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Dementia and hoarding
Mom lives with my brother now after a recent dementia diagnosis. It is a good safe place for her. The problem is her house. It is in very bad shape! Mom does not want us in the house unless she is with us. She tells us what we can work on while we are there. When tested executive decision making skills were extremely low.…
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Family member taking advantage
I just found out my niece went shopping with my mother that has Alzheimer’s. It was the end of Dec. When I saw the charges, I thought my mothers card had been stolen. My mother spent $1300. 1,000 on herself for a black leather jacket and pants. She’s 82 for gods sake! She thinks she looks like Sandy from grease! Good Lord!…
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Facebook delusions
My LO spends most of her days (and nights) on Facebook and believes celebrities are communicating with her directly. She has never really understood how social media works and my sibling and I have reprimanded her many times over the years for inappropriate or embarrassing posts. Now it's become delusional in that she…
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Let's recommend whatever the things you think it is useful
Things make your life easier when taking care of LOs, or things making their life more comfortable, convenient, etc. Things you cannot live without. Big or small. Expensive or cheap. For example, someone recommended PureWick catheter before. What else?
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Caring for Uncooperative LO
How do you get your LO to cooperate with you trying to care for them- dressing, clean up, eating, drinking, etc? My 101 year old dad will not cooperate with my sister and I who are caring for him. Every doctor and nurse tells him and us he needs to drink more- he won't. He recently had a catheter put in. It needs to be…
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Wishing and hoping
Hi, My Mom thanked me, by sending a picture in a text, for a necklace for Valentine's Day. Apparently someone did a very nice thing, and sent her a heart necklace, in the mail; the accompanying note was sweet and was signed my Dad's name (ADLO.) She thought I had sent it, since it seemed like something I (their daughter)…
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mom has mild dementia, and i am living with her
hi; it's surely hard on me, and most certainly on mom. she been living alone since 1996, on a little acreage outside town, which is 16 miles away. her church friends been concern for awhile with her driving back and forth to Wednesday night meets and Sunday morning church services. my brother's wife found a specialist and…
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She wants to go home(1)
I have been caring for my mom for 5+ years now, having moved her into my house only a month ago. She has been diagnosed with moderate+ Alzheimers. My biggest stress currently is that she wants to go home. I''ve had "the conversation" with her twice now, but will likely not do that again. It stresses her out and I can tell…
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MMSE shenanigans again
Mom had a follow up visit with her NP in the neurology department. Her MMSE score has improved to 28. She only missed remembering the three words- could remember one, and then later, two. She also didn’t know exactly which floor of the building the doctor’s office was on. I dropped her off at the entryway built into that…
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Moving day is set - am I ready?
Hi everyone,Well, after some confusion with a change in ownership/management, the SNF has accepted mom and moving day is set. This is a facility that is about 60 residents and is all dementia patients. Mom has lived with me for 12 years and has had slowly progressing dementia for at least 5 years. The facility is about 60…
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National Caregivers Day
Today is National Caregivers Day. I only have this to give you when you deserve all the beautiful things the universe has to offer. It's your heart, caregivers, that strives to fill the empty soothe agitation calm fears in others The mind says I can't I won't The heart says I will And I will succeed fail phone it in knock…
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Paid Caregiver Here
Hi, I have decades of experience as a live-in caregiver, but not for an Alzheimer's or any type of dementia patient. My paralyzed friend and client recently died. Needing work and security, I find myself having accepted a position that feels very uncertain, very scary, in some ways, with someone who seems quite wonderful…
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anosagnosia
My wife and I have been my brother’s main caretakers for almost 5 months. He will not take his medicine every day, nor will he keep his appointments woth his doctors. One is an oncologist My brother has a mild form of leukemia), and one is a neurologist, who recommended that my brother get a more thorough…
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Looking for help for Early onset Alz Weston, FL area
We are looking for inhome help for 58 year old female Early Onset Alz. She lives with her husband who works and has great support from her 90 year old mother and her daughter but more is needed. I am trying to assist these sweet family members in finding the help they need so desperately. Please email to…
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At a loss for direction
