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Abusive for 30+ years and now dementia
Does anyone have experience with a spouse who has been emotionally abusive and somewhat physically abusive for 30 years and now has dementia?
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New Here.
My story is very complicated. we are not sure of the stage my mother is in. She is 69. The doctor says this is too young but she was diagnosed in 2021 with the dementia. Summary is I hired an attorney to get guardianship and conservatorship of my mother, who has dementia, due to my brother's neglect. I got final in April.…
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Nursing home
Hi, My mom is at a nursing home. She has been there for a few months now. And was moved to the behavioral unit about a month or so. She have behavior issues. Now they also think she have mental issues beside her dementia. She have aggressive behavior at times, mainly toward me her main caregiver or the nursing staff. This…
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quetiapine question
Anyone know the side affects of this drug’? I been try to figure how long it takes to effective?
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new here and it's already bad
Hey yall! So, my dad's had signs of alzheimers/dementia for ages. But I moved in with him almost a yr ago, and when he got violent I immediately scheduled him an appt with his Dr...my dad's never put his hands on me. Ffw to 2 months ago, and i finally got himdiagnosed and medicated. Well, a week ago, he got violent again,…
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Mom wants to move back to her house and I need advice!
Hi, I'd love some advice. My mother has been in assisted living for over 2 years and has been saying she wants to go home to her house often (she's in the moderate stages of Alz). Recently, she's been saying it more and expects to move soon, and she has always been very opinionated and strong-willed. She can never go back…
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Overwhelmed
We never had my mother diagnosed but her symptoms began in 2014. She is 89. Last month she fell for the second time and with no ability to walk we placed her in a memory center. Despite being in a wheelchair she has tried to leave & we are now looking for a locked facility. My brother died last week & my emotions are so…
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Hospice nurse and AL nurses clashing
Who has dealt with this situation? My mom, 94, dementia and bedridden, began hospice a few months ago. The territorialism of the AL nurses didn't come to the forefront till now. My mom moans and complains whenever she is turned, diaper changed, or otherwise moved. Otherwise, she rests peacefully due in part to her fentanyl…
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Unkind remarks about residents
My dear dad has been in MC for a year. He is well cared for and content. His long-time wife, however, continues to make petty and mean remarks about dad’s fellow residents—what they do, how they look, etc. She visits dad every day and for that I am grateful. But how do I deal with this beyond reminding her that it’s MC and…
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Not allowed in to see my mother
My mother is at my sisters house being cared for by her sister in law Lynn. I don’t think the care is good enough and I’ve mentioned my grievance which only got me permanently unwelcome in her home now I’m not sure if I’ll ever be able to see my mother again. I’m not sure how to get visitation to see my mother when she is…
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Supporting my mum who is caring for my grandad with dementia.
My grandad (94) has dementia and recently has been aggressive and showing a lot of anger towards my mum. He is in a dementia nursing home and a few weeks ago was moved from one room in the home to another room right next to the nurses desk as he was falling over regularly (this was recommended by the doctor for his…
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First visit at AL facility, eye opener
4We are in the mid-stage of dementia here probably though things are staring to change. Mobility still good but starting to lose interest in things, forgetting the bathroom routines, lots of little eating reminders. He hasn't know what state he lives in for quite a while and has no idea what day of the week it is, when he…
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How to deal with father with moderate dementia
Hi, This is my first time posting. My father was diagnosed with mild dementia in December. He has always been private about any health issues but he has started confiding in me (mostly complaining about my stepmother or how people are treating him now). He told me had gotten lost a few times when he was not going to places…
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Behavior changes
Hello! I'm new to this group and am glad to have others to give me advice. My 77 YO mom has middle-stage Alzheimer's and has been showing some new behaviors that I don't know how to handle. She has been getting angry/agitated very quickly when she realizes there is something she didn't remember. She claims that nobody told…
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What a journey and losing a father to ALZ.
