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The falls just keep coming
My mil has had 4 falls since Dec 15. Two over backward (no walker) one over the top of her walker and one onto her butt after standing up. She paces constantly. Balance is crappy and the walker is not the problem except when it is the problem. Send your ideas. Maybe I’ll find one we haven’t tried yet.
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I hate my life and I want to either her to die or myself.
My father passed away in Aug and it has fallen on to me to care for my mother I am 28 she is 71. She was functional while my father was alive she would care for him do everything by herself. Since his passing she has become more like a child which is extreme frustrating and annoying. Constant desire to be around me,…
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I recommend the following
I don’t like to recommend things that I can not prove. But after taking these for every long time they have been safe. I also believe they are helping along with the other drugs I take. No one will ever know if this combination works but I did a lot of studding and many do agree that there is some possibility. The ways I…
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Venting….doctor with horrible bedside manners
I took my mom to a GP today. I just moved here from out of state and we’re looking for a new doctor. I literally typed up notes and questions so he could look at them before he walked into the room. I told him that my mom will say that she has a brain bleed because of a car accident and that’s what’s caused her memory…
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Trying to Track My Mother
My mother is still independent. I don't know how much longer. I have been able to do some tracking via the Find Anywhere app. It would be helpful to also be able to look historically of where she's going. I've investigated some and it's a bit overwhelming. I was hoping for something truly more bracelet like for her but…
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go figure!
My mother is in the advanced stages of Alz. Yesterday I brought her an unwrapped chocolate kiss (yum!) and a children's book for us to look at together. She could not pop the chocolate into her mouth, even with my prompting. She just held it and was very confused about it. Yet, she knew how to hold the book right side up…
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So many questions(2)
Hi all. I really appreciate this group so much. My mom was diagnosed 4 months ago with dementia/Alzheimer’s. As far as legal things, what do I have to get done asap? Are there support groups for care givers and PWD? It would be ideal for us all to have support. We have a neurologist appointment coming up and I plan to ask…
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New here; crazy holiday
Hello, I have been taking care of my 84 yo, undiagnosed dad for 3 months now. Things have been declining quickly. As the summer turned to fall we noticed some cogitation changes in my dad. Forgetting he had just called us, angry out bursts, behavior not like him. I decided to go with him to his doc apt. His doc poo-poo’d…
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Happy Holidays - traditions?
For us -- I have a very large Italian family (is there any other kind?). Usually, in non-covid years, it's not uncommon to have 40 family members sitting at the table on Christmas Eve. The food is always some form of pasta, likely homemade ravioli or mostaccioli with spaghetti sauce that has cooked all day - and with all…
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Fearful LO with EO
My mom has EO, my sisters, father and I have had a hard time dealing with her diagnosis. She has always been scared of the dark, fires, being alone, robberies, etc. And her diagnosis has only heightened her fears and her anxiety. Over the past years, my mother has started hiding her money, her makeup and perfumes from her…
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Don’t know what to tell him- our wackiest XMas eve ever
This is just a ramble. Not ranting or venting. Just reflecting on the randomness of this roller coaster ride. And working to be grateful it is not worse at the moment. My DH has me stumped right now. He is alternating between nonsense sentences and serious questions based on delusions about who I am (who he is!), where we…
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Merry Christmas.
I can't stop thinking of all of you today. I hope that each of you and the person you are caring for will have, at least a moment of peace. Merry Christmas.
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Can't understand what my mom is saying to me
Mom has Parkinson's dementia. She's in a nursing home. She seems content there. She seems to get good care. She's been there about 3 weeks. Prior to that she was in the hospital for 5 months for aggressive behaviors. Prior to that she was in a memory care at an AL. I'd say that for the last 9 months it has become harder…
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Moving Mom in with me. Any suggestions?
My mom has been in the MC unit of a beautiful Senior Care facility for 2.5 years. Her dementia has increased dramatically, and I wish we could keep her there. Unfortunately the facility is very expensive and we no longer can afford to keep her there. After much thought, prayer, and discussion with my brothers, I have…
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Respite vs Hospice
Does anyone know the specific differences between respite/hospice or has used either service. It is my understanding that Medicaid pays for respite for a limited time in a nursing facility and Hospice (which may include respite services) is coordinated by the Hospice facility and PCP and paid for by Medicare. I have…
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Zippo Holiday Spirit Here, How about you?
