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How to handle confusions
I'm new to this site. I could really use some advice. My father has dementia and living in nursing home. He is convinced that he was/is in WWII. He never served in the military. He keeps asking when his uniforms are going to come showing his new rank. I don't know what to say to him. I keep telling him they are out of his…
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how to proceed with parent's care, disagreements within the family
Hello all, I'm new here and am in need of advice/support from others who understand what it’s like to care for a parent. My mother (60y/o) has been dealing with memory loss since 2019, she was diagnosed with mild cognitive decline at the time and has advanced significantly since. We are working with doctors to get an…
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Seeking advice
Hello, new to the forum! I've been struggling trying to find answers and help with my mom. 4 years I tried convincing both my mom and dad to sell their house and move closer. My dad 6 years ago was diagnosed with colon cancer, late stage. He somehow managed to survive it, but never came even close to recovering fully. A…
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Impossible situation.
I could really use some prayers right now. My husband has mds, a form of blood cancer is getting ready to start chemo. That in itself is hard. I have a horribly abusive mom that is 86 with some dementia. She told me yesterday with hate in her eyes and face that I’ve been nothing but trouble and she’s been thru with me…
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ADVICE:From MCI to Full ALZ/Memantin
Hi, New. Mom 74 Diagnosed with MCI, but Pet scans show hypometabolism in all areas of the brain. Full cognitive workup shows spacio awareness issues, but not much else. Neuro suggested she start Memantin to " slow possible progress". My limited research shows it does not slow and many dangerous side effects, but Mom still…
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Depression as my Moms Alzheimers progresses
Hey everyone, I am new here and was looking for advice on how to deal with what feels like constant grieving. Shortly after covid hit, my mom was diagnosed with PCA, a type of dementia that affects vision. After her diagnoses, things have progressed really fast and I have been going through feelings of depression, anxiety…
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Need advice! Mom recently moved to MC and hates it!
Hello! I'm looking for some help. My 85 yr old mother with dementia moved into MC after after a 2 week stay in the Geripsych unit at our local hospital. She was taken there very much against her will by brother while I was out of the country. She has macular degeneration very bad and has very poor vision. This poor vision…
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Does a spouse have the right to visit husband in memory care facility?
My step father was moved from hospital to nursing home and now into memory care. (The facility doesn’t accept Medicare or Medicaid which may make a difference?) My mother has Alzheimer’s. She married her husband in 2016 and has never been liked by the 4 grown sons of her husband. They met her at the beginning of her…
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Pocketing food - how do we get him to swallow the pureed food he holds on his tongue
Hi, Dad with dementia and on hospice just started pocketing food. Is fed food by spoon. Willing to open his mouth to accept the food but it lays on his tongue. Case Manager RN says it's part of the dementia/decline process. Otherwise, he can be alert to sit in wheelchair. Seems hungry, just doesn't seem to remember how to…
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I don't know how to feel
Dealing with my father's dementia has severely affected me. 15 years ago, my father abandoned us, left us in debt, we lost everything. I mean everything-- only the clothes on our backs and a few items that I had with me. Then 10 years ago, he comes back like nothing, made no effort to find work, and just...exists. Then 5…
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Mom taking a quick turn 95
Over the past 5 weeks my MOM’s memory has deteriorated rapidly. She is in a nursing home and I see her almost every day. Was really strong and with it and then splat.. it all crushed.. just a few weeks before I was to have Hip Replacement Surgery .. Surgery is 2 weeks past..my brother and sister were both here to care for…
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7 mos in to the Alz journey...
46 y/o daughter still raising teenagers; 76 y/o mom moved in with early stage diagnosis. Just looking for comraderie, hope and guidance. *at this time I am her temporary caregiver, younger sibling will take over daily support in 3 mos.
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Respite care in NJ
Looking for a place in Bergen County NJ for outpatient respite care for mom who needs to be supervised at all times, to give me a break on occasion. Also does medicare help with the cost? Are there any Grants available to help pay?
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Talking to her hallucinations all day long
My mom has been living in a memory care facility for about 6 months now - 2 months ago I moved her 4 hours to be closer to me as I was the only person visiting her and it was a 4 hour drive for me. She is having hallucinations all of the time and only talks to the people on the ceiling. She does both sides of the…
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Stays Up Into Wee Hours of the Morning
Good Evening. My mom, who has dementia, stays awake until the wee hours of the morning (often not going to bed until 2:30a.m. or after). My dad is her primary caregiver. They live independently in their own home. What advice can I share with my dad to help my mom go to bed earlier? (My dad will not go to bed until she…
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UTI test negative - retest?
