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Recommend a pill crusher
I am the caregiver for my spouse who has Alzheimer’s. It’s getting harder and harder for her to swallow her pills. Can anyone please recommend a pill crusher? thank you Cheryl
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Brain donation / autopsy
My dad is in the final stages of Alzheimer’s. My siblings and I would like to get an autopsy done to learn more about his specific diagnosis. The Brain Donor Project rejected us. Have others gotten private autopsies? We’ve been quoted 4000$ for a private autopsy which seems worth it for closure/to see if there is a higher…
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Just need to get others ideas.
I am the sole caregiver to my husband who is only 67 and in late stage of Alzheimer’s . I so want to keep him at home, but I am so tired. He has started wetting anywhere and doing #2 standing up anywhere too. If I don't follow him everywhere he just goes. He starts pacing about 10am and it goes on for hours. Digging,…
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Activities for Reluctant Mom
Hey all, First post here. Long story short, my mom was diagnosed with EO Alzheimer's about 4-5 years ago. At the time, she was still somewhat active and she and my dad would go for daily walks or bike rides. She maintained this activity until about a year ago. My dad cannot get her to go for a walk or do much activity at…
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Vascular Dementia - Moaning and Mumbling
Mother was diagnosed with early vascular dementia in February 2023 and it has progressed rapidly due to her preexisting medical conditions. She was hospitalized in May due to an issue with medication and since returning home has slept 85-90% of the time and moans continuously. She is on pain management, and home hospice…
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Preying on elders, disabled, PWDs - Beware
What can a spouse or other caregiver do if a situation like this begins unfolding? Asking for a friend. Urgent. '99% of the world has no idea': inside the shocking legal guardianship industry | Movies | The Guardian And this. Our Shocking Introduction To The Guardianship System (sistersletter.com)
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EATING
Need to know how to get a senior to eat again. Doctor put her on Donepezil (Aricept) and she stop eating. My mother went from a size 14 now to 8. Weight is 121 from 135. I was preparing meals daily but the food was being thrown away if she didn't want to eat anything. When my mother get up in the morning she might get her…
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Dealing with Pets
Since his diagnosis, my DH and our dog do not get along. While he has never hit the dog, he looms and yells. He is rough when picking him up. Our dog has taken to hiding under the bed whenever my DH calls for him. It doesn't help that my dog has become increasingly protective of me and barks more than he used to. I know…
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Am I Crazy?
My sister's day care is closing in a few weeks. The owner of her day care has another location we can send her to. It's only a few miles further than the current location, but traffic is worse, making transporting her more difficult. I've arranged transportation through an organization that provides rides to the disabled…
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shoes for swollen feet
Hi, I'm sure this has come up before but I'm trying to find some shoes for mom, whose feet are extremely swollen due to a combination of kidney disease and being in a wheelchair most of the time. I tried these shoes from Amazon, but they weren't big enough—flap going over the top of the foot wouldn't reach the velcro on…
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Mother with early-onset dementia - advice?
This is my first time posting here, and I'm looking for some advice. My 70-year-old mother has early-onset dementia. She is extremely independent - she lives alone in an apartment, still works outside of the house, spends much of her time alone. She has had symptoms of memory loss, speech disturbance, and TIA. She's had a…
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Family Care Guide - alz.org
I found this on the VA's website and I'm sure it's on here somewhere but I hadn't seen it before. It may help someone knew to this terrible disease. I'm sending it to family members. https://www.alz.org/media/manh/documents/Family-Care-Guide-FINAL.pdf
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How often to visit? Counseling Advice
My mom was recently moved from independent living to memory care when her ability to walk was affected by muscle weakness, and there was a general decline. She’s in a wheelchair now. I was able to do this for her because I hold her POAs. My 4 siblings, all out of town, are fully supportive of this move. My dad asked me to…
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Can anyone share thoughts on a mobile service for getting mani-pedis at home?
