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Zippo Holiday Spirit Here, How about you?
Of course I am dealing with depression, but dang it, the whole Covid cloud, difficulties getting medical care and worries with increasing Alzheimer's behaviors is a bit much over all here. I just can't seem to do much daily - just the most pressing of the tasks of the moment according to my son's needs. I swear dragging…
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Dementia & the Holidays(1)
Dr. Natali posted a video today with tips and advice to help caregivers get through the holidays. Holidays are an incredibly stressful time for those of us navigating the challenges of an LO with dementia. Do any of you have any advice? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUzlAG6Nrc8 Here are links to past videos she refers to…
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I'm ready to stop no matter what
Today was the last straw. Every morning she is putrid from her wet diaper. I go every morinig to get her into a dry depens and slacks and a fresh top if needed. So this morning Mom wouldn't sit down on the toilet so I could change her pants. So there was a lot of forcing, fighting, crying, my brother had to come and lift…
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Car accident - mine
Update in comments. 12-9-21 I was in a car accident today several hours ago. As a result I am still in the ER six hours later. CT done. Compressed fracture of T1. I can walk etc. Brace - neck and thoracic extension on. Can’t drive until it comes off - probably six weeks. My parents do not know yet. They are in assisted…
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Marching along
My mil fell twice in 12 hours on Dec 15. Since then there’s been a big decline. We have a hospital bed now. We have Avitan on hand for those nights when she won’t do anything but walk. She sleeps a lot during the day now. Sometimes she won’t eat. All my boys are home from colleges and out of school. It’s busy and fun. I…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/13/21
GOD'S PRESENCE * Psalm 16:11 New King James Version “You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” Psalm 16:11 Amplified Bible “You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; In Your right hand there are pleasures…
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I need help(1)
My mom is in her early 50s. She has struggled with alcoholism her whole life. She lives in a very small town in NW Iowa with her emotionally abusive husband. She refuses to leave. She is unemployed and lives on a very tight budget. Money is always a issue. There are also very few medical resources or ways to get help in NW…
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My uncle is being foolish and stubborn
I am currently in month five of being away from home, taking care of my grandmother, with the help of my mother. Unfortunately, due to financial and personal reasons, we are having to move my grandma into independent living, and eventually into assisted living at a elder care facility at the end of January. We traveled…
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vaccination advice
Hey all, hope all you caretakes are doing well. My grandmother is in like middle/early late state dementia. She (80) is bed bound but we put her in a wheelchair to have her meals. I need some advice. My grandmother is basically stable in her stage right now besides a few minor things like blood pressure/heart issues…
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Some more hospice questions
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Refusing medications / How to administer meds
My dad is now refusing to eat the pudding that I crush his medicine in. We have a doctor appointment on Monday so I will be finding out from his doctor if any of his meds can come in liquid form so I can just quickly get it down him. Is there any other way you managed to get your LO meds down when they refused? I am mostly…
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Mother diagnosed, in denial, no POA LV or HCP
Hello all. I did not know where else to turn. I live in North Carolina and my 71-year-old mother lives in Lake Work, FL. My mother was recently diagnosed with Demetia with the onset of Alzheimer's. She lives with her 74-year-old "husband" (not legally married) who has just been diagnosed with Parkersons, diabetes, and some…
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Outside of home and Bedtime
Anyone else’s loved one do better OUTSIDE of the home. My boyfriend and I take Mom out as much as we can. We are noticing now that she does so much better out. Tonight we went to see Christmas lights. Of course she was mad as a hornet at me when we stopped at boyfriends house and I made her use the bathroom. Wouldn’t talk…
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Worried about my dad - no diagnosis yet, but I have suspicions
Hi everyone, I'm new to this site, and this just is me getting my thoughts out in writing. I am worried that my father may have dementia. He is in his mid-60s and is in generally good health, except for some high blood pressure. He and my mother live in Hawaii and I live in Virginia, so I see them only a few times a year,…
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Neurologist
Hello, I'm wondering if anyone has a recommendation for a neurologist that specializes in evaluating dementia/alzheimer's in the Denton, Ttexas area. Thank you
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Extra precautions during Covid
I recently read an article while waiting in the doctors office. It was originally published for flu season and was republished for covid with a couple of additions. Do not use bath towels more than once. Put them in the hamper asap. Do not use hand towels in the bathroom. Use paper towels. If you have been out in public,…
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How do you deal with the delusions?
