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Can't be satisfied
In the past 6 months my mom has moved 4 times, the last being just 3 weeks ago, and she is already desperate to move again. She is currently in assisted living and feels she can live in her own apartment/home, which she is unable to manage. We are at a complete loss how to calm her down and encourage her to find peace and…
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Asking "I want to go home"
Hello, I recently started to care for my mother-in-law she is recovering from a stroke and has mid stage dementia. We relocated her from another state as she can no longer live alone. She asks about going home every hour it seems like. I try to change the topic and divert the conversation and it works for a couple minutes.…
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Introducing myself
Hello. I am brand new to the group. My mother was diagnosed with demential in November of last year. She lives in South Africa and I live in California and I haven't been able to visit yet due to an injury I have. She is well taken care of and is in good spirits most of the time; I FaceTime with her most days. I am mostly…
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Refusal to walk into home
MIL was moved out of town out of her home into a condo closer to 2 sons. Lately, Every time she is returned back to her condo from church, hairdresser or even a walk she refuses to go in and says that it is not her home. It can take 20 minutes to get her to walk in the door. She has 24 hour live in care Once inside she is…
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Delusions with aggressiveness
what actions should I take when my mom wakes at night and is screaming at me for beating her up or steeling her car? Of course I am not really doing either of these awful things. Advice please
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Early dementia in my mother living with us affecting me, my husband and son
Hi everyone, I am struggling to say the least. It is thought my mom has dementia, specifically behavioral variant FTD. It has been a whirlwind because she moved in with us and we didn't know she had this and figured it out along the way. She has annoying behaviors and even though my son and husband know it, they get…
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New to this Site
I'm Katie and this is my first post on this site. My story is that my dad started having early dementia right before March of 2020 when the pandemic began. When I found out that he was diagnosed, I felt my world just fell apart. In the beginning, he was functioning and was independent. When he retired in April of 2020,…
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Lost trust
My MIL & I have always had a good relationship, but in her ALZ-driven paranoia, she now no longer trusts me to take care of her (thinks we are stealing her things, messing with her phone, etc.). She wants to move back to her home about a mile from us (has been living with us for 7 months), but it's not really practical.…
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My 83 yrs old Mother in Law has Severe Sciatica Any help in here re pain management in ALZ patients?
It's been over 3 weeks since sciatica took her to the ER. Not much help from docs. Just Lots of drugs. No in home nurse provided. We're on our own. She forgets she had a heavy med just 5 minutes earlier and is always screaming for more. Because her pain is always new pain, even if it improves we often dont know it cause to…
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Vent: I can't handle how rude the disease is to my father
Vent: Just got back from a Mother's Day visit. Mom (LO, moderate dementia) was sweet as ever to me, my husband, and our dog, but many times when my Dad (primary) speaks, the dementia makes some rude, snappish comment at him. Whenever I try to have a discussion with Dad that can't include Mom—conversations I try to have…
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Did my mom have sex with a caregiver?
My mom has been in AL for 5 months now. Yesterday she told me that she had sexual intercourse with one of her male caregivers. There were lots of holes in her story and she couldn't answer some of my questions. My brother and I feel fairly certain that it didn't really happen, but how do we process this and get resolution?…
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Oh so new !
So 2018 my mom was diagnosed with Late stage Alz. He husband (stepfather) of 40 years. Started stealing money from my mom. I caught him red handed. With that he took them both to Florida were they have been snow-birds for 20plus years. They left at the start of COVID. He discounted phones, we lost all communications with…
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Internet Access
My mother is in Level 3 middle stage dementia. Long before her diagnosis, she had spending/hoarding issues... why purchase one of something, when you can buy a case (then forget and purchase another case)?. She claimed she was being a prepper, but her memory loss was often the reason for recurring purchases. After…
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How to know when it's time for MC
My husband and I have been caring for my dad since Sept 2020, and lately he doesn't do anything but sit and stare into space. He thinks he's watching TV when it isn't on. I've tried a lot of things but they only engage him for a few minutes. Even with our respite caregivers all he wants to do is sit and watch TV but he…
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Managed debit card?
