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How do we tell Dad that Mom is selling their home?
My father has some form of dementia resulting in short term memory loss. We first noticed the undeniable signs in early 2020. He has refused any and all attempts to diagnose or assess his cognitive condition. He’s an intimidating man and has always bullied his way through life and this situation is no different. He hasn’t…
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Care Giver Needs Advice
I am the sole care giver for my mom who lives with me. I leave her food every day to eat while I am at work. Recently she began accusing me of not leaving her food because she can't remember that I did. She becomes very angry and says I am calling her a liar. I know this is typical, but has anyone had any success dealing…
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Feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and needy
My emotions are on a roller coaster lately. My son graduated from college on Mother's day weekend. I am so proud of him and know he will find his way, but I will always be a mother who worries about her kid. So now I've got a 22yo at home, my parent's dog, and my 2 needy parents in AL. Everything just feels a bit out of…
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Tomorrow is the day we have to separate Mom and Angel
I’m just needing an outlet to vent and cry tonight so I can hopefully get it out and get some sleep before we have to do what we have to do tomorrow. Many of you have been blessed support while my sisters and I have been trying to work out how to keep my mom together with her beloved dog, Angel. And we have been able to…
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Mother's Day Blessing
I send up a blessing for all you mother's today. For your patience in raising your children, for your devotion in caring/advocating for your elders. The kids and the old folks may not see it, may not appreciate it, may not even like you right at the moment. But I see you, this forum sees you, and I want you to know you are…
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Live-in care
Can anyone offer advice on having a live-in caregiver? My sister-in-law is encouraging me to hire someone for my DH. She hired one when my mother-in-law was in decline through some "gray market" channels. I'm concerned about having someone without training and insurance (not to mention having to deal with taxes and such).…
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Role of natural supplements in support of cure for Alzheimer's
I have closely seen many patients with Alzheimer's . And this really breaks my heart. Just last week I came across an article which talks about natural supplements and their potential benefit to support the cure for many decisions. How you guys feel about natural supplements do share your views. Also if anyone using them…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/20/23
GOD IS HIGHER. WE CAN TRUST HIM. Isaiah 55:9 New Living Translation 9 For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts. me: Sometimes we kinda understand why some things in our lives have happened, and other times we scratch our heads and say,…
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skilled nursing facility issues
Unfortunately, my mother has been relocated for long-term care to a skilled nursing facility (TX.). Not our first experience with a s.n.f. Issue is how to hold facility accountable. Have found out firsthand that filing a complaint with health and human services is a waste of time. My mother suffers from both ALZ and…
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Upcoming event on Alzheimer's Disease drug development
Join us for an ADDF Virtual Town Hall Meeting Date: Tuesday, May 23, 2023 Time: 1:00pm ET The ADDF funds the largest and most diverse Alzheimer's research portfolio worldwide, with a rich history of pushing the boundaries that shape the field. The ADDF funds the largest and most diverse Alzheimer's research portfolio…
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How to respond to repeated topic?
Hi all, I’m unfortunately new here so thanks in advance for your support. My mom (79) has recently been diagnosed with ALZ but still in the early stages. Onr big issue right now is that she often comments that she and my dad did not have any children, and will generally follow up with accusing my dad being the cause of…
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Angry no matter what we do
Mom lives with a family member but she still has her house. She is a hoarder and there is much that needs to be addressed at the house. She insists on going over to the house regularly. She is upset that we are going through her things, looks through trash (making sure we didn’t toss anything), demanding it’s her house and…
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Respite Grants, San Jose California
Hello Everyone, I am looking for any or all information re: applying for respite grants for an individual living in San Jose, CA needing facility respite care. Thank you, Lori
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FDA Approves Rexulti for Agitation in Alzheimer's Disease
The FDA approved atypical antipsychotic Rexulti for the treatment of agitation in patients with Alzheimer's. This class of medication (which includes Risperdal and Seroquel) has been used off-label for years, but this is a new indication for the medication previously approved for severe depression and schizophrenia. This…
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How Do You Cope With Repeated Attacks
Hi. I am having trouble coping with the personal attacks from my mother. She is hallucinating a whole group of people in the house and swears that I am "ministering" to them and having "group meetings". She also secretly told my brother that she feels I am doing something sinister. Sometimes she will look at me as if I am…
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Aggression and Refusal
I care for a 70 yr old woman with late stage AL. She has lately become very agitated, aggressive, angry and refuses to do the mandatory things in life such as going to the bathroom, showering and eating. She refuses help, calls me and her family that she lives with names, tell me she hates me and has even slapped my hand…
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By Dio - Medication(s) to Calm Agitation
I got a call from MC today requesting permission to contact DH's doctor to prescribe medication to help calm DH. Apparently, today it took four people to change DH, as he got extremely agitated when he needed to be changed and have dirty clothes taken away to be cleaned. This behavior is consistent with what I had to deal…
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Incontinence Odor
I moved my best friend into a lovely nursing home over the weekend. She does wear diapers (usually 2) but still manages to get wet through them. She has wet her bed and clothes, chair, etc. After only a few days there, her room reeks of urine. I am changing her sheets, airing her mattress out, collecting the wet items and…
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American House
Just wondering if anyone has experience, good or bad, with American House assisted living. I'm looking at one of their facilities as an option for my mom. They contract out to a third party for personal care services, so I'd also be interested in anyone's experience with that set up, even if not with American House. Thanks.
