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shoes for swollen feet
Hi, I'm sure this has come up before but I'm trying to find some shoes for mom, whose feet are extremely swollen due to a combination of kidney disease and being in a wheelchair most of the time. I tried these shoes from Amazon, but they weren't big enough—flap going over the top of the foot wouldn't reach the velcro on…
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Mother with early-onset dementia - advice?
This is my first time posting here, and I'm looking for some advice. My 70-year-old mother has early-onset dementia. She is extremely independent - she lives alone in an apartment, still works outside of the house, spends much of her time alone. She has had symptoms of memory loss, speech disturbance, and TIA. She's had a…
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Family Care Guide - alz.org
I found this on the VA's website and I'm sure it's on here somewhere but I hadn't seen it before. It may help someone knew to this terrible disease. I'm sending it to family members. https://www.alz.org/media/manh/documents/Family-Care-Guide-FINAL.pdf
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How often to visit? Counseling Advice
My mom was recently moved from independent living to memory care when her ability to walk was affected by muscle weakness, and there was a general decline. She’s in a wheelchair now. I was able to do this for her because I hold her POAs. My 4 siblings, all out of town, are fully supportive of this move. My dad asked me to…
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Can anyone share thoughts on a mobile service for getting mani-pedis at home?
Hello - I am wondering if anyone has had experience with having a mobile service provide in-home manicures or pedicures, and if you could share tips. I am not asking for any specific name of a business, just what your experience has been, pros or cons? My mom is 85, living at home with very limited mobility. Usually, dad…
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Experiences with simple pets like fish
My wife was diagnosed with dementia 8 years ago and it has progressed much as expected - troubles walking, talking, bathroom, etc. She enjoyed animals and various pets all her life, but we presently do not have any. I am unable to add something like a dog since I cannot spare the cycles to do the required care. I was…
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Advice for dealing with mom's extreme anger and resistance
Hello ALZ community - I previously posted about having trouble getting my mom in for a neuropsych appointment - all hospitals in the area are a year out on appointments. The good news update: I was able to find a private facility that can do the testing; insurance won't cover most of it but I am so desperate to get some…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 6/29/23
First, thank all of you who have made comments. I appreciate them. God bless everyone who comes here. Peace always, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski, VKB) CIRCLE OF LOVE Galatians 5:13 New Living Translation For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your…
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Clothing for Assisted Living
Hopefully, Mom will be moving into an Assisted Living facility next month. The facility has an associated Memory Care Unit, but based on their preliminary assessment she is about average for the residents in the assisted living side so she will start out there. Now I am trying to figure out how to deal with her clothes.…
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This family caregiver doc won the same film festival...
...TWICE! The dementia family caregiver documentary, "Wine, Women, & Dementia" took home the Jury Award for Best Documentary Feature AND Audience Choice Award for Best Documentary Feature at last week's Vero Beach Wine and Film Festival! We've added the latest accolades to our Audience Choice Award from Julien Dubuque…
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Memory Care Elopement
My father is in Memory Care, but he's physically in great shape and higher functioning. They take dad to other non-locked floors so that he can participate in activities and eat with other non memory care residents. However, last week Dad walked out the front door and down the street and wasn't willing to go back inside…
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Does anyone understand the Health Care documents in NJ?
