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Advice needed about moving parents in with family
My 83yo mother with dementia and 88 yo father, physically challenged and in a w/c are at the point they need to move in with family. My mother was the primary caregiver for my father, cooking, med setup, cleaning, driving etc. That was before her memory declined to the point she repeats her self every few minutes and can…
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Research break through - Fatty acids
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When do you stop pointing out to someone their memory issues
When someone is starting to become forgetful I think it's natural to point it out to them. For example, "I just told you that yesterday". When dementia is involved when do you stop mentioning it? Not that I'm mentioning it to be rude like my teenager often does with me but to try and convince my LO it's time to stop…
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Medicine
I've noticed daddy chews his medicine tablets now instead of swallowing them whole. There are some medicines that should not be chewed so I'm checking into that. Has anyone else run into a situation like that? It's a battle to get him to take his meds sometimes and I have to watch that he actually takes them or he puts…
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LO falling in love with their caregiver?
Hi all, (new here) Has anyone had experience with their LO (parent) falling for their caregiver? I've read this is not uncommon and it makes sense, but I'm not sure how to handle the situation. His wife is still alive but due to her own health issues and MCI/early dementia, really hasn't had the initiative to spend time…
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TMI but need help- (genital issue)
Tuesday afternoon In our 1x daily standoff over changing his wet depends, I noticed a difference in DH’s most sensitive body part. The skin was almost covering the tip, looking almost uncircumcised, but he IS circumcised. There was some swelling and he said it didn’t hurt, but then that it did. He eventually let me rinse…
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Extreme Paranoia(1)
My father was very recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. I’ve suspected that he’s had some sort of dementia for about six months or so now, but things had gotten so much worse in just the past few months. My husband and I live with my parents. We have for the past eight years and I’ve been their primary caretaker.…
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The Move.
Hello Everyone - This is my first post on the forum after reading many of the posts here over the prior three months - so many have been incredibly helpful to me and my DH as we navigate discussions with his Mom who was formally diagnosed this spring. While she is amenable to moving to be closer to us (she was 'honored'…
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Scared this is getting closer to the end
Hello all. I am struggling with wondering if my LO (diagnosis is vascular dementia) is nearing the end. They have dementia and are struggling. Some would say that the light has gone out in her, even in the last few weeks. She wants to sleep all the time. But she is still eating (less), drinking, going to the restroom with…
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Facility tours: What questions to ask?
I am touring facilities this weekend for my mom with EO. What are some important things to consider, what questions should I be asking the facility, and what are some things I should be looking for on the tours? Thanks!
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How to explain
My sister and me have both filed for my dad's guardianship. I am my dad's primary caregiver and go to his house almost daily while sister may show up at best once a week and for an hour. My issues are my dad repeatedly complains he's not mobile and needs a car. Without going into the Big story, his doctor signed paperwork…
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Depressed
I hope no one minds me confiding here. I know this is all part of the disease, but I find it incredibly hard to let the mean things my Grandfather says roll off my back. I know he doesn't mean them, however I find it hard to just let them go. They tend to feed into my depression, try as I might not to let them, and that in…
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Finding out who your real friends are
I'm sure this has been covered on the board already but it's interesting (although very sad) to see how a number of our friends have slowly separated themselves from us because of my DW's AD. Unfortunately some of her friends aren't qualified to deal with her disease. Some however, remain steadfast. What's been your…
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Update on dysfunctional parents
First let me say thank you to all the posters here who support me and give me great advice. I’ve taken it to heart and I’m working toward implementing it as best I can. Updates since my last post: I asked my step-dads doctor to please run some more tests on him to try to find a medical reason for his behavior. They finally…
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I think we’ve found help!
