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Hello Zauberflote
It's nice to see you posting! I have been thinking about you and hope you are well.
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A couple of questions.
My sister and I finally made the decison to move my mom to a memory care facility. We placed her this Tuesday. My sister had talked to her on the phone for 40 minutes in a effort to calm her down earlier this afternoon, the facility couldn't calm her down. It turned out they didn't give her, the seraquel. I called her…
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How to cope?(1)
Simply put… I feel extremely sad. I’ve literally been crying for days. I’m a mess. I’m exhausted mentally, emotionally, and physically. My mom was diagnosed with dementia approx 7-8 yrs ago and has been living in assisted living for 6 years so it’s not something new but as life goes on there’s moments when I think to…
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Antipsychotics
I've read several posts that people have had their loved ones on antipsychotics for behavioral issues with some success. I have read that they have been very helpful in certain instances and even that there weren't side effects for some. I am now in this situation with my loved one as a last resort and, while some…
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comparing long-term care facilities
Looking a year or two ahead, when my wife may need to move to assisted living or memory care, she and I have visited a couple of the more expensive facilities in our area. Of course, they look wonderful -- modern, shiny, great food, etc. We were both impressed. Then the social worker from our memory program told me that a…
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Struggling to talk to Mom
Hello. It's been about a week since my Mom was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I'm overwhelmed, of course, and trying to find answers to the countless questions I have; trying to learn how I can do everything that needs to be done. At this point I'm really not sure how to just talk to her about everything & make her…
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Please add all of you can think off to this list - Thanks
I decide to a podcast for caregivers next year with a motivational speaker I have now known for over 10 years. I believe many of you can be helped if you would just learn a few things. He is not as familiar as I am with this disease. So, I am asking you all to add all of the issues you have to deal with your loved ones.…
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Something New(1)
I noticed something new with Mom the last few days. Sometimes, when we are visiting, and I am talking, she will be looking in my direction, but her eyes are not focused on my face - it's like she is looking through me. I haven't read anything on this, has anyone else experienced this? I also experienced her not knowing me…
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ER
Mom fell again during one of her night prowls got her back in bed seemed OK then a couple days later she has the poops and quit drinking and eating and loud moaning and groaning with her back, pain was intense when sitting up no pain when laying flat of her back. Called 911 she was darn* near comatose before they arrived.…
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New here, need some advice please
Hi all. So glad I found this site with so many people in the same situation. Sorry for the Long Post. My dear mother has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's and Vascular Dementia. She lives in the UK and I live in the US with my husband and furry friends, emigrated here 25 years ago. My mother lives alone, I have a sister who…
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Stages of Alzheimer's(1)
I often see people on here using numbers to refer to the stage of Alz for their LO (e.g., "my dad is in stage 5"). Can anyone provide a link or the list of stages that you're using for this description?
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Mom personal care: Assisted Living vs. Memory Care
We are at a point that changes are needed to support Mom's personal care. Over the last 3+ years we have been trying to get her to let me and/the Assisted Living care staff help her with this but have been unsuccessful. Her bouts of UTIs, Candida and general rashes "down there" are increasing due to her inability to clean…
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Help...Are we really only left with seeking Legal Guardianship?