Curious to know if anyone has found a debit card option that allows for limits managed by someone (me). For instance, Chase First Banking is a debit card for kids, but it's limited to ages 6-17. Does such a thing exist for an elder parent that could be managed by the child—setting limits on where and how much the…
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This is MY home
My mother was diagnosed with ALZ in 2018. She came to live with me in IN at the end of last year. Prior to that, she had lived with my sister in NJ for 15+ years. She owned her own home briefly before that and we lived with her parents when I was young. She is often mumbling/whispering but I cannot tell what she is saying.…
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Took my mom but the new digs
Caring for my wife with advanced Alzheimer's and my mom with moderate dementia. Took my mom by the very nice MC and she hates me. Stopped to get something to drink but she won't sit with us. She is trying to escape.
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Newbie
I'm one of the new kids here. My mom has had memory issues it seems like forever. She "retired" at 49 due to MS. She is now 76. My stepfather (85) has Parkinson's. Mom was given a neuro-memory test last year. Dr said without a new scan she can't give her memory loss 100% name, but 97% sure Alzheimer's it's name. I'm…
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Mom won’t come home from friends
My mother is in middle stage Alzheimer’s. Her friend wanted her to come over for a sleepover with another two friends that they went to college with. Before leaving, my mother was being difficult and angry because I wouldn’t let her do certain things because of safety reasons. I thought it would do her good to be around…
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Recommendations for AL facilities in either NY or FL?
Has anyone move a family member into an AL in the Citrus County area of FL or Orange County area of NY? Both would work for my parents who are just about ready to give up living in their own independent apartment. Hoping someone on this forum can recommend a place they have dealt with personally as online reviews are a…
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Helping Dad
So I’m just getting home from driving 45 minutes each way to diffuse an argument between my parents. Mom has dementia and dad is doing his best, but loses patience and gets upset with her when she gets confused. This leads to fighting, but then she can’t convey why they’re arguing she just knows she’s upset. I’m unable to…
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Major holidays: LO thinks she's hosting and parents will be there
My mom (LO. Moderate ALZ) thinks she's hosting most major holidays, like she used to before the dementia. We tell her that we're all going to [another relatives] house, but she doesn't believe us and wants to stay home because "people are coming over." Do we just tell her that everyone will be going to [another relatives]…
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End stage AD
There are so many websites out there that list AD stages and symptoms but I want to ask people who are actually living through it what stage they think my mom could be in. She cannot form sentences that make sense, cannot understand much of what is said to her, doesn’t know anyone in the family, has almost no childhood…
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Bible Verse to Uplift You 5/14/23
Dear Friends, Again, I thank you for your encouraging messages. If you need a prayer, please also include those as well. Peace Always, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski) * BE LIKE JESUS * Philippians 2:1-5 New Living Translation Have the Attitude of Christ 2 Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort…
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Managing care long-distance
I could use some advice. My mom, who is 81 years old, is in stage 4, borderline stage 5. She still lives at home in MA with my dad, also 81. I live in VA and manage all of their finances, medical, house related items, etc. I fly home every 4-6 weeks for doctor appointments, house cleaning, hair cuts, laundry, etc. since my…
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Manic
So even with mood stabilizing meds, mania still occurs?? Does anyone else experience this? Is it just random when the manic episodes occur or is this going to be a constant? I thought getting her on meds would help and we were good for a little over a week and now she’s Manic again. I’m kind of at my wits end on what to…
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Accountant or bookkeeper recommendations
Hi there, Anyone know a good accountant or bookkeeper that understands trusts and Medicaid? I'm the POA for my mom, who has Alz. As part of an awful experience called Medicaid planning, a lawyer is recommending my mom put some assets into a living trust; plus open a Qualified Income Trust; plus open a Medicaid Compliant…
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My sister stopped moms med without consulting me
My mother has been on Seroquel (12.5mg) given late afternoon since March and also an antidepressant Mirtazapine (7.5mg). They say she is late stage 6 dementia. She is sleeping all night now and her speech and general mood is much better. Well, I and my older sister are joint POAs but I have the medical POA. Last Thursday…
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My 61 year old dad has been diagnosed with early onset dementia and I'm only 19
Growing up, I was such a daddy's girl; I absolutely adored my dad and looked up to him so much. He introduced me to my love of sports and I got most of my humor and definitely my competitiveness from him. I had such an amazing relationship and I always think of him as my hero. About 5 years ago, I started to notice a…
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Help with explaining new SNF home to my mom!
Good morning everyone! This group is such an awesome group! I very much appreciate everyone’s questions, answers, and great suggestions! I had posted a question several weeks ago regarding moving my mom into a SNF. As it turns out, she had a fall, which required her to be hospitalized for 4 days. That was my opening to…