Has anyone ever had a negative UA that turned out to be positive on retest? My LO is elderly and in memory care and her behavior has changed and the caregivers are thinking UTI. We did the test and the lab was a long time getting the results back and they were remarkably clear and negative. I am wondering if it's worth…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 7/21/23
Dear Friends. Your comments are welcomed, and I read them. If you have any personal thoughts on the verse, please feel free to share. I just prayed for everyone who reads this discussion. Peace always, Ronnie (Veronica) * SHOUT FOR JOY BIBLE REFLECTION Psalm 33:1 (GNT) “All you that are righteous, shout for joy for what…
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PROPOS DIFFAMATOIRES A L'ENCONTRE DE MA MAMAN AGEE AVEC TROUBLES COGNITIFS SEVERES
Bonjour, mon frère et moi nous sentons impuissants face à le comportement diffamatoire d'une coordinatrice des auxiliaires de vie en charge de ma Maman à son modicile. celle-ci rapporte que son domicile est insalubre et infesté de rats et doit être placée "pour sa sécurité et sa dignité" selon ses dires. ces allégations…
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Hurtful Comments
Good Afternoon. I am new to this forum and am so thankful it exists. My parents, who are 90, still live independently in their own home. My mom has survived 2 strokes and is diagnosed with dementia. My dad is her primary caregiver. He is committed to my mom, dotes on her every need, and wants so badly to cure her. My…
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Searching for perspective. I am so, so sad and worried it's too soon for MCF.
Hi there, I joined recently and was so unbelievably appreciative of all of the incredibly thoughtful, honest and kind feedback I got in my first post, weeks ago. Thank you. The following might be more of a journal than a request, but I am pleading for perspective. ––– We have selected a MCF for dad (79, Stage 5…
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Early Alz - is distance caregiving better?
My Mom is on the verge of mild Alzheimers (according to her doctor it’s still mild cognitive decline, yet her short term memory is atrocious and will forget things I tell her 10 minutes prior). my issue is that I’m her only family member. I live 3+ hours away. She doesn’t have anyone where she lives, except a couple of…
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Help! What to do when they refuse to take their medication??
Hello Everyone, my stepdad recently passed away unexpectedly and as a result, I now take care of my 83 year old mom who has vascular dementia. We've only had her living here with us for one week (different state than she was living in previously). We are scrambling to accommodate her as we are not set up for this kind of…
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How do you balance leave and cleave (Genesis 2:24) with honoring (caring for) your elderly parents
I learned the hard way, folks. No matter what the Bible or your culture says, pick your marriage (leave and cleave) and work out how to care for your parents without destroying it. I didn't think at this age or stage in my life we would be working on repairing our marriage - but here we are. Be happy. Don't let caregiving…
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New to the forum
Hello all, I'll keep this short as I'm sure you're all heard this before, as it's the same story with a different name. I moved my mom here a year ago to take care of her, as out of all my siblings, I'm the one best suited to do so. My mom (86) has Alzheimer's, and refuses to accept her condition. I'm able to deal with it…
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Touring Assisted Living - What questions should I ask?
I am going to start making appointments tomorrow to visit Assisted Living places for my Mom. I have never been to an Assisted Living place before. What questions should I ask? What should I be looking for?
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Helpless & Angry about husband's loss
Hi folks, Im just in the beginning of this challenging journey, so please indulge me as i come to you for help. Im vey overwhelmed, so hope this makes sense to you. My 86 yo mom, the most important person in the world to me, has mild - mod dementia and is currently in a rehab place following a hospitalization. That's is…
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Newbie - looking for support
Hi, my Mom (88) was diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment a few months ago. She is still considered independent in the facility she moved into almost 5 years ago. But she isn’t independent. I manage her meds, finances, and for the last couple months go over 2-3x/week for showers. Otherwise she doesn’t shower. She is…
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New
New to site. Caring for live in dad with dementia. Any information would be appreciated. Need a friend or nurse to come in once a week to visit.
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Need advice about how I got my parents to stop driving.
I have posted before. Both parents have cognitive issues. My dad recently drove on a suspended Drivers license with no I’d. My mom turned off the cameras in the house to cover it up and told the other caregiver she would protect her husband at all cost. I begged and pleaded to her conscience to give me the rest of the…