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Behavioral issues and memory care
Hi! I’d love some advice on the following situation. I live 3 states away from my dad who’s been in assisted living for about a year. My sister is close by and manages most of the situation. Recently my dad started acting out and telling delusional stories. After he walked out of the facility through an emergency door…
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Conversations
Hello community! I’m needing help. So a little background, my mom is a retired nurse and I’m about to finish nursing school. During my clinicals I see some insane stuff and part of my nurse dreams included swapping stories with my mom. Sometimes the things I see are emotionally heavy as well. My mom has recently progressed…
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Trying to convince a parent to move closer to her children
I have experience with a parent who denies that her memory problems are serious enough for her to need care. My siblings and I are trying to be as patient and supportive as we can; our mom lives with a friend who is aging, and her friend wants her to move out. However, she won't tell my mom that, and mom really doesn't…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/23/24
FRIENDS, just want you to know I read all your comments and appreciate them. The Holy Spirit is with you and me here and everywhere. Peace, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski) * CONFUSION Isaiah 5:20 New International Version "Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness,…
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Sister Cares
Hello, I am just starting this discussion but my older sister has had dementia for about 2 years. Her family did not let me know until she called me one day and I knew something was wrong with her. That was about a year ago. It seems her dementia as moved very quickly. At times she no longer remembers her husband or home.…
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How to do long-distance move into memory care
My uncle has dementia and has recently progressed to the point where he can no longer live alone. He has no close family or friends nearby and my father (his brother) has found memory care near his home, but it is many states away from where my uncle currently lives (18 hour drive or 3-4 hour flight) My uncle is confused…
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How much do I tell him
My DH is in moderate stage but losing adl skills. He does not think he has any problems. I was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in 2020. I have been doing good but now it has gone to my liver. I am worried sick about him. He has no short term memory. How much do I tell him? He won't remember and if he does he will just…
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Support Group
Hi, This is my first time posting. This may seem like a silly question, but I'm looking for some support and I don't know if it is best to reach out to my local ALZ caregivers support group or the support group in my Dad's state. Which would provide me with better support and resources? Does it even matter? Also, I don't…
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Broken hip has just been added to my Mom's fast growing list of problems
Hello, and thank you for allowing me to be here. My mom's dementia has been a problem since 2019. She left the hospital ama 5 times, until she was put in the ICU and had surgery for a duodenal ulcer, IN the past 3 weeks, my mom has been hospitalized with Covid, gotten a bad UTI, and diagnosed with colon cancer. Now, we add…
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Mom aggressive and won’t take meds
I am dealing with an acute situation with my mom, 90 years old, who is 3 hours away. She has been having symptoms of dementia for several years but she has been otherwise healthy and able to function. My parents have a home next to mine but she has refused to leave her doctors. This week she was admitted to ER for very…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/4/24
COURAGE Genesis 1:1 NIV “In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” Joshua 1:9 NKJV “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Jeremiah 31:3 NIV “The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: ‘I have loved you…
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My mom is hallucinating
Hi I’m new here. In the last few months my mom has had hallucinations. I live with her with my adult daughters. A month ago she insisted people came in a changed her house around. It got so bad I called the ambulance. The doctor there said she had mild pneumonia. A psychiatrist evaluated her and diagnosed her with dementia…
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Grandpa’s phone calls
Hi everyone, I’m new here and seeking some advice. I have just recently learned that my grandpa has dementia. He still lives independently and I was unaware of his condition until now because my uncle didn’t tell me — all of my conversations with him had seemed normal until this weekend. For the past few days, he has been…
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Very lost, overwhelmed……… just a mixed bag of feeling
Hello everyone. This is my very first time ever posting on anything on any platform, but I’m certainly not above, asking for insight/advice for someone like me who is new to this. My mother is a 62-year-old woman who has officially been diagnosed with dementia two months ago. What we have learned is, my mother is actually…
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When do you know to start Hospice?
