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We've hit a brick wall
It's been a while since I have posted and things are progressing. Two months ago Mom (92) was caught up in an $18 mil scam where she was to send $15,000 to the scammer who would then send her the 18 mil. She went to the bank and drew 2 checks for $7500 each and included a personal check for $15,000. In addition the scammer…
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Suction Cup Grab Bars
Has any one used the suction cup grab bars in a shower? Any results, good or bad? We have tile and I would prefer not to drill to install the regular grab bars. Something like these: https://www.amazon.com/AmeriLuck-Suction-Indicators-Bathroom-Handicap/dp/B078JJ54RC/
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How to handle forgetful times
Hello. Thank you for reading and providing some advice. My LO has started to have times that she thinks she is at work and needs a ride home. She lives in an assisted living facility currently and doesn't remember that it is her "new apartment". She does have times when she wanders so I'm trying to figure out the best way…
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Mom's aggression
Hi, I'm new here and hope you can help me. Some background: My mom was diagnosed with dementia in 2016 and in 2020 that diagnosis was further specified (upgraded?) as Alzheimer's and has progressively gotten worse to the point my Stepfather raised his hand and declared he wanted some help with mom's care. This wasn't a…
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Forthcoming Book on Aromatherapy and Alzheimer's Disease
The following book will not be available until June 7th, but I am very excited to read it. I figure if I live long enough I will catch up to the truth or the truth will catch up to me. Alzheimer's, Aromatherapy, and the Sense of Smell Essential Oils to Prevent Cognitive Loss and Restore Memory By Jean-Pierre Willem About…
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Update on Mom(12)
She’s doing well. Really well at my house. With the help of a great hospice team and a private CNA , her meds are under control. Her BM’s are once or twice a day as opposed to 3 to 4 times a day. She is happy and comfortable. She hasn’t once asked about where she is, her house back in Texas or Dad. But when Dad calls, I…
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Cleveland Area Home Care
Hi everyone. First time posting here, which I'm nervous about for some reason? Anyway, I'm looking for my dad to get some daily help at home (light cleaning, medication reminders, encouragement to take walks, etc. – nothing medical yet). Does anyone in the Cleveland/NE Ohio area have experience with agencies that they…
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Just Wondering...(1)
Ok, so my mom went to the hospital in August with Sepsis and pneumonia, no UTI. Prior to hospital she was living on her own and caring for my brother with DS. After 19 day hospital stay, mom no longer recognizes her own computer, iPad or most of her belongings. I realize from these posts that an illness can cause confusion…
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How to help LO keep diaper/pull up/underwear on
Hello, My dad has started to suffer from bowel incontinence. He won't leave any clothes on much less a pull up. He gets poop everywhere and I'm afraid his caregivers are going to quit. Is there medication to help control is urge to disrobe or at least control the incontinence?
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Trip to the ER last night
Got a call from MC late afternoon yesterday that her wrist was red and swollen so they sent her by ambulance to the ER. When I got there wrist had already been x-rayed and wasn't broken so they did some blood work and decided on a arthritic infection in the joint. That's all fine and good (script for antibiotic and we were…
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Mom's Smoking
HELP! After a month of no smoking and feeling like we have passed the hard part, mom suddenly is asking for her smokes again. She is becoming very angry at the issue. She is on O2 and has end stage COPD. On New Years day she was admitted to the hospital for severe pneumonia. That night, as her heath care proxy, I was asked…
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Taking time off work to care for LO.
This will be a series of personal questions, and I apologize. * Has anyone taken time off of work to care for a LO? * If so did you regret it? * What challenges did you and or your LO face? * Did you take advantage of family care giver programs? * Did you have issues getting back into the work force? * Did you leave the…
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How to respond to despair, depression, threats of suicide?
Hi all. First, a huge-thank you to this wonderful and supportive forum. I've posted several times now, the two most recent being "Crisis management: Emergency Response Services, Emergency Rooms, Respite Care" (https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx?g=posts&t=2147559584) and "In crisis mode with Mom; nothing has been…
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Heartbroken Daughter
My Mom was diagnosed several years ago with dementia. She is my best friend and my world. I am divorced, no children, she means everything to me. My Dad tries to take care of her and I spend days with them when I am not at work. We can’t afford outside help. She still remembers us all but forgets rinks from one minute to…
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Being useful
My dad takes pride in taking out the trash. He knows that Tuesday is trash day. We just got him a digital clock that has the day, date and time and the temperature on it in large print. He came into the kitchen with his coat off wanting to take out the trash before sunrise this morning. Then he came back out when it was…
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Using Home Care Companies vrs. Indp. Contractors/Employees
My sister and I live in different states, half-way across the country from my 82 y/o mom in the early-mid stages of Alzheimer's (3.5 years into the diagnosis). Mom lives independently with no help other than a great support group of friends. Mom enjoys good health other than the ALZ, is physically active. This week, for…
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Am I stepping back too far?
