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Bible Verse to Life You up 1/15/24
OUR HOPE IS GOD’S UNFAILING LOVE Psalm 147:5 New Living Translation 5 How great is our Lord! His power is absolute! His understanding is beyond comprehension! 11 No, the Lord’s delight is in those who fear him, those who put their hope in his unfailing love. When the winds of sickness, stress, anger and fear are strong and…
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ER Visit for Mom
Over the last week, my mom has been insisting to go to the ER. She claims someone told her she is going to die if she doesn’t go, and is complaining of pain (does not indicate where) but then goes about like all is well. I’ve checked her out to see if there was anything visually abnormal in the area she says she feels…
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Glad to have found this space
I posted this earlier today but in the wrong forum, so I am reposting it here. I truly am glad and somewhat relieved to have found this space to be able to share information about dealing with a parent who is a PWD. My 82 year old mom is a PWD and dealing with the situation has been a crazy roller coaster over the last 18…
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Paranoia, delusion, hallucination and aggression
My mom with early onset Alzheimer is turning 69 next week. In the last two months, things take a drastic turn as she started with less engage with us turning into full delusion and hallucination all awake hours. There is no redirect or reassuring technique to help as she is not engaging with us. She turns physical and…
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mom may be 2 hours away
My sister found an assisted living for mom close to her, but it's about 2 hours for me. I don't like that she may be so far. I've lived near mom since I've been married & had kids. And now my kids are grown. It's kind of breaking my heart thinking mom may be far from me. Am I overreacting?
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How to engage dad
My dad has no interest to do anything except eat and sleep. He used to be tech savvy but now he don't know how to use the computer, laptop, cellphone, iPad or the remote. He can't follow the news even though he always want to watch CNN. He used to love driving but of course he can't do that anymore. He loved fishing but he…
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Mom is on her way to a memory unit!
Hi all! What an intense day!! After hearing from Mom’s pcp yesterday that she had my mom’s admission papers ready to pick up today (Friday), and all I had to do was take Mom to the memory care facility— I thought everything was going to go smooth. Not! Called the memory care facility once we arrived to see how to proceed…
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New to this transition
Hi everyone, Quilted Brings Calm wrote thoughtful suggestions to Catminor that were really helpful for me. I am new to the forum and saw that message about the process of getting parents into a care facility. I have a very similar scenario as many of you - my 85 year-old dad went into the hospital for a week in early…
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Family in Denial
My 70yo mom has been dealing with "undiagnosed" demential or ALZ for what seems like 10 years now. In the last couple of years it has become very difficult, but my father and sister do not want to take the next steps; accepting it and being pro-active. She has cancelled multiple brain scans, she hasn't been able to put…
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Questions
Dad has been having hallucinations that people are in his house stealing from him. Dr added new med 2x a day- after about a week he has been better. Stayed with us a few nights now wants to go back to own home. Last night he was seeing people again. Is this normal behavior- to improve then regress? The ebb and flow of…
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Dad has ALZ, Mom has cancer
I'm 34 years old and have two I'll parents. My mom was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer in 2020. My Dad had a crisis behaviorally which led to his diagnosis of ALZ two months after my wedding (April 2023). This past summer was pure he'll. In and out of the hospital, Dad leaving the hospital against medical advice, him…
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I don’t want to know
I am 35 years old, last year my dad who was taking care of my mom with dementia passed away from alcoholism. I had to decline my acceptance in dental hygiene school, I had to quit my job to care for my mom. I moved her in with me and took care of her for almost 2 years. March of last year I found a home for her to live in…
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Elder Care Consult
I have one of those 15 minute consults scheduled for Monday with a CELA. Should I include my DH in on the call? I’ve told him I’m going to make an appointment, but I don’t think he knows why. I feel like he needs to be part of this. And then again for the in person meeting, soon I hope. He’s kinda distrustful (since the…
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Newbie here.....how to cope with my dad
My dad, unoffically, has alzheimers. He does not want to be tested. I am 52. He is 88. My mom passed 6 years so just him and I. He lives with me. I have my own business and work lots of hours. He has a part time care giver just so she can take him to doctor appts and get him out of the house for a meal. My entire life…
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Where to start
My father is struggling with dementia and my mom is his caregiver. However, she has been very dependent on dad all of her life, so she is very overwhelmed by all that needs to get done. I live 3 hours away and I am trying to help, but I am so unsure of what to do. My mom is so overwhelmed with the financial side of things…
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What kind of duties does a POA have?