My wife was retired by her employer in 2005 at the age of 63. She is now 80 and insists she was hired back and wants me to take her to "work" every morning. I called the HR department and they have no record of her currently working there. I didn't expect they would -- if they didn't want her at 63 they sure as heck don't…
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Agitation(1)
From Previous post I’ve mentioned I’ve been having trouble controlling my moms agitation, she is pretty advanced Alzheimer’s with agitation, restlessness, and aggression. We’ve tried some medications but have yet to find the right combo. I’ve tried things at home linked making a safe and calm space, removing distracting…
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Just don't know what to do(2)
I have an aunt who passed away several months ago and I am the trustee of her estate. Her sister lives in the adjacent apartment and has undiagnosed dementia of some sort. She has had this for years now but I am having to deal with it regularly since I need to take care of my deceased aunt's estate, which ultimately…
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Amazing ability to hide dementia from others
I just need to say this to someone. My spouse, child of the person with dementia, is not receptive to discussing this subject. PWD is in memory care. Earlier this week we took PWD out for an evening choir practice. I feared, correctly, that it would be a disaster when it came time to return to MC. After about 30 minutes of…
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Repeated Calls
Do any of you use any of the special phones/services that help with repeated calls? My mother is in MC and wants a phone. I want her to be able to call me and some of our family but she's prone to repeatedly calling and directing a lot of her anxiety through phone calls (calling asking for rides/exit seeking stuff). I've…
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Tech for tracking/geofencing LO with dementia
I think I’m looking for the unicorn of tracking technology for my LO but I’m hoping you all can help me. My LO is living in an independent living facility with multiple time/day home health care to check in, prompts for medicine and oral care and well being checks. For the most part it is really working out well but we…
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Keeping Family Engaged - Advice Needed
Hi all - first time post for me, just joined. My DW has FTD, we both are in our fifties, no children. She's in the moderate stage and I recently retired to stay home and care for her 24/7. She's Greek, both her parents have passed and she has two nieces and a nephew that live near us. Unfortunately, her sister (in Greece)…
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Two Parents With Mental Health Problems
I'm taking care of two elderly parents who both have mental health problems and it's a crushing burden. My father has degrees in physics and worked as an engineer. He has a solitary personality and looked down on other people for what he perceived as their lack of intelligence and obnoxious personalities, though he only…
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How to get into bed?
Hi there, Where can I get some information on how to teach mom get into bed. She is weak after the stroke, but she can sit up and pull herself up with the help of bed rail. But she does not know how to lie back to the bed. Anyone know how?
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Support needed
I am at my absolute wits end. I am only 23 years old, and have been helping my mom take care of her mother for 4 months, since the end of August of this year. We drove up to Ohio to see how she was, we had not seen her since before Covid. When we came up here, to our dismay, we learned that my Uncle and his wife have been…
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Are you in Humboldt County, CA and need supplies?
i have: * adaptive dining utensils - unused * adaptive plates, with a scoop edge - unused * foam tubes to make any utensil, hairbrush, crochet hook etc more accessible - unused * no rinse bathing solution - unused * shoes size 7 - some used * gait belt full of nice solid loops and grab point, made for the skinniest of…
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GETTING A DIAGNOSIS(2)
Back again. I’m the one with the sister with dementia who lives in the same independent living retirement community as me, but in a separate apartment. She does okay since I can send her reminders by text and visit her almost daily. We know she has dementia from her symptoms and the geriatrician agrees. She is scheduled…
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All I want for Christmas...
...is to clone myself. That way one of me can stay home and be the 24/7 caregiver, and the other me can leave the house and run errands, grocery shop, go to the salon, take care of medical appointments, see friends, and you know .. have an actual social life! Oh well, I guess one can always dream.
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When to interfere
My sister, who has mild dementia, lives in independent living in a separate apartment in the same retirement community as me. One of the activities here is a “guitar jam,” twice weekly where she has become the vocalist. She loves it and it is good for her mind. However, the group leader wants her to sing the lyrics from…