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Getting Physical
Hi, This is about my FIL. He is 92 and he is living at home with a full time aide. He never had a diagnosis from a neurologist (don't ask me why, I am only the DIL) but he is delusional and has dementia. His wife died 2 years ago, but he had been not well since before that. She never told anyone of his problems. Married…
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Stopping Memmatine
Hi, My cousin, a cardiologist familiar with my dad's case, has recommended stopping his memmatine. My dad has been on it for over five years, probably more. My dad is having a lot of delusions and is sleeping a great deal. I don't think this medication is helping him if it ever did. There is no way to judge this drugs…
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How to know getting valid info from Healthcare nurse and others
My Mom has had 24/7 home healthcare for over 3 years now from a Health Care company. My brother was there during the last evaluation. How do we know we are getting an objective evaluation as the assessing nurse, caregiver, and Health Care company are all saying they can handle things with our Mom. We pay a lot of money for…
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New here and need advice
I'm new here to the message boards. My dad is 82 and his primary care provider. I get between 20 to 25 hours of caregiving support from the state department of aging. I'm working on getting extra hours from the VA. My dad has end stage dementia. It's becoming difficult to handle him in the overnight hours to get him to…
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Taking Mom to ER
I am wondering when it is okay to take my mother to the ER. In less than 30 days she has lost almost 30 pounds; she doesn't eat more than 2 meals a day (usually a couple pieces of toast or a bowl of cereal). Her confusion is so great that I have to tell multiple times a day where her room is; today while at the table, she…
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Late Stage Dementia
For anyone that has lived through late stage as a care giver can you please let me know how long your loved one lasted? I'm having trouble wrapping my head around how fast my mother is progressing. Everyday just seems to be something new that catches me off guard. Any insight would be appreciated.
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Feeling Blue
My Mom who my son and I have been taking care of since last year in our home was at the moderately severe stage. About ten days ago, she got sick suddenly. Within hours, she was locked inside our bathroom and having an issue. When we finally got the bathroom door open, we found her naked and more altered than normal,…
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Parent always wants to go home…
Hello, I’m new here and my family needs assistance. My Mom constantly talks about going home and feels like her home of almost 50 years is not her home. We constantly reassure her that she’s safe but she’s getting really agitated to the point where she’s stating that she wants to be hospitalized or put in a home. Her…
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Moving Mom
Hello I am new here and also trying to navigate the crazy road of caregiving. I started to notice signs of my mother loosing her memory a few years ago. Not knowing how to approach the conversation and express my concerns to her I just waited for when the moment was “right”. Three months ago my mother called me and told me…
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Social groups
I am wondering if anyone knows of any social groups in the Western New York area that my mother would be able to go to. She sits at home alone and just stares at the television unless I am with her and can take her out. She refuses to go to the Senior Center in our area and I feel she really needs more interaction with…
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Feeling Resentful
Hello, I am new to this forum and appreciate having a place to connect with others who understand. I take care of my mother with Alzhiemer's and it's becoming so overwhelming and I find myself resenting her for it. I work from home and she lives with me but there are constant interuptions throughout the day while I am in…
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The search is depressing
We are in the stages where it's getting too difficult to care for my dad, he needs basically 24/7 supervision to be safe. So, in searching both here where we live in Reno NV and in the northern Denver CO metro area, we are looking for MC or an AL facility that can handle dementia patients. The kicker is, Dad came to us in…
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Feeling resentful/tired
My 92 year old mother with dementia lives with my husband and me. We both have full time jobs. I've had to hire a caregiver while we work 40 hours/week. I am an only child, so no siblings to help. My only child (daughter) lives on the east coast. (we live in CA) I just find myself so burnt out....resentful, tired. I do the…
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Father continually tells me how beautiful/gorgeous/wonderful I look.
:s We just moved my father in to our house this weekend. Part of me thinks he is mistaking me for someone else since he seems to be so obsessed with telling my how beautiful I am. This is not new behavior--he actually got kicked out of the residential living he was in because he was inappropriate to other residents on many…
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Mom refusing to go to doctor
My mom is now refusing to go to the doctor on Wednesday. Sigh. She says she doesn’t want an operation. Or a spinal tap. We’ll see what happens. It’s on Wednesday.
