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Irrevocable Family Trust
My parents put some of their assets in an irrevocable trust. If my father wants to go to assisted living will the trust be protected. On the other hand too would we be able to get the assets back. If you have assets do you have more of a choice to be accepted from Assisted living? They still have some assets. I am also…
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Won't Give Up the iPhone and Accusing Everyone of Stealing
Hi everyone! My grandmother (73) has been diagnosed with middle to late stage Alz. Her body is very capable, except for her memory. She lives in an AL residence currently but is still holding onto her iPhone and she refuses to give it up. However, she constantly calling people multiple times or even calling in the middle…
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Odd situation
Sounds strange but I care for my girlfriend's wife. She was originally diagnosed with Parkinson's 8 years ago then it was determined it was parkinsonism. Progressive super nuclear policy with dementia, her father had lewy body dementia. My problem is her delusions and hallucinations are directed with my daughter it's a…
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Palliative care for LO with dementia?
Hi, I am primary caregiver for my 83 yr old mom with RA and dementia. She moved into our home (husband and me, lots of pets) 3 years ago when she was having difficulty continuing on in her AL apartment. She has continued to decline and in the last 3 months has had severe falls landing/injuries to her head. It’s really…
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Advice for Managing with Sexual Aggression
I was hoping to hear from the folks in the community on what may have worked for your loved one if you've gone through this. Since my father moved into a MC he has unfortunately fallen into a pattern of sexual aggression with the other female residents. Over the last two years, we have tried many different therapeutics but…
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I want to help my mom help her mom, but I don't know what to do
Hi everyone - first-time poster. I apologize in advance for my complete lack of knowledge and understanding of the disease, but I'm trying to figure out how I can help. My grandmother has been struggling with Alzheimer's for several years. She lives in an independent living facility, and has full-time caregivers, including…
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So My Mom is not getting the Booster Shot
HHello everyone, this COVID 19 is back. I just need to vent again. I don't have the final Say when it comes to my mother's care so she is not getting a booster shot. I am not happy about it. I am my Dad's primary caretaker and made sure he got it. Just wondering if anyone is going through this, where you want your LO to…
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tentative calm
Emergency hearing went well. Our CELA attorney was great. To quote my little brother, " it was like we brought an uzi to a knifefight." Permanent trust agreement is pending. I expect an irrevocable trust and care manager to be in place a little after Thanksgiving. No guarantee to actually see Dad, but a very trusted and…
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Therapeutic Fibbing?
Hello all! I haven't posted on here in awhile. My GM and I can tell that my Grandfather's AD is getting a little worse. He often remembers things that never happened, like thinking we went out somewhere when we actually stayed home, or thinking that he went to work when he's been retired for a long time. My GM and I…
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New to the board-mom of 2 little ones w/ dementia mom living with us now
Hi everyone, I'm a 46 year old mom of a 1 1/2 year old and a 4 year old. My husband (who is 52) and I have been married almost 5 years, been in our home 3 years. I say this because we started our family late in life and are smack in the middle of enjoying our young family. My mother has Dementia (diagnosed last February)…
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New to board--my mom has dementia
Hi, My mom's memory has been declining for several years but especially in the last year. She and my dad (ages 85 and 86) moved to a graduated living facility 3 years ago. Now as mom goes through the stages of dementia I've read about, I'm mostly worried about my dad serving as a 24/7 caregiver. Mom is mostly happy and…
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Just got the dementia diagnosis
DH was diagnosed with dementia this week. Went from mild memory loss in April to moderate to severe this week. He seems content, but sleeps most of the time. Gets up to eat then back to bed. Needs to be reminded to complete personal hygiene tasks such as bathing and putting on clean close. Doesn't talk much. I am so sad…
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Financial Help(1)
My mom has Alzheimer’s and it’s time to find a memory care facility for her to move into. She is not eligible for Medicaid but cannot afford to pay on her own and neither can I. Has anyone else had this problem and where do we go from here? Where do we begin?