Hello - I am wondering if anyone has had experience with having a mobile service provide in-home manicures or pedicures, and if you could share tips. I am not asking for any specific name of a business, just what your experience has been, pros or cons? My mom is 85, living at home with very limited mobility. Usually, dad…
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Experiences with simple pets like fish
My wife was diagnosed with dementia 8 years ago and it has progressed much as expected - troubles walking, talking, bathroom, etc. She enjoyed animals and various pets all her life, but we presently do not have any. I am unable to add something like a dog since I cannot spare the cycles to do the required care. I was…
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Advice for dealing with mom's extreme anger and resistance
Hello ALZ community - I previously posted about having trouble getting my mom in for a neuropsych appointment - all hospitals in the area are a year out on appointments. The good news update: I was able to find a private facility that can do the testing; insurance won't cover most of it but I am so desperate to get some…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 6/29/23
First, thank all of you who have made comments. I appreciate them. God bless everyone who comes here. Peace always, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski, VKB) CIRCLE OF LOVE Galatians 5:13 New Living Translation For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your…
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Clothing for Assisted Living
Hopefully, Mom will be moving into an Assisted Living facility next month. The facility has an associated Memory Care Unit, but based on their preliminary assessment she is about average for the residents in the assisted living side so she will start out there. Now I am trying to figure out how to deal with her clothes.…
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This family caregiver doc won the same film festival...
...TWICE! The dementia family caregiver documentary, "Wine, Women, & Dementia" took home the Jury Award for Best Documentary Feature AND Audience Choice Award for Best Documentary Feature at last week's Vero Beach Wine and Film Festival! We've added the latest accolades to our Audience Choice Award from Julien Dubuque…
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Memory Care Elopement
My father is in Memory Care, but he's physically in great shape and higher functioning. They take dad to other non-locked floors so that he can participate in activities and eat with other non memory care residents. However, last week Dad walked out the front door and down the street and wasn't willing to go back inside…
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Does anyone understand the Health Care documents in NJ?
I am having trouble wrapping my head around what I need for mom as far as health care proxies. I have tried talking to a Elder Care Attorney, two in fact. One blew me off completely, and other wanted me to sign an $8,000 contract before further discussion. So I have become somewhat disenchanted with that route. Most of the…
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A Phone for Grandpa
Hello everyone, my grandfather was diagnosed with early onset dementia about a year ago now, he was on some medication that was helping for a while but its not helping as much anymore. He has recently forgotten how to use the landline he's had in his home for the past 10-15 years. My dad and I have been struggling to find…
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Another twist in accusations
Following up my initial post ..see below Mother accusing me of stealing in her bank account ( ongoing for 8 months) , using her phone number to make long distance calls etc. she say’s she has proof but there is none. My younger sister told her it was impossible and was kicked out.. She then told the older sister she wanted…
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NPH / Normal Pressure Hydrocephalus
I've searched the boards and don't see a clear cut answer on this one. Does anyone have a LO diagnosed with ALZ and later on, NPH? My dad is 72, started developing ALZ symptoms about 5 years ago. Currently stage 6. This week, a CAT scan revealed significant fluid on his brain (NPH). Characterized by odd gait (check), lose…
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Pigs do indeed fly
Imagine my complete and utter surprise when I found out my brother went to go visit Peggy on Saturday! He hasn't seen her since June, 2021. Staff at Peggy's memory care didn't even realize we have a brother - no one has met him, until yesterday. I'm always complaining about that guy because he's been MIA for so long. I'm…
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Care go
My mom has dementia and seems to be getting worse one day she is fine the next she is not is that normal behavior
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How to Talk about Shoes
Hello! My parents are in assisted living, Dad with Alzheimer's and Mom with mild dementia. My dad has foot problems due to arthritis, high arches, and sport injuries, so he has custom made insoles with cut-outs to prevent ulcers on the balls of his feet. Due to the high arches, we are limited on shoe styles (slip-ons don't…
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Unrealistic travel plans
My 87 yo LO with stage 5 mixed Alz/vascular dementia and mobility issues has unrealistic travel plans. He had trouble today finding his way around his retirement community and was confused about meeting his 5 year companion for dinner. Which he does every Sunday afternoon. Mobility-wise, he is basically 100% reliant on his…
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Should I stay away from her
Mother is showing signs of dementia , has not been diagnosed yet , she would refuse . 8 months ago she started accusing me of stealing from her bank account ( I had POA and was paying her bills ) she did not understand the statements and believe her withdrawals where done by me, my sister and I explained to her it was not…
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Chewing/sucking on bedding
Lately we have found my dad surrounded by wet sheets. They are not urine. Last night when I arrived, I found him in bed, with the sheet in his mouth. This is new behavior.