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Placement vs in home companionship
My sister is the, in home, care for our Mother. All is going well enough, but, my sister has just found out she has a health issue that may require major surgery (maybe more than once). I will bring my sister into our home to help her through her post surgical time, but, am unsure about how to handle Mother's care. She…
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Managing Paranoia from LO
Hi all, I'm new here and just needing support. My step-dad started experiencing some memory loss a few years ago. Things like forgetting details of conversations or that the conversations even took place, forgetting the words for things, or needing to hear things repeated. He had pretty good self-awareness about it too. We…
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Methylene Blue
Hello All My mother (69 y.o) has Alzheimer's. I wanted to share the great improvement she has been having with the use of methylene blue under the care of her MD. She has been on this treatment since Easter of this year. Was diagnosed almost 5 years ago but I had noticed changes years before diagnosis. So far she remains…
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87 father is caretaker for 81 mom with severe Alzheimer's
Hi all, Have a situation where our mother is losing her ability to speak, extremely confused, has difficulty walking, is not showering or brushing her teeth and is incontinent at times. Our father is being difficult in that we had an aide for the summer who had to go back to her school job and now he is refusing another…
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24/7 Caregiving for my 84 year old father
My brother is my fathers legal guardian since he had a fall and diagonised with dementia and can no longer care for himself. He has chosen to have dad and I live in his home with his wife and 8 year old child. He pushed to have dad released from the rehab facility sooner than the house was ready, (stair lift) handicapped…
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Repetitive Sound
My 95-year-old father was diagnosed in 2018 with moderate-sever Alzheimer’s (at that time primarily in the medial/temporal lobes) and lives with my 96-year-old mother in an independent living facility. He is on Memantin (5mg) an Donepezil (10mg). Over the last year or my father began to rub his tongue along his cheek and…
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Mother in denial and agitated, paranoid, mean
My mother has had multiple strokes. The past stroke, 2 years ago truly did her in. She is unable to stand on her own without assistance and she has full paralysis on her left side. The strokes also exasperated her personality disorder (narcissism) and she says hatful things to myself and my father. Her doctor mentioned she…
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Mom with early onset dementia, I'm feeling lost
Hey all, this is my first post here so I hope this is okay. I'm the oldest of two siblings and our mom was diagnosed with lewy body dementia around two years ago at the age of 60. She's been in assisted living for roughly that same amount of time. She's on a laundry list of medication and often seems to be in a daze, is…
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Did anyone else get an email from Vanderbilt about a gift card?
I received an email today, and the reason I'm wondering if it's a scam is because it says "Happy Holiday!" at the end. I do recall some detail about a drawing for $25 Amazon gift cards for those who participated in a survey on ALZConnected. I tried to call Vanderbilt University's medical center to find out about this, but…
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Skilled nursing facility will not sign off on form to let mom go to Memory Care
May 2022 we placed my mom into the local nursing home after a stay at a memory care facility that was over an hour away and turned out to be bad. She didn’t really need the nursing care (she just takes the regular medications that an Alzheimer’s/ dementia patient does) but we decided it would be better to have her only a…
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Dealing with Toxic family members
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Difficult transition from AL to MC
My mother started showing signs of dementia in fall 2018. My dad was in denial - but they finally got her an official diagnosis in January 2021, then my dad died in May 2021. So she has been in assisted living since right after his passing. She moved to MC in the same building in June of this year. This transition to MC…
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When is the right time for AL?
Hello. This is my first post. My 87 year old MIL was diagnosed with dementia (Alzheimer’s +) in March of this year. This brought clarity to the cognitive and personality changes we had been noticing over the past couple of years. Memory changes are really the least of her symptoms. She does have trouble with memory recall…
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2 dogs & 2 cats
First time poster and new member. My wife and I care for my mom who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, although not sure which stage. Her short term memory is almost completely gone. She remembers us but will forget things we talk about after a few minutes. She has 2 dogs and 2 cats. She walks her two dogs and 1 cat( in…