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Mother's difficult move
Hello, everyone. I'm new to this site, my Mother was diagnosed with ALZ about two years ago. She has her ups and downs with alz, it has been manageable, until recently. She had been living on her own until my sisters and I decided it would no longer be safe. She moved with one of my sisters about 30 minutes away from her…
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Finding a Geriatric Psychiatrist in Dallas area
Does anyone have experience, recommendations, warnings about any Geriatric Psychiatrists in Dallas area? I feel like I need to consult with one and not just rely on the Dr used at the MC facility - not really comfortable just picking one from the provider list on Mom's medicare plan.
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24/7 In Home Care or Memory Care Facility
Here I am again and a lot has changed. Last time I posted I was supposed to move in with my mom right after Thanksgiving. A couple weeks before that happened my sister was going to pick up my mom for dinner and found my mom on the kitchen floor after a fall unable to get up. She had urinated herself. At this point nurses…
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Mom doesn't know who I am anymore...
My mother has had bouts of not knowing who I am, but during a recent 2 hour visit, she had no idea that I was her daughter for my entire visit. She chose to read the newspaper I brought her and didn't even talk to me, although she wanted me to stay. So it seems she knows I am "her person," but she did not hug me with the…
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Constipation(6)
Of course I will be consulting his doctor. But I like to get feedback here as well. My dad has suddenly been very constipated, even with the aid of stool softeners and laxatives (given under the direction of a doctor). A few months back he was suddenly constipated so we started the stool softeners and laxatives as needed…
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Mostly venting. Managing both parents care at the same time.
I'm overwhelmed. I had my 78 yo father with health issues placed into personal care a few weeks ago and my 70 yo mother with alzheimers placed into memory care at the same time. It was a circus getting them there. My mom seems to be doing OK (not great, but better than expected) and the facility is planning on moving her…
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Get on that treadmill!
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Is it Right Seek Reimbursement
II have been my dad's primary caregiver since July 2021. Since then I have now accumulated over $4K in expenses ranging his lawyer for guardianship court, gas to and from his home, food and various household items. My lovely brother and sister feel I should absorb it since he is my dad (as theirs). Neither of those two…
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Undiagnosed parent who is in denial
So here is my issue and if anyone has any thoughts it is greatly appreciated!My mother in law has alz/dementia, however, this is only my opinion as she is undiagnosed. She is 77, lives alone and prefers to be alone which I know is a problem, and her symptoms are as follows: Repeats stories constantly, doesn't remember…
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Accurate diagnosis: Have I overturned every stone?
Hello, Before my 76 year old, otherwise healthy mom gets slapped with an Alzheimer's or dementia diagnosis, I want to be sure we have ruled out every single other possibility. Here are her symptoms and what we are doing to investigate. Please tell me if you think there is anything else at all that we should be looking into…
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Neurologist Necessary Or Not..
I've been helping a friend visit and interview ALF's for her parents. Long story short they were not ‘getting’ bad, it was a lot worse than weekly telephone calls revealed. Mom and Dad had not been to their doctors in at least 2 years. Mom has active sun-downing; Dad was diagnosed with the onset of dementia 4 years ago for…
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need advice on longterm care for my mother in law
My mother in law just recently went into the hospital in Oct for high blood sugar and a UTI, she was exhibiting dementia like symptoms with that, however when that cleared up, she still had those symptoms, hallucinations, illusions, paranoia. I was hoping that would clear up but here we are in Dec and she is still having…
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Here to vent. I feel inadequate.
Hi everyone, I've posted once before and feel the need to vent again. Mom is 76 and in addition to being stage 4ish Alzheimer's and Vascular Dementia, she has pancreatic cancer and is on home hospice. She has been living with my husband and me since March this year. I am her primary caregiver. The hospice nurse and I…
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dementia caused diabetes tips and tricks request
Hi everyone, Its been a while since I've been on the boards, as always looks like everyone is super busy. Recently my mothers PCP informed us she has developed diabetes. She has been pre-diabetic for a while now, but finally crossed over. The doc seems to think its two things, she is on a new antiphychotic that can spike…
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Bedridden
I anticipate my dad being bedridden within the next 6 months. My prediction is that by April he will be pretty well unable to walk.He is already so weak and struggling to walk. We're keeping him as active and up on his feet as we can, but inevitably he will not be walking soon. Are there any sorts of tools or products I…
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Basic Hygiene I can’t get her to Bathe
Please help!! My mom won’t bathe, brush her teeth, or take meds!! My brother and I trying take care of her but she just won’t cooperate. We simply can’t put her in assisted living it costs 8,000 a month!! Any suggestions we are at the end of our ropes!
