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Acting out in MC
Hello. We tearfully placed my father in memory care earlier this month. He is in the transition phase in which we have agreed not to contact him. The head nurse (who is wonderful) has been good with communication and we are aware that my father struggles with sundowners and can become angry and frustrated easily esp during…
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Update on my brother
I did spend a few days with him in early December and I saw him again over Christmas. His memory is terrible. He can forget what he's doing while he's doing it. He agreed to allow me to administer the Montreal Cognitive Assessment test. He scored well in all areas except memory. This doesn't seem like Alzheimer's and I…
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Transitioning from Home to a Care Facility
My mother still lives with her partner and always been adamant that she won't live anywhere else. But due to her partner's health problems and her own cognitive decline, that may not be feasible for much longer. I'm looking for some guidance on how to have a kind but effective conversation about the need for her to have…
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Clothing
I am needing to purchase and send sports bras to my aunt in a mcf. Any suggestions on what to get that will be easy for her and the person helping her dress? Thank you.
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I am realizing that my friends,
while trying to support me, do not truly understand my situation of having a sibling with dementia/Alzheimer's living in a far-off state, commenting "things will get worse before they get better," or "hope things look up for you soon," when there is no "getting better" or "looking up." I think that perhaps my situation is…
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GPS Tracker?
Hi, I'm supporting my sister-in-law, who is caregiver for my 62-yo brother, who has early-onset Alzheimer's for about the last 4-5 years, but it is now turning a corner in its progression. He is getting frustrated easily and wandering off. They live on 15 acres out in the country and he knows his way around generally, but…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 1/1/24
CAREGIVERS SET THEIR HEARTS ON LOVE AND CARE FOR THE HELPLESS Isaiah 1:16-17 New Living Translation 16 Wash yourselves and be clean! Get your sins out of my sight. Give up your evil ways. 17 Learn to do good. Seek justice. Help the oppressed. Defend the cause of orphans. Fight for the rights of widows. * HOLY SPIRIT HELP…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/23/23
Great Verses About the Messiah Isaiah 9:6-7 New International Version 6 For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. 7 Of the greatness of his government and peace there will be no…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 11/27/23
THE LORD, THE GOOD SHEPHERD Ezekiel 34:15-16 New Living Translation 15 I myself will tend my sheep and give them a place to lie down in peace, says the Sovereign Lord. 16 I will search for my lost ones who strayed away, and I will bring them safely home again. I will bandage the injured and strengthen the weak... JESUS,…
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Step Dad issues
Hello, my mom has gotten to the place where she needs FT care. My step dad is her primary caregiver but my wife and I have been paying for her care for 6 month (25-40 hours per week). We convinced them to move and downsize. Which they have as of this week. They made over 200k on their house, have SS funds monthly and a…
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Struggling with a solution
Hello everyone! My name is Michael. I live in South Carolina about 4 hours away from my parents. My mother has dementia and her cognitive decline has been rapid over the past few months. My father has health problems and hearing issues, but is able to take care of himself. However, my mother requires a lot of monitoring.…
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Picture phone- good idea? bad idea?
My mom has recently had a lot of trouble using her phone and this has become a source of a lot of anxiety. It is a cordless phone and she struggles to use it. I'm afraid she'll forget how to answer when I call. It seems she is now in the middle stage of Alz, so I know it's not going to get any better. I bought a picture…
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Mom won’t go to a Doctor
Hi- I’m new to this board and to the reality that most likely my Mom is in the early stages of dementia. I live out of state from her and my father. For years my Mother refuses to go to a Doctor. She says that she’s afraid they will find something terribly wrong with her. She won’t admit it but she obviously struggles with…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/16/23
CHRISTMAS REMINDS US WE ARE LOVED, BLESSED AND SAVED! Genesis 22:15-18 New Living Translation 15 Then the angel of the Lord called again to Abraham from heaven. 16 “This is what the Lord says: Because you have obeyed me and have not withheld even your son, your only son, I swear by my own name that 17 I will certainly…
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Both My Parents Have Dementia
I am so heart broken as both my parents are in the last stage of Dementia. I live in North Carolina and they are in Florida. I went to visit them recently in the facility they are in and fortunately with private care. But the suffering, crying, pain, delusion, being uncooperative not to shower or eat is beyond what one can…
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I may be starting all over again.