My brother-in-law moved in with us almost a year ago, after my mother-in-law passed away. We all moved into a 2-story house in May. Before Christmas, I went upstairs. My youngest daughter came upstairs but didn’t see me and went back downstairs. She went into my dad’s bedroom, the only one downstairs. I went downstairs,…
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Tips for nighttime anxiety or nightmares
For some background, my post about my FIL’s surgery and being discharged here for rehab is here https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx?g=posts&t=2147559577 The hospital took him of Risperdone and Gabapentin to get him awake after surgery. We are working on tapering him off lithium, lexapro, and donzepil, and the…
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Getting my sister to sleep
My sister has not left the bedside of my 94 year old mom, recently bedridden. I visit here home often where we care for our mom, how do I get her to take a break and obtain much needed sleep? What can we expect to regarding developing symptoms? The rapid change in our moms condition coincidental with her testing positive…
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How to tell my loved one sad/bad news
Help!! My mother does not remember that she is divorced or that she has a child (my sister) who has died. She has been crying for my dad to come get her and take her home (from her care home), asks why doesn't he want to see her anymore. She also remembers all of us kids but doesn't remember that my sister died almost 3…
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The new options here
I just noticed the reply button. I replied to individual comments on my posts. Then I realized that they all appeared at the bottom of the comments. I didn’t quote the comments as I replied to them. Next time I will use the quote option to make it clear which comments I’m replying to.
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Poop Patrol 4:30 am
Good Morning Ya’ll. Got mom cleaned up, fingers too! Now I can’t go back to sleep. I hope everyone has a better day today.
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Moving resistant mom to MC, should I block cell phone?
Hey all, here's my situation: We are moving my mom into MC without her knowledge. We are considering suspending her cell phone or blocking most of the numbers. I'm curious to hear how others have handled this and how things turned out. Has it worked better to turn off the phone service? Or block all numbers and leave a…
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Fixation on a person?
Hi. I'm brand new to this forum. I'm a 39 year old caregiver of a 83 year old. Her diagnosis is incomplete at this time. Now my question: She is constantly in fear that the rest if the family is trying to keep her from me and is obsessed with knowing where I am, even if I just go to the RR. I love her dearly and spend at…
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Chewing and swallowing
My DH has a problem lately with chewing food. He chews things a few times and then washes them down with water. We had penne pasta with shrimp, olive oil, and herbs, all soft foods. Even after trying to convince him to chew longer before swallowing and not using the water to wash to food down, he continued. He must have…
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Transport Thursday 1/27/2022
Sitting in airport in NOLA. The original flight was cancelled. Next available non-stop flight leaves at 7pm. A few thousand things are going through my head. Did I do such n such? Did I forget to do such n such? Did I forget this or that? Is the new hospital bed going to be better than the old one? On and on. I need to…
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Getting involved
I learned that it’s important to involve my dad in activities. So I setup his radio so he can listen to music when he’s tired of watching tv. I invited him to watch his games shows with me. I told him that I’m taking my girls to ride bikes and asked him to come along. First of all, my girls and I were in the back yard. I…
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Prejudice words
I invited my dad to watch his game shows with me in the living room. We watched The Price is right. He said that it’s not the one he watches. It’s the new one with Drew Carry. He said that it’s run by the blacks nThen we watched Let’s make a deal. He said that it’s run by the blacks. It’s the new one with Wayne Brady. He…
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Covid/Guilt
My dad was diagnosed with cerebral amyloid angiopathy at 68 3 years ago. The disease first attacks the nervous system and then progresses to ALZ. It was only 6 months before we had to get him checked into a care facility. I'm the only one in my family that goes to see him, which I try to do weekly (between a stressful job,…
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Questions about Medicaid
Hello everyone, hope everyone is OK and hanging in there. I was wondering if any one can steer me in the right direction with Medicaid for placement for my mom. She was approved for a state run veterans home actually where I worked for many years.and is on the list which is long.. I would like to get her into a NH that is…