I am having trouble wrapping my head around what I need for mom as far as health care proxies. I have tried talking to a Elder Care Attorney, two in fact. One blew me off completely, and other wanted me to sign an $8,000 contract before further discussion. So I have become somewhat disenchanted with that route. Most of the…
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A Phone for Grandpa
Hello everyone, my grandfather was diagnosed with early onset dementia about a year ago now, he was on some medication that was helping for a while but its not helping as much anymore. He has recently forgotten how to use the landline he's had in his home for the past 10-15 years. My dad and I have been struggling to find…
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Another twist in accusations
Following up my initial post ..see below Mother accusing me of stealing in her bank account ( ongoing for 8 months) , using her phone number to make long distance calls etc. she say’s she has proof but there is none. My younger sister told her it was impossible and was kicked out.. She then told the older sister she wanted…
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NPH / Normal Pressure Hydrocephalus
I've searched the boards and don't see a clear cut answer on this one. Does anyone have a LO diagnosed with ALZ and later on, NPH? My dad is 72, started developing ALZ symptoms about 5 years ago. Currently stage 6. This week, a CAT scan revealed significant fluid on his brain (NPH). Characterized by odd gait (check), lose…
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Pigs do indeed fly
Imagine my complete and utter surprise when I found out my brother went to go visit Peggy on Saturday! He hasn't seen her since June, 2021. Staff at Peggy's memory care didn't even realize we have a brother - no one has met him, until yesterday. I'm always complaining about that guy because he's been MIA for so long. I'm…
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Care go
My mom has dementia and seems to be getting worse one day she is fine the next she is not is that normal behavior
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How to Talk about Shoes
Hello! My parents are in assisted living, Dad with Alzheimer's and Mom with mild dementia. My dad has foot problems due to arthritis, high arches, and sport injuries, so he has custom made insoles with cut-outs to prevent ulcers on the balls of his feet. Due to the high arches, we are limited on shoe styles (slip-ons don't…
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Unrealistic travel plans
My 87 yo LO with stage 5 mixed Alz/vascular dementia and mobility issues has unrealistic travel plans. He had trouble today finding his way around his retirement community and was confused about meeting his 5 year companion for dinner. Which he does every Sunday afternoon. Mobility-wise, he is basically 100% reliant on his…
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Should I stay away from her
Mother is showing signs of dementia , has not been diagnosed yet , she would refuse . 8 months ago she started accusing me of stealing from her bank account ( I had POA and was paying her bills ) she did not understand the statements and believe her withdrawals where done by me, my sister and I explained to her it was not…
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Chewing/sucking on bedding
Lately we have found my dad surrounded by wet sheets. They are not urine. Last night when I arrived, I found him in bed, with the sheet in his mouth. This is new behavior.
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Mother refusing to go to respite care
Moving my mother into my house was, in retrospect, a terrible decision. Now she won't leave. We've crafted a story that my daughter, who lives across the country, needs my help and I need to go, so she is going to a "hotel" while I am gone. My mother thinks she can stay by herself in my house. I explained that I can't…
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Alzheimer's and Diabetes
Hello, My mother has Alzheimer's and Diabetes. She has done very well in controlling her blood sugar with the help of an insulin pump. Lately though she has started taking the sensor off of her body that controls the flow of insulin. She has done this four times in the last week. Is there any advice on a way to keep it on…
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BINGO
My eldest and I were voicing some frustration at the platitudes we have been told about self care. This kid made a Bingo card as a way to help us smile and it was too funny not to share. In all seriousness please do whatever you need to to take care of yourself, including laugh.
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legal documents
my mom was recently diagnosed with alz. My sister and I are wondering what legal documents we need to make sure that as things progress we will be able to make decisions for her? Please leave any helpful information you have
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This Resonated with Me
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We all deserve at least one laugh a day
A frog goes into a bank and approaches the teller. He can see from her nameplate that her name is Patricia Whack. "Miss Whack, I'd like to get a $10000 loan to take a holiday." Patty looks at the frog in disbelief and asks his name. The frog says his name is Kermit Jagger, his dad is Mick Jagger, and that it's OK, he knows…
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My Mum and Dad
Hi, my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimers last year although we have known for a while things werent right to be honest. Excuse this strange question but here goes.. My mum and Dad havent been really close for years. My Dad didnt like my mums family at all. All my grandparents have now passed away and my mum and dad always…
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We're back
(*posted in Spouse & Partner forum also) Dear Forum Mates, I have been away (abruptly) for a few months and thought about you all EVERY DAY, several times a day. You have truly been missed. We (DH and me) are as well as can be expected, but had some serious stuff thrown our way and I just couldn't keep up with also reading…
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My Child Helps Pay My Bills. Do I Need to Tell Medicaid? (From elder law answers)
I'm applying to Medicaid. I am over the income limit but have household expenses that exceed my income. My daughter also contributes so that I can make ends meet. Does Medicaid consider the money my daughter provides for support additional income? Or, does Medicaid view the money from others as a demonstration of need? I'm…