out of her house
My mom has mid-stage dementia, and her memory and communication skills are getting a lot worse lately. She lives alone and has caregivers come in a few times a week. We feel it is time to move her to assisted living, but she is adamant about staying in her house. Whenever we even mention moving, she gets extremely angry. I…
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Tips for Bathing
My mother has dementia and has recently started to refuse bathing and washing her hair. I live on the other side of the country, but I am in contact via FaceTime at least twice a day and travel home as often as possible. She is living with my father who is her primary caregiver, but they also have a homecare.worker who…
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Help with managing moms anger
It appears her sundowners is now starting earlier in the day around 2pm by 5 pm she wants to pack up clothes and leave somewhere, my attempts to help her and calm her are met with more anger especially when I don’t let her go out of the home. She manage to get out once and we involved to police to help locate her. I now…
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Calming meds for mom since recent transfer to Board & Care y care
We just transferred my mom from a really good, 80 person memory care to a 6 resident Board & Care for both for financial reasons (it was very expensive) and because we thought she'd get better one on one. She's 95 and has moderate vascular dementia, no short term memory, recognizes her loved ones, can hold an ok…
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Ideas for hygiene
My mom doesn’t bathe or wash up .she tells me she does but no towels or underwear are used or changed . She gets angry when I tell her she hadn’t . Please help with ideas
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Crisis advice requested: dad being removed from MC facility due to violent behaviors
My dad is being removed from the memory care facility a 2nd time via Emergency Services (they decided to keep him once in between when he fell asleep after an outburst) due to violent behaviors. The MC facility has said they cannot take him back. What should I be thinking of? So far I have called and left a message for the…
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Every little slip downward
Today I went to visit my dad. When I got there he asked me where he was. He didn't recognize his own apartment. He has lived there for 50 years. This was a new one and I smacked me in the head like a brick. Usually there is a slow decline, but this was huge to me. He also did not remember my name and called my by one of…
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Stuck in the Middle
Hello, My mom is 89 and has stage 5 dementia. She moved in with my husband and me two years ago when we relocated from western NY to Raleigh NC for his job. She has a whole floor to herself with a big bedroom, huge living area, and full bathroom. No kitchen, but having a stove and using knives on her own is scary. We built…
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Help
My dad, had had dementia for awhile and I really find it hard because mom and dad do not do anything around the house My mom says we can't afford any help and I work full time. I have depression and it gets to me