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Father Refusing In-home Care
Hello, I’m new here, but have already learned a lot from reading posts. This is my first, asking for advice. My father needs 24/7 care but refuses to accept a caregiver. He might for a day, but he’s fired that 8 we’ve found for him in the past 6 weeks, telling them to leave and not letting them come back. He’s independent…
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You are cordially invited... WWD Sneak Peek
As a thank you to all your advice/support/empathy throughout the years I invite you all to a special, FREE, half-hour Sneak Peek of the dementia family caregiver documentary... Wine, Women, & Dementia - Wednesday, May 24 - Noon EDT - 9am PDT - @ Zoom Online Followed by a half-hour Q&A with me (Kitty Norton, Director), Beth…
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Our medical and social tragedy
Today I got an up close and personal picture of how our medical and social systems fail people. Particularly the elderly, mentally ill and probably dementia patients. We post frequently on this forum that you should send your loved one to the hospital and refuse to take them home because it’s not safe. Well that doesn’t…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/14/23
Dear Friends, Again, I thank you for your encouraging messages. If you need a prayer, please also include those as well. Peace Always, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski) * BE LIKE JESUS * Philippians 2:1-5 New Living Translation Have the Attitude of Christ 2 Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort…
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Finding a Memory Care Facility
Greetings, I'm new here, I just signed up. I'm my husband's caregiver. He was 1st diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment in 2/2019 and transitioned to Alzheimer's Dementia in 11/2021. Unassisted, I've been looking at MCFs and they refer me to sources Independent placement persons (generic parties I'm not familiar with.)…
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How do I handle the night when she doesn't sleep
I care for a 96 yr old woman that has sundowner. She harms herself at night when she is in bed so we have had to resort to protective mittens. She has recently started to climb out of bed so we've had to use foam wedges to keep her in bed. She doesn't sleep much and is always crying out for help to get her up. She has CHF,…
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Another Shoe Dropped - May need to start working in the office
Hello Again. Thanks to everyone who offered support and assistance on my recent transportation conundrum. Today, another shoe dropped as we were informed that, starting in September, anyone living within 50 miles of one of our corporate offices must start working in the office 3 days/week. This is after being told many…
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Small Success!
Wanted to share a good story with y'all. I asked the pharmacist the other day if memantine can be ground up. She and her colleague said it could. Monday we had an in-home caregiver for a while and she said you can use two spoons to grind pills. I tried it today and mixed it in applesauce for mom and she ate it all up!…
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Alternatives to Sertraline?
I've been trying to skim through past posts about Sertraline and it's tedious so I'm asking up front. Mom's not been swallowing her pills and they've been dissolving in her mouth with is not great for anyone. We're trying to figure out how to get her medication to her with the least amount of difficulties as getting her to…
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Vet Admin Program of Comprehensive Assistance for Family Caregivers
Does anyone know anything about this VA program? My company is going to start requiring us to work in the office three days a week which will make taking care of my sister challenging and I may have to stop working. I'm wondering about this program. Has anyone applied for it?