So after a rough few weeks I quit being a very nice person. I am usually a VERY nice person to my family. We’ve interviewed a caregiver who will work 3 days a week. I will be able to do laundry, clean the house, go to the grocery store during the day instead of at 6am or 9 pm, pick the kids up from school if they stay…
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My brother is coming to visit
My brother is coming. He still works in the health care field and is active with his friends, as much as possible during these Covid days. Actually his trip is to visit friends of his, and he is extending his trip a few days to visit with me. Although he knows of my diagnosis of cognitive impairment, which is nebulous to…
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Infection, Hospital, Memory Care Decisions to Make
My 95-year-old mom ended up in the hospital this weekend suffering from a severe infection. Despite many tests (MRI, CT, urinalysis, blood, nasal and throat swap, covid, you name it) the doctors have been unable to determine what sort of infection it is. I'm told this is not unusual because the universe is full of viruses…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 10/2/21
JESUS' FAMILY Mark 3:34-35 Good News Translation “He looked at the people sitting around him and said, ‘Look! Here are my mother and my brothers! ‘Whoever does what God wants is my brother, my sister, my mother.’” * TODAY'S PRAYER for you and me: Lord Jesus, thank you for loving me and calling me family. Help me to love…
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I'm not doing so well...introduction
This is my first post, and I’m not doing so well. My Mom and Dad are 90 and 93, and live about 90 miles north of me in their own home. They both have dementia. My Dad’s started about 5 years ago, progressing slowly, and without bother to him, taking it in stride, and joking about his bad memory. My Mother’s started about…
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Test(1)
Anyone else having issues posting? I typed a large post and the security system ate it when I hit post.
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How long does it take?
After having a week or so of more hallucinations and other things, my mom got tested for a uti and it was discovered she did have a silent one. We are getting medication today. How long will it take to see results? I know that some of it will depend on the person but I'm talking in general. Thanks for any information you…
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I feel so overwhelmed
My mother came to live with me in April of this year. She had previously lived with my younger sister until I received a call stating my mother was trying to kill her. Because I had been estranged from my mother due to my younger sisters lifestyle choices and my mom’s enabling, I had no idea what my mothers mental/physical…
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Shed light on caregivers
Come glow with us, is an annual worldwide campaign designed to shed light on the thousands of primary caregivers around the world who give of their time and their compassion to ease the journey of those they love. Caregivers and their dedication can often go unnoticed, unappreciated and unpaid. This October 1, 2021 help us…
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Angry LO
My dad was diagnosed sometime in the past 2 years (late 2019-early 2020), but it wasn't until March 2020 (yes as COVID lockdowns began) that it became a very large issue. He had stopped taking care of himself and lost a lot of weight. We also noticed that he was having odd behavior. He was living alone in his own house. At…
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Interesting idea for ID substitute
There was an article in a paper in my state about an inventor who created medical ID bracelets that have a QR code on it. It made me wonder about expanding on that concept for a PWD. Not a substitute for supervision but I know many people come here looking for temporary solutions. For those of you not familiar with these,…
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Have to decide if I move in with my Mom (…again)
Haven’t been on in a while. Over two years since I posted and my mom has gotten worse of course. She’s 91 and still living at home alone. She is on two different medicines for dementia but that’s all she takes so she’s relatively “healthy”. My siblings take turns twice a week picking her up and feeding her dinner at their…
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New here, introducing myself
Hi, I'm new to ALZconnected. I'm an adult child helping my sister care for our mother. A lot has happened relatively quickly for us. Our father passed away in 2018 from complications of a disease called Multiple System Atrophy. It's a rare disease related to Parkinson's. Some would call it Parkinson's on crack. It was…
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Delusional Disorder with extreme anger and hate toward family members
I live with my mother who seems to have delusional personality disorder. Cannot get diagnosis because she will not go to a doctor, lawyer or any professional that can help. I have provided for her and cared for her as an only child for decades. She has always been suspicious of others, judgmental, distrustful and jealous.…
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First post and very depressed caregiver
I am a full time caregiver to a soon to be 99 year old Mom. I have had my Mother for 15 years and she was always so sharp. She had been dealt a bad hand in life she was born blind in one eye, got a macular hole in the other in her 60's learned to live with it and then got macular degeneration so she has very little sight.…
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Stressed(1)
My Mom has had three strokes which threw her in dementia. She screams for hours during the night and sometimes during the day. She is bed ridden due to the strokes. We are best friends. I take care of her 24/7. I stay stressed out. I'm so sad and depressed because I miss my mom so much. She has medication to try to keep…