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Learning To Turn The Tide On Nursing Homes
https://www.yahoo.com/finance/m/85a6b777-9610-3e0c-9953-a9b6482434a9/did-we-learn-anything-from.html J.
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Selling Mother's Car: 1) Fiblet or not? 2) Involve her in decision?
Hello fellow caregivers! My mother has stage "4.5" Alzheimer's. Her short term memory is gone, but her long-term memory is still quite good. Her judgment... so so. In short, we have taken her keys (doctor's orders), let her license expire, and will be selling her car very soon. She has forgotten that she gave up her keys…
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When an Alzheimer's patient losses a loved one
Hi All, My mother who is Stage 4 and advancing quickly lost her only sister a couple days ago. Emotionally, she is doing ok, but this event seems to have accelerated her Alzheimer's. She continues to forget about her sister's death, the arrangements, etc. Her long term memory is good, but her short term memory is gone,…
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New and needing advice
Hello, I’m sorry if this is the wrong place to post this but I’m new to the site. I can’t seem to find how to add a discussion… Anyway, I have a mother-in-law who is what I believe is the onset of Alzheimer’s. She has an appointment 12/15. 2 questions: 1. How do I convince her to move in with us? She lives with my husband…
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Thanksgiving guilt
Happy Thanksgiving all you dementia warriors! Today we aren’t doing much. I’ll go with my mother and a few other family members to a restaurant later today and hope for the best. Sunday my family is having the big meal day and I’m not planning to bring mom along. Here’s my defense: It’ll be very difficult to get her into…
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I've been thinking about this for awhile
One of things my sister and I talk about a lot is the fact that she feels like others often treat her like she's not worthy of respect and they dismiss her. I tend to do my best to counter those messages. Just because she has Alzheimer's doesn't mean she's "less than." So in light of that, I've decided to post a photo of…
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Guilt(17)
So I am working on placing my mother. She is 86, has good days and bad with her dementia. Her awareness comes in and out throughout the day. Many years ago, the doctor suggested knee replacement surgery, a friend of Mom’s told her it would hurt a lot! So mom opted not to have the surgery. It’s too late now, but her knees…
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Open enrollment - change prescription plan
I need a little reassurance. Scenario: I got my mom’s online account back active with her Medicare part D provider (prescription coverage). . As you know, my parents moved from one state to another October 2019. I have never changed the plan in regards to that I did send them the new address in late 2019. The plan has…
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Anesthesia Haze
How long after surgery does the anesthesia haze last?
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Blue Cross Blue Shield
Mom has medical bill and my brother insists that I not process the claim with Medcare. He says Blue Cross will cover more of the costs, Problem is we don't have any info regarding her policy. No ID# policy # nothing. Last time I tried to talk to someone the would not talk to me without her sayso and she would not say YES…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 11/29/21
GOD’S WONDERFUL LIGHT GOD THOUGHT: 1 Peter 2:9 NIV “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” VICTORY THOUGHT: Jesus called me out of the darkness of sin into the light of His…
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How to respond to someone who has an incorrect belief about something
Hello; my first post here. A little background. I live in Europe, and my father, who has dementia, lives in Australia, so our relationship is long distance. According to other family members he has formed the belief that I am in the process of returning to Australia permanently, which I am not. In previous conversations…
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Telehealth Contact for Dementia & ALZ Incompetence Evaluation?
I have both parents declining significantly at the same time. Very overwhelming. Trying to get them evaluated virtually if possible. Too complicated to get them anywhere these days. Does anyone have a good recommendation for telehealth doc for evaluation?
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Dental Issues: how much do I push
My mother, 86, now living with us, has had MCI for about 10 years. After my father died, it was clear her executive function was gone and she needed to live with us to keep track of her finances, doctor appts, medications, meals, etc. She has extensive dental issues. She has about 5 teeth on top and on the bottom is down…