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Advice for a young caregiver?
Hello world, this is my first post on ALZconnected as I have just recently joined. I have never joined a support group before and I do not know anybody else with a parent with Alzheimer's so here I am giving this a try. For some context, I am 20 years-old and my father who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's is 79 years-old and…
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Bathroom confusion at night
My LO has been in memory care about 2 months. They've started having a hard time finding the bathroom (in their room) at night. We have put up motion sensor light strips on the door and behind the toilet. None of these are helping. They are not incontinent, they know they need to go to the bathroom, but in the middle of…
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Doors and Drawers left open
First, I want to say how grateful I am to everyone who shares here. It has been amazing to feel not-alone in this. My mother, diagnosed with Alzheimers and Vascular Dementia, leaves all the doors and drawers open now. Does anyone notice that same behavior? She has also has many of the behaviors already mentioned in the…
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New Caregiver, Overwhelmed
My 80 year old dad got diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few weeks ago. He’s had problems with names and words and math for several months but until recently, it had not progressed much past that. Now he has problems with understanding his finances and figuring out time spans. He is a retired civil engineer, so this is a pretty…
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The first thing I say.....
When I call people that I haven't spoken to in a while, be they relatives or friends, is "No, he is still alive." The see my name on the caller ID and they think I am calling to tell them my dad is dead. I feel funny about it. Does anyone else have this happen?
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Bathroom Issues
When my mother goes to the restroom. She does not sit back on the toilet seat and when she goes it runs out the front onto her clothes and the floor. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can handle this? We have a sitter during the day also. When anyone tries to go with her to help her and make sure she sits back she…
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How hard was it for you to put parent in MC?
Been 5 days since I put my mom in MC. She didn't go willingly and always has things stuffed into garbage bags to make her escape. My DW is deep into Alzheimer's and I can't care for my mom anymore but she doesn't understand that or why she can't live by herself. Picked her up today so she could come to my house and see her…
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My dm and dd are pushing me .
We moved my parents in with us two yrs now, my dad just has a bit of regular memory problems, but completely took care of mom alone, did everything, cleaning, laundry all of it . She was getting to much for him alone because she would fall sometimes and hes85 and it's to hard on him so they wanted to live with us so Incase…
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Looking for advice on my situation with my mother who has dementia
Hi everyone. I am very new here, but I am desperate for any advice that can be given regarding my mother with middle stage dementia and my father who is in denial.this is a very long story. My mom has suffered a number of illnesses dating back to her teenage years. She has had myasthenia gravis, then lymphoma, and now…
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Recommendations medic alert
I am looking Medic Alert bracelet or necklace. My LO has dementia and fidgits with jewelry. So I'm trying to find something that would be a little difficult for her to remove. If anyone has suggestions please let me know
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Obsessions
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Type 1 Diabetes / insulin pump management for my mom with alzheimer's
My 79 year old father is my 76 year old mom's (with Alzheimer's diagnosed) primary caregiver.My mom also has Type 1 diabetes with an insulin pump she is no longer able to manage independently. I live about 15 minutes away and my sister lives about 1 hour away. She is now supportive and on board with many of the suggestions…
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What to say when Mom says she wants to die, also what about my own status?
I saw my mom and dad today who live independently in their home of 20 years. I live one hour away and stop by on occasion to drop off groceries. Mom has AD for the last five years, and dad is doing alright, but has COPD and struggles occasionally with breathing and needs medications altered as it progresses. Both parents…
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Verbal abuse and neglect from mom's husband
My 75- year-old mother is suffering from dementia along with A-fib and a history of falling and losing her balance. She is living with her husband of 15 years who is an unsupportive, critical and cold man. Despite her mental deficiencies, she is ridiculed and neglected by him daily for forgetting things or not doing…
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Delusions of incest
My mother is 89 and father 91. They moved in with my sister and BIL last October. My mother has dementia and a recent CT scan of the brain showed atrophy. She is on hospice for COPD. A nurse comes out once a week to take vitals. Recently, my mother has started having delusions that my sister and my father are having an…
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New dementia diagnosis
Hello, My mom was just diagnosed with dementia. I need to know how to best support her and am looking for resources. thank you!
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FIL not cooperating with doctors orders
Good morning, my beautiful MIL has mid to advanced Ahlzheimer's my FIL is her PC caregiver. He is 87, she is 82. My FIL is very controlling and refuses to cooperate with any of the instructions her PCP, Ahlzheimer's doctor and her psychiatrist has suggested. The care that he is giving her is terrible, she rarely bathes, he…
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Mother with early stages of dementia, doesn't speak English
Hi All, My husband and I think that my mom cannot live along due to dementia. She acknowledge that we take a good care of her but complain that she is bored (she doesn't want to read, watch TV, do puzzle or craft) and feels like she is in jail. She ask almost every day to send her back to her native country where she can…
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Comment bien choisir le lieu de vie d'une personne atteinte de démence
Bonjour, Ma maman 87 ans, atteinte de démence est depuis le 15 mai dans une unité de vie protégée, à Strasbourg. Personnellement, j'habite dans les Cévennes. Comme elle avait un ami/amoureux à Strasbourg, je n'ai pas voulu l'installer près de chez moi. Mais cet ami/amoureux vient de décéder. Si elle a un "petit" cercle…
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Later stages of dementia.
Hi I am full time carer to my mum. She was diagnosed in 2018 even tho signs were there many years before. Mum is now housebound and sleeps a lot. I am able to get her up for a few hours a day . Food has become very little. Mainly just chocolate cakes etc. she does drink protein shakes and liquids.. I don’t battle with her…
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Letter to my dad
I would like to send a letter to my dad who has early stage or maybe middle stage Alzheimer's. My stepmother moved him from Maryland to an apartment in Florida. He did not want to move. I was concerned about this and very sad, but I stayed positive and cheerful during the packing and on moving day when we said goodbye. I…
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Locking down medication
Hi all. I’m interested in learning about any kind of locked medication boxes you use to keep your loved ones safe. My mom is on a number of medications including insulin, so I need something that’s versatile and can hold more than just pill bottles. Thanks for any suggestions or recommendations.
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I have no idea what to say or do
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Moving Mom to Memory Care
I have been told I need to move my Mom from AL to MC because she has started wondering the halls at night. I understand why she has to move but the question is how to handle it. The place I am moving her to, suggests to take her out for the day and when I bring her back, bring her to the new place and tell her this is…
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Caring for Two
My 92-year-old father has Alzheimer’s. My 89-year-old, visually-impaired mother has been his primary caregiver until this month. My sister and I live together a mile from their home and have seen them daily for the last couple of years. Last month while my sister was out of state, I came to their home after school and…
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My mom spends hundreds on plants weekly
My mom is probably at early or middle stage Alzheimer’s. . Unfortunately her only interest is plants. When we, her daughters take her out she only wants to go buy plants and flowers. She has hundreds but forgets she has them. I think she just loves the process of picking them out and buying them. We are not sure how to…
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How to find Mom's birth certificate and divorce decree
As part of the Medicaid application according to the Elder Law attorney we need a copy of Mom's birth certificate and divorce decree. I can't find them in the house. She does not remember exactly where she was born but thinks it was either New Jersey (most likely), New York, or Connecticut. For New Jersey they require that…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 6/15/23
GOD’S LOVE AND CARE BIBLE REFLECTION Romans 8:31-32 (GNT) “…If God is for us, who can be against us? Certainly not God, who did not even keep back his own Son, but offered him for us all! He gave us his Son—will he not also freely give us all things?” What comfort do you find in the above verse? MEDITATION God was always…