-
Any caregivers with experience with these supplements?
What are your experiences with these supplements? Any positive or negative reactions? We ordered some supplements to try out that are supposedly good for Alzheimers. Ceylon cinnamon supplements Panax ginseng supplements Lionsmane mushroom supplements Vitamin B complex, which we have already been taking due to deficiencies…
-
Video room monitor for nighttime use by aides
We have 24/7 aides right now including ones who are awake during the night. Mom doesn’t make a lot of noise when she gets up since the room has a good carpet and she does not call for assistance when going to the bathroom. I am looking for recommendations for a video monitor which the aides can use at night to see when she…
-
First tour of a MC facility - advice appreciated
Tomorrow, for the first time, I tour a MC facility for my mother. I admit that I'm a little nervous because this is such a big decision. I've researched general questions to ask the site director: levels of care, available staff, security, meal accommodations, housekeeping services, physical and cognitive therapies, social…
-
Just need to vent ...
Today has been stressful. My mom lives with me and my family. I'm working from home so that I can provide care throughout the day (I am blessed that I am able to work remotely for the time being). Today, she doesn't know why she is here and states that she lives with her parents (who have been gone for over 55 years). She…
-
Vacation and AL
Hi! Next week we are taking my mom on vacation to the beach. It’s usually (predisease) her happy place. She has been living in AL for about 1.5 months. I’m a little nervous about causing the disruption but more so about returning to AL. Any advice on how to help with the transition back to AL? Thanks!
-
condom cath advice needed
I pulled a back muscle trying to roll my LO while changing his diaper. Is this a valid reason to use a condom catheter? I have no other help for this type of activity. Do condom catheters have a higher risk of UTI than with diapers? I'd like to get recommendations for the most comfortable ones to get on and off, and at a…
-
Tell her how much time/effort I am putting in?
My 91 year old mom is probably at the MCI stage. Memory, cognition, understanding, word retrieval have all declined. She acknowledges she has some problems but doesn’t realize full extent. She understands enough to ask questions (“what is streaming TV? What does this section on the phone bill mean? Which way will you go to…
-
New here, searching for advice
Hello, everyone. This is my first time writing here and I'm looking for a little advice for someone with a LO with MCI. Apologies in advance for a long-ish post. First, some background info: I'm a 35 year-old only child living in a different state from their 71 year-old mother, who is single and lives alone. Mom has been…
-
Mom did awesome with her walker last Tuesday
The problem we keep having is that our LO won't use her walking aides or wheelchair. No matter how many times we ask her to use them, or how many times she agrees to, she will not (maybe a mix of anagsnosia and just forgetting). I hadn't really seen her using her walker since she got discharged from the hospital last…
-
Dealing with Insurance Companies
I do all of my mother's business affairs, including setting up insurance, as I am sure most of you do as well. I received a letter from her prescription drug company about a pharmacy not being in network. I didn't know what that was referring to, couldn't find out anything online, so I called the company. This is for a…
-
Be careful what you sign
I posted this on the spouse and partner forum, but it is probably more important here. https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2022/07/28/1113134049/nursing-homes-are-suing-friends-and-family-to-collect-on-patients-bills
-
Don’t understand my selfishness
Robyn seems extremely apathetic (3.5 years post diagnosis) and I’m having a really tough time getting back the aggressive, romantic person I married. I know it won’t get better. I know eventually she will leave. (I’m really trying to be realistic as bad as it sounds) So I’m looking for female email company to help me…
-
New to Caregiving(2)
My husband and I are new to caregiving and my mom in law just took off down the street in a coat in 90f weather saying she needed to be with her people and heading to the home of a member of her congregation. We're in a bit over our heads and need help. Please if anyone has any advice, it's greatly appreciated. She was…
-
Feeling of Guilt
My mom has been diagnosed with early stages of Alzheimer's. We are in process of looking at AL facilities, in the meantime mama is living with us. I'm very close to her, she recently lost our father of 70 years, so she is alone. I am having tremendous guilt in even looking into AL places. I feel I should "Honor Thy Father…
-
Frustrating Week OMG - I just want it to be over.
