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My dad
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Later stages of dementia.
Hi I am full time carer to my mum. She was diagnosed in 2018 even tho signs were there many years before. Mum is now housebound and sleeps a lot. I am able to get her up for a few hours a day . Food has become very little. Mainly just chocolate cakes etc. she does drink protein shakes and liquids.. I don’t battle with her…
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Letter to my dad
I would like to send a letter to my dad who has early stage or maybe middle stage Alzheimer's. My stepmother moved him from Maryland to an apartment in Florida. He did not want to move. I was concerned about this and very sad, but I stayed positive and cheerful during the packing and on moving day when we said goodbye. I…
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Locking down medication
Hi all. I’m interested in learning about any kind of locked medication boxes you use to keep your loved ones safe. My mom is on a number of medications including insulin, so I need something that’s versatile and can hold more than just pill bottles. Thanks for any suggestions or recommendations.
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I have no idea what to say or do
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this is hard
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Moving Mom to Memory Care
I have been told I need to move my Mom from AL to MC because she has started wondering the halls at night. I understand why she has to move but the question is how to handle it. The place I am moving her to, suggests to take her out for the day and when I bring her back, bring her to the new place and tell her this is…
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Caring for Two
My 92-year-old father has Alzheimer’s. My 89-year-old, visually-impaired mother has been his primary caregiver until this month. My sister and I live together a mile from their home and have seen them daily for the last couple of years. Last month while my sister was out of state, I came to their home after school and…
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My mom spends hundreds on plants weekly
My mom is probably at early or middle stage Alzheimer’s. . Unfortunately her only interest is plants. When we, her daughters take her out she only wants to go buy plants and flowers. She has hundreds but forgets she has them. I think she just loves the process of picking them out and buying them. We are not sure how to…
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How to find Mom's birth certificate and divorce decree
As part of the Medicaid application according to the Elder Law attorney we need a copy of Mom's birth certificate and divorce decree. I can't find them in the house. She does not remember exactly where she was born but thinks it was either New Jersey (most likely), New York, or Connecticut. For New Jersey they require that…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 6/15/23
GOD’S LOVE AND CARE BIBLE REFLECTION Romans 8:31-32 (GNT) “…If God is for us, who can be against us? Certainly not God, who did not even keep back his own Son, but offered him for us all! He gave us his Son—will he not also freely give us all things?” What comfort do you find in the above verse? MEDITATION God was always…
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Asking for help - lesson I just learned
So… finally having my mom getting quality medical care, there are more doctor appointments. For the first time, I couldn’t make one coming up. I was so stressed, didn’t want to reschedule (long waits for appointments). I thought about getting a car to take her there but that seemed not smart given where she is. I did…
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How do you face your own demented future?
Mom is in MC and well cared for and seemingly content. She does not know who I am but she enjoys spending time with me during my frequent visits. As her child, I stand a pretty good chance of also getting dementia and this fills me with dread. I’ve had so many ugly crying sessions thinking about a time when I may not…
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Is visiting her daughter a good idea?
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Abusive for 30+ years and now dementia
Does anyone have experience with a spouse who has been emotionally abusive and somewhat physically abusive for 30 years and now has dementia?
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New Here.
My story is very complicated. we are not sure of the stage my mother is in. She is 69. The doctor says this is too young but she was diagnosed in 2021 with the dementia. Summary is I hired an attorney to get guardianship and conservatorship of my mother, who has dementia, due to my brother's neglect. I got final in April.…
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Nursing home
Hi, My mom is at a nursing home. She has been there for a few months now. And was moved to the behavioral unit about a month or so. She have behavior issues. Now they also think she have mental issues beside her dementia. She have aggressive behavior at times, mainly toward me her main caregiver or the nursing staff. This…
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quetiapine question
Anyone know the side affects of this drug’? I been try to figure how long it takes to effective?
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new here and it's already bad
Hey yall! So, my dad's had signs of alzheimers/dementia for ages. But I moved in with him almost a yr ago, and when he got violent I immediately scheduled him an appt with his Dr...my dad's never put his hands on me. Ffw to 2 months ago, and i finally got himdiagnosed and medicated. Well, a week ago, he got violent again,…
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Mom wants to move back to her house and I need advice!
Hi, I'd love some advice. My mother has been in assisted living for over 2 years and has been saying she wants to go home to her house often (she's in the moderate stages of Alz). Recently, she's been saying it more and expects to move soon, and she has always been very opinionated and strong-willed. She can never go back…
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Overwhelmed
We never had my mother diagnosed but her symptoms began in 2014. She is 89. Last month she fell for the second time and with no ability to walk we placed her in a memory center. Despite being in a wheelchair she has tried to leave & we are now looking for a locked facility. My brother died last week & my emotions are so…
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Hospice nurse and AL nurses clashing
Who has dealt with this situation? My mom, 94, dementia and bedridden, began hospice a few months ago. The territorialism of the AL nurses didn't come to the forefront till now. My mom moans and complains whenever she is turned, diaper changed, or otherwise moved. Otherwise, she rests peacefully due in part to her fentanyl…
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Unkind remarks about residents
My dear dad has been in MC for a year. He is well cared for and content. His long-time wife, however, continues to make petty and mean remarks about dad’s fellow residents—what they do, how they look, etc. She visits dad every day and for that I am grateful. But how do I deal with this beyond reminding her that it’s MC and…
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Not allowed in to see my mother
My mother is at my sisters house being cared for by her sister in law Lynn. I don’t think the care is good enough and I’ve mentioned my grievance which only got me permanently unwelcome in her home now I’m not sure if I’ll ever be able to see my mother again. I’m not sure how to get visitation to see my mother when she is…
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Supporting my mum who is caring for my grandad with dementia.
My grandad (94) has dementia and recently has been aggressive and showing a lot of anger towards my mum. He is in a dementia nursing home and a few weeks ago was moved from one room in the home to another room right next to the nurses desk as he was falling over regularly (this was recommended by the doctor for his…
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First visit at AL facility, eye opener
4We are in the mid-stage of dementia here probably though things are staring to change. Mobility still good but starting to lose interest in things, forgetting the bathroom routines, lots of little eating reminders. He hasn't know what state he lives in for quite a while and has no idea what day of the week it is, when he…
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How to deal with father with moderate dementia
Hi, This is my first time posting. My father was diagnosed with mild dementia in December. He has always been private about any health issues but he has started confiding in me (mostly complaining about my stepmother or how people are treating him now). He told me had gotten lost a few times when he was not going to places…
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Behavior changes
Hello! I'm new to this group and am glad to have others to give me advice. My 77 YO mom has middle-stage Alzheimer's and has been showing some new behaviors that I don't know how to handle. She has been getting angry/agitated very quickly when she realizes there is something she didn't remember. She claims that nobody told…
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What a journey and losing a father to ALZ.
I wrote this on May 12th before my dad's passing on the 31st. Little did I know he only had a couple of weeks left in this world. I was by his bedside when he took his last breath. I am super depressed and feel lost, I am also worried about my mom because she is in the same boat, but she feels "alone". I have so many…
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Disease suddenly progressing quickly
At the time of my dad's diagnosis a year and a half ago, he was living alone, still feeding himself, paying his bills, and maintaining his garden. About 6 months ago, he fell a couple times and started doing some troubling things, like trying to light his pipe from the stove with random things around the house. Even though…