I wrote this on May 12th before my dad's passing on the 31st. Little did I know he only had a couple of weeks left in this world. I was by his bedside when he took his last breath. I am super depressed and feel lost, I am also worried about my mom because she is in the same boat, but she feels "alone". I have so many…
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Disease suddenly progressing quickly
At the time of my dad's diagnosis a year and a half ago, he was living alone, still feeding himself, paying his bills, and maintaining his garden. About 6 months ago, he fell a couple times and started doing some troubling things, like trying to light his pipe from the stove with random things around the house. Even though…
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Stressed
Caring for my LO with young onset dementia, and today was a terrible day. She is so obsessed with where her spouse is. Mind you he still has to work. The constant anxiety level she is at is unbelievable. At the end of the day, I am mentally exhausted.
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 6/6/23
CALLED TO A GODLY LIFE BIBLE REFLECTION 2 Peter 1:2-3 (NIV) “Grace and peace be yours in abundance through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord. “His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.” What are a few ways Christians…
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birthdays and Father's Day
This will be dad's 6th birthday and Father's Day since his diagnosis of Alzheimer's. He's long not known what day it is, and last year was probably the first year he couldn't recognize me even for a moment. This year he can't speak. I'll be surprised if he makes it to next year. I'll visit both days and take him some ice…
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Memory Care and Outpatient Assisted Living
Hello, Wondering if anyone has experience with a parent/spouse/LO in memory care needing to be critically hospitalized (in our case pneumonia and atelectasis) and then discharged to an assisted living facility to recover that's not their memory care home. Wondering more about the logistics here: what is the typical…
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Talking to your LO
my Husband and I just visited my dad. He is blasting me for having little conversation with my dad when I am there with him. First of all, my dad and I have never had long conversations. We had a good relationship and all but not the dad you bear your souls with. He is aware and forgetful but not conversational and so it…
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Showing signs of Dementia but refuses to go to the doctor
My mother has been showing signs of dementia for a few months now. She doesn't believe anything is wrong with her so she refuses to get help. She believes people are following her and thinks her family members are stealing from her. She comes up with these strange stories that she is famous and won a contest. My sister…
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Sleeping disorders
My mother in law was diagnosed with moderate to severe alz . She is in her late 70s and despite every attempt she spends 15-18 hours in bed. I don't see how this is ok or is it normal for that stage. Wife and I are feeling overwhelmed with this situation. Looking for some answers, a friend.
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I'm the target
My 89yr old mother has turned on me saying I'm going to hurt her, saying bills she controls & won't let me help with that are past due are my fault, she blames everything on me & is so ugly to me & follows me around picking fights. The rest of the family wants to put her in a home. She's not going to stay, I know her, most…
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How fast does it go?
I know it’s different for everyone. My mom called several times yesterday to ask what city we lived in. Later, she said she called because people were asking important information and she didn’t have it. I must have missed the voicemails, listened, and realized that’s what she was asking. her memory is going so fast. She…
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Sometimes mentally better, but is it really better?
Until earlier this year, mom's dementia seemed to be progressing. She was mostly almost catatonic. Barely talked most days. Slept a lot, extremely inactive and disoriented when awake. Then we come to find out she had some medical diagnoses that cause increased cognitive impairment. The surgeon said after we fix her up, we…
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Searching for a baby?
My mom has started exhibiting a new symptom: she is unsure where a baby is and is desperate to find it. She even wanders outside to look in our tool shed! She cannot be consoled or redirected. My dad and I do what we can to intervene but we end up just going along with it until her delusion subsides. My question to this…
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New here… needing advice
Hi everyone! I am new to this group and hoping to get some insight and support. My 73 year old mom with stage 4-5 dementia just moved in with my teenage son and I. We both sold our homes and bought one together. I work from home in a full time position. It’s only been a week and I’m exhausted and overwhelmed. She fights me…
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my mom is a different person, not the woman I know
Hi, I am new. my daughter suggested I look into support group. I read some of posts and its already helped me. my mom is 86, has host of health problems including uncontrolled diabetes but started having dementia symptoms when pandemic happened. before that, she was living in independent senior high rise apt and going to…