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Difficult decision
MY Mom is 73. I'm only caregiver for her. She's getting worse. She doesn't know me. Sometimes she thinks she is in a nursing home. She sees people that's not there. She is either sleeping, eating, or screaming to top of her lungs for hours. She had three strokes and now has Dementia. I have been taking care of her for four…
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Forgetting visitors
Yesterday my MIL had her 1st checkup with her neurologist since her diagnosis in August. I felt it was possibly an eye opener for my SIL's who have seemed to not understand the seriousness. I zoomed in to the appointment, and was able to ask questions. The neurologist also did excellent in asking questions and discussing…
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Best Practices in Dementia Care and Caregiver Support
https://www.capc.org/training/best-practices-in-dementia-care-and-caregiver-support/
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caregiver sleep
Hi, all. I searched for possible answers to my question, but found none, so I'm posting my question in hopes someone has thought of solutions to the problem I'm having. Setting the stage: I am currently sole caregiver for my mother, who is mid-stage ALZ and lives with us. She currently needs no help with the ADL, just…
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Advice on care facility- institutional-yet-prepared, or welcoming with no memory care?
Looking for advice on choosing an assisted living facility for my mother. She's 79 and was recently diagnosed with dementia. She has significant short-term memory issues, but she's able to care for herself in all ways and is very physically healthy. We found a place we really like for her--it's just two minutes from our…
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New here - LO's wife abandoned him, and now he's fixated on her
Hi all - Thanks for any insight here. Have been caring for my dad since June 2021, when his wife dropped him on our doorstep. We've known he has had cognitive issues for several years, but his wife had for years kept him away from his family and so we were unable to see how severe his cognition had gotten. My dad was just…
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Early onset Alzheimer’s and/or mentally ill munchausen horror movie. Either which way I need advise.
I return to this board every couple years when I’m totally lost and today is one of those days. Sorry if my story is familiar to anyone here, it’s a grim situation that hasn’t changed for 6 years. I know everyone here is dealing with their own tragedies so I appreciate any insight into my very complicated situation. My…
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remedies for isolation?
Hi there, 7 years into my journey as the only daughter, one-time primary caregiver of a parent with Alzheimer's, I am looking up from my life and feeling like the grieving is just going to continue and that I need some new coping strategies to endure this triathlon of Alzheimer's. I am too isolated and that piece makes me…
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Dark thoughts
Daddy is in at home hospice. I've had a really hard time with him over the last week. He's developed another UTI (less than a month since he got out of the hospital from the previous one). I've had to give him morphine for the pain. His last BM was a week ago and he's taking miralax to hopefully get some relief. He hasn't…
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First Post...Feeling Resentful
Hello All, My mom has been living with my family and me for a month. She had been having memory issues for several years, and after my dad's passing last year and the isolation from Covid, we decided she shouldn't be alone. Physically, she is able to care for herself. She was excited at the idea of moving in with us, as…
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Has any one read this book and what are your thoughts? Someone with dementia said it was good.
https://www.amazon.com/Clinic-Alzheimers-Disease-Other-Dementias-ebook/dp/B08KH53VDY/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=mayo+clinic+alzheimers&qid=1636654932&sr=8-3
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 11/14/21
GOD WATCHES OVER US Psalm 1:6 New King James Version “For the Lord knows the way of the righteous, But the way of the ungodly shall perish.” Psalm 1:6 New International Version “For the Lord watches over the way of the righteous, but the way of the wicked leads to destruction.” * When we who love and obey the Lord walk…
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How to tell LO she is going to live in MC now.
LO is my mom. She was in full renal failure 10 days ago, they got her kidneys stable but the hospital recommended a stay in geriatric psych for medication reset. She’s ready to go home now but she needs memory care. Dad has this provided for her right next to their home. She is going to only want to be with him…but she is…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 11/10/21
PEACE OF CHRIST GOD THOUGHT: Colossians 3:15 NIV “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.” VICTORY THOUGHT: Deep in my heart is the peace of Jesus. POWER PRAYER: God of Peace, come to me in the craziness of my days. Come into my heart; fill me…
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Moving out of home state / no longer to live alone
I am trying to care for my mom with Alzheimer's. She was diagnosed with Alhzeimer's in May 2021. In August 2021 she was out driving at 1am in her home town (in NY) and got in a car accident. Luckily no one was hurt and her car was totaled so she is no longer driving. The Doctor suspended her license. She was living alone…
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This may help you with bills and financial issues
https://silverbills.com/
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foolish nursing home regulations
I'm sure most of us that have had to explore long term placement for a family member have run up against this rule, but I just have to vent a bit. My beloved in in a very good care facility. The staff are friendly and attentive, and I couldn't ask for better care. The problem persists that 2 ladies, one on either end of…