My mom finally agreed to appointing me as POA over medical and financial responsibilities. What does POA allow me to do? I'm waiting for the official paperwork to be signed.
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Duties of being POA
My mom is finally letting me to be the POA. I'm waiting on the paperwork to be signed. What kind of duties does POA allow me to do?
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Early onset of Alzheimer’s and the cost of long term care
Hello All, My mother was diagnosed with early onset of Alzheimer’s in 2015 at the age of 51. She just turned 59, and the disease has progressed significantly. My father had to move her into a memory care unit housed in a nursing facility. She has been unable to take care of herself for years and needs additional one on one…
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Early onset Alzheimer’s (Stage 7)
We knew dad had been struggling for years with depression and insomnia but nothing prepared us for the effects of early onset Alzheimer’s. My mom has always been a working mom, 60 hours a week, every week without taking any sick days. My dad struggled with holding down jobs and was dealing with mental illness year after…
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New to the group
Hi, I'm Megan and I'm new to the group. I'm dad has been diagnosed with dementia and I believe that my mom has it also but hasn't been diagnosed yet. She is so stressed and I don't think that they're understanding what the dr's are saying but my dad (and his pride) doesn't want to tell anyone and my mom allowed me to…
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How to Care for Mom when She Doesn't Want It
My husband and I try to read as much as we can about dementia, Alzheimer's, etc so that we can give Mom the help, dignity and love she needs right now. (I've written previously of her wanting to go home...every week if not several days a week). It says that when she wants to go home, try to see if she's hungry, tired, etc.…
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Grief
How do you handle your grief while still caregiving (bring true to your feelings but not in front of LO?) and not get angry with/at them because of it?
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Angry forever?
My moms delusions and anger have become so taxing that our family feels like it may be time for full time care but she’s voiced she doesn’t want to go to a nursing home and “nothings wrong” with her. I KNOW she’s going to be irate with everyone. My question is, do you have experience with this and was your loved one angry…
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Sleeping 24/7 and refusing to eat
I am the sole caregiver for my 82 year old mother, and new here, but I am extremely worried about my mom because she is sleeping 24/7 and refusing to eat. I have reached out to her doctor but doesn't really seem to be concerned, which also worries me. Mom has also started having a lot of hallucinations and having…
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New here- need advice
My mom passed away in November and she was my dad’s caregiver who have ALZ. She was at a loss in how to help him or deal with his issues as she was having health issues herself resulting in her passing. I am an only child and she hid how bad my dad’s dementia had gotten. I am at a loss myself. He confuses me with her…
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Dementia - toilet clogging in memory care
My mom is in the later middle stages. Age 72. Started in assisted living but moved into memory care wing about 6 months ago. The day she moved in she clogged the toilet and she has done it almost every day since. She never did it before when she was in Assisted Living. The staff at the facility offers no ideas on how to…
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Terrible night
We had a terrible night and I lost my patience completely. I’ve posted before about MIL’s dementia. She came to live with my spouse and I about 18 months ago. Prior to that she had been staying with her daughter and family. Everyone knew something was going on but it wasn’t until MIL came to stay here that we had an…
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Moms bad spending decisions
mom has been diagnosed with dementia. I pay her bills and handle her finances. i have durable power of attorney. mom wants to be very independent. she lives with my brother and he brings her to the bank to take out spending once a month. the problem is she often spends money on things she will never use. its not alot of…
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MY MOM HAS EXTREME PARANOIA TOWARDS ME
Hello-- 8months ago my Mom had an MRi done to her brain but there was no exact diagnosis based on the results of the MRI> We also saw a Neuro-Pysch-- and he only spent a few minutes with her and I had to be the one to tell the story about her accusing me of stealing her under garments, jewelries, clothing, remote control,…
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Obtaining POA in NYS
Hello everybody! I am stuck on how to obtain POA over my mother in NYS. There is so much info on all the different types of POA's my head is spinning. I know the easiest way would be to hire a lawyer, but I don't think I have the money for that. There are tons of "free" templates online, but they're never actually free.…