We have been managing our Dad very well in his home, he has 2 nurses that are covered by his insurance. Before he got bad he put it in writing that he wanted to die at home, and when he stopped eating he did not want nursing home care or pallative. We are following his wishes and we have a family atty. He is at the point…
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What about an abusive patient
I had a whole thing typed out explaining things in detail, but it disappeared and I wasn't sure I should post it anyway. Suffice it to say I live 4 hours from my parents, Mom has alzheimers and has become extremely verbally and mentally abusive of my Dad who takes care of her at home. She has cut them off from their…
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Only advocate and caregiver for grandma
I am new here and posting for the first time. I just returned home from my weekly visit with my 89 y/o grandma at a skilled nursing longterm care facility. She has been there now for 4 years and I have been trying unsuccessfully to move her closer to me for the past 2 years. She is in the late stages,rarely…
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Thank You For Caring
CAREGIVERS NEAR OR FAR WHO REALLY CARE tend to be the best people among us, and they never regret their sacrifice of love and care. Thank you!
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Taking this all in
:( My mom, 71 years old, got the diagnosis not too long ago. My dad, same age, told me yesterday. My parents live in Ohio, I live in Massachusetts. Her mother died at 75 from the disease, well, from a heart attack. But she had Alzheimer's for about 10 years. I don't have many memories of my grandmother, as I was very…
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desperate to help uncooperative mom
My mom is living in a different state alone. Over the past year she has let her life and responsibilities unravel. She has harrassed the banks to where they close her account, forgets to pay bills and now is delusional and hallucinates about a man living in her apartment. She calls the police over and over. I called…
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Asking for support
I live in another state from my mother who is living alone with Alzheimers, in her home, by herself and refusing any help. I have her trust, POA, DPOA etc and have assumed responsibility for her finances, or so I thought. She has a manager at the bank who has now helped her take some money and open another account. She has…
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Delusions without memory loss?
Hello ALZ Community-My mom has been having delusional thinking and believes she is being tracked/under surveillance since about 2019. She believes “people” are turning her family and friends against her. She believes family members have put things in her food. The challenge is her memory is better than mine, is it early…
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HELP... Not sure where to turn.
I am hoping that someone on this group can point us to some help that is not a sales pitch, google has not been our friend. My MIL fell 4 months ago and broke her hip, she is 89. We live 2 hours away and have been living with her most of each week ever since. While she was in rehab we found little notes all over the house,…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 1/15/24
OUR HOPE IS GOD’S UNFAILING LOVE Psalm 147:5 New Living Translation 5 How great is our Lord! His power is absolute! His understanding is beyond comprehension! 11 No, the Lord’s delight is in those who fear him, those who put their hope in his unfailing love. When the winds of sickness, stress, anger and fear are strong and…
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Which type of doctor
Hi, my brother has early onset and has just reached the stage where he is getting angry and wandering away. My sister-in-law had to call the police to find him today. He is in great shape, and gets a long way quickly. He is also getting angry that he can't find the keys to his truck. (Sis-in-law has them hidden.) His anger…
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Acting out in MC
Hello. We tearfully placed my father in memory care earlier this month. He is in the transition phase in which we have agreed not to contact him. The head nurse (who is wonderful) has been good with communication and we are aware that my father struggles with sundowners and can become angry and frustrated easily esp during…
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Update on my brother
I did spend a few days with him in early December and I saw him again over Christmas. His memory is terrible. He can forget what he's doing while he's doing it. He agreed to allow me to administer the Montreal Cognitive Assessment test. He scored well in all areas except memory. This doesn't seem like Alzheimer's and I…
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Transitioning from Home to a Care Facility
My mother still lives with her partner and always been adamant that she won't live anywhere else. But due to her partner's health problems and her own cognitive decline, that may not be feasible for much longer. I'm looking for some guidance on how to have a kind but effective conversation about the need for her to have…
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Clothing
I am needing to purchase and send sports bras to my aunt in a mcf. Any suggestions on what to get that will be easy for her and the person helping her dress? Thank you.
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I am realizing that my friends,
while trying to support me, do not truly understand my situation of having a sibling with dementia/Alzheimer's living in a far-off state, commenting "things will get worse before they get better," or "hope things look up for you soon," when there is no "getting better" or "looking up." I think that perhaps my situation is…