I am recenfly learning a family member (grandmother in law) has alz or dementia she had what I best I could call and episode. She is house bound, normally has trouble walking without pain. She doesn''t drive. In This episode she somehow walked to her car, drove to the local Walmart walked into the Walmart, shopped and…
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Coping with agitation
Posted in the wrong forum.. newbie here. I am currently caring full time for my father who has moderate dementia. His partner (not my mother) is away on a 2 week overseas vacation with her friends. He has pronounced sundowning and gets severe agitation in the evenings. His partner is not answering his messages (phone…
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Move Mom In or Stay in AL - Advice Needed
My mom is transitioning from mild to moderate stage and I could really use some advice. Some Background: A year and a half ago, I moved my mother from her home 2 hours away into an AL to be closer to me. She had been living alone and I noticed that Covid isolation was accelerating her dementia. My husband and I then moved…
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Well I tired
Here again, My brother blew everything when he started going down to the 7/11 and getting wine. Hiding it from me in his room. Wine and cancer meds didn't go well together. He called me up to his room saying he couldn't walk. He threw up in his breakfast plate. I called 911 they took him to the ER. and then he was admitted…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/15/23
DROWNING TODAY with fear, anger, sadness or loneliness? HAVE FAITH! JESUS IS GOD'S SON. HE CAN TAKE CARE OF US. He encourages us and guides our thoughts when we call out to Him. Matthew 14:22-33 New International Version Jesus Walks on the Water 22 Immediately Jesus made the disciples get into the boat and go on ahead of…
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Moving MIL to MC this month worried of her decline
My husband is an only child, and my MIL is so dependent on him/ the both of us. We are mentally and physically drained. She has lived with us for over a year and now we have both decided to have her placed in MC. He has been the only male in her life since his father passed away in 1998. I have been her primary caregiver…
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Laser surgery
Does anyone have experience with laser surgery and/or any challenges that could impact someone who has Alzheimers? Thank you!
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how did you know when your loved one was ready for placement in memory care facility?
Hello, I was wondering- for those who have placed their loved ones in a memory care facility- how did you know it was time? as far as when you knew you were not able to care for them at home? or they needed more than you could provide? What kind of behaviors and issues did your loved one have at home- that led you to…
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Respite(3)
Hello everyone, I am looking for anyone to provide guidance or the steps to obtain respite, the steps etc. Thank you
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Newly Diagnosed Partner with EO AD. What to expect?
Hello Yesterday my partner (57yo) of 30+ years and I were given the news that he has AD. I am overwhelmed with shock and grief. My life partner, my best friend, my only friend, actually. And I can't talk to him about it, about how I'm feeling. It is the most horrible thing I've ever experienced. I can't believe it's true.…
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Pseudodementia(1)
This name came up at doctor visit with LO today. Geez, like I needed something else to worry about?? Moreover, they note that it could be a combination of dementia and Pseudodementia. The idea is that her depression/anxiety, and sharp worsening of symptoms after losing partner of 60 years could indicate a psychological…
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How to explain going to memory care
There seems to be a lot of topics on this question. I don’t know how to explain to my husband that he needs to go to memory care and can’t stay home any longer. He of course wants to be home, but I can’t support him there. Any suggestions or things you have done that worked would be greatly appreciated.
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New to forum. Sibling verbal abuse
Good Morning. I am new to this forum and this is my first post, although I have been struggling with this issue for months. My parents live in New York, and my mother has dementia, compounded with end stage heart issues. My parents have always lived close to my sister and for years, they took care of her children, my three…
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At a Crisis Point in LOs care.
My mom is 83 dx with MD. She lives in her own home. Her only living sister has had dementia for a few years. They are very close. My aunt, age 79 moved into my mom’s home (at my mom’s insistence) almost a year ago as she could no longer live alone. Allowing this to happen was likely our first mistake. She is extremely…
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Inpatient doctors prescribe antipsychotics against our wishes as POAs
We know from my father-in-law Logan's behavior when there's some health issue that needs addresses. He's had Sundowner symptoms now for the last 2-3 years. We have a home care aid Maddie that comes to his house twice a day to fix meals, do housework, grocery shopping, and provide company for Logan. Maddie was his wife's…