I lost my hubby to early onset Alzheimer's disease in 2020. I have recently become aware that my oldest brother (he's 68) has been having cognitive issues since his cancer treatments in 2014. He had oral cancer. He had 2-3 surgeries, radiation, chemo, the works. I was busy caring for my husband during that time, so I…
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Sister with dementia
My sister is 67 y/o and lives about 100 miles from me. My mother recently passed and I have been dealing with her ALZ the past few years. Although I have other siblings, it falls heavily on my shoulders. My sister lives alone in a smaller town. Her husband died in Jan 2022. Her son lives in San Antonio and actually has…
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It's come to this
I visited my parents this past weekend. My mother has dementia and my father is in poor health. But they want to be together in their home. Mom can't cook anymore and until recently, dad drove them out to eat every day. But now he is too dizzy to drive and has decided mom can drive them to doctor appointments (he has…
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Anger and aggression
I'm a newbie to this forum. My 85 yo mom, diagnosed with Alz a couple years ago, lives with my sister in another state. She often has angry outbursts that are stressing my sister out. My mom has also had lifelong depression, probably bi-polar. My brother and I are both doing as much as we can from a distance, and my…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 8/26/23
JESUS SAVES US * HE IS OUR SHEPHERD Isaiah 53:6-7 New King James Version 6 All we like sheep have gone astray; We have turned, every one, to his own way; And the Lord as laid on Him the iniquity of us all. John 10:27 NKJV 27 My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me. me: We've been compared to sheep. They…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 11/1/23
ALL MY HEART Matthew 22:37 New Living Translation 37 Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ TODAY’S VITAMIN When we love God with all our heart, soul and mind, it means we put Him first in our lives. Nothing is more important than spending time with Him in…
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Father with dementia and mom needs help
We're not even 100% sure this is what we're dealing with, but it's very likely vascular dementia as he had stroke about 10 years ago. His memory had been on a slow decline for years, but it's definitely worse now. Unfortunately he had 2 bouts of cancer that he's in remission from, so that's further delayed a diagnosis.…
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Nursing Support for Hospital Visits
Hi All! I'm new to this group. My sister has dementia we believe due to vascular system issues. She lives in a Memory Care facility. Recently, she's had some health issues with declined responsiveness. The facility sends her to the ER via ambulance. The issue is I'm in FL and she is in MO. It frightens me that she is going…
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Advice request for what and how to keep tabs on mother in law with early memory loss living alone
My mother-in-law is beginning to enter the early stages of dementia. She seems fine on her own now, but she lives an hour away and we struggle to know when she will not be able to live on her own. We act too soon, she loses independence, too late, she could get hurt. This is our first time dealing with this and we are…
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placing Mother in a memeory care facility
Hi there, I think we need to place my Mother in a memory care facility. She ahs been with my brother and sister in law but my sister in law is having her own health issues and my brother works. How do you know what to look for? How much Medicare will cover?....
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 10/17/23
*TODAY'S VITAMIN We pray & help people as guided. Jesus taught "everyone" is our neighbor. See Luke 10:30-37 NLT for Jesus' teaching about the Good Samaritan. *I NEED TO REVIEW THIS OFTEN. How about you? 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 New Living Translation 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or…
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Setting boundaries -- family with PWD wants to visit
Looking for perspective on whether I’m being reasonable or unfair here. I’m about to tell my mom that we can no longer host my stepdad as a houseguest because it’s too stressful for our family. My mom is caregiver for my stepdad (moderate dementia, likely Alzheimer's). They live in another state. My mom wants to visit my…
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Brother diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Decline
Hi. Newbie here. My 66 yo brother has MCD. He's on one coast, I'm on the other. Quick note - our mom had dementia, our dad Alzheimers. Claimed both of them. My brother went from mild signs - forgetting words, getting lost going somewhere familiar. It seems to be getting worse. Ex, he asked me about Meals on Wheels so I…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 9/29/23
*Friends, thank you for your comments. God bless each one of you. Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski) FAITH OR SINK Matthew 14:30-31 New King James Version But when he saw that the wind was boisterous, he was afraid; and beginning to sink he cried out, saying, “Lord, save me!” And immediately Jesus stretched out His hand and…
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Dementia? Alzheimer? How do I cope with it?
Hello... My mom lives in another country. A country which medical resources are not really up to date and sometimes not even available. I took my mom to the doctor last December and the doctor said that she had some sort of depression and that is why she kept forgetting things. She came to the US to visit me a few months…