Of course I am dealing with depression, but dang it, the whole Covid cloud, difficulties getting medical care and worries with increasing Alzheimer's behaviors is a bit much over all here. I just can't seem to do much daily - just the most pressing of the tasks of the moment according to my son's needs. I swear dragging…
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Dementia & the Holidays(1)
Dr. Natali posted a video today with tips and advice to help caregivers get through the holidays. Holidays are an incredibly stressful time for those of us navigating the challenges of an LO with dementia. Do any of you have any advice? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUzlAG6Nrc8 Here are links to past videos she refers to…
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I'm ready to stop no matter what
Today was the last straw. Every morning she is putrid from her wet diaper. I go every morinig to get her into a dry depens and slacks and a fresh top if needed. So this morning Mom wouldn't sit down on the toilet so I could change her pants. So there was a lot of forcing, fighting, crying, my brother had to come and lift…
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Car accident - mine
Update in comments. 12-9-21 I was in a car accident today several hours ago. As a result I am still in the ER six hours later. CT done. Compressed fracture of T1. I can walk etc. Brace - neck and thoracic extension on. Can’t drive until it comes off - probably six weeks. My parents do not know yet. They are in assisted…
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Marching along
My mil fell twice in 12 hours on Dec 15. Since then there’s been a big decline. We have a hospital bed now. We have Avitan on hand for those nights when she won’t do anything but walk. She sleeps a lot during the day now. Sometimes she won’t eat. All my boys are home from colleges and out of school. It’s busy and fun. I…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/13/21
GOD'S PRESENCE * Psalm 16:11 New King James Version “You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” Psalm 16:11 Amplified Bible “You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; In Your right hand there are pleasures…
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I need help(1)
My mom is in her early 50s. She has struggled with alcoholism her whole life. She lives in a very small town in NW Iowa with her emotionally abusive husband. She refuses to leave. She is unemployed and lives on a very tight budget. Money is always a issue. There are also very few medical resources or ways to get help in NW…
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My uncle is being foolish and stubborn
I am currently in month five of being away from home, taking care of my grandmother, with the help of my mother. Unfortunately, due to financial and personal reasons, we are having to move my grandma into independent living, and eventually into assisted living at a elder care facility at the end of January. We traveled…
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vaccination advice
Hey all, hope all you caretakes are doing well. My grandmother is in like middle/early late state dementia. She (80) is bed bound but we put her in a wheelchair to have her meals. I need some advice. My grandmother is basically stable in her stage right now besides a few minor things like blood pressure/heart issues…
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Some more hospice questions
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Refusing medications / How to administer meds
My dad is now refusing to eat the pudding that I crush his medicine in. We have a doctor appointment on Monday so I will be finding out from his doctor if any of his meds can come in liquid form so I can just quickly get it down him. Is there any other way you managed to get your LO meds down when they refused? I am mostly…
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Mother diagnosed, in denial, no POA LV or HCP
Hello all. I did not know where else to turn. I live in North Carolina and my 71-year-old mother lives in Lake Work, FL. My mother was recently diagnosed with Demetia with the onset of Alzheimer's. She lives with her 74-year-old "husband" (not legally married) who has just been diagnosed with Parkersons, diabetes, and some…
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Outside of home and Bedtime
Anyone else’s loved one do better OUTSIDE of the home. My boyfriend and I take Mom out as much as we can. We are noticing now that she does so much better out. Tonight we went to see Christmas lights. Of course she was mad as a hornet at me when we stopped at boyfriends house and I made her use the bathroom. Wouldn’t talk…
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Worried about my dad - no diagnosis yet, but I have suspicions
Hi everyone, I'm new to this site, and this just is me getting my thoughts out in writing. I am worried that my father may have dementia. He is in his mid-60s and is in generally good health, except for some high blood pressure. He and my mother live in Hawaii and I live in Virginia, so I see them only a few times a year,…
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Neurologist
Hello, I'm wondering if anyone has a recommendation for a neurologist that specializes in evaluating dementia/alzheimer's in the Denton, Ttexas area. Thank you