2 yrs ago mom was diagnosed with EO Dementia, lives alone and my brother and I live 20 minutes away. Covid and isolation has really sped up the memory loss. We managed to get a POA for her finances and she did sign a medical directive but we do not have a signed POA over her. We had an incident this week (she fell at home)…
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Dr. put in for hospice for hubby but hospice came and said he does not
qualify, that he is still walking (with a walker) and eating. That his Alz. would have to have him bedridden etc. They are not taking into account his COPD, Chronic Heart failure, frequent falling, 6 hospitizations in 7 months with septic shock, emergency pacemaker put in, COVID , blood in urine (dr is thinking bladder…
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In home care(7)
Hi, I am brand new to all of this. My mother was diagnosed three months ago. We moved her and her sister across the country to be close so we could help. My mother is probably stage five Alzheimer’s. She and her sister live together. They are very opposite as far as personalities. My aunt is content to stay home and my mom…
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What to ask when looking for Hospice
Hello friends, my mother has declined in the last few months and her doctor is recommending hospice. I have heard here over the years to shop around for hospice as they are not all equal in services or quality but I am realizing I'm not sure what to ask when vetting them. What do you look for in a hospice agency? We have…
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Taking apart tech in care facility
My mother moved into a care facility mid September of this year and the transition continues to be extremely challenging. Some days are better than others. There will be times that she seems to be settling without knowing that she is in a facility. She will eat and not be agitated. The day night reversal has not resolved.…
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Shouting, Screaming,Yelling In Dementia Patients
Another Member had Posted the following some time ago. Excellent articles by psychiatrist: Does NOT happen with all person with dementia, but for those with such a problem issue this can be helpful: Screaming and Wailing in Dementia Patients…
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Paging Birdie...Please Update Us
I was saddened to read your now dated post. Hoping you will advise us on your current situation. You didn't explain why mom is not allowing Hospice. Is she refusing to even talk with them? Their nurse and/or social worker might just be able to explain to her what is in store for you as a family, and how they can help (not…
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New to Forum, New to All This
Hi there, I just joined this forum so saying Hello. This morning, my mom had an appointment with her primary care doc. She put me on speaker phone (I live in CA; mom is in OH) and, long story short, doc suggested I start planning; as in, looking at assisted living facilities in my mom's area. She has a neurologist…
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Double Whammy!
Hello all, this site has been a lifesaver for me! In August I had to have my Mom Mental hygiene arrested (ordered by her PCP) to get her to the hospital after she refused to go on her own. She was extremely lethargic, dehydrated, and septic. Turns out she was diagnosed with pneumonia and then dementia. She was not allowed…
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Craving sugar
My aunt has Alzheimer and I can't get her to eat consistently She was always a particular eater, but at least ate healthy food. These days are quite different - all she seems to want is sugar. She puts sugar on everything. And I mean everything! She puts sugar on rice, and grain salads, and cottage cheese. She even eats…
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Is there any Ayurvedic or any Natural remedies for Alzeimer's disease?
There has been a buzz about all-natural remedies and Ayurveda these days. When I was researching about it, I could find a lot of therapies for various diseases. I followed the site iahas.com where they talked about Ayurvedic remedies for almost all chronic conditions. I also looked into their all-natural recipes. However,…
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Eating, showering, and in home care
Good evening, My mother snack’s endlessly but has recently stopped eating full meals regularly. She has also stopped changing clothes and showering lately. I know these things are common, but if anyone has tips or suggestions they can share to help with these things it would be greatly appreciated. Also, we are looking in…
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Decline from move..... when?
About 10 weeks ago I moved my DH and myself to another town to be closer to getting help when I need it. We had lived all our married life in our former house -- over 50 years. He is into stage 6. He would never have wanted to move but I told him it was temporary. He seemed to settle in until about 2 weeks ago. I assumed…
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FYI(11)
https://www.caregiving.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/NAC_CaringForCaregiver_Paper_v2highres.pdf
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Just found out my father’s diagnosis
Hey …. My father has been having some cognitive issues for a few years now, but tonight he told me he has been diagnosed with Alz. He didn’t give me much information because I don’t think he wanted to tell me at Thanksgiving dinner so I don’t know much right now. I currently live across the country because my husband is…
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Reasons for placing Mom
Okay, I know I have posted so much lately! This just seems like so much! This morning the business agent from the rehab facility that my sister is at called (sis is getting rehab for a broken hip). She wanted to know what the game plan was for my sister's care!!! Why is she asking me??? I told her that I do not have a POA…
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Article on Caregiving, Links to Books
Here's an article on the large burdens of caregiving. It has links to three books, which I'm starting to read. When I finish reading them I'll discuss them here. https://www.vox.com/the-goods/22639674/elder-care-family-costs-nursing-home-health-care
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Great American Senior Show
A few months ago I was at a local Caregivers Cafe and met Sam Yates, the host of a very helpful podcast about caring for elderly relatives called the Great American Senior Show. I'm starting to read a book that the show recommended, which I'll post a review of here after I've read it. web site:…