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How to get someone with Dementia to eat?
Hello, My mom is 75 and has vascular dementia as well. She does also have Tardive Dyskinesia however we are trying to help that with medication. My mom was doing well, then in May of this year headaches started and were very bad for several months with nothing helping her. Soon we noticed her Tardive Dyskinesia getting bad…
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Questions for Neurologist(2)
As I mentioned in my previous post, my MIL was diagnosed with Alz in August, 2021. Although just diagnosed officially in Aug, she has had symptoms since 2018 and the doctor puts her at mid-stage. Next week we go back to her neurologist for her first checkup since being diagnosed. My MIL doesn't understand that she has Alz…
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Feeling Beaten Down by Extremely Stubborn Parent in MC
Hi All, I'm looking for some advice and/or guidance. My mother, who has dementia (Stage 5), is extremely stubborn and I'm feeling beaten down by trying to find the correct care placement for her. My dad died a few years ago and I am an only child (daughter) with both durable and medical POA. Mom was diagnosed with dementia…
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Teepa Snow symposium, Caring and Coping with Dementia- Zoom
November 5th (tomorrow). My Alz support group sent me this info. Website for more info and to sign up is acapcommunity.org. Group who organized it (Adult children of aging parents) (501c) also offers podcasts on various topics. Symposium is free, however, it is sponsored by national home health agency and your e-mail and…
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Online support groups
Can anyone recommend a good online support group that meets up regularly? Mom was just diagnosed with ES. Thanks.
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trouble walking(3)
Hi! Mom attends a lovely adult day center program and either my sister or I drop her off four times a week and dad picks her up, and dad routinely takes her out and about in the car, but it’s getting tough due to her walking. She’s started to pull back instead of following when you lead by the hand, and sometimes when she…
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Do I quit
I'm facing off with a lawyer against my sister for my dad's guardianship. To spare you the family drama, let's say my sister may go see my dad at his house once every two weeks and for maybe an hour. Everything she's done in this fight is to feed her ego and her controlling husband who thinks he has biblical right to be in…
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Husband's Post-Seizure Combativeness & Changes
My husband was diagnosed with early on-set Alz last June 2020 at age 59. We were maintaining so-to-speak until this past June/July 2021 where suddenly noticed changes around bladder control, forgetting to wipe, communication was worse, and then early October he had a seizure. After the hospitalization and post-seizure he…
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Delusions..again. Help appreciated.
I know there are other posts on this topic but I need help with this situation. My LO seems to be immersed in delusions. If we dispel one she will just come up with another one. She creates story scenerios with the delusions. I could help with one particular delusion. She has the delusion that a man is after her, he would…
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Hot? Cold? How can you tell?
Daddy started Sunday acting agitated. He tossed and turned all day, kicking off the covers, taking off his diaper, trying to get out of his bed. He's in stage 7 and is bedridden. He didn't know if he was hot or cold (don't know why I asked him). Monday morning I woke up to a strange sound and rushed in to check on him. He…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 11/3/21
FAITH NOT FEAR * Mark 4:39-40 New International Version “He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves, ‘Quiet! Be still!’ Then the wind died down and it was completely calm. “He said to his disciples, ‘Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?’” * Mark 5:31-34 NIV “You see the people crowding against you,”…
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MC, Holidays, & Family Gathering
I am looking for some insight/advice to when it comes to holidays and family gatherings. My dad is currently in MC with LBD. Between mobility issues (use wheelchair), incontinence (doesn't always wear a depend), the confusion, the rambling, & the hallucinations I am hesitant to take him to family gatherings. I don't want…
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She won't go to sleep
My mother is mid stage dementia and lately I can't get her to go to sleep. She will get in bed ,all tucked in say goodnight, in a few minutes she is at my bedroom door .I say mom , I thought your going to sleep ..whats wrong .The answer to this varies ,it might be "yes I wanted to tell you Im going to bed ",or sometimes…
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Sometimes it's still hard to believe
Visited mom on Saturday at MC. She was SO out of it and confused while on Wednesday she had been OK (OK for a person with stage 5-6 AD, not actually OK). The ups and downs are typical for her, and I know typical for most folks with AD but sometimes it's still so shocking. She was really upset about her sheets but couldn't…
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,Mom gets up at night and falls - help
My mother gets up in the middle in the night and has fallen several times. Any suggestions short of me sleeping in her room and keep watch. Which is where I am going next.