Dad is doing well since the three hard battles this year where each time we thought he would be gone. His mental health has improved enough where home health graduated him today from having severe mental ability loss to moderate. He also has graduated from puree food to soft foods. There is a but where I am torn. In May he…
-
The house is falling
This is new… this evening my FIL was extremely distraught that the house was going to fall. He was so insistent there was something wrong with the house. No matter what we said he was sure. We told him we had an inspection and it’s a good solid house. He said that was a long time ago but there was something wrong now. He…
-
No place like home
My MIL has been in the same AL/MC since January. We know it is the safest place for her, and she is well taken care of for both the ALZ and other health issues. The problem is that she keeps insisting on going home, and when we tell her she is home she gets frustrated and upset. She doesn't believe that she's been in the…
-
SIL argues and resists everything
Moved SIL into AL last Wednesday. Saturday she was admitted to hospital for COVID. Discharged today. Took her to AL and gave her her evening meds plus the new antibiotic for bronchitis. She refused to take any pills, saying that she took them already. I am looking at the discharge papers which are clear about what to take…
-
Time sensitive need replies ASAP how much do I tell my 85-year-old mom
My 85-year-old mom lives with me and my husband and has been making our lives hell particularly for me. Things came to a head yesterday Sunday when she started her hostility upon waking which was unusual. With her psychiatrist advice I took her to a mental health facility. They suspected a uti and i worried that they would…
-
Need help for living arrangements for parents
Hi, I am looking for help on finding alternate living arrangements for my elderly parents. My mother has late-stage Alzheimer's. My father's health has declined in recent years, but he hasn't wanted to move her to a facility because he promised her that he wouldn't do that. It has become too overwhelming for him, and he is…
-
How can I do this anymore?
Long story short. Cousin neighbor up from florida has called area on aging multiple times Because I work during the day and Mom is left alone. Doctor deemed mom safe enough to be left alone during the day. Fast forward to last Friday. Ambulance was called by said cousin and mom was taking to ER ALONE. Cousin called area on…
-
Poop issue
Looking for ideas!! I have found "dignity" gowns/jumpsuits but the shipping will take 2-3 weeks and I need something now. (they are also ridiculously expensive) My aunt with late stage alz, on hospice, and bedridden gets in to her diaper. I have found her with a handfull of poop and smeared on her face several times Any…
-
When the time grows near
My Dad's situation was so much different than most of your LO's, as he was in his 90's when diagnosed. He was home with my mother 2 years until he had a heart event. After hospitalization of 10 days he went directly to MC facility, where he stayed for one month before dying. While he had the usual issues with loss of…
-
Palliative care vs. hospice info? Or nursing home?
Would anyone have any recommendations/links to good info on the differences between palliative & hospice care, or perhaps benefits vs. nursing home/skilled nursing facilities? Long story for some background, and I just realized I originally posted this in the partner/spouse forum instead of here while I was in a rush. My…
-
Need advice for Husband that suddenly hates our dog
Our adult son is moving back in with us (for various reasons, and we've been looking forward to having him). Last night, my husband said, out of the blue, that our son's dog can't come with him. He doesn't want her on the sofa, or peeing on the grass and turning it yellow. These are things we can deal with. The dog is the…
-
Getting worse...(1)
My father has dementia, my mother is the sole caretaker for him. They live on the east coast, I live on the west coast. I get updates on occasion from my family relaying to me what's been going on with my father and his illness. The other day he left the house in his underwear and was found walking on a busy highway. I am…
-
Starting up Hospice care at home for my probable end stage dementia mom
Hi all. My mom is 91, as mentioned. We brought her home from the memory unit at commercial assisted living facility. She had been there three years, at first truly enjoying the activities geared to people like her. She was the highest functioning one in the unit. Always picked when no one else knew the song title , or…
-
Selling dad's furniture (Illinois)
I apologize if this isn't allowed. I didn't see anything against it in the community guidelines. I will remove it, if I am told it's against guidelines. I am selling some of my dads furniture: his medical bed, his lift chair, a walker. If you know anyone in the northwest suburbs of Chicago who is looking for this kind of…
-
Insensitive comments on mom - vent?
There's this one woman at my church who I would consider a friend of mine but I am slowly rethinking on how close we are. A couple of times when we've talked, she'd first tell me her opinion on how mom is. "She looks worse," is what she says. I'm at a loss on how to respond to that, especially right out of the gate for a…
-
Memory care(7)
Hi, this is my first post. Mom is 87 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2019 but we believe she had it much earlier. Dad’s health was getting worse so I retired from my job, sold my house and moved from the West Coast to the East Coast to care for my parents. Dad passed 6 months later and mom moved in with me and my…