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Moms new life in the nursing home
Hi all, It's been awhile since I have posted and since so many of you responded while I was agonizing over the placement of my Mom into care I wanted to share an update. We placed her about a month ago. The first week was terrible, the nursing home called me several times as she was constantly crying, pacing and refusing…
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I may need a Fiblet soon. But it needs to be better than the truth.
My mom got her Geriatric psych staff to call me today so she could talk. She wanted to know how to see her husband (my dad). She had forgotten that he died a bit over 2 years ago. I reminded her that dad had died. She didn't really remember. Then she asked if she had another husband. I said no. Just dad. Then she asked to…
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My mother do not want to see me or talk to me
Hi, My mother has Alzheimer and vascular disease, 3 different doctors diagnosed her. My sister is taking care of her and I go 3 times a year to see her and spend one month there everytime. The problem is that my mother think that I in the past I used to hurt her, pinch her and she suffered because of me for years so she…
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Clean clothes
My mom has started something new. Last year she kept bringing me small laundry loads of 2-3 items every day. This was frustrating as washing once a week instead of every day saves water and energy. Plus it's just easier to do everything at once and get it over with for the week. During the summer my sister took mom to…
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The doctor says this is just the beginning..
Which, to me, seems unimaginable. My father was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 5 years ago. He is/was an extremely brilliant financial investment advisor at the very top of his game. The past six months, the loops have gotten extremely short, his paranoia is terrible and his combativeness is worse. My mother is his primary…
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Advice - tell the truth or fib?
I am brand new to the discussion boards, though I have been struggling with my mother's disease for a few years now. Until last week, she was living on her own in a house she couldn't manage and was literally falling apart around her. I live a day's drive away, so I'm embarrassed to say I wasn't much help. However, with…
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can not access Spouse message board
This is the strangest thing. I can not access the Spouse message board and it says under maintenance. Has for the past few days. Any advice as to how I can once again access that message board?
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Grieving(4)
Hi, I joined this site because during my parents' most recent visit, I feel like I've slipped into a deep depression about my dad, and I'm struggling to process it. It feels similar to feelings I've had when a family member died, although not quite as intense. My father was diagnosed back in 2013. His decline was very slow…
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Urine Smell / Odor Neutralizers
My dads body and his room and clothes are all washed daily. in recent weeks though I cannot get the smell of urine out of his room and the hallway. Any suggestions for candles or odor neutralizers?
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Mom and a Phone
I recently moved my mom to memory care. Her phone did not go with her. I need some backup thoughts and insights from fellow caregivers in this matter. My mom has grown obsessed with her lack of phone. Every day she pesters staff about her lack of a phone and threatens to sue them. The staff has been asking me, suggesting…
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Mom says we hit her....NOT!
Hi All! I had had my mother transported to the ER by ambulance. She fell and had a humungous purple bruise on her forhead. She seemed okay but I wanted to get her checked out. When the EMTs arrived and we were all talking back and forth she told someone that "they always hit me". Which is, of course, not true. I gasped and…
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Answering Questions
My wife is in care. I have gotten used to deflecting questions like "When is Mom coming" (Moms dead 15 years) and "When will the others get here?" (there are no others. But still find it hard to answer: "Am I going to be here the rest of my life?" and "Why can't I visit home?" Very soon after I leave she is off doing some…
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After Independent L and 2 ALs, they are back at home!
My Mom (88) and her 30-year companion Jim (97) lived with us in the MIL-suite downstairs from 2008 -17 when they agreed to go to independent living and we would downsize from a 6-bed, 3 level to a one level 3/2/2 cluster home. My DH and I were looking forward to this change. I’ve been retired for a few years and DH is…
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Just tired
Hi y’all. Only child of a 73 year old battling dementia. Didn’t have nearly the issues until October of last year when the doctor put her on the poison known as cipro. From that point on, Mom now talks of dead relatives being alive, extra people in the house and stories that you know didn’t happen. We are now on the stay…
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Really long hospital stay
This is kind of an update. A small rant too. My mom with Parkinson's Dementia and severe mobility issues was admitted into the Geriatric Psych unit at the hospital on July 3! She is still there. She was hitting and kicking staff and residents at her memory care at assisted living. For all this time I was hoping that they'd…